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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they get jealous lol

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By *nceinawhileCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

Because women are more chatty well that's how it is with us anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insecure ???? i havnt had this problem so im guessing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just seems odd have met three couples and had a good laugh with two of the guys during play the other one was a little awkward but they were newbies so that's acceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuz the guys don't really wanna be here, we are forced into it

Mick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits"

They may just not like you and just taking a hit for the team .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do most of the fun chatting and Marc does the stuff I don't want to do.

Also, we have an agreement that if we are ever in a situation with a couple or single guy where I don't want to take it any further, that he will deal with it so I am safe and comfortable.

So Marc might come off as meaner than me, but it's usually because I don't want to handle the stuff that isn't fun.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do most of the fun chatting and Marc does the stuff I don't want to do.

Also, we have an agreement that if we are ever in a situation with a couple or single guy where I don't want to take it any further, that he will deal with it so I am safe and comfortable.

So Marc might come off as meaner than me, but it's usually because I don't want to handle the stuff that isn't fun.

-Courtney"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I chatted at length with a couple last week and the posts were polar opposites she was fun and up for a meet he was suicidal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits"

Guilty as charged! If a guy messages us and i, either don't like the way he comes across, or think we can do better I'll be mainly horrible to him until he gets the idea. My mrs will happily chat to anyone just to pass the time, but I'm a jealous mother fucker when it comes to strangers wanting to have sex with my wife 99% need not apply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll chat to anyone ,he will but if the bloke is being a aggressive or trying to cut him out he'll get rude or just block

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just out of curiosity do women get the same treatment from couples i.e. friendly guys mardy women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are both as chatty as each other - to each other and with others - rename us chatterboxes maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its because most single men chatting are really only into getting into there wifes pants and 10 a penny here so some dont care.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

I always think the message gets the reply it deserves. As others have said, you're trying to get in the lady's pants so couples do scrutinize every message (IMO)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually no i would say i was more the anti social one and could be quite harsh sometimes with our inbox messages. Hubby was much more soft and into chatting but ive changed his ways haha and now he uses the block button just as much as me.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I usually just say wanker and use the block button just seems silly when you spend two or three days having a laugh and a joke then the black cloud comes along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually just say wanker and use the block button just seems silly when you spend two or three days having a laugh and a joke then the black cloud comes along

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Yes the black cloud that keeps most well away from the wife .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually just say wanker and use the block button just seems silly when you spend two or three days having a laugh and a joke then the black cloud comes along

Yes the black cloud that keeps most well away from the wife . "

At least you're honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually just say wanker and use the block button just seems silly when you spend two or three days having a laugh and a joke then the black cloud comes along

"

Oh dear,

And you had to ask why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually just say wanker and use the block button just seems silly when you spend two or three days having a laugh and a joke then the black cloud comes along

Yes the black cloud that keeps most well away from the wife .

At least you're honest "
I the fem part here and i know how he feel at times with lots of men mailing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits

Guilty as charged! If a guy messages us and i, either don't like the way he comes across, or think we can do better I'll be mainly horrible to him until he gets the idea. My mrs will happily chat to anyone just to pass the time, but I'm a jealous mother fucker when it comes to strangers wanting to have sex with my wife 99% need not apply. "

Now I kind of agree with this, not the jealous bit but I set very high standards for single men who I will let sleep with my wife, and some men message I just think really? Your not having sex with my wife, where has Mrs l will chat to anyone, and then do the same has Courtney and tell me to get rid of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just puts me off couples which is a shame as three out of four have been good and the one that wasn't had aged ten years and put on quite a lot of weight since the pics they sent needless to say I wasn't playing that night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just puts me off couples which is a shame as three out of four have been good and the one that wasn't had aged ten years and put on quite a lot of weight since the pics they sent needless to say I wasn't playing that night"

But I think what everyone is saying, in different ways, is that if the male half is being rude to you, chances are the couple doesn't want to meet you anyway.

