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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi folks,

It's a random one but I don't really know where else to discuss it so with a bunch of strangers seems to make sense.

My marriage ended beginning of last year and I've recently found myself looking at my engagement ring and wondering if I should just sell it.

It holds real sentimental value as I still love and respect my ex dearly and he is a close friend but I feel like by holding on to it I'm clinging onto a piece of my past that is just that, the past

How have other people dealt with it? Is this attachment that I have to it normal? What would you do?

Thanks in advance xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi folks,

It's a random one but I don't really know where else to discuss it so with a bunch of strangers seems to make sense.

My marriage ended beginning of last year and I've recently found myself looking at my engagement ring and wondering if I should just sell it.

It holds real sentimental value as I still love and respect my ex dearly and he is a close friend but I feel like by holding on to it I'm clinging onto a piece of my past that is just that, the past

How have other people dealt with it? Is this attachment that I have to it normal? What would you do?

Thanks in advance xx"

Give it back if it was bought by him?

Explain if you are friends x

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By *eanutButterJellyTimeCouple
over a year ago

the middle of the world

I wore mine on my other hand until I was ready to take it off. It now lives in a box upstairs somewhere (not sure exactly where)

You probably won't get anything like its true value if you sell it, so I would suggest only selling it for "closure" rather than for the cash

Lynn xx

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Do you have children together? Pass it onto them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi folks,

It's a random one but I don't really know where else to discuss it so with a bunch of strangers seems to make sense.

My marriage ended beginning of last year and I've recently found myself looking at my engagement ring and wondering if I should just sell it.

It holds real sentimental value as I still love and respect my ex dearly and he is a close friend but I feel like by holding on to it I'm clinging onto a piece of my past that is just that, the past

How have other people dealt with it? Is this attachment that I have to it normal? What would you do?

Thanks in advance xx"

Why don't you sell it and give him half the money back?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Mine's in my box of 'stuff to go on eBay'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My engagement,wedding and eternity rings all live in a box in a drawer. Im in the middle of my divoece, I dont want to get rid of them as they were a part of my life for so long so I guess they will stay there for a long time. I do know people who have sold theirs, it didn't make them feel any better though but it really is such an individual decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't sell it. Just because something didn't work out doesn't mean it should be forgotten.

Just my preference but I'd wear it on the other hand xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister got hers melted down and made into a different ring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't do anything with it until you feel more certain.

Unless it causes you pain to keep hold of it (it doesn't sound like it, from what you've said)

I would just keep it in its box somewhere until you know you don't want it any more.

It would be such a shame if you got rid of it then regretted your decision.

Don't push yourself if you're not ready. Xxx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Hi folks,

It's a random one but I don't really know where else to discuss it so with a bunch of strangers seems to make sense.

My marriage ended beginning of last year and I've recently found myself looking at my engagement ring and wondering if I should just sell it.

It holds real sentimental value as I still love and respect my ex dearly and he is a close friend but I feel like by holding on to it I'm clinging onto a piece of my past that is just that, the past

How have other people dealt with it? Is this attachment that I have to it normal? What would you do?

Thanks in advance xx"

If he paid for it , give it back.

Engagement rings , however outmoded an idea, are not exactly gifts.

If he says 'keep it' then sell it.

The same goes for your wedding ring.

Hope all goes well for both of you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Mrs is always threatening me saying she'll get rid of them after a argument! My reply is always don't take them to cash converters as they'll give you a crap price

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I wouldn't do anything with it until you feel more certain.

Unless it causes you pain to keep hold of it (it doesn't sound like it, from what you've said)

I would just keep it in its box somewhere until you know you don't want it any more.

It would be such a shame if you got rid of it then regretted your decision.

Don't push yourself if you're not ready. Xxx"

Sound advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi folks,

It's a random one but I don't really know where else to discuss it so with a bunch of strangers seems to make sense.

My marriage ended beginning of last year and I've recently found myself looking at my engagement ring and wondering if I should just sell it.

