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By *acquiesub OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

Having started to read the forums with some intrest a few weeks ago (never bothered befor that) I have noticed there is a hard core of posters who clearly know each other well aqnd bounce off each other. At times this is very funny and entertaining, some threads are also very innocent and caring, but no matter how they all start, they very quickly decend into complete abuse of the OP. (Yes I am aware that I am opening myself up for this and bring it on if you must) but it really puts new people off from joining in the thread for fear of being attacked I am sure. To all you other readres, and not normally posters, do you agree???

Why the need to be so nasty, if you don't agree with the OP by all means say so, but cut the abuse x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one deserves to be abused. Just need to hit the report button and the mods will take action.

Simples!

And before anyone shouts "cliques", I truly do not believe such thing exists!

OK, some of us have met each other though social events and are friends.

However, there are those who are friends even if we have not met them, and they become friends by the fun and games via the forums and PMs.

Newbies should take a bold step and dive in.

Having a thicker skin certainly helps. Keep postining and sooner or later one will be noticed.

Funny easy going optimistic peeps go down better and easier than snipey, sarcastic, negative ones. That much is true in real life too IMHO.

At the end of the day, those of us so called forums regulars were newbies once, and were strangers to each other until we met.

So dive in, and have fun on FAB!

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

You are obviously referring to the FAB clique. Members of which will vehemently deny its existence

But there are some of us who know that it does exist and rail against it from time to time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having started to read the forums with some intrest a few weeks ago (never bothered befor that) I have noticed there is a hard core of posters who clearly know each other well aqnd bounce off each other. At times this is very funny and entertaining, some threads are also very innocent and caring, but no matter how they all start, they very quickly decend into complete abuse of the OP. (Yes I am aware that I am opening myself up for this and bring it on if you must) but it really puts new people off from joining in the thread for fear of being attacked I am sure. To all you other readres, and not normally posters, do you agree???

Why the need to be so nasty, if you don't agree with the OP by all means say so, but cut the abuse x"

in a n open forum there is little you can do about posters ..in the main the forum regulars are great...OK some can be a little acerbic but mostly they make you smile. people shouldnt be afriad to post...at the end of the day any replies are just words on a screen and if they are really abusive there is always the report button solution ..id advise anyone to join in but BEWARE THEY ARE ADDICTIVE ....

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By *acquiesub OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

it's just an observation, and as a fairly newbe thought this might encourage a few more to join in. I enjoy the banter and can laugh at the abuse but know others find it hard. My skin is thick xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are obviously referring to the FAB clique. Members of which will vehemently deny its existence

But there are some of us who know that it does exist and rail against it from time to time

Trust you to bring the C word so early in the thread!

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By *ingleguy1973Man
over a year ago

peterborough

i havent been posting on the forums that long (a couple of weeks) and no-one has made me feel unwelcome or as though im not part of the "clique". ive made a few friends here and enjoyed some good banter

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Seriously, you need to treat this place like the bar of your local pub, its just the same sort of chat and arguing that goes on down there.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"You are obviously referring to the FAB clique. Members of which will vehemently deny its existence

But there are some of us who know that it does exist and rail against it from time to time

Some of these people have met eachother in real life a number of times... is that what you mean by clique?

If people are intimidated by other people knowing eachother... then they won't want to fit in anyway will they.

It never puts me off... fuck the lot of them if they disagree with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously, you need to treat this place like the bar of your local pub, its just the same sort of chat and arguing that goes on down there."

Very true indeed!

Likewise, one cannot expect to get on with everyone - it won't happen in real life, and it won't happen in the forums!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit to not doing much posting been too busy reading I find some of the comments really entertaining and can't say I have noticed any abuse yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are obviously referring to the FAB clique. Members of which will vehemently deny its existence

But there are some of us who know that it does exist and rail against it from time to time

Some of these people have met eachother in real life a number of times... is that what you mean by clique?

If people are intimidated by other people knowing eachother... then they won't want to fit in anyway will they.