Just block and move on.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just puts me off couples which is a shame as three out of four have been good and the one that wasn't had aged ten years and put on quite a lot of weight since the pics they sent needless to say I wasn't playing that night"

Oh, so actually it was you getting mardy then, not the other guy. And what does this have to do with you Op anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Your Op'

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits"

In our case 9 out of 10 guys that message us are straight (according to their profile). We very clearly state that if your profile says straight we're not interested. So, when we get a straight guy message us it's highly unlikely I will want to be too friendly. Then comes the "oh but I am bi but I have to be discrete because women won't meet me/I have friends on here/people will recognise me from work/or some other excuse". Sadly, we don't have the option to block straight men from contacting us. All in all, I'd say I'm pretty justified in replying however I see fit given they can't be bothered to, or just ignore what we have on our profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think you will find its still on topic if you read it again crewe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

God plan Courtney

lets hope there isn't a limit to the block list as I don't suffer fools gladly

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits"

I've not had this. Both have been polite, interested and enthusiastic. Just tricky getting 3 adults together at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest think that annoys us and makes me be rude is messaging Mrs l like she is a single, as a single man you have to remember that although you may not be having sex with the man but he has to like you too for there to be a meet, so if you message a couple like a single fem or assume its just her talking that would get a lot of mens backs up and they would be rude, because your been rude

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The biggest think that annoys us and makes me be rude is messaging Mrs l like she is a single, as a single man you have to remember that although you may not be having sex with the man but he has to like you too for there to be a meet, so if you message a couple like a single fem or assume its just her talking that would get a lot of mens backs up and they would be rude, because your been rude"

I always treat couples as couples and do not contact people don't fit my preference preferred it isn't that

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"The biggest think that annoys us and makes me be rude is messaging Mrs l like she is a single, as a single man you have to remember that although you may not be having sex with the man but he has to like you too for there to be a meet, so if you message a couple like a single fem or assume its just her talking that would get a lot of mens backs up and they would be rude, because your been rude

I always treat couples as couples and do not contact people don't fit my preference preferred it isn't that "

sometimes (not all the time) it is easier to get 3 or more singles together that like each other..its called mutiny

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm generally friendly to everyone. ... Unless you're a plonker

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm generally friendly to everyone. ... Unless you're a plonker

Cal"

I'm generally horrible to everyone, unless they're a plonker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits

Guilty as charged! If a guy messages us and i, either don't like the way he comes across, or think we can do better I'll be mainly horrible to him until he gets the idea. My mrs will happily chat to anyone just to pass the time, but I'm a jealous mother fucker when it comes to strangers wanting to have sex with my wife 99% need not apply. "
This deffo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest think that annoys us and makes me be rude is messaging Mrs l like she is a single, as a single man you have to remember that although you may not be having sex with the man but he has to like you too for there to be a meet, so if you message a couple like a single fem or assume its just her talking that would get a lot of mens backs up and they would be rude, because your been rude"

Yeah instant turn off for us. Consider ourselves happy go lucky apart from this.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Because quite often the guy completely ignores the fact that an MF couple has a Male as well as a Female in the couple. And while he is happy to chat with me he either ignores any messages from my husband or answers with a lol, which everyone knows is shorthand for I don't really care but its an answer.

The same goes the other way round, if the Fem of the couple is happy to chat with hubby but ignores me then we are never gonna meet.

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By *exy hot wife 84Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits

In our case 9 out of 10 guys that message us are straight (according to their profile). We very clearly state that if your profile says straight we're not interested. So, when we get a straight guy message us it's highly unlikely I will want to be too friendly. Then comes the "oh but I am bi but I have to be discrete because women won't meet me/I have friends on here/people will recognise me from work/or some other excuse". Sadly, we don't have the option to block straight men from contacting us. All in all, I'd say I'm pretty justified in replying however I see fit given they can't be bothered to, or just ignore what we have on our profile."

wow! So its not just us this happens to. Also some lie about where there from. Its all a big turn off for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest think that annoys us and makes me be rude is messaging Mrs l like she is a single, as a single man you have to remember that although you may not be having sex with the man but he has to like you too for there to be a meet, so if you message a couple like a single fem or assume its just her talking that would get a lot of mens backs up and they would be rude, because your been rude

I always treat couples as couples and do not contact people don't fit my preference preferred it isn't that

sometimes (not all the time) it is easier to get 3 or more singles together that like each other..its called mutiny "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think you will find its still on topic if you read it again crewe"

I have and it isn't . What do out of date pics have to do with the male of couples getting mardy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits"

Did you ask him how big hes moobs are

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Read the first line again it's putting me off couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits"

Its the other way around with us

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

And us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest think that annoys us and makes me be rude is messaging Mrs l like she is a single, as a single man you have to remember that although you may not be having sex with the man but he has to like you too for there to be a meet, so if you message a couple like a single fem or assume its just her talking that would get a lot of mens backs up and they would be rude, because your been rude"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest think that annoys us and makes me be rude is messaging Mrs l like she is a single, as a single man you have to remember that although you may not be having sex with the man but he has to like you too for there to be a meet, so if you message a couple like a single fem or assume its just her talking that would get a lot of mens backs up and they would be rude, because your been rude "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often find the male half is super friendly until his wife check out my profile and says a very clear 'No.'

