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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do people log on but not read their messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

For me I sometimes just don't want to read them at that moment so leave them for a while before I open them

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By *randmrsfreakyCouple
over a year ago

alfreton near chesterfield


"Why do people log on but not read their messages?"

For us it depends on the message, most are one liners with no interesting content, you dont need to open these to read them.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Depends who they're from.

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By *randmrsfreakyCouple
over a year ago

alfreton near chesterfield

We recieved a very nice message from a couple and replied, it stayed in thier inbox for weeks, couldnt understand it but didnt lose any sleep over it either

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I occasionally message myself then ignore it for days just to build up the sexual tension....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Surely you cannot tell if it is a one liner until you open the message.

I take the point about not wishing to open messages at that moment.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Well.... If it is a message from a single guy, we never read them! Just hit delete... (Unless they are one of the chosen few )

If it is from a couple, we can see who it is and how the message starts and read it if it starts other than "Like the pics"

But of course, there is no rule that states we have to read mail just because we sign in!

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By *randmrsfreakyCouple
over a year ago

alfreton near chesterfield


"Surely you cannot tell if it is a one liner until you open the message.

I take the point about not wishing to open messages at that moment. "

check your inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely you cannot tell if it is a one liner until you open the message.

I take the point about not wishing to open messages at that moment. "

is that all u have to complain about as the ladies said and it's up to them who they message back and who they delete,what your trying to say is thst your messages keep getting unread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a Message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the OP is a male and is straight, can we assume that you will be messaging couples and females?

Females and some couples get hundreds of emails a week, the fems that are popular in chat or on the forums, possibly more.

So, they may well designate time, once a day, once a week etc to go through their mails.

Especially nowadays where many people are accessing their account through smartphones/iPads etc, they may wait till later in the day to check mails and reply (or delete)

Just dont let it bother you, its their profile and their life and to most, reading emails on here wont be a priority.

S.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually have a look to see if there is any mail then often wait for hubby to come home and we read them together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not assuming this but if it's the op messages not being read maybe it could be something to do with your age

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I occasionally message myself then ignore it for days just to build up the sexual tension.... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I messaged myself and wondered why the bassa hadnt read it, grrrrr

S.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I log on and go to forums or chat, hardly ever read messages. When I do, it's normally to see if folks I know have messaged. I don't feel bad because I do say in my profile I don't like the pm system, it doesn't work for me. I won't go on a rant about people not reading profiles, coz I don't read them either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you mean you can send messages, and get messages sent to you, wow, wonders of modern tecnology

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you mean you can send messages, and get messages sent to you, wow, wonders of modern tecnology "

I think it's all a big Fib a conspiracy of some sorts

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I only open when I have a full sac.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you mean you can send messages, and get messages sent to you, wow, wonders of modern tecnology

I think it's all a big Fib a conspiracy of some sorts "

Just something to keep you comming back to see if you have any lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people log on but not read their messages?"

Because they don't have to, or recognise the sender and don't wish to read it. There are no rules regarding reading of private messages and you shouldn't complain about it. If you've sent a message that hasn't been read after, say, a week, delete it, as it will probably never lead to anything anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people log on but not read their messages?

For us it depends on the message, most are one liners with no interesting content, you dont need to open these to read them.

"

yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we read the first line and if it's bollocks we don't want you to know we read it all and didn't reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS trust me, if you seem worthwhile, you'll get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do people really keep track of the messages they've sent?!!

I'm not a jealous person, Lord knows I'm not, but I would give anything to have the time that some people have on her to worry about rubbish!!!

I log on and go straight to the forums. I don't take any notice of my inbox until I've read and answered on the forums. If the messages are from friends sometimes I answer, sometimes not - they know me well enough to know I'm that way inclined. If it's from someone outside my stated criteria or a one liner/crude...gets deleted without even opening...and I continue quite happily with my life!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Not assuming this but if it's the op messages not being read maybe it could be something to do with your age"

I am sure there is someone for everyone.

To the OP....we don't always reads mails as soon as they come in, it depends on what mood I am in as to what I want to do, be that read forums /chat or just answer mails from people who we have met before....I am guessing by the posts here there are lots of people who do the same.

Be patient, it pays dividends sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do people really keep track of the messages they've sent?!!

I'm not a jealous person, Lord knows I'm not, but I would give anything to have the time that some people have on her to worry about rubbish!!!

I log on and go straight to the forums. I don't take any notice of my inbox until I've read and answered on the forums. If the messages are from friends sometimes I answer, sometimes not - they know me well enough to know I'm that way inclined. If it's from someone outside my stated criteria or a one liner/crude...gets deleted without even opening...and I continue quite happily with my life! "

he he, not only that but they also go and check to see if you are online and have been online?????? blimey ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I occasionally message myself then ignore it for days just to build up the sexual tension....

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Hahaha... We managed to accidently message ourselves a few times when we first joined.... We thought WOW we are popular lol!!! Well, at least we were in control about getting a reply!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last message we got was wrapped around an arrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last message we got was wrapped around an arrow

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back in 1066?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last message we got was wrapped around an arrow

back in 1066?"

summat like that

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

i send quite a few messages.. most get read then ignored.. dont bother me.. always good whan u do get a nice reply though even if they dont want to meet..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends how many i have, if i have loads i skim thro and read ones from people i know and leave the others till i can be bothered

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If I log on on my iPhone I can see that there is a message, but I cant open it...

So it sits in my inbox until I get round to logging on on the PC, but I will be shown to have logged on several times in the meantime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to be blocked from replying to you"

One of the rules of the forums is to not use them to contact or question why people have blocked you.

S.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That topic certainly resulted in many _iewpoints. Thank you all for your contributions.

To the person who highlighted my age, I admit I am 63. I cannot change that but am still active and want to enjoy the pleasures of life.

Happy New year to you all

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"I seem to be blocked from replying to you

One of the rules of the forums is to not use them to contact or question why people have blocked you.

S. "

Just bumping the above message.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

When I'm at work I can't always read PMs. It comes up showing that I've read it but in actual fact I get a nasty big screen where the PM should be saying that there's 'porn detected' - I mean really... WTF?!

This is a knitting forum right?!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Why do people log on but not read their messages?"

Because I know it pisses the people off who sent them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, some peeps are so anal they keep track of the messages they have sent!

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