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"Stimulate my mind with conversation and you have me hooked! It's NOT shagathon.com ! " no its a swingers site. as the couple above put "As a couple that's the last thing we would want" only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site. | |||
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"Stimulate my mind with conversation and you have me hooked! It's NOT shagathon.com ! no its a swingers site. as the couple above put "As a couple that's the last thing we would want" only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site." I'm here to make friends too, not looking for a fuck n run. | |||
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"There are plenty of people on here who can stimulate the mind - and the body too. Sadly we are often overlooked for those of rippling abs and Apollos belt. " Nope, not one person I have met is of that, as I am not mainly drawn to the looks, of course they have some importance, but as for the toned body build, I can see past that! When I refer to stimulate my mind, I mean you know what you are doing and can say the right things to me, make me want it etc... not go into in depth conversation about politics or other subjects  | |||
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"There are plenty of people on here who can stimulate the mind - and the body too. Sadly we are often overlooked for those of rippling abs and Apollos belt. Nope, not one person I have met is of that, as I am not mainly drawn to the looks, of course they have some importance, but as for the toned body build, I can see past that! When I refer to stimulate my mind, I mean you know what you are doing and can say the right things to me, make me want it etc... not go into in depth conversation about politics or other subjects "So we can't talk about prime ministers question time when I meet you?  lol | |||
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"Stimulate my mind with conversation and you have me hooked! It's NOT shagathon.com ! no its a swingers site. as the couple above put "As a couple that's the last thing we would want" only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site." I think you and us are on the wrong thread to be honest . As I said on another thread - it's a swingers site where theoretically one meets up for NSA sexual fun . With like minded liberated people . But the more I read on the forums , the more I see people looking for so much more . And always singles . Before anyone berates us , we have met plenty of lovely single men and women who seem to get what swinging is about . | |||
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"Stimulate my mind with conversation and you have me hooked! It's NOT shagathon.com ! no its a swingers site. as the couple above put "As a couple that's the last thing we would want" only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site." So only singles get off on the mental side of sex? So with couples it's only the physical sensation? So no couples like voyeurism? Or nice underwear, or bukkake, or bondage, or... Sex IS mental. If you get your kicks from fucking strangers, that is YOUR mental stimulant. | |||
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"Stimulate my mind with conversation and you have me hooked! It's NOT shagathon.com ! no its a swingers site. as the couple above put "As a couple that's the last thing we would want" only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site." I disagree. I very much crave mental stimulation and I'm single. I don't wish to join a dating site. I want it all so to speak | |||
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"There are plenty of people on here who can stimulate the mind - and the body too. Sadly we are often overlooked for those of rippling abs and Apollos belt. Nope, not one person I have met is of that, as I am not mainly drawn to the looks, of course they have some importance, but as for the toned body build, I can see past that! When I refer to stimulate my mind, I mean you know what you are doing and can say the right things to me, make me want it etc... not go into in depth conversation about politics or other subjects
So we can't talk about prime ministers question time when I meet you? lol "When it's a social, any conversations go, however I'd rather not talk about Question Time as I have enough of that at uni! That is mind stimulation to some extent, but to me it's more mind grasping/connection or similar, as I can do this with general friends and don't want to fuck them. | |||
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"only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site." How on earth is wanting to have sex with interesting people the wrong thing??? If you can shag mindless jerks that's great. But a lot of us can't | |||
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"Stimulate my mind with conversation and you have me hooked! It's NOT shagathon.com ! no its a swingers site. as the couple above put "As a couple that's the last thing we would want" only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site. So only singles get off on the mental side of sex? So with couples it's only the physical sensation? So no couples like voyeurism? Or nice underwear, or bukkake, or bondage, or... Sex IS mental. If you get your kicks from fucking strangers, that is YOUR mental stimulant. "  | |||
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"only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site. How on earth is wanting to have sex with interesting people the wrong thing??? If you can shag mindless jerks that's great. But a lot of us can't "Why is it so often couples that have an issue with single folk on here who *may* potentially want more than just a shag? As a couple you are lucky to have found that perfect partner. It's not our fault we haven't yet, why should be denied the chance to look for one here should we wish to? Why is that so offensive to some people? I'm often called a hypocrite because I know that I couldn't be in a swinging relationship. I couldn't cope with seeing the man I love with another woman. However I've huge admiration for couples who do. Relationships so strong. I don't judge them for their choices. Yet there's judgement often made on mine. Why is there such a double standard? Difference keeps things interesting x | |||
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"only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site. How on earth is wanting to have sex with interesting people the wrong thing??? If you can shag mindless jerks that's great. But a lot of us can't "I don't remember anyone saying they could shag mindless jerks
All we are saying is that there seems to be a huge difference between what singles look for on a swinging site , and what couples look for .