Ladies have always been very anti, all my life. It's upsetting, as all I've ever wanted is to fit in and be liked. I've been told I have a dislikable face and 'evil eyes'. Literally a hundred times.

Maybe this is why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits"

Totally the opposite with us. I can scare off couples when I chat lol x

Cali

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

I check all the messages first and am very matter of fact with the replies. The ones that Em then reply to are a completely different tone as you would expect from a woman. Maybe it's just our make up

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits

In our case 9 out of 10 guys that message us are straight (according to their profile). We very clearly state that if your profile says straight we're not interested. So, when we get a straight guy message us it's highly unlikely I will want to be too friendly. Then comes the "oh but I am bi but I have to be discrete because women won't meet me/I have friends on here/people will recognise me from work/or some other excuse". Sadly, we don't have the option to block straight men from contacting us. All in all, I'd say I'm pretty justified in replying however I see fit given they can't be bothered to, or just ignore what we have on our profile.

wow! So its not just us this happens to. Also some lie about where there from. Its all a big turn off for us."

Nope, not sure what they think they will achieve, they have no chance of playing with F so it's just a waste of time. Not to mention that the women who don't want to meet bi men are being duped. If you can't be open, don't contact us. We don't go messaging straight guys hoping to coax them to play bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits"

Because men get sick of cock pics or messages directed to the woman only.

You wouldn't believe the shit messages couples get.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits

Because men get sick of cock pics or messages directed to the woman only.

You wouldn't believe the shit messages couples get."
very well said

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Not true! A fun guy here, never mardy, does most of the fab stuffs and we get on just dandy on our meets, always a blast with those we meet. [typing and smiling whilst moon walking for emphasis].

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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

T (f) is less comfortable with online chat but in all fairness I feel for the guys and dislike being rude to them. Messages from straight guys are irritating when we state no straight guys. But I do know how they feel.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"I do most of the fun chatting and Marc does the stuff I don't want to do.

Also, we have an agreement that if we are ever in a situation with a couple or single guy where I don't want to take it any further, that he will deal with it so I am safe and comfortable.

So Marc might come off as meaner than me, but it's usually because I don't want to handle the stuff that isn't fun.

-Courtney"

Same as us Although LB does chat if messages are directed at both or just him and they're entertaining enough. He does tend to be a bit sarcastic or facetious if the messages are crap or stupid. His favourite game atm is replying with the same amount of words as the messages contain...Some people think he's a bit nuts lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol i do that to! must be a man thing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good to see some of the responses I can tell you most of the couples on here are ok

it appears that a small percentage are not and I apologise if I came across as a moaning git the other day I assure you I am far from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits

Because men get sick of cock pics or messages directed to the woman only.

You wouldn't believe the shit messages couples get."

I get messages from couples but they rarely put which of them is sending the message. It works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any of you guys or couples are more than welcome to talk to me... I'm a dude but wven so, it's nice to be sociable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When single guys message us they expect or want it to be me talking and quite often when Jason chats back he gets ignored or even on one occasion was asked if he could pass a message on to me.

Jasmine

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I often find the male half is super friendly until his wife check out my profile and says a very clear 'No.'

Ladies have always been very anti, all my life. It's upsetting, as all I've ever wanted is to fit in and be liked. I've been told I have a dislikable face and 'evil eyes'. Literally a hundred times.

Maybe this is why? "

I suspect the ladies in question probably felt inadequate

Jealousy is a horrible thing.

If it's any consolation I get told I look unfriendly / evil if I'm not smiling... Problem is if you go around grinning all the time you look like a nutter. Can't win.

Nita X

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe


"Why is it that when men chat to couples the women appear friendly and chatty yet the guys come across as right mardy gits"

Not all guys are mardy gits lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here it tends to be me messaging and on the forums and Clarence has a look with me....in person we are both quite chatty (when he gets a word in edge ways apparently lol!)

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