It never puts me off... fuck the lot of them if they disagree with me."

I disagree with lots of people...they don't fuck me though...damn

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

Why the need to be so nasty, if you don't agree with the OP by all means say so, but cut the abuse x"

i agree with you 110% and thats one reason why i dont post any topics anymore

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've been a member here for a while... I can't actually remember how long but I've never really been much of a prolific poster so when I barged in here before Christmas and parked my arse, I knew a few people from other places but I generally didn't know any of the forum regulars.

I can't say I know many of them personally now but I've had a lot of banter over the last few weeks and a bit of chat in PM. If it was a clique then I guess that makes me in it now. Not how I see it... I just see a bunch of people all over the country having a bit of banter and nonsense to pass the time.

Generally the people who complain about cliques are those who don't perceive themselves to be in them. It's just about having a bit of a carry on from where I'm sitting.

There are mods here to ensure the abuse, if any, is dealt with and they do that without any big deal from what I can see. I guess you need a sense of humour, a thick skin and the ability to give as good as you get. I have more respect from people who stand up for what they believe in yet have the ability to hear other people as well as listen. I don't think there are 'attacks' as you call them... I think too often humour can be misinterpreted as abuse and whilst it may be close to the bone and perhaps cutting it fine on occasion, rather than flounce or get defences up, people need to take it on the chin and give it right back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sink or swim, people can choose, no one is forcing anyone to participate in the forums if they don't feel like it.

However, one should give the forums a try for him/herself, rather than to rely on feedbacks/comments from other people.

Afterall, one person's medicine is another person's poison!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rather than flounce or get defences up, people need to take it on the chin and give it right back.

Ohhh ... I do enjoy a bit of a "flounce" now and again!!!! and it has to be said,,, I also tend to take quite a bit on the chin too.... that darm stuff splashes everywhere if ya not quick enough,,,, don't ya know,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why the need to be so nasty, if you don't agree with the OP by all means say so, but cut the abuse x"

I disagree that the threads quickly decend into complete abose of the OP. This can sometimes happen but is by no means the norm.

New people are not attacked, it's just that when you are new you are more sensitive. I felt I was ignored a lot when I was new but realised that was not the case cos I am still ignored a lot!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think the key to a forum is not to take any of it personally or too seriously. Most of the people on Fab have NOT met each other, so it's just a load of avatars and words on a computer screen for most.

In my time on here I have seen abuse, but I do believe it's on the decrease. Regular posters seem much less willing to tolerate it (whether directed at them or not).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I AGREE ! if you oppose someone ,there is a little clique on here ! it does not worry me in the slightest ,and hope it does not bother others either ,we all have our own opinions , and we should not be afraid to show them ! FRANKIE XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely agree - there is so obviously a close clique on the forums - it's just not worth even trying to get involved.

It's a great shame, because on other sites (of all sorts) the forum is usually a vibrant, interesting and entertaining place to use...

Here, if anything sensible, entertaining or intelligently humerous is posted, it always, but always quickly descends into a childish parody...

And of course - the same people will now crop up on here to deny it, and to put up so many pointless posts that the original subject is drowned...

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I disagree that the threads quickly decend into complete abose of the OP. This can sometimes happen but is by no means the norm.

New people are not attacked, it's just that when you are new you are more sensitive. I felt I was ignored a lot when I was new but realised that was not the case cos I am still ignored a lot!!!!

Did anyone else hear that?!

*runs*

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I AGREE ! if you oppose someone ,there is a little clique on here ! it does not worry me in the slightest ,and hope it does not bother others either ,we all have our own opinions , and we should not be afraid to show them ! FRANKIE XX"

Talking of thick skin...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If someone wants to be bold with the whole clique thing... they should list who the clique are and why they think these users are in it and why they are not... would be good to read.

I actually partially agree with the OP,I think on occasion it does go too far and I repeat on occasion. People sometimes just don't know when to stop.

