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Can you love more then one person?

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By *niquemale17 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London.

Of course you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do believe its possible..

For different reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god, yea I love 3 men at the moment. An individual special love with each of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easily.

No one person is everything you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes..sometimes for different reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Anyone with children will tell you that.

But if you mean 'love' love I think it's very possible too of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes , there are differing kinds of love ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Anyone with children will tell you that.

But if you mean 'love' love I think it's very possible too of course. "

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Love is

1. It's important to have a man, who helps at home, who cooks from time to time, cleans up and has a job.

2. It's important to have a man, who can make you laugh.

3. It's important to have a man, who you can trust and who doesn't lie to you.

4. It's important to have a man, who is good in bed and who likes to be with you.

5. It's very, very important that these four men do not know each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where men are concerned I don't think I could.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think that I could be in love with more than one person, no. I can love more than one person in the sense of family, friends etc but that's different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I can't even imagine being able to love anyone other than Jools. So definitely not.

We are deeply in love and have been since 1986.

Love of children and family is totally different, still love tho.

I think some people confuse love with lust.

But hey this is the forum and someone will be along shortly to totally disagree.

Some people may be able to but we definitely couldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally speaking, I do.

I can be in love with several people at once or I can have love of family for larger numbers of people.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Yes, different people, different love, but it's still love xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's obvious to me he isn't talking about love for a family member,good friends or pets. I love lots of people in different ways,romantic love is different to me. I don't fall in love easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming you mean the love for a partner and not the love for a child or family member I'd say no. You can't love more than one person at once. Personally if I am in love with one person nobody else even comes on the radar. Lust may creep in, but love no. Quite simply if you love two people - do you really truely love the first person you fell for? For me the answer would be no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but you will always love one more....

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"Yes but you will always love one more...."

That's just what I was going to say.

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By *lassyandadventurousMan
over a year ago

England and Wales

No... Only love one person in that way

But can fuck a few others...love that in a nice way xxxxx

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"Easily.

No one person is everything you want."

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"Easily.

No one person is everything you want."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming you mean the love for a partner and not the love for a child or family member I'd say no. You can't love more than one person at once. Personally if I am in love with one person nobody else even comes on the radar. Lust may creep in, but love no. Quite simply if you love two people - do you really truely love the first person you fell for? For me the answer would be no. "

Maybe for you that's true, but it's not true for everyone. Some people can be in love with several people at the same time, there are stories of three way relationships and more where everyone involved was happy.

I think that there is an ingrained idea of love that has been hammered into our psyche's over the millennia, some people can love like that, but others are not so linear, but that is not necessarily wrong. Just different from the norm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming you mean the love for a partner and not the love for a child or family member I'd say no. You can't love more than one person at once. Personally if I am in love with one person nobody else even comes on the radar. Lust may creep in, but love no. Quite simply if you love two people - do you really truely love the first person you fell for? For me the answer would be no.

Maybe for you that's true, but it's not true for everyone. Some people can be in love with several people at the same time, there are stories of three way relationships and more where everyone involved was happy.

I think that there is an ingrained idea of love that has been hammered into our psyche's over the millennia, some people can love like that, but others are not so linear, but that is not necessarily wrong. Just different from the norm."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, no.

I give so much to the one I love, there really isn't anything left for anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

But what I feel for my wife and children is different from what I feel for my wider family and friends.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Yes most people from polygamous communities regularly do love more than one person

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Yes.... But who has the time?

In the modern world having time enough for one is difficult, you have to be very realistic about the time you will spend together. Mostly short!

To add others this realism has to be multiplied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.... But who has the time?

In the modern world having time enough for one is difficult, you have to be very realistic about the time you will spend together. Mostly short!

To add others this realism has to be multiplied. "

If everyone involved is understanding and accepting, there will be time made, and it can even be spent together. Some people have less time than others which is understandable, but people in love tend to make time for the ones they love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Not in the romantic sense x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I believe so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming you mean the love for a partner and not the love for a child or family member I'd say no. You can't love more than one person at once. Personally if I am in love with one person nobody else even comes on the radar. Lust may creep in, but love no. Quite simply if you love two people - do you really truely love the first person you fell for? For me the answer would be no. "

This feels true for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different."

There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict.

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...."

I bloody well hope so! I've got 3 kids!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different.

There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

For me yes it's entirely possible to love more than one person I love my children, I love my parents, my friends, my brothers but if you mean romantic love no, I only have time and room enough to love one person that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different.

There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict."

