FabSwingers.com forum: A Friend with Benefits ?

By *imal75 OP Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Hi guys, I am coming across a few profiles

mainly single females with the wording. ( I have a friend with Benefits )

I am trying to establish what that really means? or could it mean anything? Could I become a friend with benefits.

Does it mean, Some-one meets a friend with benefits on a regular basis for sex? or does it mean friend with benefits spends money on the other person? Can anyone put me on the right lines? I would love to know. Do you have a friend with Benefits maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a friend with benefits.

Just means we meet for fun and ...friendship

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think it means female with her head well and truly screwed on. She has a man friend or another bi female friend that she meeets up with for NSA sex.

and possibly she has been wise enough not to create a couple profile to give the man friend a golden ticket to more meets.

I am a tad cynical today...

Off to have hot chocolate, that brings out the best in me.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

Some people prefer this phrase to Fuck Buddy

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

oops and friendship.... apologies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it means female with her head well and truly screwed on. She has a man friend or another bi female friend that she meeets up with for NSA sex.

and possibly she has been wise enough not to create a couple profile to give the man friend a golden ticket to more meets.

I am a tad cynical today...

Off to have hot chocolate, that brings out the best in me.

correct assumption _iew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it means female with her head well and truly screwed on. She has a man friend or another bi female friend that she meeets up with for NSA sex.

and possibly she has been wise enough not to create a couple profile to give the man friend a golden ticket to more meets.

I am a tad cynical today...

Off to have hot chocolate, that brings out the best in me.

Two sugars in mine xx

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By *imal75 OP Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Thanks Guys, I get the idea now... So its more of a Fuck Buddy as appose to some-one who spends money on some-one and in returns get's to have sex with them? or some-one who maybe has a car and helps some-one around by giving them lifts everywhere? again in return for sex.

Thanks for clearing that up. I just thought it could mean anything? But I got the idea. Thanks again for your feed back. ( Would love to hear from anyone who has a friend with benefits. )

Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not do summat for me and ill shag kinda thing

NOOOOOOOOO

We are people who met to have fun, became friends and enjoy spending SOME quality time together be it just a few hours.

Its not meet shag and fuck off

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By *imal75 OP Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Hi Peaches, I think Petillante just confused me there for a second. I do understand now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its more like getting to know someone and having sex with them

no money needs to be spent lol x

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

"Thanks Guys, I get the idea now... So its more of a Fuck Buddy as appose to some-one who spends money on some-one and in returns get's to have sex with them? or some-one who maybe has a car and helps some-one around by giving them lifts everywhere? again in return for sex.

Thanks for clearing that up. I just thought it could mean anything? But I got the idea. Thanks again for your feed back. ( Would love to hear from anyone who has a friend with benefits. )

Thankyou "

from my understanding its just like a 'normal' friend be it female or male or two females or males who are normal friends but have sex with NSA

in other words its a fuck buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its more like getting to know someone and having sex with them

no money needs to be spent lol x"

Except for fuel, meal and hotel room etc., depending on how peeps arrange their meets!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Thanks for clearing that up. I just thought it could mean anything? But I got the idea. Thanks again for your feed back. ( Would love to hear from anyone who has a friend with benefits. )

Thankyou "

Thank you, seriously thank you so much.

I nearly wet myself after reading your post... no criticism of you at all.

I just love the fact there must be plenty more fellas out there who had the same thoughts as you and are now giving some women a wide birth because they think they are money grabbing hookers.

Can you tell I dislike the term ‘friends with benefits’…. for many reasons.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

So it's not shagging someone on the dole then?

Oh.

That would explain a LOT.

*adjusts profile*

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Thanks for clearing that up. I just thought it could mean anything? But I got the idea. Thanks again for your feed back. ( Would love to hear from anyone who has a friend with benefits. )

Thankyou "

I'm on benefits, and for £50 i'll happily suck your cock.

But if your mate wants to watch, it's an extra tenner.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"So it's not shagging someone on the dole then?

Oh.

That would explain a LOT.

*adjusts profile*"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for clearing that up. I just thought it could mean anything? But I got the idea. Thanks again for your feed back. ( Would love to hear from anyone who has a friend with benefits. )

Thankyou

I'm on benefits, and for £50 i'll happily suck your cock.

But if your mate wants to watch, it's an extra tenner.

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that should be free too i am freeee xx no benefits just purr lust and passion and smile ,

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By *ouch-of-classCouple
over a year ago

Tottington

Me and mine prefer the phrase "very special friend".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for clearing that up. I just thought it could mean anything? But I got the idea. Thanks again for your feed back. ( Would love to hear from anyone who has a friend with benefits. )

Thankyou

I'm on benefits, and for £50 i'll happily suck your cock.

But if your mate wants to watch, it's an extra tenner.

for some new undies and shoes ill do a few things (joke) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The benefits on offer to myself re who i see is ..ok we have sex...

We dine together, we talk about everything under the sun, we laugh together and enjoy each others company.Then we have sex again and then we chat and then we......etc etc.

Its non clinical as in...meet.shag and a thank you very much tara .