But there is also an element that sit on the sidelines under different usernames, people who have left following arguements and have come back with the primary objective of starting threads to cause trouble. Some regulars spot them much quicker and report them and call them on it.

so to the OP ...welcome x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP, I've been on the site just over a year, but only started reading and subsequently posting on the forums about six months ago.

I don't agree with the attacking people comment, if that happens, it gets sorted very quickly, by the mods and they do a good job.

As for the rest, its like someone said earlier, treat it a bit like the bar of your local and you won't go far wrong!

If people post boring, repetitive or obviously attention seeking threads, as in real life, they get ridiculed, same as any bar or office, methinks.

FYI, I started off with the occasional post, and have now been to socials and made friends with some of the forum members, so what have you really got to lose, come on in!

We (virtually) don't bite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

where me bldy roller skates when I need em tch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely agree - there is so obviously a close clique on the forums - it's just not worth even trying to get involved.

It's a great shame, because on other sites (of all sorts) the forum is usually a vibrant, interesting and entertaining place to use...

Here, if anything sensible, entertaining or intelligently humerous is posted, it always, but always quickly descends into a childish parody...

And of course - the same people will now crop up on here to deny it, and to put up so many pointless posts that the original subject is drowned...

im a regular poster,been known to kill threadss stone dead and certainly no way am i in any clique...i really beleive thats the perception of people who think they arent in it ??? you cant win any way ..but to new posters give it a go get to know the humour..its my favourite waste of time !! but its also been the source of help when ive needed it .. certainly vibrant interesting and entertaining in my opinion ??? you cant please all of the people all of the time I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

"Absolutely agree - there is so obviously a close clique on the forums - it's just not worth even trying to get involved.

It's a great shame, because on other sites (of all sorts) the forum is usually a vibrant, interesting and entertaining place to use...

Here, if anything sensible, entertaining or intelligently humerous is posted, it always, but always quickly descends into a childish parody...

And of course - the same people will now crop up on here to deny it, and to put up so many pointless posts that the original subject is drowned...

Really? on every single thread? even the one that you statred earlier about the footprints which I thought was very funny and quite well recieved with no hint of sarcasm or abuse in sight?

I have never been on a forum where there hav'nt been regulars,Everyone has to start somewhwere with a first post,I have been on forums where you're not allowed to post more than once on any thread,forums where all comments are checked by a mod before they're posted

I don't think these are too bad compared with some others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah and I've learnt loads of stuff from pub quiz trivia, to useful stuff about sex and swinging to how to fix my PC!

So even if you just read em mainly, they're still useful xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely agree - there is so obviously a close clique on the forums - it's just not worth even trying to get involved.

It's a great shame, because on other sites (of all sorts) the forum is usually a vibrant, interesting and entertaining place to use...

Here, if anything sensible, entertaining or intelligently humerous is posted, it always, but always quickly descends into a childish parody...

And of course - the same people will now crop up on here to deny it, and to put up so many pointless posts that the original subject is drowned...

agree, it's great entertainment and challenging .... sometimes.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Absolutely agree - there is so obviously a close clique on the forums - it's just not worth even trying to get involved.

It's a great shame, because on other sites (of all sorts) the forum is usually a vibrant, interesting and entertaining place to use...

Here, if anything sensible, entertaining or intelligently humerous is posted, it always, but always quickly descends into a childish parody...

And of course - the same people will now crop up on here to deny it, and to put up so many pointless posts that the original subject is drowned...

double edged sword... because without the regular posters there is no forum to begin with...

like the others have said, I treat this the way I would a pub, and I have never been in a pub where people have never seen a person in, and embrace them in on there first ever visit....

actually I think that the problem is partly newbies who jump in with both feet and take offence if anyone has the termerity to disagree... then the "victim" card is played

as forums go... this is actually quite tame...you should come with me to my alma maters forum, that is wild....

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Absolutely agree - there is so obviously a close clique on the forums - it's just not worth even trying to get involved.