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"Why is it so hard to find someone that can stimulate both your mind and body on here? I mean obviously there has to be physical attraction, but intellectual attraction keeps you hooked, well at least for me..." Stimulating the brain is not that difficult once you have got your penis in her throat and up into the sinuses. Just keep going and bingo .]  | |||
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"only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site. How on earth is wanting to have sex with interesting people the wrong thing??? If you can shag mindless jerks that's great. But a lot of us can't
Why is it so often couples that have an issue with single folk on here who *may* potentially want more than just a shag?
As a couple you are lucky to have found that perfect partner. It's not our fault we haven't yet, why should be denied the chance to look for one here should we wish to?
Why is that so offensive to some people?
I'm often called a hypocrite because I know that I couldn't be in a swinging relationship. I couldn't cope with seeing the man I love with another woman. However I've huge admiration for couples who do. Relationships so strong. I don't judge them for their choices. Yet there's judgement often made on mine.
Why is there such a double standard? Difference keeps things interesting x"Are you saying that you "may" want something more , but if it turned into a relationship you wouldn't want him to swing ? You see that's what I don't understand at all . You have an open enough mind to respect those who have a strong enough relationship to do just that , yet you don't think you could . As you say , difference is good. And I agree with that , but when you have a loving relationship , you don't seek the mental stimulation , flirting and so on from playmates . And that doesn't mean we seek mindless morons either . Just liberated , uninhibited sexual fun . over three quarters of our meets have been with single men , women and TVs and each and every one has been mind blowing in its own way . But with lust , passion , and freedom to explore ours and our playmates sexual expression . | |||
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"only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site. How on earth is wanting to have sex with interesting people the wrong thing??? If you can shag mindless jerks that's great. But a lot of us can't
Why is it so often couples that have an issue with single folk on here who *may* potentially want more than just a shag?
As a couple you are lucky to have found that perfect partner. It's not our fault we haven't yet, why should be denied the chance to look for one here should we wish to?
Why is that so offensive to some people?
I'm often called a hypocrite because I know that I couldn't be in a swinging relationship. I couldn't cope with seeing the man I love with another woman. However I've huge admiration for couples who do. Relationships so strong. I don't judge them for their choices. Yet there's judgement often made on mine.
Why is there such a double standard? Difference keeps things interesting x
Are you saying that you "may" want something more , but if it turned into a relationship you wouldn't want him to swing ?
You see that's what I don't understand at all .
You have an open enough mind to respect those who have a strong enough relationship to do just that , yet you don't think you could .
