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By *ay19720 OP Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

As a single guy..I chat to couples females..most of them say ..dont write hi hows u..to start..so I have taken to writing a good paragraph about myself what im after and why I messaged them ..ie good profile or very sexy pics ....but im getting increasingly pissed off when I take the time to write what they ask for it to just get deleted. .it makes writing them a task..suggestions? ???

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

Start by reading the site FAQ's op

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By *kindofmagicXXXMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I know what you mean. You will get used to it. That's why I too just send an introductory message first. Waste of time composing really long messages sometimes. If I am lucky to receive a reply I expand a longer message then. Frustrating either way.

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"As a single guy..I chat to couples females..most of them say ..dont write hi hows u..to start..so I have taken to writing a good paragraph about myself what im after and why I messaged them ..ie good profile or very sexy pics ....but im getting increasingly pissed off when I take the time to write what they ask for it to just get deleted. .it makes writing them a task..suggestions? ???"

Ask yourself two questions 1 would I reply to this message, 2 would I want to meet this person (read your own profile) if you answer yes to both then there is nothing else you can do but wait if you answer no to one or both change the bad part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instead of writing this paragraph in each message just tidy up your profile and put it there.

As it is now your profile is a chore to read with random full stops everywhere.

Most people read the profile before they read the message so no matter how good the message if the profile puts them off its going unread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any message that says "use" instead of you two I instantly delete so keep to using real English.

I will look at pics if I don't like them I delete it

it all depends on the look of the profile and message.

I dont feel guilty about deleting or ignoring messages.

Pics are the main attention grabber for us.

if we like the look I tell them to holist us and reply when we post meets

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Instead of writing this paragraph in each message just tidy up your profile and put it there.

As it is now your profile is a chore to read with random full stops everywhere.

Most people read the profile before they read the message so no matter how good the message if the profile puts them off its going unread"

Simply: this!

I'll also add, if you don't meet what the person is looking for, you could wtite a soliloquy to rival Shakespeare, it won't get a response.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Instead of writing this paragraph in each message just tidy up your profile and put it there.

As it is now your profile is a chore to read with random full stops everywhere.

Most people read the profile before they read the message so no matter how good the message if the profile puts them off its going unread

Simply: this!

I'll also add, if you don't meet what the person is looking for, you could wtite* a soliloquy to rival Shakespeare, it won't get a response."

*write

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By *ay19720 OP Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Thanks all

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

Its hard to see well written messages just deleted but that's fab. Just keep trying and be patient, eventually you will get replies. Well that's what I keep telling myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

firstly they will prob look at your photos first, if theres no attraction, your automatically deleted without reading your message.

Distance plays a part too so if your far away, chances are they won't read it either.

Verifications help but its so hard to even get a meet so you'd be ignored by those who demand it.

Then you have to realize every woman on here is getting 100+ messages, they can be as picky as they want to be so you gotta stand out from the other 100 messages they get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've stopped sending unsolicited messages to people, I simply use the forums and get to know people that way. Then when I do send a message its about a topic and a viewpoint, not just a paragraph that is tantamount to 'hi! I'd like to have sex with you'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The "hi how are you messages" dont bother me at all, as long as a clear face pic is attached. I have done my best to put myself in a man's view on here and fully appreciate they send numerous messages just for them to be unread/deleted. So to expect them to reflect my profile in their initial message is not expected from me, as like you said seems a bit of a task, just for it to not be read. I must be different to most, as I read message, look at the pic, then check the profile. But regardless as longas tthey have sent a face pic they get a reply.

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By *ay19720 OP Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

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By *ay19720 OP Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"The "hi how are you messages" dont bother me at all, as long as a clear face pic is attached. I have done my best to put myself in a man's view on here and fully appreciate they send numerous messages just for them to be unread/deleted. So to expect them to reflect my profile in their initial message is not expected from me, as like you said seems a bit of a task, just for it to not be read. I must be different to most, as I read message, look at the pic, then check the profile. But regardless as longas tthey have sent a face pic they get a reply. "

[Will u browse mine and give me yr view..?]

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