It's a great shame, because on other sites (of all sorts) the forum is usually a vibrant, interesting and entertaining place to use...

Here, if anything sensible, entertaining or intelligently humerous is posted, it always, but always quickly descends into a childish parody...

And of course - the same people will now crop up on here to deny it, and to put up so many pointless posts that the original subject is drowned...

If you perceive there is a closed clique then I fear it is in your head. There are a few pods which crop up from time to time… small clusters of friends.

I have never let other people knowing each other stop me from saying anything I have wanted to.

I don’t go to the socials as I have no interest in socialising with the general population of the forum and I haven’t exchanged any PM’s with the vast majority. Oddly I am sometimes accused of being part of the clique… which I find highly amusing because I disagree with any post I disagree with, regardless of who posted it. Yet it seems if someone else agrees with my disagreement, then we must be in a clique…. ffs I can’t be the only one who is right all of the time, someone will eventually agree with me on something or another.

So back to your perception... who does it say more about really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely agree - there is so obviously a close clique on the forums - it's just not worth even trying to get involved.

It's a great shame, because on other sites (of all sorts) the forum is usually a vibrant, interesting and entertaining place to use...

Here, if anything sensible, entertaining or intelligently humerous is posted, it always, but always quickly descends into a childish parody...

And of course - the same people will now crop up on here to deny it, and to put up so many pointless posts that the original subject is drowned...

I urge you to refuse to be drowned out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone said earlier it's like being down the pub some you'll get on with others you won't. I put a thread on yesterday was was warned by other forums that I should be ready to battle cause of what I said, and guess what? Everyone was great and understanding, you will always get the odd one on here or anywhere in life that doesn't agree with you but that's life, take a deep breath and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only clique anyone really needs to be in, is the one between our own thoughts and our own ability to assemble those thoughts into something that comfortably works for us as individuals...

As for worrying whether or not they should match with any of the many interestingly random people who also frequent these forums with varying levels of regularity,it shouldnt be an issue... for no other reason those people are here for other than that fact they also enjoy listening to your opinions and observations whilst taking oppertunities venting some of their own,,,

The whole process should not need intellectually dissecting,,, and simply be enjoyed for the fun it is,,,,,

Ahem,,, in my humble opinion….. that is….. cough cough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above plus read the thread carefully...

The times a thread has gone tits up coz someone has replied in haste.;-)

Plus there are regular topics which always pull the same responses... How many "single guy" threads receive one positive, one negative and a handful of " Pass the popcorn"

Plus... Youm a Brummie... Yow ay gunna tayk sheet frum thays boogurs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found that if you want to join in then join in. As said earlier, treat the forums like going to a bar. If you walk into a pub, buy a drink and go sit in the corner and watch everyone else socialising up at the bar you are going to think they are all cliquey!!

I've dived in a bit recently after finding the regulars are a funny bunch with a caring side when it counts. I posted a thread as I was feeling a bit uncomfortable about my 'baby belly' a few weeks back... Now thanks to this bunch anyone that gives me oral gets a mighty fine slap on the head by wobbly bits!!!

Miss B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oop's my, my ... I seem to have got a bit wordy there,,,,hmmmm

Note to self...... proof read before posting ,,,, ya tanny noooob !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only clique anyone really needs to be in, is the one between our own thoughts and our own ability to assemble those thoughts into something that comfortably works for us as individuals...

The whole process should not need intellectually dissecting,,, and simply be enjoyed for the fun it is,,,,,

Ahem,,, in my humble opinion….. that is….. cough cough

the only clieque anyone really needs to be in is the one between our own thights and our own ability to assemble those thights into something that comfortable works mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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By *acquiesub OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

thank you all, this is just what I wanted, comments from some of the regulars and some newbies. Welcome all. And no abuse in sight (YET). I love it when a plan comes together xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only clieque anyone really needs to be in is the one between our own thights and our own ability to assemble those thights into something that comfortable works mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm"

