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"Being hated on tends to make people like you more, i know that. Some people are naturally protective of others and will stick up for them (hence all the 'white knight' comments sometimes). Even if you 'hate' yourself loads of people will feel compelled to boost your confidence to make you feel better, feeling sorry for yourself is a well known technique that manipulators use to get people to like them btw. This is also why if i don't like someone i won't say anything coz other people will like them for that reason alone, and i don't want that. How did people approach you when you put that status? This will give you a clue as to what is going on more than anything. Were they interested in gossip? Like wanted to know who said that about you and why. Or maybe they know assholes too and felt a need to get in touch to talk about them, this would confirm to themselves that other people are indeed knobs and create a bond between you both. Could be they also believed what you said as well obviously, depends what they said really and why they contacted you in the first place. " any one who user's "haters" or "hate on me" is always using it simply because esomone disagreed with the obviously wrong and stupid thing they've said | |||
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"Being hated on tends to make people like you more, i know that. Some people are naturally protective of others and will stick up for them (hence all the 'white knight' comments sometimes). Even if you 'hate' yourself loads of people will feel compelled to boost your confidence to make you feel better, feeling sorry for yourself is a well known technique that manipulators use to get people to like them btw. This is also why if i don't like someone i won't say anything coz other people will like them for that reason alone, and i don't want that. How did people approach you when you put that status? This will give you a clue as to what is going on more than anything. Were they interested in gossip? Like wanted to know who said that about you and why. Or maybe they know assholes too and felt a need to get in touch to talk about them, this would confirm to themselves that other people are indeed knobs and create a bond between you both. Could be they also believed what you said as well obviously, depends what they said really and why they contacted you in the first place. any one who user's "haters" or "hate on me" is always using it simply because esomone disagreed with the obviously wrong and stupid thing they've said" OP used the word, dunno why you quoted me? | |||
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"As a bit of a joke I put on my status last week 'Don't hate me just because I'm intelligent, witty and stunningly handsome' I was amazed to find that the amount of traffic going into my inbox increased dramatically. When I replied to some of the messages asking for a photo pic some did go quiet but, even more amazingly, many said that I was very handsome and I'm still chatting with them. So my questions are 'Is a persons perception of handsomeness dictated more by what they believe there going to see rather than by what they do actually see? Can you make some people think you're handsome just by telling them you're handsome?' " Oh god yes, to a certain extend though, but yes using psychologic process in order to make people think or behave a certain way, always worked and always will do | |||
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"As a bit of a joke I put on my status last week 'Don't hate me just because I'm intelligent, witty and stunningly handsome' I was amazed to find that the amount of traffic going into my inbox increased dramatically. When I replied to some of the messages asking for a photo pic some did go quiet but, even more amazingly, many said that I was very handsome and I'm still chatting with them. So my questions are 'Is a persons perception of handsomeness dictated more by what they believe there going to see rather than by what they do actually see? Can you make some people think you're handsome just by telling them you're handsome?' " Let the experiment commence! | |||
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"So are you now saying you think you're not handsome and you fooled them by your status update??? If it worked don't knock it!" How handsome I actually think I am really depends on how I feel when I first look at myself in the mirror first thing in the morning. Overall, most days, I'd describe myself as "not unattractive" but really it's for others to finally decided for themselves. I have a general theory that most people are better looking than they believe themselves to be (with some notable exceptions) so if I apply that theory to myself I think it leaves me in a pretty good place. | |||
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"Maybe it made you come across as self confident? Confidence is sexy in women maybe the same for women." This is my take on it too - confidence is attractive. I lack it | |||
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"Maybe it made you come across as self confident? Confidence is sexy in women maybe the same for women. This is my take on it too - confidence is attractive. I lack it " Really? You don't come across as unconfident. I'm quite confident but I wouldn't consider myself handsome - some ladies have thought so though. | |||
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"Maybe it made you come across as self confident? Confidence is sexy in women maybe the same for women. This is my take on it too - confidence is attractive. I lack it " Now isn't that strange, I always thought you where confident, perhaps it's because I enjoy reading your replies on posts. Humour goes a long way in the attraction stakes too x | |||
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"Maybe it made you come across as self confident? Confidence is sexy in women maybe the same for women. This is my take on it too - confidence is attractive. I lack it Really? You don't come across as unconfident. I'm quite confident but I wouldn't consider myself handsome - some ladies have thought so though. " Lol you are another poster that I enjoy reading their replies and posts. Another humourous man xx | |||