I hate those sort of meets.

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By *ingleguy1973Man
over a year ago

peterborough

"for some new undies and shoes ill do a few things (joke) x"

what size feet you got (joke)

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"The benefits on offer to myself re who i see is ..ok we have sex...

We dine together, we talk about everything under the sun, we laugh together and enjoy each others company.Then we have sex again and then we chat and then we......etc etc.

Its non clinical as in...meet.shag and a thank you very much tara .

I hate those sort of meets.

Know what you mean.

Just couldnt do it with someone who says 'Tara'.

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over a year ago

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I have a friend with benefits. We text most days, meet occasionally (350miles apart) and shag like bunny rabbits when we do - but also talk, spend time together etc. There's no financial gain either way. He's probably paid for more of the meals out than I have - but he's written them to business expenses, so I have no guilt there

We have never bought each other anything other than food/ drink. I've helped him move, find things for his place, he's cooked for me.

He is primarily my friend, but a bloody good shag with it, with no expectations of more than a good time from either side. Perfick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a friend with benefits. We text most days, meet occasionally (350miles apart) and shag like bunny rabbits when we do - but also talk, spend time together etc. There's no financial gain either way. He's probably paid for more of the meals out than I have - but he's written them to business expenses, so I have no guilt there

We have never bought each other anything other than food/ drink. I've helped him move, find things for his place, he's cooked for me.

He is primarily my friend, but a bloody good shag with it, with no expectations of more than a good time from either side. Perfick

Isn't that the same as a 'normal' distance relationship?

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

He is primarily my friend, but a bloody good shag with it, with no expectations of more than a good time from either side. Perfick

Isn't that the same as a 'normal' distance relationship?"

could be - the main difference we're both married, i guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for clearing that up. I just thought it could mean anything? But I got the idea. Thanks again for your feed back. ( Would love to hear from anyone who has a friend with benefits. )

Thankyou "

it is not a barter thing, it is friendship and sex is on the menu too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a handful of what I would consider as regular playmates.

We do not usually communicate between meets, and I prefer it that way, as I do not have the time to maintain any relationship.

They have already been sent a list of locations and dates for hotel meets for 2011.

Nearer the time for each date, I shall contact them to see who is available and fancy some fun.

If they are busy, it is no big deal, as I can always try my luck and find a willing newbie! Usually I succeed in finding someone to play with me at the last minute!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The benefits on offer to myself re who i see is ..ok we have sex...

We dine together, we talk about everything under the sun, we laugh together and enjoy each others company.Then we have sex again and then we chat and then we......etc etc.

Its non clinical as in...meet.shag and a thank you very much tara .

I hate those sort of meets.

Know what you mean.

Just couldnt do it with someone who says 'Tara'."

what about "na night"?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

He is primarily my friend, but a bloody good shag with it, with no expectations of more than a good time from either side. Perfick

Isn't that the same as a 'normal' distance relationship?

could be - the main difference we're both married, i guess. "

I think most people would call that an affair.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

I find that fascinating. When I was still in a couple we used to play separately and one of the ground rules that we had was that if one of us started having strong emotions for any of our meets then the other could call a halt to that.

We didn't want the swinging aspect of our relationship to take anything away from what we had between ourselves, and it was felt that either of us having friends with benefits whom we would meet up with regularly to have fun and also play with was a fine line to damaging our relationship.

Obviously I realise that not every couple sees things the way we did, but I do find it interesting that couples can have friends with benefits as opposed to singletons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He is primarily my friend, but a bloody good shag with it, with no expectations of more than a good time from either side. Perfick

Isn't that the same as a 'normal' distance relationship?

could be - the main difference we're both married, i guess.

I think most people would call that an affair."

Beat me to it

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I find that fascinating. When I was still in a couple we used to play separately and one of the ground rules that we had was that if one of us started having strong emotions for any of our meets then the other could call a halt to that.

Obviously I realise that not every couple sees things the way we did, but I do find it interesting that couples can have friends with benefits as opposed to singletons."

Anyone can have a fuck buddy.

I honestly believe there are a fair few folk around seeking something more similar to a proxy-relationship than recreational sex.... judging by some of the things I have read over time.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

He is primarily my friend, but a bloody good shag with it, with no expectations of more than a good time from either side. Perfick

Isn't that the same as a 'normal' distance relationship?

could be - the main difference we're both married, i guess.

I think most people would call that an affair."

I guess. Not a romance-and-hearts affair, though, and one with full knowledge/ consent of my husband. We actually met off another 'adult' site for a 3sum with my husband - but the 2sum bit worked better for us. I like him, yes. Love him - no. Would I leave my husband for him? Definite no. Do I want him to leave his wife? Definite no. Hmm... cake and eating it comes to mind again... (it's always back to cake...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously I realise that not every couple sees things the way we did, but I do find it interesting that couples can have friends with benefits as opposed to singletons.

Anyone can have a fuck buddy.

I honestly believe there are a fair few folk around seeking something more similar to a proxy-relationship than recreational sex.... judging by some of the things I have read over time."

Recreational sex plus benefits

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