As you say , difference is good. And I agree with that , but when you have a loving relationship , you don't seek the mental stimulation , flirting and so on from playmates . And that doesn't mean we seek mindless morons either . Just liberated , uninhibited sexual fun . over three quarters of our meets have been with single men , women and TVs and each and every one has been mind blowing in its own way . But with lust , passion , and freedom to explore ours and our playmates sexual expression ."I agree you don't seek it because you already have it with your partner. For a lot of us singles we don't have that so we look for it in any encounters. Much like intimacy. As a couple you will have that with each other why would you do it with anyone else. For some though it's another need that this site serves a purpose to meet. It doesn't mean we are going to all fall in love because we want to spoon. Maybe just means we like to spoon. We are all here for different things. Id hope most of us are open minded to all possibilities and respectful of differences. Thanks for not taking my comments the wrong way. X | |||
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"only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site. How on earth is wanting to have sex with interesting people the wrong thing??? If you can shag mindless jerks that's great. But a lot of us can't
Why is it so often couples that have an issue with single folk on here who *may* potentially want more than just a shag?
As a couple you are lucky to have found that perfect partner. It's not our fault we haven't yet, why should be denied the chance to look for one here should we wish to?
Why is that so offensive to some people?
I'm often called a hypocrite because I know that I couldn't be in a swinging relationship. I couldn't cope with seeing the man I love with another woman. However I've huge admiration for couples who do. Relationships so strong. I don't judge them for their choices. Yet there's judgement often made on mine.
Why is there such a double standard? Difference keeps things interesting x
Are you saying that you "may" want something more , but if it turned into a relationship you wouldn't want him to swing ?
You see that's what I don't understand at all .
You have an open enough mind to respect those who have a strong enough relationship to do just that , yet you don't think you could .
As you say , difference is good. And I agree with that , but when you have a loving relationship , you don't seek the mental stimulation , flirting and so on from playmates . And that doesn't mean we seek mindless morons either . Just liberated , uninhibited sexual fun . over three quarters of our meets have been with single men , women and TVs and each and every one has been mind blowing in its own way . But with lust , passion , and freedom to explore ours and our playmates sexual expression .
I agree you don't seek it because you already have it with your partner.
For a lot of us singles we don't have that so we look for it in any encounters. Much like intimacy. As a couple you will have that with each other why would you do it with anyone else. For some though it's another need that this site serves a purpose to meet. It doesn't mean we are going to all fall in love because we want to spoon. Maybe just means we like to spoon.
We are all here for different things. Id hope most of us are open minded to all possibilities and respectful of differences. Thanks for not taking my comments the wrong way. X"I just realised if you swap the letters around in your name you get 'mink pist' | |||
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"Why is it so hard to find someone that can stimulate both your mind and body on here? I mean obviously there has to be physical attraction, but intellectual attraction keeps you hooked, well at least for me..." What do you mean by stimulate your mind? As people say this all the time but it's so vague. Specifically to you what does it mean. | |||
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"Why is it so hard to find someone that can stimulate both your mind and body on here? I mean obviously there has to be physical attraction, but intellectual attraction keeps you hooked, well at least for me... What do you mean by stimulate your mind? As people say this all the time but it's so vague. Specifically to you what does it mean." I think it involves electrodes and an Igor. | |||
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" All we are saying is that there seems to be a huge difference between what singles look for on a swinging site , and what couples look for . " No shit sherlock. So what you're saying is some singles are looking for what you've got and not what you want? And that surprises you why?  | |||
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"Stimulate my mind with conversation and you have me hooked! It's NOT shagathon.com ! no its a swingers site. as the couple above put "As a couple that's the last thing we would want" only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site. So only singles get off on the mental side of sex? So with couples it's only the physical sensation? So no couples like voyeurism? Or nice underwear, or bukkake, or bondage, or... Sex IS mental. If you get your kicks from fucking strangers, that is YOUR mental stimulant. " Sorry did you not read the words, suggesting and appear? This leaves room for the others. And the padantic. Understand I can only comment on wot is here. | |||
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" All we are saying is that there seems to be a huge difference between what singles look for on a swinging site , and what couples look for . No shit sherlock. So what you're saying is some singles are looking for what you've got and not what you want? And that surprises you why? "I certainly didn't say it surprises me . So there is no answer to your question . | |||
