FabSwingers.com forum: Question of the morning

By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

I think, if you are meeting a new person you have to observe all the safety rules, and think of yourself first, so colour doesn't come into it for me. As long as they are polite, and amusing everyone wins xx

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By *eanutButterJellyTimeCouple
over a year ago

the middle of the world

Wouldn't enter my head. If I felt safe enough to meet them, and followed my own safety rules, the colour of their skin wouldn't make any difference at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't really think it has anything to do with colour or race tbh.

Meeting new people is always a gamble.

If people choose not to meet people of a different colour or race is more a personal preference than anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I remember from meeting my bf first time was excitement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the...

Really? If this is the question of the morning, the particular morning to ask it was about 50 years ago.

The forums this morning are a real piece of work.

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

Well I apologise for any offense. I was in deep thoughts this morning and I just wanted publics opinion. I apreciate the feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity "

???? And my word of the day is "Dumbfounded"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Errrm no we would have to be pretty backwards to think like that op. I'm sure we are much more evolved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Next question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I use my set of safety rules on the person, regardless of race.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity "

Makes no difference to me but I always meet with A anyway. Why do you ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity "

No.

And- really?

I mean, really!!!!!

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

Makes no difference to me but I always meet with A anyway. Why do you ask?"

Well I'm originally from Dallas Texas and the lifestyle is a lot different from the one in London and I was just comparing the two.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

Makes no difference to me but I always meet with A anyway. Why do you ask?

Well I'm originally from Dallas Texas and the lifestyle is a lot different from the one in London and I was just comparing the two. "

How does it compare in your view?

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

Makes no difference to me but I always meet with A anyway. Why do you ask?

Well I'm originally from Dallas Texas and the lifestyle is a lot different from the one in London and I was just comparing the two.

How does it compare in your view?"

Well I like it more here. In Dallas they stereo type black people and that makes it hard on the society.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I don't feel safe meeting any woman for the first time

C...

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

What a ridiculous question to ask in this day and age

It's like me asking if a guys level of caution changes because I'm a big girl, when the answer is quite obvious

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Why don,t admin put a stop to these controversial threads The P C Brigade are just sat waiting for something that's not P C to pounce

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

I mean I don't know how I should apologise. It was a dumb questions I admit but if my apologies don't mean anything...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity "

WTF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity "

I'm ready to run away at anypoint with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

WTF

Could of started a stupid question thread

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

WTF

Like I said before I come from Dallas and it's different there. I had a debate with my brother and I wanted to hear other people opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

I'm ready to run away at anypoint with anyone

That should be from not with

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity "
What a bloody ridiculous question op, stop and think before posting next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

WTF

Like I said before I come from Dallas and it's different there. I had a debate with my brother and I wanted to hear other people opinions. "

I get that you're talking about 2 completely different cultures and scenes

Don't keep apologising because once the claws on here have been stuck in you they won't let go even if you got on your knees and begged forgiveness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mean I don't know how I should apologise. It was a dumb questions I admit but if my apologies don't mean anything..."

Dont apologize it was a perfectly good question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

WTF

Like I said before I come from Dallas and it's different there. I had a debate with my brother and I wanted to hear other people opinions.

I get that you're talking about 2 completely different cultures and scenes

Don't keep apologising because once the claws on here have been stuck in you they won't let go even if you got on your knees and begged forgiveness

How true

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

WTF

Like I said before I come from Dallas and it's different there. I had a debate with my brother and I wanted to hear other people opinions. "

Well I guess we're really lucky that we appear, for the most part, to have moved on from the prejudices from days of old. It's a shame that it's still going on in your country.

My considerations for meeting anyone are the same. I tell someone where I'm going and give as much detail about the other person as I know. My safety is important so I always meet in public places for a drink first. I guess I rely heavily on my own instincts. I don't care what colour you are, I want to know if you're an arsehole or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you've explained once, don't carry on because at the end of the day people only read what they think they see!

It makes sense to me now why you have asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I apologise for any offense. I was in deep thoughts this morning and I just wanted publics opinion. I apreciate the feedback "

I think it's a good question to ask. And if I'm being really honest...if the black/mixed race guy was coming across all gangsta or too dom in his messages I would be worried. Whether I would be less worried if it was a white guy I don't know.

