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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And I don't mean body shapes.

Since joining Fab I've noticed the sheer amount of squirting and fisting threads, mainly started by men, and most of the women who contribute to these threads don't really seem to be a fan of being fisted or being made to squirt, yet most of the men contributing to those threads seem to love it... personally, I think that men might enjoy those activities due to the visual appeal, and that appeal might come from porn... thoughts?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Can't really say I'm bothered by squirting or fisting tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be honest I'd never really encountered all this gushing and squirting shenanigans before I joined here ...I'm obviously far too naive

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'm obviously watching the wrong kinda porn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was just thinking the same thing after reading the fisting thread

It really surprises me how many grown men still think that porn is a representation of real life sex!

Everyone enjoys different things and I enjoy being treated like a slut from time to time

but these threads and requests for me is a good filter for who I don't want to meet!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Ive never squirted ... or gushed ... its unlikely I ever will .... and as for fisting .... no thanks

I like to be treated with respect and dignity ... if u guys want to fist something go and buy a chicken and a box of stuffing .... if that floats your boat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was just thinking the same thing after reading the fisting thread

It really surprises me how many grown men still think that porn is a representation of real life sex!

Everyone enjoys different things and I enjoy being treated like a slut from time to time

but these threads and requests for me is a good filter for who I don't want to meet!

"

That's what made me think of it too! Actually, someone on that thread expressed an opinion of how much he liked it and offered to "train me". Disregarding the fact that I've not offered an opinion of whether I'd like it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never squirted ... or gushed ... its unlikely I ever will .... and as for fisting .... no thanks

I like to be treated with respect and dignity ... if u guys want to fist something go and buy a chicken and a box of stuffing .... if that floats your boat

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Dats coz u ben wiv da wrong gutz init?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't really care less about either of them to be honest.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's piss anyway isn't it?

*runs*

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I think the OP is right though....

much of the "appeal" has been manufactured by porn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's piss anyway isn't it?

*runs*"

No no! Its magical other stuff that's stored in the other reservoir that's not the bladder. "The magical other stuff reservoir"..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just thinking the same thing after reading the fisting thread

It really surprises me how many grown men still think that porn is a representation of real life sex!

Everyone enjoys different things and I enjoy being treated like a slut from time to time

but these threads and requests for me is a good filter for who I don't want to meet!

"

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just thinking the same thing after reading the fisting thread

It really surprises me how many grown men still think that porn is a representation of real life sex!

Everyone enjoys different things and I enjoy being treated like a slut from time to time

but these threads and requests for me is a good filter for who I don't want to meet!

That's what made me think of it too! Actually, someone on that thread expressed an opinion of how much he liked it and offered to "train me". Disregarding the fact that I've not offered an opinion of whether I'd like it or not.

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fisting training from a random - oooh tempting!

But before you rush over there, maybe you could suggest doing the same thing to him!

It's best not to have double standards right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And I don't mean body shapes.

Since joining Fab I've noticed the sheer amount of squirting and fisting threads, mainly started by men, and most of the women who contribute to these threads don't really seem to be a fan of being fisted or being made to squirt, yet most of the men contributing to those threads seem to love it... personally, I think that men might enjoy those activities due to the visual appeal, and that appeal might come from porn... thoughts?"

I totally agree that porn builds expectations, I worked with young lads in the youth service and as a learning mentor, and the way they speak about girls/women and sex is very evident, Porn is their first contact with sex and so they get the idea that if it isn't like that, it isn't right. It puts a lot of pressure on both sexes, but in my experience it's more a boys/men thing, and probably destroys a lot of relationships.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was just thinking the same thing after reading the fisting thread

It really surprises me how many grown men still think that porn is a representation of real life sex!

Everyone enjoys different things and I enjoy being treated like a slut from time to time

but these threads and requests for me is a good filter for who I don't want to meet!

That's what made me think of it too! Actually, someone on that thread expressed an opinion of how much he liked it and offered to "train me". Disregarding the fact that I've not offered an opinion of whether I'd like it or not.

fisting training from a random - oooh tempting!

But before you rush over there, maybe you could suggest doing the same thing to him!

It's best not to have double standards right

"

Ohhhhh, I was tempted... and I don't have little dainty girly hands...