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"So an open question to all "What is mental stimulation to you" And is this purely a sexual thing or an intilectual thing" This isn't meant to sound bad,but for me,well educated and intelligent people attract me more.Sex for me starts in the mind,and a good conversation,not necessarily sexual,on a social meet turns me on massively.Someone who is articulate and confident will do it for me.Of course though,as a man,I have to find her attractive too
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"So an open question to all "What is mental stimulation to you" And is this purely a sexual thing or an intilectual thing This isn't meant to sound bad,but for me,well educated and intelligent people attract me more.Sex for me starts in the mind,and a good conversation,not necessarily sexual,on a social meet turns me on massively.Someone who is articulate and confident will do it for me.Of course though,as a man,I have to find her attractive too
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"50 shades and other books would not of done so well if women were not into mental stimulation. I agree ladies like to have sensual stimulating conversation, this leads on to the physical stuff. I believe great sex starts in the mind. There has to be some connection over looks even as a swinger. Me or my ex when we swung together struggled on some meets due to the mental connection and stimulation. Even as a single now I do like to have some mentle connection not just looks. I must admit men are more about looks, but I love to see well written profiles. Mental stimulation? " Clearly you have never reas 50 shades if you think it counts as mental stimulation. The level of it is around 11+ I'd say for language skills lol | |||
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"So an open question to all "What is mental stimulation to you" And is this purely a sexual thing or an intilectual thing This isn't meant to sound bad,but for me,well educated and intelligent people attract me more.Sex for me starts in the mind,and a good conversation,not necessarily sexual,on a social meet turns me on massively.Someone who is articulate and confident will do it for me.Of course though,as a man,I have to find her attractive too
"Well educated in what though it's still vague to be meaningless. For instance a educated physicist trained to think critically and logically. Or an educated priest trains to undertake and reiterate the contents of the bible and relate it to modern life. | |||
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"I became very aroused sitting opposite a man in a hotel lounge,talking about zombies and water purification. " reverse osmosis or charcoal and micrometer filter based? | |||
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 That sounds God-fuckin'-awful! Zombie fucking!! And that's what swinging's REALLY about?! Hmmm I'm not so sure about that.
If it was just about the physical aspect we'd soon get bo_ed. It would become like a chore. Like washing the pots or doing the ironing. The mind has to be stimulated for it to be fun, even with someone who's a relative stranger. | |||
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"I always thought the true joy of sex came through the seduction of the mind. That's where the true magic happens. That's the place where the sparks really fly. I worry that some people seem to see sex as just a penis going into a vagina. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out...you get the idea. Are some people really like dogs in heat, just mindlessly pounding away?! That sounds God-fuckin'-awful! Zombie fucking!! And that's what swinging's REALLY about?! Hmmm I'm not so sure about that.
If it was just about the physical aspect we'd soon get bo_ed. It would become like a chore. Like washing the pots or doing the ironing. The mind has to be stimulated for it to be fun, even with someone who's a relative stranger." | |||
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"So an open question to all "What is mental stimulation to you" And is this purely a sexual thing or an intilectual thing This isn't meant to sound bad,but for me,well educated and intelligent people attract me more.Sex for me starts in the mind,and a good conversation,not necessarily sexual,on a social meet turns me on massively.Someone who is articulate and confident will do it for me.Of course though,as a man,I have to find her attractive too
Well educated in what though it's still vague to be meaningless.
For instance a educated physicist trained to think critically and logically.
Or an educated priest trains to undertake and reiterate the contents of the bible and relate it to modern life.
"Well educated is perhaps the wrong phrase.Ok,let's say you've the most gorgeous woman sat across from you on a social meet,but she has nothing to say and you can't hold a conversation with her.It would put me off a bit. Being sexy is as much a state of mind as being aesthetically pleasing! | |||
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"I always thought the true joy of sex came through the seduction of the mind. That's where the true magic happens. That's the place where the sparks really fly. I worry that some people seem to see sex as just a penis going into a vagina. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out...you get the idea. Are some people really like dogs in heat, just mindlessly pounding away?! That sounds God-fuckin'-awful! Zombie fucking!! And that's what swinging's REALLY about?! Hmmm I'm not so sure about that.