I got you sussed out fine lady,,,, ya only after stealing my sparky new tights..... the ones I just bought in the New-look sale from the girl cashier who asked what size I took?, she thought the ones I'd picked were gonna be to big for me,,,,Flipp'in heck,, I was trying to pretend they wernt for me,,,,,....bugger,,,, it made me blush.... front of a massive queue it was,,,, grrrrrr

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"thank you all, this is just what I wanted, comments from some of the regulars and some newbies. Welcome all. And no abuse in sight (YET). I love it when a plan comes together xxxxx

yup it has gone well

just wish the clique mentioners would hang around, rather than throw in the 'C' word and then go off line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thank you all, this is just what I wanted, comments from some of the regulars and some newbies. Welcome all. And no abuse in sight (YET). I love it when a plan comes together xxxxx

What plan is this ?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"... And no abuse in sight (YET). "

**ponders the need to mention this**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only clieque anyone really needs to be in is the one between our own thights and our own ability to assemble those thights into something that comfortable works mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

ooooo sparky n his magic tights, you gonna look like a star ... F O R N O W

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"thank you all, this is just what I wanted, comments from some of the regulars and some newbies. Welcome all. And no abuse in sight (YET). I love it when a plan comes together xxxxx

yup it has gone well

just wish the clique mentioners would hang around, rather than throw in the 'C' word and then go off line

As I don't think it would be quite the same as naming and shaming.... I really would be interested to see just who the clique members are thought to be.

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By *acquiesub OP Woman
over a year ago

birmingham

guess you'd have to ask the person who mentioned cliques..... I only said regulars

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

just wish the clique mentioners would hang around, rather than throw in the 'C' word and then go off line

did you notice that as well then, the "drive by" posters... throwing "post bombs" and scuttling off to see what havoc they create from a distance...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"thank you all, this is just what I wanted, comments from some of the regulars and some newbies. Welcome all. And no abuse in sight (YET). I love it when a plan comes together xxxxx

yup it has gone well

just wish the clique mentioners would hang around, rather than throw in the 'C' word and then go off line

As I don't think it would be quite the same as naming and shaming.... I really would be interested to see just who the clique members are thought to be."

I agree... they should just name em.. and justify and to why certain people are in and why they are, I suspect, deselecting themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thank you all, this is just what I wanted, comments from some of the regulars and some newbies. Welcome all. And no abuse in sight (YET). I love it when a plan comes together xxxxx

yup it has gone well

just wish the clique mentioners would hang around, rather than throw in the 'C' word and then go off line

As I don't think it would be quite the same as naming and shaming.... I really would be interested to see just who the clique members are thought to be."

The ones who got all the awards of course

ooops, u got one didn't you?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

guess you'd have to ask the person who mentioned cliques..... I only said regulars"

yeah that's what I mean... I think if someone thinks/posts there is a clique they should be allowed to say who they think is in it (just the once).... I would be genuinely interested, because besides some of the 'love-ins' (which seem to have died a death - thankfully), I just don't see them.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"thank you all, this is just what I wanted, comments from some of the regulars and some newbies. Welcome all. And no abuse in sight (YET). I love it when a plan comes together xxxxx

yup it has gone well

just wish the clique mentioners would hang around, rather than throw in the 'C' word and then go off line

As I don't think it would be quite the same as naming and shaming.... I really would be interested to see just who the clique members are thought to be.

The ones who got all the awards of course

ooops, u got one didn't you?

and a couple of runner up spots too

Though fuck knows how I got over 50 votes.... there are less than 5 on here I would piss on if they were on fire.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if there is a "law", like Godwins law for what the op is describing. If not we need to give it a name and copyright it!

I post sporadically on here, sometimes there is jibes and wot not but doesn't really bother me.

Also the issue of 80% of communication been non-verbal doesn't help in a forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder if there is a "law", like Godwins law for what the op is describing. If not we need to give it a name and copyright it!

I post sporadically on here, sometimes there is jibes and wot not but doesn't really bother me.

