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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I heard this site was different last night I arranged a meet and because of unforeseen circumstances I couldn't arrive I let them know In reasonable time but now I'm apparently going to be outed to my partner and all her family wow apparently they wrote going to wreck my home life

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

report and ignore them.

but it is the risk you take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dangers of playing away my friend. If you don't want the hassle.............

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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Sounds like you may have told them a bit too much about yourself or do you know them anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people get irate and don't understand personal lives come 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How could they as you say you should of gone to them, so they didn't know your address?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dangers of playing away my friend. If you don't want the hassle............."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do they know who your partner is?

Bluff and bluster buddy, ignore and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh you chose to take the risk. It's probably best your partner does find out, then they can decide if they still want to be with you afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I heard this site was different last night I arranged a meet and because of unforeseen circumstances I couldn't arrive I let them know In reasonable time but now I'm apparently going to be outed to my partner and all her family wow apparently they wrote going to wreck my home life "

How does somebody you haven't even met on here know your partner and her family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I heard this site was different last night I arranged a meet and because of unforeseen circumstances I couldn't arrive I let them know In reasonable time but now I'm apparently going to be outed to my partner and all her family wow apparently they wrote going to wreck my home life "
Look on the bright side ,at least you wont need an excuse to neglect and shit all over her once she finds out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing away from home. Oops it's a no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What go around come around kid...

Cypress hill said that dontcha know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kik, bbm no phone number exchange, safe secure for both parties with blocking facilities.

Shouldn't come to that though

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

This site can be hazardous at times, beware!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In worst case, take their details to the police, if it escalates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah a gross invasion of privacy is acceptable if it's a married ..

Would the response be different if a no-showing couple was threatened to be outed to colleagues or vanilla friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does your partner not know you're on here then?

Sorry to be blunt, but if she doesn't then i have no sympathy.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you let a couple down and they are having a hissy fit, they will do fuck all but bluster.........

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Dangers of playing away my friend. If you don't want the hassle............."
.....don't use your whistle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What go around come around kid...

Cypress hill said that dontcha know "

A to tha motherfuckin K, homeboy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probs need to work on your vetting process a bit Dan, by the sound of things.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Oi! Judgey McJudgersons!!

Sometimes it would be nice to see a little support for someone in a shitty situation. It's not our place to judge the reasons behind people playing away from home. It's their life and their choice. They have to deal with the consequences without us throwing a pile of crap on top.

OP... if you were polite and gave notice that does not make you a timewaster. Sometimes life gets in the way and most decent people are understanding when something comes up and you have to cancel at the last minute.

You don't need to give anyone your life history. I guess just be careful how much information you share next time. Not everyone can be trusted.

If the person has been abusive, report the profile to Admin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probs need to work on your vetting process a bit Dan, by the sound of things."
Either that or decide which colour to paint the new bedsit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah a gross invasion of privacy is acceptable if it's a married ..

Would the response be different if a no-showing couple was threatened to be outed to colleagues or vanilla friends? "

It probably doesn't have the same impact as on a cheated spouse, does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Oi! Judgey McJudgersons!!

Sometimes it would be nice to see a little support for someone in a shitty situation. It's not our place to judge the reasons behind people playing away from home. It's their life and their choice. They have to deal with the consequences without us throwing a pile of crap on top.

OP... if you were polite and gave notice that does not make you a timewaster. Sometimes life gets in the way and most decent people are understanding when something comes up and you have to cancel at the last minute.

You don't need to give anyone your life history. I guess just be careful how much information you share next time. Not everyone can be trusted.

If the person has been abusive, report the profile to Admin. "

Thank god there's someone not on their moral high horse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I heard this site was different last night I arranged a meet and because of unforeseen circumstances I couldn't arrive I let them know In reasonable time but now I'm apparently going to be outed to my partner and all her family wow apparently they wrote going to wreck my home life "
Most people on here are discreet. You must have said your other half etc don't know what you do. Mr W

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Oi! Judgey McJudgersons!!

Sometimes it would be nice to see a little support for someone in a shitty situation. It's not our place to judge the reasons behind people playing away from home. It's their life and their choice. They have to deal with the consequences without us throwing a pile of crap on top.

OP... if you were polite and gave notice that does not make you a timewaster. Sometimes life gets in the way and most decent people are understanding when something comes up and you have to cancel at the last minute.

You don't need to give anyone your life history. I guess just be careful how much information you share next time. Not everyone can be trusted.

If the person has been abusive, report the profile to Admin. "

Their life, their choice. You're absolutely right.

It's just a shame that people can communicate with strangers but not with their partners.

Personally, i wasn't being judgemental, just stating the fact that maybe he should let his partner know what he is doing or not do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah a gross invasion of privacy is acceptable if it's a married ..

Would the response be different if a no-showing couple was threatened to be outed to colleagues or vanilla friends?

It probably doesn't have the same impact as on a cheated spouse, does it? "

Nobody but the OP knows his backstory and why he's here. Sometimes it's never as easy as being black and white.