If it was just about the physical aspect we'd soon get bo_ed. It would become like a chore. Like washing the pots or doing the ironing. The mind has to be stimulated for it to be fun, even with someone who's a relative stranger."So with your super dooper mental skills how is sex? Dick goes in, do a little crossword, dick goes out, have a little chat about bees, dick goes in, play alittle trivial pursuit? | |||
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"So an open question to all "What is mental stimulation to you" And is this purely a sexual thing or an intilectual thing This isn't meant to sound bad,but for me,well educated and intelligent people attract me more.Sex for me starts in the mind,and a good conversation,not necessarily sexual,on a social meet turns me on massively.Someone who is articulate and confident will do it for me.Of course though,as a man,I have to find her attractive too
Well educated in what though it's still vague to be meaningless.
For instance a educated physicist trained to think critically and logically.
Or an educated priest trains to undertake and reiterate the contents of the bible and relate it to modern life.
Well educated is perhaps the wrong phrase.Ok,let's say you've the most gorgeous woman sat across from you on a social meet,but she has nothing to say and you can't hold a conversation with her.It would put me off a bit.
Being sexy is as much a state of mind as being aesthetically pleasing!
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" If it was just about the physical aspect we'd soon get bo_ed. It would become like a chore. Like washing the pots or doing the ironing. " This sounds like how my ex wife approached sex...once every 2 months or so... | |||
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"Stimulate my mind with conversation and you have me hooked! It's NOT shagathon.com ! no its a swingers site. as the couple above put "As a couple that's the last thing we would want" only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site. I think you and us are on the wrong thread to be honest . As I said on another thread - it's a swingers site where theoretically one meets up for NSA sexual fun . With like minded liberated people . But the more I read on the forums , the more I see people looking for so much more . And always singles . Before anyone berates us , we have met plenty of lovely single men and women who seem to get what swinging is about ." Agree. There is no rule book. This site is whatever the members want it to be. | |||
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"I always thought the true joy of sex came through the seduction of the mind. That's where the true magic happens. That's the place where the sparks really fly. I worry that some people seem to see sex as just a penis going into a vagina. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out...you get the idea. Are some people really like dogs in heat, just mindlessly pounding away?! That sounds God-fuckin'-awful! Zombie fucking!! And that's what swinging's REALLY about?! Hmmm I'm not so sure about that.
If it was just about the physical aspect we'd soon get bo_ed. It would become like a chore. Like washing the pots or doing the ironing. The mind has to be stimulated for it to be fun, even with someone who's a relative stranger.
So with your super dooper mental skills how is sex?
Dick goes in, do a little crossword, dick goes out, have a little chat about bees, dick goes in, play alittle trivial pursuit?
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"Why is it so hard to find someone that can stimulate both your mind and body on here? I mean obviously there has to be physical attraction, but intellectual attraction keeps you hooked, well at least for me..." You haven't met me | |||
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"I always thought the true joy of sex came through the seduction of the mind. That's where the true magic happens. That's the place where the sparks really fly. I worry that some people seem to see sex as just a penis going into a vagina. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out. Dick goes in, dick goes out...you get the idea. Are some people really like dogs in heat, just mindlessly pounding away?! That sounds God-fuckin'-awful! Zombie fucking!! And that's what swinging's REALLY about?! Hmmm I'm not so sure about that.
If it was just about the physical aspect we'd soon get bo_ed. It would become like a chore. Like washing the pots or doing the ironing. The mind has to be stimulated for it to be fun, even with someone who's a relative stranger.
So with your super dooper mental skills how is sex?
Dick goes in, do a little crossword, dick goes out, have a little chat about bees, dick goes in, play alittle trivial pursuit?