Also the issue of 80% of communication been non-verbal doesn't help in a forum."

yer avatar does though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder if there is a "law", like Godwins law for what the op is describing. If not we need to give it a name and copyright it!

I post sporadically on here, sometimes there is jibes and wot not but doesn't really bother me.

Also the issue of 80% of communication been non-verbal doesn't help in a forum."

You are intelligent , good humoured AND naked...... you'll do.

Actually you've just joined in without making unsubstantiated accusations so that's a pretty good bonus too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thank you all, this is just what I wanted, comments from some of the regulars and some newbies. Welcome all. And no abuse in sight (YET). I love it when a plan comes together xxxxx

yup it has gone well

just wish the clique mentioners would hang around, rather than throw in the 'C' word and then go off line

Oi... Just popped out to do a line of "C"... Pfft

{bloody expensive chocolate it was too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm doin' a Marlon Brando with my award.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm doin' a Marlon Brando with my award. "

can I av im when you've done?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I'm doin' a Marlon Brando with my award. "

Covering it in animal fat and stuffing it up a bum-hole?

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over a year ago

"Absolutely agree - there is so obviously a close clique on the forums - it's just not worth even trying to get involved.

It's a great shame, because on other sites (of all sorts) the forum is usually a vibrant, interesting and entertaining place to use...

Here, if anything sensible, entertaining or intelligently humerous is posted, it always, but always quickly descends into a childish parody...

And of course - the same people will now crop up on here to deny it, and to put up so many pointless posts that the original subject is drowned...

I have to laugh at this because its a pile of tosh. Fab forums are far more active than most, 1k a month threads prove that and a large number of members.

The clique is just BS as i see it. I was a bit bitter when i first came on the forums because your trying to fit in and it isnt always easy. I was guilty of using the word clique to have a go at people i didn't like but when i did meet people off the forums i realised i had it wrong.

What you get is people on the forums who have met at socials and this is not a clique but it is what you call "friends" i do wonder if people who use the clique term are the sort who live on line and don't have real life friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Sweetheart...... listen .....

Im not doing Marlon......

Im doing 'A' Marlon Brando.

Y'know ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm doin' a Marlon Brando with my award.

Covering it in animal fat and stuffing it up a bum-hole?"

No ! Shoving it in Sideways n mumblin like a Sicilian Mobster

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I'm doin' a Marlon Brando with my award.

Covering it in animal fat and stuffing it up a bum-hole?

No ! Shoving it in Sideways n mumblin like a Sicilian Mobster"

Oh... I got all excited for a moment there... you're off my piss on list!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm doin' a Marlon Brando with my award.

Covering it in animal fat and stuffing it up a bum-hole?

No ! Shoving it in Sideways n mumblin like a Sicilian Mobster

Oh... I got all excited for a moment there... you're off my piss on list!"

At least wait till im on fire !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you'd have said Lurpack i'd have recognised the fillum sooner !

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

" I posted a thread as I was feeling a bit uncomfortable about my 'baby belly' a few weeks back... Now thanks to this bunch anyone that gives me oral gets a mighty fine slap on the head by wobbly bits!!!

Miss B x"

Now youve gona and done it!! Youll have 'em queueing round the block... theres some kinky buggers on here you know...

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"You are obviously referring to the FAB clique. Members of which will vehemently deny its existence

But there are some of us who know that it does exist and rail against it from time to time

You find cliques everywhere unfortunately...we have always gone with the notion that the beat way to get over/around/beat them is to join them...ok..thats not easy on here. But it might be a solution..and the outcome might be that its not as cliquey as you first thought..

That said...

Obviously people know each other and will respond to each others various comments..but where we dont necessarily fell its that cliquey here theres a definite case of 'we dont know you so fuck your comment, we'll disregard that and answer our friends one instead..very much like the chatrooms when you are trying to make conversation or join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss B x

Now youve gona and done it!! Youll have 'em queueing round the block... theres some kinky buggers on here you know...