It can be possible, otherwise polygamous relationships would not exist to have a name, and conflict arises in all relationships from time to time, it's how the conflicts are managed that matters

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

There different forms of love you love your friends and your children but its not the same love you have for your husband.Been swinging many years had some great times but it,s never been love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different.

There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict.

It can be possible, otherwise polygamous relationships would not exist to have a name, and conflict arises in all relationships from time to time, it's how the conflicts are managed that matters"

It's debatable whether polygamous arrangements are about love, or simply the male in the arrangement choosing to trade up to a younger model while his first wife sucks it up. Societies where polygamy is practiced tend to be strongly patriarchal and not ones where women are treated as equals.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Yes.

It seems to me that it's mainly the three dominant monotheistic cultures that dictate that we cannot, and even then, only in more recent times. Most of the older or polytheistic cultures allow either some kind of polygamy or, at least, a less rigid form of joining. So I suspect polygamous relationships are far more a part of our make up than modern 'moralizing' would have us believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different.

There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict.

It can be possible, otherwise polygamous relationships would not exist to have a name, and conflict arises in all relationships from time to time, it's how the conflicts are managed that matters"

I wonder if the love is 'equal' in their relationships though or is it similiar to the different type of love we feel for family & friends, just a thought....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can love a man very easily, that intimacy in bed post sex when you're both naked and just looking at each other, kissing and stroking. It's amazing! I wouldn't say that's lust because it's post orgasm and very intense emotionally? However, when it comes to being head over heels in love, i'd say that's near impossible for me because i'm very wary when it comes to letting my heart go completely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it when diffuse love tentacles spread around my friends and lovers and when love builds more love. I believe you definitely can be in love with more than one person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only my children, family, yes, as a partner, would only consider one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Love isn't an exclusive thing.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Romantic love yes.

A serious long term head over heels love I think only one can work. You have to put that persons happiness above yourself (but they should too) and I don't see that working with more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant ignore how you feel about somebody, although sometimes that would make life a little easier. But if you're lucky enough to fall for more than one person you might as well embrace it, fighting it doesn't help.

Miss B x

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I love several - Miss B is certainly amongst them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is possible... but i don't think I'd want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easily.

No one person is everything you want.

"

I would say that you haven't met the right person yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The question is... can you love more than one hand at a time?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! I love 4 females!

Partner,2 daughters and a granddaughter

G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I think for some people the have the capacity to love a few special people.

For others, they are lucky enough to find the one.

A few never want or need that feeling, either with the one, or the few.

And there are the ones who have had it and lost it (or had it taken from them), who know they week never experience it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easily.

No one person is everything you want.

I would say that you haven't met the right person yet. "

Sorry Joolsandwhatshisname, but I'm inclined to say who are we to say that one person can have a right person?

Just because it is a more common practice, does not mean that it is right for everyone.

Admittedly, there is potential for it to not be *true love*, but that does not mean conclusively that *true love* cannot exist for multiple people and that we can instantly assume that just because someone believes that they have the capacity to love multiple people, that they have not found "the right person".

Just me being pedantic, but it just seems like a very linear approach to the concept of love and exploring options is an enjoyable experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope so

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't believe so, you can only be IN love with one person I have been with Paddy for over thirty years, this is real love, not the lust that a lot of people mistake for love and anybody who has ever told me that they are in love with more than one person, to me does not understand love, love for ones children and family is totally different.

There is a huge difference between "love" and "in love". Love is about meeting the other person's needs, "in love" is an infatuation stage where you selfishly focus on how the other person is going to meet your needs. In terms of romantic love, it's not possible to prioritise the needs of two or more other people at the same time, they will inevitably conflict.

It can be possible, otherwise polygamous relationships would not exist to have a name, and conflict arises in all relationships from time to time, it's how the conflicts are managed that matters

I wonder if the love is 'equal' in their relationships though or is it similiar to the different type of love we feel for family & friends, just a thought....

"

Hahaha, that is an interesting question, of which I am incapable of answering from experience, however, my feelings in relationships I've been in have been very much on par to feelings for friends and family, but I have had the will to be more flexible with my family and friends for a relationship, even though the feeling has been equal in measure, and this I feel is the way I am.

My lack of differentiation may be because I'm on the autism scale and I struggle to understand the subtleties of emotions, but that doesn't defer the fact that I do not feel any more or less love for one person over another.

I give more to a relationship because I want to, but that is nothing to do with different kinds of love, that is because I like making people feel special, and if they love me, then they're very special and deserve to be shown as such.

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