It holds real sentimental value as I still love and respect my ex dearly and he is a close friend but I feel like by holding on to it I'm clinging onto a piece of my past that is just that, the past

How have other people dealt with it? Is this attachment that I have to it normal? What would you do?

Thanks in advance xx

Give it back if it was bought by him?

Explain if you are friends x"

That's what should be done,if he paid for it and gave it to you as an engagement ring,it should be given back.

You never know,he may tell you to keep it,but at least give him the option.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank-you all, I actually bought it but he picked it for me (strange one I know) it's not about the money though. Its just lingering that it's there.

Maybe I should just wear it on the other hand as a way of dealing with it.

We didn't have children together so wouldn't be able to pass it to them x

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"My sister got hers melted down and made into a different ring. "

A relation of mine got theirs melted down and made into a cross which I think one of the kids got and still wears.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BAE

My ex fiancee left hers behind 3.5 yr's ago. It is still in a box upstairs and I look at it occasionally to warn me off "love".

I have a pic of us together in my wallet for the same thing. People are puzzled when they ask.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Gave mine to my daughter.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

"Hi folks,

It's a random one but I don't really know where else to discuss it so with a bunch of strangers seems to make sense.

My marriage ended beginning of last year and I've recently found myself looking at my engagement ring and wondering if I should just sell it.

It holds real sentimental value as I still love and respect my ex dearly and he is a close friend but I feel like by holding on to it I'm clinging onto a piece of my past that is just that, the past

How have other people dealt with it? Is this attachment that I have to it normal? What would you do?

Thanks in advance xx"

Your past will always be a part of you, its one of the few we can't change. Getting rid of the ring might just give you a short term closure but if you are still close and still friends, the past will always be there.

I certainly wouldn't consider it in the sense of how much it is worth as a cash value, or who bought it etc - its the sentiment that counts.

Try and see it as a nice piece of jewellery and wear it on the other hand. Keep it until you meet someone new, then you may find it easier to make a decision, one that you might not regret so easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep meaning to throw mine into the fires of Mt Doom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine's in a box - love the ring too much to sell it.

After all I have amazing taste in jewellery

Sara

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By *etitesaraTV/TS
over a year ago

rochdale

"I keep meaning to throw mine into the fires of Mt Doom. "

Threw mine (well, the ex's) into a moorland tarn so no one else had to suffer it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took mine off and left in a drawer until i decided what to do and then had a burglary and it was stolen so decision was made for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine brought back very bad memories so I sold it. I asked my daughters first if they wanted them as I had an eternity ring too - they didn't. So I gave them the cash from the sale.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep meaning to throw mine into the fires of Mt Doom. "

This is brilliant!

No one can tell you what to do with it. Everyone feels differently about their ex and their divorce.

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank-you everyone, Professor XXX your post and profile gave me a giggle too x

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Gave mine to my daughter."

Me too, for her 18th.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wedding ring and my engagement are hanging where I can see them. For me personally it reminds me that the decisions I have made are the right ones for me and moving forward. Xx

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Raffle it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is still in a box in my room. I'd totally forgotten about it until seeing this thread. I also have a wedding dress to sell. I suppose I should do something about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you sell it privately you'll get very little for it.

I was weighing some silver in last week and just out of curiosity asked how much we would get for Mrsdpts ring.

A platinum set 0.50 carat, E grade diamond ring. Offered £300 for it.

Melt it down into something else.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Everything I have I've kept in the loft for my boys to do what they want with. Jewellery, wedding dress, letters, cards, all boxed up. I want them to see that we had 20 happy years & that marriage was important to me. Although ask me again if I ever move - I may bin the lot!!!

My wedding ring means far more to me than just the marriage though. My very close friend worked in the jewellers we bought it from. It was the last piece of jewellery I bought from her as she died 5 years ago.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Still got my wedding ring in a drawer somewhere. Not thought about it in a while...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since you bought it, I like the idea of melting it down into something else, maybe a pendant. That way it still exists as a reminder of the good things but at the same time it's something new and different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sold my engagement ring, and other jewellery he bought me, and bought a 3 stone diamond pendant.

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