FabSwingers.com forum: To Convo or not to Convo?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all,

What is the best way to start a conversation on here, it's proving a little challenging..

Helpppppppp ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What, conversations on the forum or in messages?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Both but mainly messages Hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bright and breezy message with humour and a little sprinkle of what you are looking for.

Avoid "hey" and "how you finding the site"

Let me stick it in yo ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both but mainly messages Hun "

Don't use the word "hun" for a start lol

Or babe !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both but mainly messages Hun

Don't use the word "hun" for a start lol

Or babe !!"

This

And don't ask questions that women can give a one word reply to. That's boring.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok.

Thanks so. Please a good example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do whatever you do in real life, perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok.

Thanks so. Please a good example "

How can people give a good example if we don't know the people that you're talking to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never really approach in real life.

Things just happen and it's like woah.

But on the net, it's proving a bit difficult.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm talking to women...

Lol...

Well I believe they are.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And using the quote key is a good tip so that people can see who you're replying to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And using the quote key is a good tip so that people can see who you're replying to..."

Ok. Like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

Let me stick it in yo ass "

True romantics some people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just be you x"

I can only be me.

I'm not the type to pretend to be something I'm not....

It difficult on the net.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...

Let me stick it in yo ass

True romantics some people.

??????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that "fancy some"...works a treat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who is up for a challenge then??

Who would like to take me under there wings and teach me how to be more on the net??

Please don't think I'm low confidence it's just I'm putting my hands up and saying it's proving difficult for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find that "fancy some"...works a treat

??????????

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Do whatever you do in real life, perhaps?"

Ask a group of randoms in a pub "what should I say to introduce my self to that lady" you mean?

Sage advice...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do whatever you do in real life, perhaps?

Ask a group of randoms in a pub "what should I say to introduce my self to that lady" you mean?

Sage advice..."

If that's what you're recommending...

I'll do that next time I'm out... ????

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Just be you x"

I think he's tried that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just be you x

I think he's tried that!"

Yeah I have...

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The worst is I get a look from women who are supposedly looking for black guys, then I say hello, but they seem to just do one.

No response or anything....

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

"Do whatever you do in real life, perhaps?"

Offering to buy a drink is much cheaper virtually

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do whatever you do in real life, perhaps?

Offering to buy a drink is much cheaper virtually

??????????

????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who is up for a challenge then??

Who would like to take me under there wings and teach me how to be more on the net??

Please don't think I'm low confidence it's just I'm putting my hands up and saying it's proving difficult for us. "

If you find it hard to come across on the net why not attend a social or club plenty of them around MK. Then perhaps your better in person.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Do whatever you do in real life, perhaps?

Ask a group of randoms in a pub "what should I say to introduce my self to that lady" you mean?

Sage advice...

If that's what you're recommending...

I'll do that next time I'm out... ????"

Not really. That was obviously something you wouldn't do (at least I thought it was obvious) in the pub. My point was that it IS what you're doing here.

And yet the two situations are reasonably similar - so why treat them different? You keep saying "online is harder" but I don't see how - in fact I'd argue that it's easier, because you can take 2 minutes to think before every single thing you say - if you tried that in the pub they'd think you were a bit weird!

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

Find something in their profile that interests you and ask them about it, it makes it feel more personal.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Hello?

Is it me you're looking for?

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"The worst is I get a look from women who are supposedly looking for black guys, then I say hello, but they seem to just do one.

No response or anything...."

Just saying hello won't be enough. Ask an open question. Not something they can say yes or no to.

What when how why who where how.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Both but mainly messages Hun

Don't use the word "hun" for a start lol

Or babe !!"

Seriously off-putting

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

"I find that "fancy some"...works a treat

??????????"

Understanding flirtatious humour is a great start....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all,

What is the best way to start a conversation on here, it's proving a little challenging..

Helpppppppp ??"
just say " fuck me for God's sake I'm horny" a lot of sexy women love the direct approach or " suck on this " if you've got your cock on show this ,is popular too or you could just write a pleasant note describing how beautiful the person you are trying to attract is based upon their very detailed and informative profile your profile of course being just as informative with pics showing you in your best light

hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bright and breezy message with humour and a little sprinkle of what you are looking for.

Avoid "hey" and "how you finding the site"

Let me stick it in yo ass "

Either way we get igno_ed anyway, the site is pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find something in their profile that interests you and ask them about it, it makes it feel more personal. "
do it all the time, never any replies, the site is pointless

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Find something in their profile that interests you and ask them about it, it makes it feel more personal. do it all the time, never any replies, the site is pointless "

But you've only been here a week? You need to reexamine your expectations.....ask yourself this: why would a lady want sex with you? Answer that and you'll be well away....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Bright and breezy message with humour and a little sprinkle of what you are looking for.

