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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My ex mother-in-law had a complete bone marrow transplant 18 months ago and she's been told today it hasn't worked.

She's been told she'll 'see Christmas' but much beyond that is uncertain. I have to tell my two boys that their Nana is going to die.

Ex and I have sort of prepared for this over the last 18 months just in case the procedure was unsuccessful so it's not a total surprise.

But still, what a massive pile of shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

och shame to hear x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sorry to here that.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Sorry to hear that x

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By *methyst01Man
over a year ago

Ealing Common

Hey Nell

Thats not cool. Sorry to hear but hang in there.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Sorry to hear this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very sorry Nell, hope you find a way to tell them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear this lovely lady. It is so hard having that talk. I've been there and had to tell my own children that my Mum was dying. It's heartbreaking but it is important to be honest with them in my opinion.

It took two years for the grieving process to start properly with my eldest as its a very individual thing how we react to losing a loved one. All you can do is be there for them and let them create special memories in the meantime.

I'm always around if you need a chat.

Mrs xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no

really sorry to hear that. Big big hugs xxxx

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Thinking of you and your family and sending hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big PB hugs Nell

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Oh how awful. Sorry to hear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god that's just awful we had the bad news my exes cousin is terminal too so I feel your pain, if you need a chat X X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awful sorry to hear that lovely. I hope she has her final months filled with happiness and love xxx

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

It is a very hard thing to do but you'll find a way xx

Huge hugs for you all xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's awful to hear. There are some nice books that you can get to help them to understand if you do an Amazon search. x

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

we feel for you. hubby,s friend died a couple of years ago on new years eve. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex mother-in-law had a complete bone marrow transplant 18 months ago and she's been told today it hasn't worked.

She's been told she'll 'see Christmas' but much beyond that is uncertain. I have to tell my two boys that their Nana is going to die.

Ex and I have sort of prepared for this over the last 18 months just in case the procedure was unsuccessful so it's not a total surprise.

But still, what a massive pile of shit."

{{{{{HUGGGGGGGGGGG}}}}}}}}

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

That's going to be a tough conversation. Never had to tell my children anything so awful. (((Hugs)))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear the bad news Nell, had a similar experience with a family member a couple of years back. Just focus on getting through each day and try not to think too far ahead, thinking of you and yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex mother-in-law had a complete bone marrow transplant 18 months ago and she's been told today it hasn't worked.

She's been told she'll 'see Christmas' but much beyond that is uncertain. I have to tell my two boys that their Nana is going to die.

Ex and I have sort of prepared for this over the last 18 months just in case the procedure was unsuccessful so it's not a total surprise.

But still, what a massive pile of shit."

Big hugs to you and your family lovely x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Not good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Xxxxooooxxxx

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By *angerousEyesMan
over a year ago

weston

Sure is a big pile! These things are never easy, best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sad news. All the best

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Thoughts are with you all

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

how awful ... you have to be honest with the children though .... hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sucks- as for telling the kids- I wish you love and hugs- must be very hard xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a massive pile of shit before, during & after, as a family tho you pull together & get thru it.

I don't know how old your children are but in my experience keeping mine informed of events made them as best prepared as they could be when the inevitable sadly happened

Big hugs xx

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

sorry to hear the news but I wouldnt tell mine due to there age if they are older tell them differently

the one thing that I did tell them was they was very poorly

the one thing I will say is treasure every day that you have and make the best of it with smiles

its what I did and they and I enjoyed every bit of it while it lasted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex mother-in-law had a complete bone marrow transplant 18 months ago and she's been told today it hasn't worked.

She's been told she'll 'see Christmas' but much beyond that is uncertain. I have to tell my two boys that their Nana is going to die.

Ex and I have sort of prepared for this over the last 18 months just in case the procedure was unsuccessful so it's not a total surprise.

But still, what a massive pile of shit."

Depends on their age, but personally I probably wouldn't tell them. Make sure you all make as much of Christmas as you can, then just support them when the time comes.

Best wishes to you. X

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I am so sorry to hear your news.It will not be an easy conversation to have but happy that you have time to explain to the children. We unfortunately didn't. I'm sure you will find the right words.. Hugs. Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she is just going to help the angels

sorry for your pain

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