FabSwingers.com forum: Flirting? or just being nice?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After reading the post 'when flirting gets serious' i realised im just plain shit at reading the signs!

For exanple, similar circumstances over time ive got on to first name terms with a lady from my local coffee shop. We have a laugh and a she's always friendly and seems pleased to see me when i walk in. So am i just a good customer or is it something more on her part?

I'd like to think im reasonabally attractive but Im just not that over confident that i would assume someones flirting with me? just wouldn't have a clue! can't be alone in this surely?

So what are the signs to look out for when she's interested? And how about when she's just being nice?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"After reading the post 'when flirting gets serious' i realised im just plain shit at reading the signs!

I'd like to think im reasonabally attractive but Im just not that over confident that i would assume someones flirting with me? just wouldn't have a clue! can't be alone in this surely?

So what are the signs to look out for when she's interested? And how about when she's just being nice?"

Don't ask me!! I'm useless!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she tactile? I can never resist a quick touch of the arm when I'm on flirt mode. What is she like with other customers. Does she spend more time with you? Is she the same with them?

If no, she's probably just nice. If yes, slip her your number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shit at this flirting business

I just assum everybody's just being friendly and talking

I even had a guy ask me if I wanted to go for a drink with him at work once, I said no because I though he just wanted a friend to talk to

Apparently I was the only person who couldn't see he was interested in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she like this with other customers? If so then that's just the way she is.

Does she keep looking over at you, does the way she interacts with you seem different?

Couple of clues there. I'm a massive flirt, but although i flirt with everyone i don't fancy everyone and guys i fancy would know, guys i don't fancy would also know coz i'd change the way i acted with them if they took me seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the same, at the pub I go to (or in fact any of the pubs in town I go to) there is this one guy that is there, he is everything I would want in a guy, we get on well, he was very shy at first but over the past two months he seems more confident chatting to me, I catch him staring at me and quite recently he has become a 'little' flirty.

I don't know if I'm misreading the signs or what and I wish I had the confidence i appear to have here when I'm around him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sidle up to her and say 'I really like you but words cannot espresso how much you mean to me'.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I need to spend more time in coffee shops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sidle up to her and say 'I really like you but words cannot espresso how much you mean to me'. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sidle up to her and say 'I really like you but words cannot espresso how much you mean to me'. "

Bravo.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sidle up to her and say 'I really like you but words cannot espresso how much you mean to me'.

Bravo."

I second that! What an awesome one liner!!!

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

I'm great at flirting in my job but I find it difficult taking it to the next stage as always unsure if they are attached. So I find it difficult to see if there signals being given out too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To the ladies above i've never really thought about it but next time i go in maybe i'l have my drink sat in and do a little people watching....

hang on...

is this stage 1 of becoming a stalker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the ladies above i've never really thought about it but next time i go in maybe i'l have my drink sat in and do a little people watching....

hang on...

is this stage 1 of becoming a stalker?

Lol no. It's called making sense of the world around you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To the ladies above i've never really thought about it but next time i go in maybe i'l have my drink sat in and do a little people watching....

hang on...

is this stage 1 of becoming a stalker?

Lol no. It's called making sense of the world around you."

Lol, well we'l see today i guess!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck and please report back!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

You could try this to break the ice

My mum told me I had to marry a lawyer…you’re a barista, right?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Or if her place supports fair trade coffee you could suggest that you think you buying a coffee in exchange for her giving you her number would be a fair trade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the ladies above i've never really thought about it but next time i go in maybe i'l have my drink sat in and do a little people watching....

hang on...

is this stage 1 of becoming a stalker?

Lol no. It's called making sense of the world around you.

Lol, well we'l see today i guess!!!"

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to spend more time in coffee shops

Think im going to the wrong coffee shops .. it's always young school kids or OAPs in the ones I visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I flirt with everyone. It's a good way to get excellent service wherever you go!