I genuinely feel ashamed feeling this way. But I think it has a lot to do with negative steriotyping of black American rappers. They seem to have no respect for women. Again I'm sorry I have this view as I don't feel I'm racist .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I apologise for any offense. I was in deep thoughts this morning and I just wanted publics opinion. I apreciate the feedback "

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

What a bloody ridiculous question op, stop and think before posting next time

How about you stop and read the whole thread before berating a complete stranger for asking a question, which with a little more info isn't actually that ridiculous.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

Makes no difference to me but I always meet with A anyway. Why do you ask?

Well I'm originally from Dallas Texas and the lifestyle is a lot different from the one in London and I was just comparing the two.

How does it compare in your view?

Well I like it more here. In Dallas they stereo type black people and that makes it hard on the society. "

There's a fair amount of stereotyping going on here I'm afraid probably not as overtly as you're used to.

Don't apologise for asking your question

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

There's a fair amount of stereotyping going on here I'm afraid probably not as overtly as you're used to.

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mean I don't know how I should apologise. It was a dumb questions I admit but if my apologies don't mean anything..."

It's not dumb. You're asking because of experiences you have had in your life. You wanted to know. I'm not a black man,so I haven't had the same experiences as you. We can all pretend that prejudice,racial profiling and stereotyping doesn't happen in this day and age,but it does.

When I was a teenager,television often portrayed the bad guys as black,skinheads,cockney geezers,tattooed men. So,I was scared of people like that. As I grew up I realised that not all tattooed skinheads were knife wielding thugs,and the black man walking towards me wasn't going to mug me for my bag.

I've met men of all colours and races from here; if I didn't feel safe I wouldn't have met them.

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

Thank you for understanding the ones who do understand.

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

And I'm not the type to keep begging. It's really out of respect for the ones who got touched

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And I'm not the type to keep begging. It's really out of respect for the ones who got touched "

Would you say your experiences in the UK have been different to how you've been treated to in Dallas in the swinging scene?

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"And I'm not the type to keep begging. It's really out of respect for the ones who got touched

Would you say your experiences in the UK have been different to how you've been treated to in Dallas in the swinging scene?"

I'm new to the scene in uk so I haven't experienced much but back in Dallas everything was segregated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And I'm not the type to keep begging. It's really out of respect for the ones who got touched

Would you say your experiences in the UK have been different to how you've been treated to in Dallas in the swinging scene?

I'm new to the scene in uk so I haven't experienced much but back in Dallas everything was segregated "

That's very sad. I hope you don't find that here xxx

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

"Why don,t admin put a stop to these controversial threads The P C Brigade are just sat waiting for something that's not P C to pounce"

Instead of putting the responsibility on to admin,why don't people just ignore such threads?

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"And I'm not the type to keep begging. It's really out of respect for the ones who got touched

Would you say your experiences in the UK have been different to how you've been treated to in Dallas in the swinging scene?

I'm new to the scene in uk so I haven't experienced much but back in Dallas everything was segregated

That's very sad. I hope you don't find that here xxx"

I've been in uk for 2 years and I'm very pleased with the way people just come together. And I'm grateful for your kindness

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity "

Oh dear, I do hate political correctness, it's almost as bad as racism sometimes!!

The answer to your question depends totally on context, and to some extent location. If I get on well with a mannerly black guy from a decent area I may well meet him, I have done so. If someone from one of the rough areas of London messages me and says 'Yo bitch, suck on this twelve incher...' I am highly unlikely to even reply, whether he is black, white or green lol!!

Black men are often stereotyped as 'BBC' but then many of them use this themselves as a selling point, so that will perpetuate.

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. And I'm not trying to offend anyone. I'm mixed race myself. Just out of curiosity

Oh dear, I do hate political correctness, it's almost as bad as racism sometimes!!

Black men are often stereotyped as 'BBC' but then many of them use this themselves as a selling point, so that will perpetuate."

Ok I appreciate your feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a stupid question for the following reason.

If someone says "yes, I'm more afraid to meet black guys than white guys". The very next question is WHY??? And there is nothing you can say that will not sound racist.

The question should have been along the lines of "who are you more comfortable meeting or who do you prefer to meet...." Or if the OP had given the context that he added later it might have added some depth to the discussion.

I'm my opinion.....

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"It was a stupid question for the following reason.

If someone says "yes, I'm more afraid to meet black guys than white guys". The very next question is WHY??? And there is nothing you can say that will not sound racist.

I'm my opinion....."

