FabSwingers.com forum: Ok.. What makes you read a mail

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Picking up on things in forum. Newish to forums do not be gentle.. Rough is good along with smooth.

So you get a mail..

Hi, how are you? I noticed you say you leave those mails out of your.. What?

So as you are all experts on what is a good intro message. Lets hear them...

Nothing wrong with hi, how are you at all. It takes a lot for most here to send mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am not bothered what it says aslong as shes fit ,less shit chat more shagging

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We actually read all of ours and try to respond to them all too.

Though as a couple we will get far less than the average single woman.

To me a good message is not just a "Hi, how are you" or a "Like the pics"

Something that says what made them contact you and why they think you might like them.

I take it you are not getting many messages... This may be due to the way your profile is set up.

If you don't mind my saying.. I would suggest that you add some photos and say what you are looking for a... Though after that you might feel the need to block everyone and do your own searching as you could get inundated.

Nita x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

When meeting, I read the profile first. If they are not what I'm looking for: delete. It says on my profile (when visible) I'll not respond to those outwith what I'm looking for, even if they'd penned a sonnet.

If the man matches what I'm looking for I'll respond to even a "hi" message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read and reply to all except the truly vile messages.

The messages that peak my interest though are the ones that are obviously not a bulk copy and paste effort but a genuine response to something on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the content or the subject line, but the sender which makes me read or reply.

There's no magic message which would change this.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

I reply to as much mail as I can usually be it normal conversation or a polite hello etc...

for the most part it is either sometimes a good looking TS/TV who messages me and asks if I would be interested in meeting a girl like them.... I usually then have to sadly decline and explain politely How I'm not into Men or T-Girls..

they appreciate the honesty for the most part, and it's either them or sometimes a lad who messages me asking for a meet etc..

either that or sometimes a friend off my list I speak with a bit via PM or a nice lady who sometimes approaches me first off the chat rooms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 'shit chat' is the best Freudian slip ever.....

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get quite a few messages, some days.

I've often thought how helpful it would be to post the very best opening messages on here, (with the salient details obscured, obviously,) just so guys could see what the perfect opener is like.

I think it would help cut down on the dross that gets sent because men are unsure of what tack to take.

I don't think admin would approve, though.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I reply to everyone. There are things that put me off in the preview but I'm usually pretty up front in my response to those who overstep the mark straight away.

I think my best advice would be not to ask me personal questions before you've introduced yourself for example.

Don't send something crude to someone you've never spoken to.

Don't send your cock in the first message, wait until you're asked or if it's been requested.

Just read the profile, engage the brain in your head and attempt to treat the person you're mailing with a little respect.

Use some common sense. It may be a swinging site, it may be casual sex you're after but that's no excuse not to behave like a decent person. You wouldn't wave your cock in the face of someone you just met in a bar so don't do it here. Try to behave like a normal person, even if it doesn't come naturally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We read all of our mail. Even if it does take us a while to reply.

I like funny messages. I wish all the messages in my inbox were funny. I can dream.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be shallow but I look at the face pics first.

If I don't find them attractive then I don't care how long or short the message is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them all... although to be fair as a single male Im not exactly swamped lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read all my mail since it's rare I get any.

if it said "hi"- I'd be disappointed but I'd still reply.

I'm nice like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We actually read all of ours and try to respond to them all too.

Though as a couple we will get far less than the average single woman.

To me a good message is not just a "Hi, how are you" or a "Like the pics"

Something that says what made them contact you and why they think you might like them.

I take it you are not getting many messages... This may be due to the way your profile is set up.

Nita x"

Did not ask you to comment on my profile

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

I don't get any. Filters

Humour was the key for me though or a good debate, usually off a forum post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My spidey senses tell me the OP may not be a fem??

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By *nceinawhileCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

We generally look at the profile and go by that but if the message has had time taken on it we are more inclined to reply sooner than if it just says "hi"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am not bothered what it says aslong as shes fit ,less shit chat more shagging "

I have the same attitude!

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

They have to make me laugh - simple xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read all my mail when I have chance.

Not a fan of the 'hi how are you'

After a while it gets boring, would prefer something different and funny. Would definitely make me check them out

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Profiles are more important to me.

If they haven't made an effort then neither will I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply even if there's no pics

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