It doesn't mean I want it to go further. Flirting can just be flirting.

Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her when her break is and ask her to join you.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just goes to prove that us guys are just as lacking in the confidence dept. as you ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She might just love working in a coffee shop and is always happy ask her

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Eye contact is the key... smiling and flowing conversation are helpful... physical tells, like touching of the hair or stroking of the neck are also dead giveaways.

But eye contact is key.

Don;t come over all stalky by constantly staring but if she's always looking at you, or looking away and then looking, back yr in.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm exactly like the OP. I love flirting. I can flirt for England but I seriously lack confidence in myself to make the final move. I begin to doubt myself right at the end and never seem able seal the deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sidle up to her and say 'I really like you but words cannot espresso how much you mean to me'. "

Has to be done with an Italian accent as well. If a things worth doing...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She thinks i'm hot and gave me her number!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She thinks i'm hot and gave me her number!

Ooh happy days!

Can I be a bridesmaid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She thinks i'm hot and gave me her number!

Did you use the line I gave you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am slightly lacking in the flirt detection area, it's generally only mid blow job that it occurs to me that she may fancy me a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She thinks i'm hot and gave me her number!

Did you use the line I gave you?"

Lol as brilliant as your line was no. It's all a bit of a blur but after talking utter rubbish for a couple of minutes i just blurted out, you are gorgeous! her eyes gave a bit of a twinkle and she smiled and at that point i just came out with, is there any chance that you might let me have your number so we can arrange me taking you for dinner?

She said yes and we've been texting all day. So next question. Do i tell her i'm on here!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sidle up to her and say 'I really like you but words cannot espresso how much you mean to me'. "

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

"She thinks i'm hot and gave me her number!

Nice one

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd like a flirt please.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"She thinks i'm hot and gave me her number!

Did you use the line I gave you?

She said yes and we've been texting all day. So next question. Do i tell her i'm on here!?

Nope. Don't scare her off. Enjoy your date. Good luck and well done on chatting to her and getting herb number

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Her* number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After reading the post 'when flirting gets serious' i realised im just plain shit at reading the signs!

I'd like to think im reasonabally attractive but Im just not that over confident that i would assume someones flirting with me? just wouldn't have a clue! can't be alone in this surely?

So what are the signs to look out for when she's interested? And how about when she's just being nice?"

The sure fire way to find out is to ask

Other than that pick fault with her say her hair is scruffy today or something equally similar if she punches you , then your in and it's time to ask her out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not dinner bow.ing or pool

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"After reading the post 'when flirting gets serious' i realised im just plain shit at reading the signs!

I'd like to think im reasonabally attractive but Im just not that over confident that i would assume someones flirting with me? just wouldn't have a clue! can't be alone in this surely?

So what are the signs to look out for when she's interested? And how about when she's just being nice?"

only one way to find out, just ask if she is interested and whatever happens after is up to you to play it smooth...

better then people leading you on and saying "oh you're handsome" etc etc and talking/messaging you one minute then going complete radio silent the next which seems to be what I get quite often..

either way whatever is best will work out OP...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I have no problem flirting a little with anyone when I am out.

What I do seem to have trouble with is knowing when someone is interested in me. That goes clear over my head

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have no problem flirting a little with anyone when I am out.

What I do seem to have trouble with is knowing when someone is interested in me. That goes clear over my head

I just miss all the signs! I just think people are being nice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem flirting a little with anyone when I am out.

What I do seem to have trouble with is knowing when someone is interested in me. That goes clear over my head

I just miss all the signs! I just think people are being nice!"

Most of the time that is what flirting is so i can get why you're confused. I like flirting, especially offline, but i don't actually fancy everyone i flirt with. In fact if they're more serious than flirting i often go off them lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sidle up to her and say 'I really like you but words cannot espresso how much you mean to me'.

Has to be done with an Italian accent as well. If a things worth doing...

My first language is Italian does that beat the accent

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