Thank you for your opinion. Maybe I should have said it differently

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I would like to apologise to the OP I posted my previous comments prematurely before seeing the context of the discussion further down the thread

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"I would like to apologise to the OP I posted my previous comments prematurely before seeing the context of the discussion further down the thread "

Apology accepted. Don't worry no offence taken

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I would like to apologise to the OP I posted my previous comments prematurely before seeing the context of the discussion further down the thread "

Good for you lady!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I'm from New York City and I completely understand your question. Please don't pay attention to the criticism on this thread. As has been pointed out, it is a cultural difference. I think sometimes people just aassume eveyone posting is from the UK.

I'm from Brooklyn and I have never felt unsafe around black men in particular. I think there is as much a difference between the NYC and Dallas as there is between UK and Dallas, sometimes.

But I know people in NY who would answer your question with a yes. I also know people here who, if you switch out the word black with Asian, would answer yes.

-Courtney

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Colour doesn't come into it for me.

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"OP, I'm from New York City and I completely understand your question. Please don't pay attention to the criticism on this thread. As has been pointed out, it is a cultural difference. I think sometimes people just aassume eveyone posting is from the UK.

I'm from Brooklyn and I have never felt unsafe around black men in particular. I think there is as much a difference between the NYC and Dallas as there is between UK and Dallas, sometimes.

But I know people in NY who would answer your question with a yes. I also know people here who, if you switch out the word black with Asian, would answer yes.

-Courtney"

Thanks for the honesty. And on another note how is New York?

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"Colour doesn't come into it for me.

Thank you for your feedback

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I am finding the question very odd....what made you ask it OP?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Well I'm originally from Dallas Texas and the lifestyle is a lot different from the one in London and I was just comparing the two. "

I see you answered my question with this. I don't know what it is like in Texas, but it looks like it is totally different over here, which sounds a good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say it's something I've ever thought about to be honest.

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

Well I'm originally from Dallas Texas and the lifestyle is a lot different from the one in London and I was just comparing the two.

I see you answered my question with this. I don't know what it is like in Texas, but it looks like it is totally different over here, which sounds a good thing

It is a very good thing. And I see better days ahead

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"Can't say it's something I've ever thought about to be honest. "

Ok that's good so you don't separate people by their ethnicity or social status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women feel safer meeting with a white guy than meeting a black one???. "

I think women would feel safer with the one that knows kung fu.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the honesty. And on another note how is New York?"

Awesome. Like London, but better

-Courtney

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Wow, talk about go for the throat

To the OP, don't be put off or apologise so much as for me you were not the one who needed to.

Because your location says London I assumed you were from here, it is sad how people of colour are treating in different parts of the world, but hopefully for the most part you are enjoying it here

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

treated*

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"Thanks for the honesty. And on another note how is New York?

Awesome. Like London, but better

-Courtney"

Cool gotta visit one day. By the way I sent you a pm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't enter my head. If I felt safe enough to meet them, and followed my own safety rules, the colour of their skin wouldn't make any difference at all"

Only if they were covered in shit then it would lol

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"treated*"

It's ok. Believe me I don't get offended and I'm really enjoying myself in London.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the honesty. And on another note how is New York?

Awesome. Like London, but better

-Courtney"

HOW DARE YOU COME HERE AND INSULT OUR CAPITAL?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the honesty. And on another note how is New York?

Awesome. Like London, but better

-Courtney

HOW DARE YOU COME HERE AND INSULT OUR CAPITAL?!"

There, there. The truth hurts. I think there might be a political thread running where you can release your anger

*pats Lib! on the head*

-Courtney

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By *eddABC OP Man
over a year ago

Stretham Hill Greater London

"Well I apologise for any offense. I was in deep thoughts this morning and I just wanted publics opinion. I apreciate the feedback

To tell you a little about those rappers. The media is only going to show you maybe 10% of the reality. And I do agree that those rappers disrespect women. But they do it because most women they're talking about don't respect themselves. But that topic is very deep even to discuss. Because we have to see where did it all start. How did black people go from making music about love and unity in the 70s and 80s to drugs and murder. Well in the 80s is when crack cocaine came to black neighbourhood. Most of black men started going to prison and just losing their mind. So now you got these kids growing up without a father figure and high chance that the mother is on drugs. To make things worst the jusicial system is not really fair in the states. So all the younger ones grew up with a lot of anger and hate because they didn't have nobody to teach them the right way. But I'm going to stop for now. If you would like to know more just pm me and we can chat about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tbh i wouldnt meet a guy that i didnt feel safe with regardless of what colour skin he has

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