FabSwingers.com forum: Comfort Eating or Shutdown Starving?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When you get upset, emotional etc, who comfort eats, who shutdowns? Do women eat or do they starve?

Curious what the split is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a comfort eater, unfortunately. I'm not sure it's a gender split as in women do one thing and men another, just depends on the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Comfort eater here. However I'm also a social eater. Sod it - happy or sad, give me food!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how it affects my nerves. If my nerves are bad I can't eat. If it's depression I want my stomach full of warm food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Comfort eater

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't eat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just an eater

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends how it affects my nerves. If my nerves are bad I can't eat. If it's depression I want my stomach full of warm food. "

I'm the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm sad i don't eat.

If I'm ill and feeling sorry for myself then I can't stop

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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago

coventry/Leicestershire border

Shut down dont eat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Comfort eater all the way here. When I get bouts of depression, I eat more crap basically to try and make myself feel better. It never works for me and I now have 2 stone to try and lose. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Comfort eater here x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Used to be a comfort eater but not anymore although a couple of weeks ago I reverted back but only for a couple of days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do both when i am upset i comfort eat like mad then feel guilty and starve myself as punishment for being pathetic and its horrible

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I tend not to comfort eat...I never have anything in my house that's worth comfort eating on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a terrible relationship with food.most days don't eat enough,so end up using protein shakes as I know I need something to burn off during work.at home just drink tea instead...sometimes my stomach can be rumbling but I don't feel hungry atall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My eating habits are not affected by my mood. So neither, I guess.

-Courtney

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

My appetite is the first thing to go when life goes tits up.

But then I am a lazy eater at the best of times.

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By *issyyourbadWoman
over a year ago

Dorset

Don't eat .

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I never used to understand the comfort eating thing,until a good few years ago. It was after I told my ex husband he had to leave the house,some days after I collected my girls from their primary school and infront of all the other parents,this one rather loud girl came running up to me and shouted 'your husband has left you hasn't he',which I wouldn't mind was wrong anyway. Rather shocked I just grabbed my two and fled. When I got home I went straight for a choccie bar,from this moment on I understood the phrase comfort eating

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm having sirloin steak tonight cooked with cheese on, plus thick chips and mushy peas. I'm as happy as they come about this.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

eating shuts down for me totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be both. But generally if I'm stressed I skimp on food, if I'm unhappy I head for cake or biscuits.

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By *iss my kittenWoman
over a year ago

wigan

Comfort

I have had a miserable life as it shows lol but hey I've had some epic meals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if im in a generally shitty mood ill comfort eat

if im in a really bad place i cant eat at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stop eating.

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I make food to cheer me up, so I eat for comfort if I'm down.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I stop, I only need sleep if I feel shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I craved carbs and comfort ate for a year and went from about 8 stone to 17 stone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I channel negative into exercise. Which is quite lucky because my diet is terrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shut down and don't eat, not a good thing but I do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shut down dont eat

Yes , for both of us , we just don't eat when life gets us down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I'm sad i don't eat.

If I'm ill and feeling sorry for myself then I can't stop

me to

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

If Im pining for something then I I stop eatiing.

When I'm low in comfort eat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If Im pining for something then I I stop eatiing.

When I'm low in comfort eat. "

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can go either way ... Ive had emotional times when i go off food and times when i want to eat all the food

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's strange how many people do either comfort eat or shutdown starve. I thought I was in the minority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I starve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not eating is worse then stuffing yourself. In the long run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a starver but am all round a bad eater...don't have to be down or emotional.

Would think so looking at my pics...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not eating is worse then stuffing yourself. In the long run "
lifes life and who gives a flying fuck....you carry on ,,,beans on toast and bring it on ,rain or shine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a starver but am all round a bad eater...don't have to be down or emotional.

Would think so looking at my pics...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not eating is worse then stuffing yourself. In the long run lifes life and who gives a flying fuck....you carry on ,,,beans on toast and bring it on ,rain or shine"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My appetite is the first thing to go when life goes tits up.

I'm the same as foxy.

I tend to comfort eat if bored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a starver but am all round a bad eater...don't have to be down or emotional.

Would think so looking at my pics...

*wouldnt. Duh

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

Depends on the situation...

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

For me it depends on the situation. When I split with my ex, my appetite completely disappeared for a few weeks and I barely ate. At other times I'm a comfort eater

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

If I'm grieving I lose my appetite totally. If I'm stressed or angry or ill I comfort eat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lose my appetite immediately through sickness,sadness,anger or stress!! (Alabama)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I'm grieving I lose my appetite totally. If I'm stressed or angry or ill I comfort eat."

I think that's me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I lose my appetite immediately through sickness,sadness,anger or stress!! (Alabama)"

Yep same here. When I'm happy I eat :D

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm always hungry so couldn't stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'm a comfort eater, if I'm down and inflict pain on the nearest person, last time I waxed my exes arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since the start of summer I've been more of a starver, when I'm stressed I do forget to eat, or sometimes I just can't be bothered to... I hate how my skin would feel after a comfort feed, all greasy and spotty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on to many other factors.... Sometimes I binge... Other times I just go and hide under the duvet and don't come out... Not even for food x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no,,if im upset I don't eat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I lose my appetite immediately through sickness,sadness,anger or stress!! (Alabama)

Yep same here. When I'm happy I eat :D"

Same here....Christmas time I eat everything in site lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends. Usually if im stressed out I eat an inordinate amount of crap. It was my lo birthday party today and im in court all day tues fighting round 8/9 of her custody battle so you'd have thought I would have eaten lots of buns etc but no. I spent 3 hours trying to keep an eye on my dad who we believe to be incredibly ill (various reasons) and didn't toucj anything. Ive now looked back on pics taken and whoever the man is in them thats supposed to be my daddy I want the real one back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to sink a few stella's rather than comfort eat. Chill's me right out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm upset & stressed then I shut down & don't eat but soon make up for it by over eating when I am feeling more upbeat.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm mainly a comfort eater but it's not my only comfort - I'd probably be the size of an airplane hanger, if I didn't have alternatives and a sense of self control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't wanna get fat ,,so no

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

I've done some serious starving, I always do when somebody leaves me, appetite just completely disappears.

On more than one occasion I've gone without any food for a whole month, and getting back into eating was an ordeal.

I get a loss of appetite with stress, anger, grief, and depression. Never been a comfort eater, just someone who eats when comfortable, or when bored. I put on a lot of weight in my previous relationship just by being bored all the time.

I eat a fair amount in this relationship because I'm happy, but Neil helps burn calories and keep boredom at bay

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

It depends on the emotion really.

When i've been betrayed I tend to stop eating, adrenaline gets me through. Most other scenarios I comfort eat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From 1991 to 2000 I let a guy that I was in a long term relationship make me feel completely shit about myself!

I ballooned to a size 16 at my biggest. I ate to feel better because he made me feel like crap! In January 2000 I went on a diet, lost three stone, and ditched the bastard a year later!

since then I've never let my emotional state dictate my eating habits, and hope I never will again!

Helps that life is great right now - I am happier now than I've ever been!

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