If it's less impact on them then I guess you'd be cool with friends and colleagues being advised then? Or is it only to provide maximum impact on the 'cheated' party that it's acceptable - I mean why not absolutely devastate that cheated spouse when there's a choice not to??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They have my phone number and my first name that's about it but always a worry

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

no high horse here

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

so kill the phone number as "stolen" and kill the profile here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They have my phone number and my first name that's about it but always a worry"
They cant do much with that info I think. You could always change your fone number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah a gross invasion of privacy is acceptable if it's a married ..

Would the response be different if a no-showing couple was threatened to be outed to colleagues or vanilla friends?

It probably doesn't have the same impact as on a cheated spouse, does it?

Nobody but the OP knows his backstory and why he's here. Sometimes it's never as easy as being black and white.

If it's less impact on them then I guess you'd be cool with friends and colleagues being advised then? Or is it only to provide maximum impact on the 'cheated' party that it's acceptable - I mean why not absolutely devastate that cheated spouse when there's a choice not to?? "

It's always black and white. He's either doing it with permission (in which case, this isn't an issue) or without. Also it's absurd to suggest not telling the truth just because it may upset someone.

Do you know what the best choice would've been? Not looking to fuck people behind his partner's back. Easily avoidable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I heard this site was different last night I arranged a meet and because of unforeseen circumstances I couldn't arrive I let them know In reasonable time but now I'm apparently going to be outed to my partner and all her family wow apparently they wrote going to wreck my home life

How does somebody you haven't even met on here know your partner and her family "

facebook..exchange of numbers lol

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

When shitting on your partner a certain liability comes with it. It seems to be coming to fruition.

Each to their own but shitting on a partner aint really my style. Those that do reap what they sow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I heard this site was different last night I arranged a meet and because of unforeseen circumstances I couldn't arrive I let them know In reasonable time but now I'm apparently going to be outed to my partner and all her family wow apparently they wrote going to wreck my home life "

This site enables you to contact people. Beyond that, it is how you choose to interact that may have repercussions for you.

I have no knowledge of your circumstances so will not judge you. But if anyone has put your home life at risk, might it not be you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was a quick unlos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Facebook can automatically link to phone contacts etc. You need to report the person because they are dangerous. Mr W

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos"

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted"
That is right, don't think he needed to leave really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted"

a new profile will be created lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And here's why it's better to have a play phone if you must use a phone and don't disclose too much to a potential meet .

It's supposed to be fun .

There's no need to give personal details to anyone on here to get meets and fun .

We should know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Threatening to out a person to anyone whether they are ~ friends, colleagues or partner is out of order & quite frankly c*ntish behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted"

Yep, those so quick to judge people they don't know

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By *layne75Couple
over a year ago

New orleans


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Oi! Judgey McJudgersons!!

Sometimes it would be nice to see a little support for someone in a shitty situation. It's not our place to judge the reasons behind people playing away from home. It's their life and their choice. They have to deal with the consequences without us throwing a pile of crap on top.

OP... if you were polite and gave notice that does not make you a timewaster. Sometimes life gets in the way and most decent people are understanding when something comes up and you have to cancel at the last minute.

You don't need to give anyone your life history. I guess just be careful how much information you share next time. Not everyone can be trusted.

If the person has been abusive, report the profile to Admin. "

Agreed.

that person agreed to play with someone that played away. I think that if they can't handle a reschedule, the problem is an unstable individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Threatening to out a person to anyone whether they are ~ friends, colleagues or partner is out of order & quite frankly c*ntish behaviour."

apparently you're wrong. It's acceptable if you're married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Threatening to out a person to anyone whether they are ~ friends, colleagues or partner is out of order & quite frankly c*ntish behaviour."

So very few actually care though. Most will come back, with a new profile just because they're desperate for the attention of others. They've really only themselves to blame.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I really don't care if people cheat, not my business or issue.

but I do find it staggering the way some behave, it is one thing to do it.... the grandstanding of it is something else.

if they just got on with it, there would be a lot less angst felt by them, and others.

but I do think the attention is the greatest turn on, rather than the sex act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted"
Or just people with morals

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and I find the outing of them, despicable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really don't care if people cheat, not my business or issue.

but I do find it staggering the way some behave, it is one thing to do it.... the grandstanding of it is something else.

if they just got on with it, there would be a lot less angst felt by them, and others.

but I do think the attention is the greatest turn on, rather than the sex act."

For me, it's the act of disbelief that someone could deceive them in such a way and how they have been wronged - oblivious to what they're doing. It's ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted Or just people with morals "

Well everyone on this site fails the morals test my friend according to a huge slice of the population. Or do you just mean your morals?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted Or just people with morals

Well everyone on this site fails the morals test my friend according to a huge slice of the population. Or do you just mean your morals? "
not just mine it seems my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted Or just people with morals

Well everyone on this site fails the morals test my friend according to a huge slice of the population. Or do you just mean your morals? "

It's silly to suggest it's self righteous to consider cheating wrong. It's bad to to deceive your partner, it's not standing on a soap box preaching. Perhaps you'd like it excused but that doesn't make it right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah a gross invasion of privacy is acceptable if it's a married ..