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"So an open question to all "What is mental stimulation to you" And is this purely a sexual thing or an intilectual thing This isn't meant to sound bad,but for me,well educated and intelligent people attract me more.Sex for me starts in the mind,and a good conversation,not necessarily sexual,on a social meet turns me on massively.Someone who is articulate and confident will do it for me.Of course though,as a man,I have to find her attractive too
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"I like a mental as well as physical connection. " I agree, without both your not getting anywhere with me... | |||
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"Stimulate my mind with conversation and you have me hooked! It's NOT shagathon.com ! no its a swingers site. as the couple above put "As a couple that's the last thing we would want" only singles appear to want this. suggesting your on the wrong site." | |||
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"Arghh haven't been back to this thread a while... As I said physical attraction is important, that's usually the initial reason you decide to interact with that person. But by saying intellectual stimulation I mean seduction of the mine, that builds up chemistry and hopefully leads to amazing sex. There are different types of people in this world, with all very different preferences and triggers that turn them on. Not all singles and not all couples on fab will be the same. No one is on the wrong site because they desire to be turned on mentally. " But what is "seduction of the mind" everyone is very emphatic about this intellectual requirement but doesn't seem able to say what they mean by it. More and more kit just seems to be dressing up "get along well together" as some sort of intellectual feat that means having sex is some how better than other people. | |||
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"Why is it so hard to find someone that can stimulate both your mind and body on here? I mean obviously there has to be physical attraction, but intellectual attraction keeps you hooked, well at least for me..." it's not difficult you just havnt met me yet  hugs | |||
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" But what is "seduction of the mind" everyone is very emphatic about this intellectual requirement but doesn't seem able to say what they mean by it. " I think it could be classified as getting beyond the 'see it, fuck it' primal urges. Although realistically all seduction is cerebral. Otherwise it is merely satisfying physical needs. It is more like making them really want you. For myself I would class seduction as a process where you align your wants and desires with another, to sync your minds on the physical before it happens to increase pleasure for both...a meet would be crap if one person wanted hours of foreplay and tenderness while the other wanted 10 minutes of frenzied pumping then go.. And there is nothing to say the seduction cannot be a 2 way process. | |||
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" But what is "seduction of the mind" everyone is very emphatic about this intellectual requirement but doesn't seem able to say what they mean by it. I think it could be classified as getting beyond the 'see it, fuck it' primal urges. Although realistically all seduction is cerebral. Otherwise it is merely satisfying physical needs. It is more like making them really want you. For myself I would class seduction as a process where you align your wants and desires with another, to sync your minds on the physical before it happens to increase pleasure for both...a meet would be crap if one person wanted hours of foreplay and tenderness while the other wanted 10 minutes of frenzied pumping then go.. And there is nothing to say the seduction cannot be a 2 way process."
Yes totally. This is what I mean. I'm not talking cross world puzzles or osmosis, I'm referring to a connection where you both are on the same page about what what you want sexually. This, in my opinion, leads to better sex and a better sexual adventure for both. | |||
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"this started with someone saying "Why is it so hard to find someone that can stimulate both your mind and body on here? I mean obviously there has to be physical attraction, but intellectual attraction keeps you hooked" the response was "As a couple that's the last thing we would want" after all why would a couple what someone "hooked" on them?, as I say, only singles appear to want this. and at the risk of been banned again. try to read what's been answe_ed. not just the last post. " Well yeah obviously singles want something different. Couples have each other there so it's always going to be different to if it's two single people who don't know each other. I never get why people find this such a difficult concept to grasp. | |||
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"Good sex is more than a perfunctory biological act. When one is fully aroused, the pleasure of that act is heightened. "Mental stimulation" is what arouses me. Without the flirting of challenging discourse, and the anticipation of what's promised aurally as well as visually, sex becomes dull." Really ? After almost 5 years and countless meets , it hasn't become dull for us | |||
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I direct this to singles or anyone who believes this applies to them.
