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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In my mind they are just that, I,ve chatted a few times to a fairly local guy and got along ok, I,ve just had a friend of his message me and ask about a certain experience I recently had and when asked where he had been told about it, it was the original guy, what kind of behaviour is that ?? private means private surely ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree. I think that's terrible. Hope no one has sha_ed my private messages x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my mind they are just that, I,ve chatted a few times to a fairly local guy and got along ok, I,ve just had a friend of his message me and ask about a certain experience I recently had and when asked where he had been told about it, it was the original guy, what kind of behaviour is that ?? private means private surely ?"

I bet he claimed to be discreet to. Sorry to hear about that. A shitty trick to tell others about your private conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I have chats on here with people who know other people I know and it gets so difficult at times being deliberately vague when you know damn well that they know who and what I'm talking about.

Also, is it not a given that any saucy details told to a lady is going to be divulged in detail to her bestie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple ans is PRIVATE

It's Basic matters

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"In my mind they are just that, I,ve chatted a few times to a fairly local guy and got along ok, I,ve just had a friend of his message me and ask about a certain experience I recently had and when asked where he had been told about it, it was the original guy, what kind of behaviour is that ?? private means private surely ?"

Disgusting lack of confidentiality and morals. I hope you've pulled up the original guy on his behaviour? If I'm told anything, by anyone, it NEVER goes any further - not my story to tell.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

but to have a random guy message me on here with details is different to having a private chat with a bestie over a wine or 2, that sounds like double standards but I truly think its different

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"Sometimes I have chats on here with people who know other people I know and it gets so difficult at times being deliberately vague when you know damn well that they know who and what I'm talking about.

Also, is it not a given that any saucy details told to a lady is going to be divulged in detail to her bestie? "

No!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but to have a random guy message me on here with details is different to having a private chat with a bestie over a wine or 2, that sounds like double standards but I truly think its different"

What if we did something, you told your bestie a few details over a cheeky wine having a few laughs, then she contacted me thinking I'd be interested in something...

Your fault? Her mistake? Or something totally different?

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

Had this happen yesterday. Not impressed to say the least. Needless to say he lost out on a playmeet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"but to have a random guy message me on here with details is different to having a private chat with a bestie over a wine or 2, that sounds like double standards but I truly think its different

What if we did something, you told your bestie a few details over a cheeky wine having a few laughs, then she contacted me thinking I'd be interested in something...

Your fault? Her mistake? Or something totally different?

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totally different because my bestie isn't on here and never will be, I have just been contacted by a completely random guy, its totally different.

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"Had this happen yesterday. Not impressed to say the least. Needless to say he lost out on a playmeet. "

His loss...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you often read about the sisterhood sharing details about guys they meet.... and the lack of discretion is rife at times on these forums/chat.....

some people just need to gossip, grandstand or tittle tattle......

not gender specific

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but to have a random guy message me on here with details is different to having a private chat with a bestie over a wine or 2, that sounds like double standards but I truly think its different

What if we did something, you told your bestie a few details over a cheeky wine having a few laughs, then she contacted me thinking I'd be interested in something...

Your fault? Her mistake? Or something totally different?

totally different because my bestie isn't on here and never will be, I have just been contacted by a completely random guy, its totally different."

But you do share private details. It's just the difference is that the person being told is or isn't on Fab.

As View said: people talk. And if it happens in the context of Fab, where there are pics, verifications, open chats, forums and messages I don't see it beyond the boundaries of my imagination that someone at some point may hear about something I've done or said.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get the impression this guy was bragging, despite the fact we had a meet planned we have never met, and no way will we be meeting now, I know he divulged details of our chat to someone off this site, I have no real issue with that, its the random message from a stranger that has bugged me big style.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

guess some people don't understand the value of private be it men or women off here..

I've been told a lot over PM in my time being here by people I speak to be it girls and boys just about regular life stuff..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing to do if you want to keep something secret,is not tell anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not right. If something is said in private that's what it should stay as

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had a message before from a guy.. He mentioned he was a friend of someone I met.. Used their real name and fancied # a go.. As he put it.

Both blocked after stern words with the guy I met.

It's not acceptable.

And, no female friends are aware of me being here, so I never discuss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my mind they are just that, I,ve chatted a few times to a fairly local guy and got along ok, I,ve just had a friend of his message me and ask about a certain experience I recently had and when asked where he had been told about it, it was the original guy, what kind of behaviour is that ?? private means private surely ?"

not much of a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you often read about the sisterhood sharing details about guys they meet.... and the lack of discretion is rife at times on these forums/chat.....

some people just need to gossip, grandstand or tittle tattle......

not gender specific"

What he said.

