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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you know when you have met "The one"?

My mum always used to say to me... You just know!

How did you know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll tell you once it happens.....

Actually I think there are several potential 'ones'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know when you have met "The one"?

My mum always used to say to me... You just know!

How did you know?

You just do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me neither

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone who was 'the one' for me...but I was not his. All a bit hit and miss I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just knew.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I met someone who was 'the one' for me...but I was not his. All a bit hit and miss I think."

This for me too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I had, but 14 years later, I realised he wasn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met the one and hes not like any relationship I've ever had. Not to mention being into swinging haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

butterflies fluttering around in my mind, soft and fluffy kittens playing in all their innocence, light beams shining around the head of the special one....

that's how it was for me.....

it was lovely...........

I loved LSD at the time

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Dunno, haven't met him yet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mam is right... Mam's are always right

you just know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As soon as I wake up

Every night, every day.

I know that its you I need, to take the blues away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think my ex was the one to be honest, I never felt that 'wam' moment, I think like most things back then I got a bit ahead of myself and married the wrong guy.

I'm still waiting for that wam moment that hits me in my heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know how you know but you just do. For me i never stayed with a guy longer than a couple of weeks before i got bored. Then i met my husband and that boredom never came. We were engaged within a couple of months of meeting and we got married 13 years later....still going strong 22 years on.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Don't think I've met my one yet, I think he is dead, emigrated or gay

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"How do you know when you have met "The one"?

My mum always used to say to me... You just know!

How did you know?

I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they didn't return the feelings then surely they weren't 'the one'? I've fallen in love and not been loved back, and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know when you have met "The one"?

My mum always used to say to me... You just know!

How did you know?

I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do."

Well yes....if they don't feel the same then they clearly aren't the one

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"How do you know when you have met "The one"?

My mum always used to say to me... You just know!

How did you know?

I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do."

This true, you know when you've met "the one", the problem is are you their "one" xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't speak when you're around them.

You feel nervous every time you're in their presence.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"How do you know when you have met "The one"?

My mum always used to say to me... You just know!

How did you know?

I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do.

Well yes....if they don't feel the same then they clearly aren't the one

Yes, of course. Like I said I'm no expert. Never been in that position sadly and probably never will be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can't speak when you're around them.

You feel nervous every time you're in their presence. "

I've never felt like that in anyone's presence....does that mean I'm with the wrong one??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know when you have met "The one"?

My mum always used to say to me... You just know!

How did you know?

I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do.

Well yes....if they don't feel the same then they clearly aren't the one

Yes, of course. Like I said I'm no expert. Never been in that position sadly and probably never will be."

That's a sadly defeatist attitude. Women will sense that and it will be self perpetuating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trying to describe how you 'know' is tricky.

I guess because I met Ben later in life after being around the block a few times, I just knew this felt different. Stuff I thought I'd never ever do again; like live together, and consider getting married again just feels right.

I thought I'd never meet anyone and I'd missed the boat! So there is hope ladies/gentlemen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"butterflies fluttering around in my mind, soft and fluffy kittens playing in all their innocence, light beams shining around the head of the special one....

that's how it was for me.....

it was lovely...........

I loved LSD at the time"

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By *W69Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

You just know

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Wouldn't know even if it hit me between the eyes. I'm oblivious to those sort of things

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"How do you know when you have met "The one"?

My mum always used to say to me... You just know!

How did you know?

I'm no expert on this of course. But I think you just know, or more likely you think you know. For anything to really work though the other person has to feel the same as you do.

Well yes....if they don't feel the same then they clearly aren't the one

Yes, of course. Like I said I'm no expert. Never been in that position sadly and probably never will be.

That's a sadly defeatist attitude. Women will sense that and it will be self perpetuating."

Oh don't get me wrong, I'd love to fall in love with a woman and for her to fall in love with me. I want that more than you'll ever know. I'm by no means defeatist. After 37 years of not getting anywhere near it I have to face the truth that it may never happen that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know when you have met "The one"?

My mum always used to say to me... You just know!

How did you know?

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coz you look into his eyes and never stop you believe and trust everything he says and you smile and laugh always ,simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

will let you know if/when i find him

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

My ex wasn't a wham thing but a growing love. I honestly thought we'd be walking up the prom at the coast in our 80's.

But we grew apart during a 20 year marriage.

I'd love that wham feeling though next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in love before. I nearly married him but he cheated on me. I was devastated and thought I'd never experience that kind of love again.