If you have nothing to say other than
"We don't look for that because we're a couple blah blah..."
Then this thread isn't for you.
Stick to original post please.
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"So an open question to all "What is mental stimulation to you" And is this purely a sexual thing or an intilectual thing This isn't meant to sound bad,but for me,well educated and intelligent people attract me more.Sex for me starts in the mind,and a good conversation,not necessarily sexual,on a social meet turns me on massively.Someone who is articulate and confident will do it for me.Of course though,as a man,I have to find her attractive too
Well educated in what though it's still vague to be meaningless.
For instance a educated physicist trained to think critically and logically.
Or an educated priest trains to undertake and reiterate the contents of the bible and relate it to modern life.
Well educated is perhaps the wrong phrase.Ok,let's say you've the most gorgeous woman sat across from you on a social meet,but she has nothing to say and you can't hold a conversation with her.It would put me off a bit.
Being sexy is as much a state of mind as being aesthetically pleasing!
"I agree with this. If I can't talk to you, be turned on by your attitude, thoughts and what turns you on I may as well fuck a sex doll. | |||
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"Then... As a single women, regardless if this is a swinging site and some believe I shouldn't be here
I direct this to singles or anyone who believes this applies to them.
If you have nothing to say other than
"We don't look for that because we're a couple blah blah..."
Then this thread isn't for you.
Stick to original post please.
Thanks"Your op asked a question , specifically why you couldn't find a person to stimulate you mind . Couples like us , merely pointed out that on a swingers site , not everyone is looking for that . Thereby answering your question . | |||
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"Then... As a single women, regardless if this is a swinging site and some believe I shouldn't be here
I direct this to singles or anyone who believes this applies to them.
If you have nothing to say other than
"We don't look for that because we're a couple blah blah..."
Then this thread isn't for you.
Stick to original post please.
Thanks
Your op asked a question , specifically why you couldn't find a person to stimulate you mind .
Couples like us , merely pointed out that on a swingers site , not everyone is looking for that .
Thereby answering your question .
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"Why is it so hard to find someone that can stimulate both your mind and body on here? I mean obviously there has to be physical attraction, but intellectual attraction keeps you hooked, well at least for me..." God knows... that's why I get so bo_ed with this majority of the time | |||
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" Stick to original post please. Thanks" You've been here long enough to know that's the one thing that is never guaranteed! | |||
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"Good sex is more than a perfunctory biological act. When one is fully aroused, the pleasure of that act is heightened. "Mental stimulation" is what arouses me. Without the flirting of challenging discourse, and the anticipation of what's promised aurally as well as visually, sex becomes dull. Really ? After almost 5 years and countless meets , it hasn't become dull for us "Isn't it great that we're all unique. | |||
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" But what is "seduction of the mind" everyone is very emphatic about this intellectual requirement but doesn't seem able to say what they mean by it. I think it could be classified as getting beyond the 'see it, fuck it' primal urges. Although realistically all seduction is cerebral. Otherwise it is merely satisfying physical needs. It is more like making them really want you. For myself I would class seduction as a process where you align your wants and desires with another, to sync your minds on the physical before it happens to increase pleasure for both...a meet would be crap if one person wanted hours of foreplay and tenderness while the other wanted 10 minutes of frenzied pumping then go.. And there is nothing to say the seduction cannot be a 2 way process." But that's not mental at all that's just prefer of sexuality activity. Length of foreplay is not intellectual or mental stimulation. | |||
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" But what is "seduction of the mind" everyone is very emphatic about this intellectual requirement but doesn't seem able to say what they mean by it. I think it could be classified as getting beyond the 'see it, fuck it' primal urges. Although realistically all seduction is cerebral. Otherwise it is merely satisfying physical needs. It is more like making them really want you. For myself I would class seduction as a process where you align your wants and desires with another, to sync your minds on the physical before it happens to increase pleasure for both...a meet would be crap if one person wanted hours of foreplay and tenderness while the other wanted 10 minutes of frenzied pumping then go.. And there is nothing to say the seduction cannot be a 2 way process.