I knew it!!! I knew there would be a breakthrough someday

Who's first? *hands out safety goggles*

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over a year ago

Can you explain to me how that works ???

If YOU oppose a point of _iew you are simply stating your point.

If SOMEONE else disagrees with you they are part of a clique ???

Aren't they merely in their own home typing on their own computer and actually responding to what you said ?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"You are obviously referring to the FAB clique. Members of which will vehemently deny its existence

But there are some of us who know that it does exist and rail against it from time to time

That said...

I defo can see what you mean. It is very similar to chat. I think it is easier in chat... well especially Scotland and Wales chat, as many have met each other. In the forums... I have met Femme & Big Bad at a party, Laine, Stunna & BB430 of some of the most regular posters.

thats it.. Will hopefully meet many more tho , until then, bantering in the forum will continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you explain to me how that works ???

If YOU oppose a point of _iew you are simply stating your point.

If SOMEONE else disagrees with you they are part of a clique ???

Aren't they merely in their own home typing on their own computer and actually responding to what you said ?

yeah. shall I pass you the noose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing i dont always read alot of other peoples posts. Just the op and i will be true to myself how i feel not what others think when i wright.. You just have to be yourself here .. most are thats why you get a good mix on this forum and why its very good. Not really alot of nasty people here some are friends its normal thay meet at clubs get on .... think its lovely ..... mods will allways step in if get really out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on, name the ones who are supposed to be in a clique, as I am intrigued to know who they may be too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Come on, name the ones who are supposed to be in a clique, as I am intrigued to know who they may be too!

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some do stand out here but we love them for it ... most of the time. God it would be as boring as hell if we all did think the same .. its ok if people are not being rude or nasty and all taken as fun ...

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over a year ago

I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

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over a year ago

"I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

Deffo not, I met you and canny stand ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

well surely that's a positive thing

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over a year ago

"I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

well surely that's a positive thing"
We have never meet but your my friend x We are all here together feel the love , lol

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over a year ago

"I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

Deffo not, I met you and canny stand ya

bollox slutty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aye, hope to feel it more closely come the good weather

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over a year ago

"I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

Deffo not, I met you and canny stand ya

ha ha what like are you?

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over a year ago

"I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

well surely that's a positive thing"

Not always if thats the wrong perception and it makes people feel left out

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

Fair point actually..but we often get the impression that theres a slight case of 'what would you know'...(as non swingers) when it comes to commenting..yeh sure, we cant really comment on gang bangs, orgies, parties, clubbing or some aspects of swinging itself, so we dont...thats not to say though that we dont have an inkling on what is going on outside number 99 Vanilla street..

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over a year ago

"I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

well surely that's a positive thing

Not always if thats the wrong perception and it makes people feel left out"

nearly spat me tea out! what the f is the solution then - not be friendly???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why the need to be so nasty, if you don't agree with the OP by all means say so, but cut the abuse x"

I took 3 months off the forums after having to report people for the levels of personal abuse towards me.

Been back a week, mostly reading and alls I can say is that it's much nicer now - go figure. Some of the "major players" appear to have either left or stopped posting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be quite daunting posting a thread/joining in when you are a newbie to the forum's & some peeps have made me feel more welcome than others but that does not mean they are being funny it is just who they are... take peeps for who they are and don't take things personally

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over a year ago

"I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

well surely that's a positive thing

Not always if thats the wrong perception and it makes people feel left out

nearly spat me tea out! what the f is the solution then - not be friendly???"

not at all

All im saying is people can assume things sometimes that are not even right,not suggesting any solution I just made a point thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a forum ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will be the odd one that will be funny on here but just rise above it. I got sarcastic comments about a post regarding being harrassed by bi guys. Saying my cock didn't match my fully clothed pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A place where people have discussion.

In this case here it's a typed discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There will be the odd one that will be funny on here but just rise above it. I got sarcastic comments about a post regarding being harrassed by bi guys. Saying my cock didn't match my fully clothed pic. "

Well you know the solution to that then... Dress your cock up in a uniform!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A place where people have discussion.