Avoid "hey" and "how you finding the site"

Let me stick it in yo ass

Either way we get igno_ed anyway, the site is pointless."

Then why stay? Stay and moan or leave - you're an adult: make an adult decision. If the site is no fun, why stay?

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Both but mainly messages Hun

Don't use the word "hun" for a start lol

Or babe !!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" But you've only been here a week? You need to reexamine your expectations.....ask yourself this: why would a lady want sex with you? Answer that and you'll be well away...."

My profile kind of explains though

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

" But you've only been here a week? You need to reexamine your expectations.....ask yourself this: why would a lady want sex with you? Answer that and you'll be well away....

My profile kind of explains though"

It's not doing what you wanted it to then, is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bright and breezy message with humour and a little sprinkle of what you are looking for.

Avoid "hey" and "how you finding the site"

Let me stick it in yo ass

Either way we get igno_ed anyway, the site is pointless."

I disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" It's not doing what you wanted it to then, is it? "

No, not right now, no it isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find something in their profile that interests you and ask them about it, it makes it feel more personal. do it all the time, never any replies, the site is pointless "

I still disagree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find something in their profile that interests you and ask them about it, it makes it feel more personal. do it all the time, never any replies, the site is pointless

But you've only been here a week? You need to reexamine your expectations.....ask yourself this: why would a lady want sex with you? Answer that and you'll be well away...."

I can answer that one. Apparently the ladies will get "the fuck of their lives."

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Bright and breezy message with humour and a little sprinkle of what you are looking for.

Avoid "hey" and "how you finding the site"

Let me stick it in yo ass

Either way we get igno_ed anyway, the site is pointless.

I disagree."

This can't be right

you're averaging a meet every 4 weeks (not to mention the non verified repeats) and these top-o'-the-pile guys aren't......

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Find something in their profile that interests you and ask them about it, it makes it feel more personal. do it all the time, never any replies, the site is pointless

But you've only been here a week? You need to reexamine your expectations.....ask yourself this: why would a lady want sex with you? Answer that and you'll be well away....

I can answer that one. Apparently the ladies will get "the fuck of their lives.""

You sussed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bright and breezy message with humour and a little sprinkle of what you are looking for.

Avoid "hey" and "how you finding the site"

Let me stick it in yo ass

Either way we get igno_ed anyway, the site is pointless.

I disagree.

This can't be right

you're averaging a meet every 4 weeks (not to mention the non verified repeats) and these top-o'-the-pile guys aren't......"

That's because I'm not a top-o'-the-pile guy, I'm wait for it.......just a bit longer......average.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Find something in their profile that interests you and ask them about it, it makes it feel more personal. do it all the time, never any replies, the site is pointless

But you've only been here a week? You need to reexamine your expectations.....ask yourself this: why would a lady want sex with you? Answer that and you'll be well away....

I can answer that one. Apparently the ladies will get "the fuck of their lives."

You sussed it

Under promise and over deliver, not vice versa.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Unfortunately OP, there's no magic formulae for creating a message to get a response. If there was, there wouldn't be a thread like this every day asking for help.

There are a few things to keep in mind though:

Firstly, if you want to pique somebody's interest... then be interesting. The last thing you want to do is what everyone else does.

Secondly, always include a face pic. It will certainly improve the chances of your message being opened.

Third, make sure that the message is long enough to not be read from just the preview. If it's not, there's no need to open it.

Finally, if you want an answer.... ask a question. NOT "fancy a fuck?", but something to start a conversation with.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately OP, there's no magic formulae for creating a message to get a response. If there was, there wouldn't be a thread like this every day asking for help.

There are a few things to keep in mind though:

Firstly, if you want to pique somebody's interest... then be interesting. The last thing you want to do is what everyone else does.

Secondly, always include a face pic. It will certainly improve the chances of your message being opened.

Third, make sure that the message is long enough to not be read from just the preview. If it's not, there's no need to open it.

Finally, if you want an answer.... ask a question. NOT "fancy a fuck?", but something to start a conversation with.

Cal"

Fancy a fuck ISN'T a way to start a conversation????????????

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh crap.

#dissapointed.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Reading your profile perhaps the ladies love your message, but checking your profile are not replying when they see you cannot accommodate and that discretion is a must !

Just a thought.

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