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"Maybe it made you come across as self confident? Confidence is sexy in women maybe the same for women. This is my take on it too - confidence is attractive. I lack it Really? You don't come across as unconfident. I'm quite confident but I wouldn't consider myself handsome - some ladies have thought so though. " Mr you need to change your mirrors your mmmm | |||
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"Must admit I went straight to the pictures when he said stunningly handsome as I was curious but what a suprise NO PIcs Had to laugh Xx" same here haha x | |||
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"Maybe it made you come across as self confident? Confidence is sexy in women maybe the same for women. This is my take on it too - confidence is attractive. I lack it Really? You don't come across as unconfident. I'm quite confident but I wouldn't consider myself handsome - some ladies have thought so though. Lol you are another poster that I enjoy reading their replies and posts. Another humourous man xx" It's funny you should say that because I've always thought when I've read posts by both Guilty and Steve that I wished I came across as witty and confident as they do. Funny old world. | |||
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"Must admit I went straight to the pictures when he said stunningly handsome as I was curious but what a suprise NO PIcs Had to laugh Xx same here haha x" Hey, got to keep the illusion going for as long as possible you know. Although next time I think I might go for 'fabulously wealthy' instead of 'stunningly handsome'. That's far easier to fake | |||
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"Must admit I went straight to the pictures when he said stunningly handsome as I was curious but what a suprise NO PIcs Had to laugh Xx same here haha x Hey, got to keep the illusion going for as long as possible you know. Although next time I think I might go for 'fabulously wealthy' instead of 'stunningly handsome'. That's far easier to fake " hmmm i do like your way of thinking | |||
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"Maybe it made you come across as self confident? Confidence is sexy in women maybe the same for women. This is my take on it too - confidence is attractive. I lack it Really? You don't come across as unconfident. I'm quite confident but I wouldn't consider myself handsome - some ladies have thought so though. Lol you are another poster that I enjoy reading their replies and posts. Another humourous man xx It's funny you should say that because I've always thought when I've read posts by both Guilty and Steve that I wished I came across as witty and confident as they do. Funny old world. " That's very kind.. I feel the same about your posts... Lickety and Sexy Bum are two other posters whose articulation a regularly pique my interest. | |||
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"As a bit of a joke I put on my status last week 'Don't hate me just because I'm intelligent, witty and stunningly handsome' I was amazed to find that the amount of traffic going into my inbox increased dramatically. When I replied to some of the messages asking for a photo pic some did go quiet but, even more amazingly, many said that I was very handsome and I'm still chatting with them. So my questions are 'Is a persons perception of handsomeness dictated more by what they believe there going to see rather than by what they do actually see? Can you make some people think you're handsome just by telling them you're handsome?' " Beauty is not looks.. It runs skin deep always. I dont go for anyone that says they are. Ego booster comes to mind. | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 05/11/15 21:41:13] I saw it " You're not the only one | |||
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"If it works, well done, OP! Personally, I'd find it offputting. I have zero self-esteem, so I'm drawn to humility. (Don't laugh. I'm very shy. Fab is an outlet for me!) Someone saying they're stunningly handsome would make me think they were arrogant or egotistical. Also, don't you find that very good looking people have never had to cultivate a personality? (Runs and hides....)" I'm not sure I'd agree with you totally, although sometimes very attractive people can be a little sallow that's not always the case. To prove my point I would use you as a perfect example of someone who is both stunningly gorgeous and, by being willing to comment quite openly on this thread, definitely has a personality. | |||
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"As a bit of a joke I put on my status last week 'Don't hate me just because I'm intelligent, witty and stunningly handsome' I was amazed to find that the amount of traffic going into my inbox increased dramatically. When I replied to some of the messages asking for a photo pic some did go quiet but, even more amazingly, many said that I was very handsome and I'm still chatting with them. So my questions are 'Is a persons perception of handsomeness dictated more by what they believe there going to see rather than by what they do actually see? Can you make some people think you're handsome just by telling them you're handsome?' " no,,well not on the internet. face to face in the real world with alcohol,,,,, maybe | |||
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"If it works, don't knock it, just bask in the glory " yea n ive got tits like dolly parton | |||
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"Sleeping Beauty vs Clash of the Titan. Mirror mirror on the wall, who's the handsomest of them all.. Unleash the Kraken...!!" Stop it, your making me blush | |||
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"I do agree that confidence makes us look better to other people. The OP is handsome though " Thanks xxx | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 05/11/15 21:41:13] I saw it You're not the only one " He appears to be correct | |||
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"As a bit of a joke I put on my status last week 'Don't hate me just because I'm intelligent, witty and stunningly handsome' I was amazed to find that the amount of traffic going into my inbox increased dramatically. When I replied to some of the messages asking for a photo pic some did go quiet but, even more amazingly, many said that I was very handsome and I'm still chatting with them. So my questions are 'Is a persons perception of handsomeness dictated more by what they believe there going to see rather than by what they do actually see? Can you make some people think you're handsome just by telling them you're handsome?' " nope the reality is once they see you they either like you or don't but the degree to which they find you handsome varies so much ,it amazes me | |||