In this case here it's a typed discussion "

Thanks granny. Whats abuse ? LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A place where people have discussion.

In this case here it's a typed discussion

Thanks granny. Whats abuse ? LOL

Oh now stop it ...... tsk x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you know the solution to that then... Dress your cock up in a uniform!

ha ha never thought of that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was from a guy who had a matching everything.... remember the red face, cushion, mug and shirt! He was bound to be picky mate lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be quite daunting posting a thread/joining in when you are a newbie to the forum's & some peeps have made me feel more welcome than others but that does not mean they are being funny it is just who they are... take peeps for who they are and don't take things personally

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you just have to jump in here .... if you feel it say it ... x thats what we like and that s how we get to know you. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you just have to jump in here .... if you feel it say it ... x thats what we like and that s how we get to know you. xx"

You were one of the ones that made me feel welcome xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was from a guy who had a matching everything.... remember the red face, cushion, mug and shirt! He was bound to be picky mate lol!!!

and now to boot... your uniform doesn't match doesn't match you civvy gear

Are you taking the p***??? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A place where people have discussion.

In this case here it's a typed discussion

Thanks granny. Whats abuse ? LOL

Oh now stop it ...... tsk x"

Oh...........okay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been posting for a while now - cant recall if its 6 months or 7! but i can honestly say i prefer the forums to the chat

i can take it at my own pace etc

i have also been on the receiving end of some critical posts - but no big deal - my opinions were in contrast to those people and they expressed it - some nicer than others - and i certainly didnt hold back in my _iews

i dont consider myself in a clique on here or to have a group of friends i banter with - but thats mainly because i havent been to any of the socials and havent met many from the forums - if i did i might approach them differently

hope you still join in as its lovely to see new people in here - and i loved your footsteps thingy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha ha sugar but that's a good point

did have to laugh at the man in red

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over a year ago

"Ha ha sugar but that's a good point

did have to laugh at the man in red"

What a muppet thing he said lol!!! As for you, you do realise that the only way to settle this one will be to post us (me, I mean) a video of you taking off that uniform and showing us (me again) that your fully naked body matches your fully clothed pic. I really can't see you getting any more action on here unless you have gone through the trouble

I thank you in advance for your cooperation on this matter

Miss B

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By *ucati1098Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

I find the forums really good, funny at times but people have never been rude no have the ignored any posts I have put on here. xx

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Sometimes I just can't help myself. I like being cheeky!

*waits for Evie to come give me a slap*

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By *ucati1098Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

"Sometimes I just can't help myself. I like being cheeky!

*waits for Evie to come give me a slap*

Not sure I am into slapping just yet

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Sometimes I just can't help myself. I like being cheeky!

*waits for Evie to come give me a slap*

Not sure I am into slapping just yet

Not sure you're Evie either!!

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By *ucati1098Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

"Sometimes I just can't help myself. I like being cheeky!

*waits for Evie to come give me a slap*

Not sure I am into slapping just yet

Not sure you're Evie either!!

Possibly not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything for you sugar

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"I think there is a misperception that everyone knows everyone else,has met them and are great friends as thats not always the case at all

well surely that's a positive thing

Not always if thats the wrong perception and it makes people feel left out"

And of course when someone feels left out of something it can be far easier to blame the people perceived as being part of the something than look a little closer to home (inwardly) at their own inadequacies/insecurities/limitations.

It’s not uncommon for some people who want to be part of something to almost begin to envy it and then point out the thing they want as being a weakness or negative… because they are not part of it. It’s kind of another version of rejection issues. You’ll also see examples of it in the working environment … “all the managers are wankers up their own arse” said by the person you know would don that tie and suit at the drop of a hat IF they were only asked… but they will also be the last people to do something positive to earn a promotion.... because once they start trying, they have to face up to possible failure. So it becomes easier to slag of the managers and deny wanting to be one.

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