I had a few relationships after that but none of them came close to that one. I resigned myself to the fact that I'd already loved and lost my one and thought I could make do with the love I had for my partner at the time but there was always something missing.

And then, I met my husband. I knew there was something special about us the first time I saw him but we couldn't be together at that time. My heart told me that he was the one even though we couldn't be together at that time. He felt it too. I didn't see him for a long time but we thought of one another everyday. And then fate brought us together. It's been 10 years now. We are still smitten with one another. We are soul mates. We both know we could never be with anyone else again. It may sound soppy but I don't care. It's just different between us than either of us have ever experienced before with anyone. We are 100% honest with each other. We miss each other even when we're in work. We have an intuition about one another which I can't explain with words.

I'll never take him for granted and I thank my lucky stars for him every day that I have been lucky enough to meet the one.

Mrs x

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants

I honestly don't believe in a concept of just "one". There are over 7 billion people on this planet and you are just going to depress yourself thinking that.

When I was 19 I thought my ex was "the one" but after six wonderful years we realised we were wanting different things in life. We seperated, he met someone new and I've been travelling for the last two years. However, I wouldn't be the woman I am today without what our years together taught me. He was "the one" for that time in my life.

On my travels I met quite a few guys who I felt a really great connection or spark with, however with that lifestyle you are moving on a lot. Given the chance of a couple of weeks together though I think they could have felt like the "one" for the next chapter of my life.

I think what I'm saying is keep your eyes open to the world. Dont dismiss people/opportunities too quickly unless they def don't feel right. And don't limit yourself by saying will this person be my one and only forever. Hopefully they will and you'll be very happy! However you may find later that it's no longer right which is OK. If they are the only person you want to be with right now then they are "the one" for right now and for the foreseeable future.

My only other add on for everyone is if you later realise that it's not working anymore, please don't cheat. Accept its time to move on and do so. Its better for everyone involved.

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By *eanutButterJellyTimeCouple
over a year ago

the middle of the world

he said hello and I fell in love, he kissed me and I knew he was "the one"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Romantic drivel.

The one- pfff. Ask any guy in a big city- see a new 'the one' every single day.

If not more

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants

"I've been in love before. I nearly married him but he cheated on me. I was devastated and thought I'd never experience that kind of love again.

I'll never take him for granted and I thank my lucky stars for him every day that I have been lucky enough to meet the one.

Mrs x"

This is lovely and also such a valid point. You may meet someone and it not be the right time in life for things to happen. Or you may not be the right people yet to settle down together. But as you grow and life changes things that are meant to be can come back around.

A friend of mine and her husband separated about four years ago as they felt they had fallen out of love. As it was amicable, they had two daughters and they were tight on money he ended up staying in the spare room for a year. They both agreed they could try dating but nothing ever worked out and they would end up talking and laughing about it. Over time they found themselves falling back in love with each other. They've now got a gorgeous little third daughter and are very happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been told you will find them when you least expect it. Xx

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I believe there's 'the one' for a period of your life - I don't think there's a one for your whole life; we change (and if we dont they probably will) and so need several 'ones' thoughout or lives - enjoy them and move on when you're ready or are able to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been told you will find them when you least expect it. Xx"

I completely agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been in love before. I nearly married him but he cheated on me. I was devastated and thought I'd never experience that kind of love again.

I'll never take him for granted and I thank my lucky stars for him every day that I have been lucky enough to meet the one.

Mrs x

The twists and turns of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been told you will find them when you least expect it. Xx

I completely agree with this

So do I. You don't find love it finds you. Xx

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants

"I have been told you will find them when you least expect it. Xx

I completely agree with this

Agree too! Think it's because if you are looking you filter too much and put too many preconceptions on things.

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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago

North Yorkshire by the Sea

"I have been told you will find them when you least expect it. Xx

I completely agree with this

And while your busy enjoying your life to the fullest, enjoying your time with your family & friends

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I have been told you will find them when you least expect it. Xx

I completely agree with this

So do I. You don't find love it finds you. Xx"

I hope this is true. I like to think it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think I've met my one yet, I think he is dead, emigrated or gay

Or got trapped in a condom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know for a long time tbh he was just the best so far. Then something happened and I saw him differently xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been in love before. I nearly married him but he cheated on me. I was devastated and thought I'd never experience that kind of love again.

