FabSwingers.com forum: I'm a little confuzzled

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Love that word. Confuzzled.

Anyway, digressions aside.

So, I was on fab the other day, and I looked at my updates for photos being fabbed, and I saw a couple, no big deal. A few hours later, I saw a wink from them, so, being the nosey git I am, decided to perve their profile and have a read. They're quite a way away, but they intrigued me, so I messaged them stating I was interested and distance an issue, but I'd like to eventually meet them at some point. Today I logged in to see a friend request from them, but no message. Recently my messages have been playing up, but I've not done anything about that yet as my messages do seem to come through eventually.

My question is this, do I:

A. Accept the friend request now? Or

B. Wait to see if a message comes through?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if they can't be bothered to converse with you, I personally would ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if they can't be bothered to converse with you, I personally would ignore them"

They may just want to see clear face pics first ?

Or have a busy time and want to converse later ...

I would accept it and drop them if nothing happens in a week or so

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"if they can't be bothered to converse with you, I personally would ignore them"

Potentially, but my messages playing up is not taken into account in this scenario

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"if they can't be bothered to converse with you, I personally would ignore them

They may just want to see clear face pics first ?

Or have a busy time and want to converse later ...

I would accept it and drop them if nothing happens in a week or so "

I know you're not concerned with how people perceive you, but could it potentially be conceived as rude, if I were to accept, only to unfriend at some point in the future?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people wink and when you wink back no messages come back happens a lot . Some just want to perv at private pics so send random friends request . If there is no conversation don't accept , unless it's from us lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lots of people wink and when you wink back no messages come back happens a lot . Some just want to perv at private pics so send random friends request . If there is no conversation don't accept , unless it's from us lol"

Ah, I did not wink back, I openly messaged. I can see what you're saying about wanting to perve private pics though. I hadn't thought of that, I'll have to look at their profile again to decide what to do with that information

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also, are you likely to send a friend request haha

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think they want to see your friends pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, are you likely to send a friend request haha

Very rare we send them , are you after perving our private pics lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also, are you likely to send a friend request haha

Very rare we send them , are you after perving our private pics lol

Usually I don't accept friend requests until I've met someone as I perceive friends lists to be another form of verification, although I have made exceptions for a couple of people, but I tend to wait until conversation has reached a point where I'm sufficiently convinced of authenticity. Regardless of potential friends only photos

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

id do A and wait

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can people see photos they've sent?

I am dreadful and don't send photos really, even if it's requested on a profile. I just don't remember lol, but I can't remember if I sent one or not

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Can people see photos they've sent?

I am dreadful and don't send photos really, even if it's requested on a profile. I just don't remember lol, but I can't remember if I sent one or not"

Send me one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"id do A and wait"

I am thinking this option is the more favourable, but I am not completely decided lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't accept friend invites if they haven't messaged me, even if they winked at me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My gut says playing games

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Did you send them a face pic? If they don't respond to your message, don't sweat it and move on.

Unless I know someone, winks ignored, friend requests in the bin. It's only through messages that I can be bothered.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you send them a face pic? If they don't respond to your message, don't sweat it and move on.

Unless I know someone, winks ignored, friend requests in the bin. It's only through messages that I can be bothered.

I don't know, I have sent a message with a picture to _rightonsteve, but it doesn't appear in my sent box

I'm not usually bothered, but then, it's not usual that I send a message to someone for it to be responded with a friend request

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My gut says playing games"

My gut says I need the loo

My brain says it's confuzzled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My gut says playing games

My gut says I need the loo

My brain says it's confuzzled"

Always go with your gut, don't wanna be caught short

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't accept friend invites if they haven't messaged me, even if they winked at me."

I still haven't sent friend requests to people I've met despite getting along quite well. I'm terrible sometimes, especially if I don't get right on it

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I don't accept friend invites if they haven't messaged me, even if they winked at me."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too love the word confuzzled. However, you have far too much time on your hands if this is taking up thinking time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if they can't be bothered to converse with you, I personally would ignore them

They may just want to see clear face pics first ?

Or have a busy time and want to converse later ...

I would accept it and drop them if nothing happens in a week or so "

Excellent advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I too love the word confuzzled. However, you have far too much time on your hands if this is taking up thinking time

My mind is indeed elsewhere and therefore full thinking has not been devoted to the subject, that plus it's potentially something that could crop up again. Anyway, I think if I was gonna accept the request, I'd have done so instantly, I haven't, therefore, I'm not going to

problem solved.

Thank you everyone for your input though. It has given me much to think about and make a more informed decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if they can't be bothered to converse with you, I personally would ignore them"

Simply this.

It's rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My gut says playing games

My gut says I need the loo

My brain says it's confuzzled

Always go with your gut, don't wanna be caught short

Definitely, my gut had no opinion today, so I had to reason and weigh up ideas

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Anyone who send a friend request without even saying hello is, in my book, a pic hunting rude person.

They get ignored by me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"if they can't be bothered to converse with you, I personally would ignore them

Simply this.

It's rude."

True, but my messages have been playing up and some haven't appeared til after fab says they were received, by as much as 22 hours in one instance. So it's possible they have responded, but my messages haven't registered it yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if they can't be bothered to converse with you, I personally would ignore them

Simply this.

It's rude.

Have you tried contacting admin about it?

Wait a day and see if they mailed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"if they can't be bothered to converse with you, I personally would ignore them

Simply this.

It's rude.

Have you tried contacting admin about it?

Wait a day and see if they mailed. "

Nah, I have no proof and it states 22 hours when it does appear, so I have no way of preempting whether a message will be missing or not, so it will not look good contacting admin because I haven't got a message from someone. It's a good thought, but I'm not really bothered, if I am in their area at any point, or am looking for that type of meet, I'll message them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My gut says playing games

My gut says I need the loo

My brain says it's confuzzled

Always go with your gut, don't wanna be caught short

Definitely, my gut had no opinion today, so I had to reason and weigh up ideas"

I've lost all reason thankfully my gut is big enough to compensate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most probably want to see your private pics..thinks about sending you a friend request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

up to you - you could add them whist they were offline and peep at pics see if you like or not - then decide whether to carry on or not - or - send a message saying you like to chat and get to know a bit before accepting invite -

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