Yes totally. This is what I mean. I'm not talking cross world puzzles or osmosis, I'm referring to a connection where you both are on the same page about what what you want sexually. This, in my opinion, leads to better sex and a better sexual adventure for both. "So basically not mental stimulation, not intellectual, not "sapiosexual" just "both like the same kind of sex". It's so much simpler when you just say that rather than trying to dress it up as something more | |||
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"Why is it so hard to find someone that can stimulate both your mind and body on here? I mean obviously there has to be physical attraction, but intellectual attraction keeps you hooked, well at least for me..." Sapiosexuality for me, intelligent mind gets my legs open! | |||
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" But what is "seduction of the mind" everyone is very emphatic about this intellectual requirement but doesn't seem able to say what they mean by it. I think it could be classified as getting beyond the 'see it, fuck it' primal urges. Although realistically all seduction is cerebral. Otherwise it is merely satisfying physical needs. It is more like making them really want you. For myself I would class seduction as a process where you align your wants and desires with another, to sync your minds on the physical before it happens to increase pleasure for both...a meet would be crap if one person wanted hours of foreplay and tenderness while the other wanted 10 minutes of frenzied pumping then go.. And there is nothing to say the seduction cannot be a 2 way process.
Yes totally. This is what I mean. I'm not talking cross world puzzles or osmosis, I'm referring to a connection where you both are on the same page about what what you want sexually. This, in my opinion, leads to better sex and a better sexual adventure for both.
So basically not mental stimulation, not intellectual, not "sapiosexual" just "both like the same kind of sex".
It's so much simpler when you just say that rather than trying to dress it up as something more"I don't think I could have an amazing mind blowing sexual experience with someone who was boring, that couldn't hold a decent conversation. I do find academic intelligence sexy too. Some of my best meets have been with people I have been able to meet socially and talk able deep conversations with even debate with on subjects. They stimulate a part of my mind that says, this person has more depth to them. They when you find you both share the same sexual wants and desires that is an amazing bonus. | |||
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" But what is "seduction of the mind" everyone is very emphatic about this intellectual requirement but doesn't seem able to say what they mean by it. I think it could be classified as getting beyond the 'see it, fuck it' primal urges. Although realistically all seduction is cerebral. Otherwise it is merely satisfying physical needs. It is more like making them really want you. For myself I would class seduction as a process where you align your wants and desires with another, to sync your minds on the physical before it happens to increase pleasure for both...a meet would be crap if one person wanted hours of foreplay and tenderness while the other wanted 10 minutes of frenzied pumping then go.. And there is nothing to say the seduction cannot be a 2 way process. But that's not mental at all that's just prefer of sexuality activity. Length of foreplay is not intellectual or mental stimulation." Not the physical act, but the fantasy of it is, which was my point. The seduction is making someone want to carry out those fantasies with you rather than someone else. | |||
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"The mind is tbe largest and most powerful erogenous zone . Seduce the mind and all pleasures are heightened. " The mind is the only thing that differentiates different types of nerve stimulation...otherwise sex could just be the same as being hit in the cock... | |||
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"I am a single female and I am not looking for a partner or a boyfriend or anything like that, the last one didn't work out so well. I am inc_edibly picky about who I meet, and also inc_edibly busy with my life, so I don't have the time to make these deep emotional connections. I get that swinging was originally about couples sharing partners but the world has evolved since then and sex is fun, and its your body so your rules. I'm probably more likely to meet someone I'm long term compatibile with on here because I like the open minded mentality that comes with swinging, but I'm hardly looking for that now. But even with my friends I'm not fucking, a mental connection is essential. I'm a witty and intelligent person and I expect the same from people I offer my time to. Why would I want to share my intimate thoughts and feelings and desires with someone if I thought they weren't going to 'get' them, or me? " | |||
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