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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I get messages that just say 'hi'..... that's it.... no dialog and so I say 'hey how are you... are you enjoying the site' or something similar and I get a reply that says 'yea it's ok'..... or something similar.... They just get deleted... there's no effort no proper convos .... its like swimming through glue xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners "
this is an ongoing problem a lot will tell you to forget it and move on ,a lot will tell you if they send a polite no thanks that encourages another message and a lot will say they get so many messages they can't reply to everyone ,some will even block you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners "

Read the sites FAQ and then you might have a better understanding of why this happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners

Read the sites FAQ and then you might have a better understanding of why this happens. "
that would also help if you had chronic insomnia

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong


"Sometimes I get messages that just say 'hi'..... that's it.... no dialog and so I say 'hey how are you... are you enjoying the site' or something similar and I get a reply that says 'yea it's ok'..... or something similar.... They just get deleted... there's no effort no proper convos .... its like swimming through glue xxx"

Ditto - sometimes we just get too many - but I always reply if someone has put the effort in xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners

Read the sites FAQ and then you might have a better understanding of why this happens. that would also help if you had chronic insomnia "

Or if you can speed read.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I replied to every message I got I wouldn't have the time to perv...plus you can do the polite thing and say no thanks then you get the why ? or well didn't want to meet you anyhow. Its being rude as if you read the site FAQAs its all in there. I used to reply to everyone when I first joined now I just reply to people who interest me and I say that on my profile.

Don't get ya knickers in a twist if you don't get a reply from a total stranger...move onto the next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners

Read the sites FAQ and then you might have a better understanding of why this happens. that would also help if you had chronic insomnia

Or if you can speed read..... "
but you miss all the best bits

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

problem is some people don't understand the word,, no,,and think because you message them back with,, "thanks for the message but your not what I'm looking for",, it somehow translates as "please send me another message,",

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
over a year ago

1127 walnut avenue

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners "

Why would you want an inbox full of rejection? How would that make your experience on fab any better?

Perhaps they have the decency and Manners not to hurt someone's feelings by telling them they're not interested.

Why can't you have the decency to understand that a no reply means not interested? Or that people are not obliged to reply to anything just as you are not obliged to message them?

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

No response is, a response

Having abandoned my inbox I've started looking at profiles and some even say please don't respond if it's a no. Makes no sense to have an inbox full of rejections

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No response is a response., it means not interested.

Perhaps it's rude but honestly I don't care. I used to reply politely to everyone but that just encourages more messages.

This is online theres no prerogative for me to be polite. I will block/ ignore for whatever reason I wish. That might seem harsh but I have no desire to be a slave to my inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its nice to get a reply , but chaps we have to put this in to some perspective.

Woman on here can get upto 100 messages a day. If they reply to them all and the replies to those messages , they would have to spend all day replying.

If I get no reply to a message I just think they aren't interested and just move on.

Guys dont take no replies personally

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners "

Do you answer all or any of the carefully crafted posted advertisements that arrive on your doorstep or inbox? No?

I know they don't interest you, but that's not the point.

Weren't you brought up with any decency or manners?

See how this works now?

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners "
1000 messages a day from single women???? Would you reply to them all? Nope.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners

Why would you want an inbox full of rejection? How would that make your experience on fab any better?

Perhaps they have the decency and Manners not to hurt someone's feelings by telling them they're not interested.

Why can't you have the decency to understand that a no reply means not interested? Or that people are not obliged to reply to anything just as you are not obliged to message them? "

This

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"No response is, a response

Having abandoned my inbox I've started looking at profiles and some even say please don't respond if it's a no. Makes no sense to have an inbox full of rejections "

And even more so this, but only because she'd got a really spankable arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was raised by wolves, I have no manners. I also can't be arsed.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"I was raised by wolves, I have no manners. I also can't be arsed."

Love the name Ruby. Have you got the Mac lipstick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've blocked all messages because of whingers

They can't moan about a reply if they can't message

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"No response is, a response

Having abandoned my inbox I've started looking at profiles and some even say please don't respond if it's a no. Makes no sense to have an inbox full of rejections

And even more so this, but only because she'd got a really spankable arse. "

Why thank you busted perving profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was raised by wolves, I have no manners. I also can't be arsed.

Love the name Ruby. Have you got the Mac lipstick?"

Yeah that's where I took it from

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners 1000 messages a day from single women???? Would you reply to them all? Nope. "

Who gets 1000 messages a day?!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

Who gets 1000 messages a day?! "

2000 men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its nice to get a reply , but chaps we have to put this in to some perspective.

Woman on here can get upto 100 messages a day. If they reply to them all and the replies to those messages , they would have to spend all day replying.

If I get no reply to a message I just think they aren't interested and just move on.

Guys dont take no replies personally "

On the rare occasion these days that I send a message, once it's sent, I delete it straight away

That way, if... sorry, when its deleted, I'll never know, thus allowing me never to worry about it and get on with important stuff

And if I do get a reply, then that's always a nice surprise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to in the beginning but now I don't bother.

The disclaimer is on my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where do you draw the line?

If some 'winks' you, should you message them explaining why you never winked back?

Or if someone sends a friend invite shoud you have to message them to tell them why you never accepted it?

If you say "hello" to someone in the street and they don't reply would you deel the need to ask them why they didn't say hello back?

Build a bridge and get over it.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

No one owes you, or anyone else, anything. And no one needs to justify themselves either.

Site FAQs state that no response is a not interested.

Take it on the chin and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners "

I think it is perhaps easier for guys on here to reply to messages purely due to the volume that are received, a couple/single lady is simply going to be snowed under with messages and therefore can not reply to each and every one, where as a guy will (in all probability) be able to reply to the ones he gets..... I don't think it is anything to do with manners or decency in most cases, however that alone does not remove the feeling that it is, all you can do is be pleasant and respectful and if you get a reply then think you are lucky that you beat about a million (exaggeration) others to be picked for a reply.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"If someone messages you and you read it. Is it really that hard to reply even if it is a no thanks. I understand not all messages can be read but the ones that are should at least get a reply or are half the members on here been brought up with no decency or manners 1000 messages a day from single women???? Would you reply to them all? Nope.

Who gets 1000 messages a day?! "

I was brought up not to brag so I couldn't possibly say.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If they haven't read my profile why should i take time to reply?it works both ways.If i get a well thought message i always reply,even with a no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was brought up with manners. I still don't reply to any guys who wanna fuck me if i don't wanna fuck them.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I think the OP's question has now been fully answered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind getting nothing just not what some are looking for, but its one that say hello and you start to chat then they either block you or just delete your msg , surely you can see sorry not my type.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

There is nothing rude about not replying, do you ring every takeaway that drops a menu through your door to say no thanks, take no reply as your answer.

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