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"How about - you had your chance a year ago , and now I've moved on . So don't bother me again and hope you find what you really want , like I have . ![]() A little harsh, methinks | |||
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"This has happened to me too. The boat had sailed by the time he was ready and life is all about timing. You can't change the way you feel so if it's too late, it's too late. Just be kind and be honest. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Back story... I've known someone for seven or eight years - he lives down in Manchester so we don't see each other too often at all, twice a year at least. Anyway, he knows I'm on Fab, knows I'm seeing someone, knows I'm not interested in monogamous relationships... but now is the time he chooses to tell me how much he likes me. If he'd have told me that even just a year ago I'd have been over joyed -as I dropped never ending hints about how much I did like him - but now I've kind of moved on ![]() just be honest and tell the truth, good luck OP hope all works out for you | |||
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"How about a polite, "sorry mate, love you as a friend but..." ?" This | |||
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"Oh, that's better. I've just told him I've moved on and he said that's fine... after he gave me the "needy puppy" act last night I'm not too sure ![]() What he says with his mouth will not be what he thinks, part of him is probably thinking "she only felt like that last year, she could feel that way again if I act the right way/say the right thing." If you don't want to string him along you need to make sure he knows you've closed the door. If he still carries on with the sad puppy act then you'll have to be harsh and cut contact for a while. It's kinder to him and you | |||
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"I've had a few really lovely rejections on here, not quite the same I know, but basically saying 'you're not my type' without actually saying 'you're not my type'! ![]() ![]() I think that would just give the guy false hopes. I think clarity is key. Say what you mean and mean what you say. | |||
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"I've had a few really lovely rejections on here, not quite the same I know, but basically saying 'you're not my type' without actually saying 'you're not my type'! ![]() ![]() True. I guess it all depends how receptive they are to the underlying message. If they *still* think there's hope then I guess you're definitely right! | |||
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"How about a polite, "sorry mate, love you as a friend but..." ?" Or, If ya snooze, ya loose ![]() | |||
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"Maybe I'm just cynical but when you were free he didn't want you but now you're not free, he does?" Not cynical at all! | |||
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"How about - you had your chance a year ago , and now I've moved on . So don't bother me again and hope you find what you really want , like I have . ![]() Well, the best thing is to be honest, but yeah, maybe everything up until the first comma is fine. After that, seems confrontational and won't help matters. Just say he's late, and you're happy with your life now. | |||
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"Back story... I've known someone for seven or eight years - he lives down in Manchester so we don't see each other too often at all, twice a year at least. Anyway, he knows I'm on Fab, knows I'm seeing someone, knows I'm not interested in monogamous relationships... but now is the time he chooses to tell me how much he likes me. If he'd have told me that even just a year ago I'd have been over joyed -as I dropped never ending hints about how much I did like him - but now I've kind of moved on ![]() you've only kinda moved on that says to me not fully moved on you obviously like him you see him twice a year invite him round for Xmas dinner cook him a roast open your present then propose to him. C'mon fab wedding we can have a comp the sexy wedding outfit ,what you say ,it's for us ,it's a win win ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Back story... I've known someone for seven or eight years - he lives down in Manchester so we don't see each other too often at all, twice a year at least. Anyway, he knows I'm on Fab, knows I'm seeing someone, knows I'm not interested in monogamous relationships... but now is the time he chooses to tell me how much he likes me. If he'd have told me that even just a year ago I'd have been over joyed -as I dropped never ending hints about how much I did like him - but now I've kind of moved on ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() It won't be a Fab wedding as he's not on Fab... | |||
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"Personally it sounds like he was in a relationship with someone, that has stopped so now he wants to try with the Op, maybe I too am being too cynical. " Lol, no. He's been single for the past year. ![]() | |||
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