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"If it works, don't knock it, just bask in the glory yea n ive got tits like dolly parton " Other may think that's a joke but I just viewed the profile and there not far of actually. | |||
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"hey you maybe the most handsome guy on the planet,,but no face pic" omg,,,,you are aint ya,,,oh my god I wanna sit on that yummy handsome face n grind | |||
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"Can you make some people think you're handsome just by telling them you're handsome?' " Yes, if you're Derren Brown. | |||
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"If it works, don't knock it, just bask in the glory yea n ive got tits like dolly parton Other may think that's a joke but I just viewed the profile and there not far of actually. " nah 36 c,,is hardly dolly size | |||
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"If it works, well done, OP! Personally, I'd find it offputting. I have zero self-esteem, so I'm drawn to humility. (Don't laugh. I'm very shy. Fab is an outlet for me!) Someone saying they're stunningly handsome would make me think they were arrogant or egotistical. Also, don't you find that very good looking people have never had to cultivate a personality? (Runs and hides....) I'm not sure I'd agree with you totally, although sometimes very attractive people can be a little sallow that's not always the case. To prove my point I would use you as a perfect example of someone who is both stunningly gorgeous and, by being willing to comment quite openly on this thread, definitely has a personality. " Bless you. I'm not stunningly gorgeous, though. All I am is good with make-up and the Queen of the Flattering Selfie! Very ordinary, in real life, sadly. | |||
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"Well I have zero confidence in my looks, I still don't believe anyone when they tell me I'm gorgeous (even writing that didn't feel right!), once I have felt good about my looks but that was only with good lighting and a fliter!!! I still go back to how I normally feel! " I think you look quite sassy, with a little naughty thrown in for good measure. | |||
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"If it works, well done, OP! Personally, I'd find it offputting. I have zero self-esteem, so I'm drawn to humility. (Don't laugh. I'm very shy. Fab is an outlet for me!) Someone saying they're stunningly handsome would make me think they were arrogant or egotistical. Also, don't you find that very good looking people have never had to cultivate a personality? (Runs and hides....)" yes I agree with this a lot of really good looking women have terrible personalities | |||
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"Well I have zero confidence in my looks, I still don't believe anyone when they tell me I'm gorgeous (even writing that didn't feel right!), once I have felt good about my looks but that was only with good lighting and a fliter!!! I still go back to how I normally feel! I think you look quite sassy, with a little naughty thrown in for good measure. " Never been called sassy before I quite like that! | |||
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"If it works, well done, OP! Personally, I'd find it offputting. I have zero self-esteem, so I'm drawn to humility. (Don't laugh. I'm very shy. Fab is an outlet for me!) Someone saying they're stunningly handsome would make me think they were arrogant or egotistical. Also, don't you find that very good looking people have never had to cultivate a personality? (Runs and hides....) I'm not sure I'd agree with you totally, although sometimes very attractive people can be a little sallow that's not always the case. To prove my point I would use you as a perfect example of someone who is both stunningly gorgeous and, by being willing to comment quite openly on this thread, definitely has a personality. Bless you. I'm not stunningly gorgeous, though. All I am is good with make-up and the Queen of the Flattering Selfie! Very ordinary, in real life, sadly." If you're that good with the camera you could help me out and take some decent pics of me. I really need some. | |||
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"I might see if i can convince people I'm stunningly beautiful. Now that would settle it either way " Well from the little of your face I think you are stunning | |||
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"I might see if i can convince people I'm stunningly beautiful. Now that would settle it either way Well from the little of your face I think you are stunning " You're too sweet cheeky Bits of my face, in isolation are quite attractive. Put it all together and it's like some of the pieces are from a different jigsaw puzzle | |||
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"I might see if i can convince people I'm stunningly beautiful. Now that would settle it either way Well from the little of your face I think you are stunning You're too sweet cheeky Bits of my face, in isolation are quite attractive. Put it all together and it's like some of the pieces are from a different jigsaw puzzle " Hush up woman | |||
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"I might see if i can convince people I'm stunningly beautiful. Now that would settle it either way " Well you meet more than one or two of my definitions of gorgeous. I'm sure I've told you that before. If I've not then I've been seriously of the boil. I think some more finger fabbing is in order since I last viewed your profile. | |||
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"I might see if i can convince people I'm stunningly beautiful. Now that would settle it either way Well from the little of your face I think you are stunning You're too sweet cheeky Bits of my face, in isolation are quite attractive. Put it all together and it's like some of the pieces are from a different jigsaw puzzle Hush up woman " I always think of Emma Peal in her heyday on the Avengers when I see your face on here. | |||
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