I'll never take him for granted and I thank my lucky stars for him every day that I have been lucky enough to meet the one.

Mrs x"

This is what I hope to have one day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"butterflies fluttering around in my mind, soft and fluffy kittens playing in all their innocence, light beams shining around the head of the special one....

that's how it was for me.....

it was lovely...........

I loved LSD at the time"
thought you were getting all sentimental for a moment then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with your Mum. Always listen to your Mum unless you are my wife in which case ignore the advice. We just knew! Mr W

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I grew strong and independent.

I brought my kids up alone.

I was happy.

I got together with a lady and settled down.

I knew I didn't 'need' her to cope with life.

And then we parted.

Then I realised how much I loved her.

Then I realised I needed her. For no other reason than I loved her.

Nothing mattered without her.

Then I knew she was the one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe there's 'the one' for a period of your life - I don't think there's a one for your whole life; we change (and if we dont they probably will) and so need several 'ones' thoughout or lives - enjoy them and move on when you're ready or are able to."

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I have been told you will find them when you least expect it. Xx"

I agree with this too

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I grew strong and independent.

I brought my kids up alone.

I was happy.

I got together with a lady and settled down.

I knew I didn't 'need' her to cope with life.

And then we parted.

Then I realised how much I loved her.

Then I realised I needed her. For no other reason than I loved her.

Nothing mattered without her.

Then I knew she was the one. "

That's lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I grew strong and independent.

I brought my kids up alone.

I was happy.

I got together with a lady and settled down.

I knew I didn't 'need' her to cope with life.

And then we parted.

Then I realised how much I loved her.

Then I realised I needed her. For no other reason than I loved her.

Nothing mattered without her.

Then I knew she was the one.

That's lovely

I've married her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a combination of things, but when you know you would do anything to protect that person you know that they are the one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll tell you once it happens.....

Actually I think there are several potential 'ones'."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll tell you once it happens.....

Actually I think there are several potential 'ones'.

Hey, how YOU doin'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually I think there are several potential 'ones'."

I think there are waaaaaaay more than several.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

If the 'one' can show himself before I'm dead I'll be eternally grateful,thankyou...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the 'one' can show himself before I'm dead I'll be eternally grateful,thankyou...

I would also appreciate this!

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"How did you know?

She agreed on a second date

(Despite what happened on the first

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Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's my priority, not myself. That's how I know.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"How did you know?

She agreed on a second date

(Despite what happened on the first

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Mr ddc"

Yep! I knew life would never be boring.

All these years later, I'm still smiling.

Mrs DDC

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's lovely to read all the happy endings

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants

"He's my priority, not myself. That's how I know.

Love this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How did you know?

She agreed on a second date

(Despite what happened on the first

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Mr ddc

Yep! I knew life would never be boring.

All these years later, I'm still smiling.

Mrs DDC

You two are too cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tick tick tick....

( with cobwebs)!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been told you will find them when you least expect it. Xx

I agree with this too

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I agree with this I lost my hammer the other day and was pulling things out in the garage

my toes so sore

hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met the one still madly in love 10 years later.

My grandad fell in love when he was 80 he had been on his own for 20 year's he died a very happy man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I met the one still madly in love 10 years later.

My grandad fell in love when he was 80 he had been on his own for 20 year's he died a very happy man

Xx"

How lovely for him and you

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I thought I had found 'the one' but then I discovered that I'd fallen in love with a lie so I guess that the real one is still out there just waiting for me to walk into his life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I thought I had found 'the one' but then I discovered that I'd fallen in love with a lie so I guess that the real one is still out there just waiting for me to walk into his life

Fallen in love with a lie? As in the whole relationship or person was a lie?

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I thought I had found 'the one' but then I discovered that I'd fallen in love with a lie so I guess that the real one is still out there just waiting for me to walk into his life

Fallen in love with a lie? As in the whole relationship or person was a lie?"

He had lied his ass off and been very, very good at it. The person I fell for didn't exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is more than one possible One for all of us. And your mam is right

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I thought I had found 'the one' but then I discovered that I'd fallen in love with a lie so I guess that the real one is still out there just waiting for me to walk into his life

Fallen in love with a lie? As in the whole relationship or person was a lie?

He had lied his ass off and been very, very good at it. The person I fell for didn't exist."

Yup, that is what a true narcissist is, a hollow shell, a very beguiling figment of someone's own imagination.

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