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire


"In my mind they are just that, I,ve chatted a few times to a fairly local guy and got along ok, I,ve just had a friend of his message me and ask about a certain experience I recently had and when asked where he had been told about it, it was the original guy, what kind of behaviour is that ?? private means private surely ?"

Think you'll be giving the gobby git a hard time .. And deservedly so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In my mind they are just that, I,ve chatted a few times to a fairly local guy and got along ok, I,ve just had a friend of his message me and ask about a certain experience I recently had and when asked where he had been told about it, it was the original guy, what kind of behaviour is that ?? private means private surely ?

Think you'll be giving the gobby git a hard time .. And deservedly so."

The gobby git and his mate have both been told my thoughts

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever divulge what had been discussed privately with anyone - soon as it happens,all trust is gone

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants


"I get the impression this guy was bragging, despite the fact we had a meet planned we have never met, and no way will we be meeting now, I know he divulged details of our chat to someone off this site, I have no real issue with that, its the random message from a stranger that has bugged me big style."

Totally understand hun! That's creepy!

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe


"In my mind they are just that, I,ve chatted a few times to a fairly local guy and got along ok, I,ve just had a friend of his message me and ask about a certain experience I recently had and when asked where he had been told about it, it was the original guy, what kind of behaviour is that ?? private means private surely ?"
. Just a cunt forget him X

Private is what is meant to be arseholes like him make me sick X rant over weekend begins X

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

One side of a story and he gets slated.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my mind they are just that, I,ve chatted a few times to a fairly local guy and got along ok, I,ve just had a friend of his message me and ask about a certain experience I recently had and when asked where he had been told about it, it was the original guy, what kind of behaviour is that ?? private means private surely ?"

What was the experience you told him about?

Perhaps they were just chatting because they are mates and he said something like "oh Ms X did that and she said to try warming the lube first" and he was mailing to thank you for the tip. (Example only of what might have been said.)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

it was a bi experience I had a few weeks back with someone we both know who isn't on this site, the random guy messaged me with exact details of what I,d said and done, the original guy has now owned up and apologised to me, but that's way too little and way too late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's terrible. Discretion is key on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be peeved if the same happened to me,but I also think don't tell anyone anything you wouldn't want the rest of the world to know about

Some people live off passing gossip and info,especially when it's juicy stuff

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have been chatting for a couple of weeks now so a certain amount of trust had been built between us, I felt ok about recounting an experience to the guy bearing in mind he is married I thought he may understand the word discretion, clearly not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my mind they are just that, I,ve chatted a few times to a fairly local guy and got along ok, I,ve just had a friend of his message me and ask about a certain experience I recently had and when asked where he had been told about it, it was the original guy, what kind of behaviour is that ?? private means private surely ?"

Well you know who you can't trust now, so you know what to do, it sucks though xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's just shit. It is guys that like who drive women off here but other men in general.

I kind of think if you haven't met him and only chat then suddenly message from another guy being his "friend". Could it be he was one of those losers using 2 profiles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but to have a random guy message me on here with details is different to having a private chat with a bestie over a wine or 2, that sounds like double standards but I truly think its different"

Well no its just like your bestie being on here and messaging someone with the details after you told them it over a bottle of wine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did not mean Any offence to this lovely lady you know what's like when guys get together Thay chat he a friend and I had told her about him so was not a Random guy. I had told him to message Marie to say hi as I sugerted all going to Kestrals together with her friend and she liked the idea. it was wrong of him to ask personal questions of what she got up to at spa as I had told him in confidence so I not happy with him just wanted him to intoduse him self. So I am very sorry for upsetting her and I am sorry.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I did not mean Any offence to this lovely lady you know what's like when guys get together Thay chat he a friend and I had told her about him so was not a Random guy. I had told him to message Marie to say hi as I sugerted all going to Kestrals together with her friend and she liked the idea. it was wrong of him to ask personal questions of what she got up to at spa as I had told him in confidence so I not happy with him just wanted him to intoduse him self. So I am very sorry for upsetting her and I am sorry. "

I guess the same as when some women get together, it's no big deal and it's all a bit tawdry the airing of dirty laundry,

however, I thought it staggering that the guy gets refer_ed to as a cunt in the thread for it....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Despite all the 'he said she said' going on, I find it odd that anyone would pass on anything that's been told to them on here. If, say, BlondeCaz told me about a guy she'd met it would never occur to me to message him hoping for a meet, or to chat about his meet with her.

Yes, we do discuss meets, but it stays between us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men and men talk and girls and girls do

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