Would the response be different if a no-showing couple was threatened to be outed to colleagues or vanilla friends? "

I agree, it's not up to us lot to 'out' anyone! His marriage, his business, and his shit to deal with.

Plus don't you all agree it's pretty shit someone threw a hissy fit just cos they got cancelled!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted Or just people with morals "

Live by your own moral code & let others live by theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And with that pooooof he vanished

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted Or just people with morals

Live by your own moral code & let others live by theirs."
I do

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted Or just people with morals

Live by your own moral code & let others live by theirs."

Having opinion doesn't stop/hinder or not let others live by their moral code. It's simply an opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been in a situation where an immature little snake has very nearly ruined my life (yes sounds dramatic, but he nearly did) ok so you shouldnt play away but thats none of my business. The person in my situation blackmailed me by threatening to put nudes of me on facebook, i was single at the time but still wouldve been devastating if my family seen them.

Aaannnnyywaaaayyy.. I dont know the full details but id this person is threatening towards you or your partner report it the police before it escalates, chances are theyre bluffing but dont leave it until its too late, be careful and i hope they are just making idle threats but from experience I know that in itself will put you in a bad place mentally and emotionally. Take more care in the future and get to know people better. Good luck

Miss B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Oi! Judgey McJudgersons!!

Sometimes it would be nice to see a little support for someone in a shitty situation. It's not our place to judge the reasons behind people playing away from home. It's their life and their choice. They have to deal with the consequences without us throwing a pile of crap on top.

OP... if you were polite and gave notice that does not make you a timewaster. Sometimes life gets in the way and most decent people are understanding when something comes up and you have to cancel at the last minute.

You don't need to give anyone your life history. I guess just be careful how much information you share next time. Not everyone can be trusted.

If the person has been abusive, report the profile to Admin. "

Voice of reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted Or just people with morals

Live by your own moral code & let others live by theirs.

Having opinion doesn't stop/hinder or not let others live by their moral code. It's simply an opinion "

The opinion came across to me as there was only one set morals....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a quick unlos

The self righteous 'holier-than-thous' will be delighted Or just people with morals "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most vocal aren't always the voice of the population.

Breaking trust is wrong.

Extra-marital sex is wrong.

Gay sex is wrong.

Unmarried sex is wrong.

Sex between people with a large age gap is wrong.

Bdsm is wrong.

Anal is wrong.

Fisting is wrong.

Watersports is wrong.

Multiracial sex is wrong.

Religion is wrong.

No religion is wrong.

Etc etc etc.

All of the above are opinions held by various members of Fab, people in this forum, and people in the real world.

You as an individual are not the moral compass for anyone else, no matter how strongly you feel about your own beliefs.

And you as an individual do not get to decide who should and shouldn't be treated with respect on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The most vocal aren't always the voice of the population.

Breaking trust is wrong.

Extra-marital sex is wrong.

Gay sex is wrong.

Unmarried sex is wrong.

Sex between people with a large age gap is wrong.

Bdsm is wrong.

Anal is wrong.

Fisting is wrong.

Watersports is wrong.

Multiracial sex is wrong.

Religion is wrong.

No religion is wrong.

Etc etc etc.

All of the above are opinions held by various members of Fab, people in this forum, and people in the real world.

You as an individual are not the moral compass for anyone else, no matter how strongly you feel about your own beliefs.

And you as an individual do not get to decide who should and shouldn't be treated with respect on here. "

Totally agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah a gross invasion of privacy is acceptable if it's a married ..

Would the response be different if a no-showing couple was threatened to be outed to colleagues or vanilla friends?

It probably doesn't have the same impact as on a cheated spouse, does it?

Nobody but the OP knows his backstory and why he's here. Sometimes it's never as easy as being black and white.

If it's less impact on them then I guess you'd be cool with friends and colleagues being advised then? Or is it only to provide maximum impact on the 'cheated' party that it's acceptable - I mean why not absolutely devastate that cheated spouse when there's a choice not to??

It's always black and white. He's either doing it with permission (in which case, this isn't an issue) or without. Also it's absurd to suggest not telling the truth just because it may upset someone.

Do you know what the best choice would've been? Not looking to fuck people behind his partner's back. Easily avoidable. "

It's NEVER Black and white, what about all those shades of grey, lol.

Op - they can't do anything with your phone number. But, don't give it next time! And each to their own and all that but you takes your chances...

No one on here should judge , people in glass houses...

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

This thread makes for very sad reading, the man whatever his circumstances was on the end of some nasty people who were quite happy to arrange a meet and all people can do is sneer at him.

Admin don't take kindly to people "outing" others...it is a shame the OP didn't stay so he could have reported it....if anyone else finds themselves in this position ( married or not) please report the persons profile.

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