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I've noticed a change in what men expect from when I was younger ( pre the internet), particularly in regards to thinking both anal and deep throating are 'normal'. And squirting? Just wasn't a 'thing' back then!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"It's piss anyway isn't it?

*runs*

No no! Its magical other stuff that's stored in the other reservoir that's not the bladder. "The magical other stuff reservoir".."

Oh let's not slide into the "It's piss-it isn't piss" debacle.

It just rapidly degenerates into a mass-debate...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've noticed a change in what men expect from when I was younger ( pre the internet), particularly in regards to thinking both anal and deep throating are 'normal'. And squirting? Just wasn't a 'thing' back then!"

When did the squirting thing begin?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first proper relationship was with someone who learned about sex through enthusiastic porn consumption. I was essentially a woman shaped fleshlight to him (although they weren't invented back then. Maybe he invented them

) Once that relationship ended and I had sex with someone else for the first time it was a revelation!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

It seems that for some guys here, porn is not only their first but their only only contact with sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And I don't mean body shapes.

Since joining Fab I've noticed the sheer amount of squirting and fisting threads, mainly started by men, and most of the women who contribute to these threads don't really seem to be a fan of being fisted or being made to squirt, yet most of the men contributing to those threads seem to love it... personally, I think that men might enjoy those activities due to the visual appeal, and that appeal might come from porn... thoughts?

I totally agree that porn builds expectations, I worked with young lads in the youth service and as a learning mentor, and the way they speak about girls/women and sex is very evident, Porn is their first contact with sex and so they get the idea that if it isn't like that, it isn't right. It puts a lot of pressure on both sexes, but in my experience it's more a boys/men thing, and probably destroys a lot of relationships."

I know exactly what you mean!

There was a show following the experiments of an alternative sex education teacher on Channel 4 earlier this year. She split the class into mixed groups to write sexual scenarios, and from what I remember the boys took control of the writing, and one had written about pulling out and cumming all over the girl's face, and when the girls in that group were asked if they approved of that, they weren't impressed at all.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Anal, deep throat and squirting are normal aren't they ???? They are in my book haha xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My first proper relationship was with someone who learned about sex through enthusiastic porn consumption. I was essentially a woman shaped fleshlight to him (although they weren't invented back then. Maybe he invented them

) Once that relationship ended and I had sex with someone else for the first time it was a revelation! "

It seems like they are looking for a pre-programmed android to do everything that suits them, it becomes a one way street and drains the other person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

E enjoys being fisted more than I enjoy doing it. I do it for her sake not because I get any particular thrill from it. So you may have a point OP but I dont think thats a major majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And I don't mean body shapes.

Since joining Fab I've noticed the sheer amount of squirting and fisting threads, mainly started by men, and most of the women who contribute to these threads don't really seem to be a fan of being fisted or being made to squirt, yet most of the men contributing to those threads seem to love it... personally, I think that men might enjoy those activities due to the visual appeal, and that appeal might come from porn... thoughts?

I totally agree that porn builds expectations, I worked with young lads in the youth service and as a learning mentor, and the way they speak about girls/women and sex is very evident, Porn is their first contact with sex and so they get the idea that if it isn't like that, it isn't right. It puts a lot of pressure on both sexes, but in my experience it's more a boys/men thing, and probably destroys a lot of relationships.

I know exactly what you mean!

There was a show following the experiments of an alternative sex education teacher on Channel 4 earlier this year. She split the class into mixed groups to write sexual scenarios, and from what I remember the boys took control of the writing, and one had written about pulling out and cumming all over the girl's face, and when the girls in that group were asked if they approved of that, they weren't impressed at all."

I missed those programmes, could have done with watching them as part of training for my jobs. I remember a few scenarios at the Youth Club, Two boys and a girl caught in the toilets, won't go into details for obvious reasons, but it was definitely a porn and lad lead thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Anal, deep throat and squirting are normal aren't they ???? They are in my book haha xx"

Yeah, but is that what YOU want or purely based what the man wants?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My first proper relationship was with someone who learned about sex through enthusiastic porn consumption. I was essentially a woman shaped fleshlight to him (although they weren't invented back then. Maybe he invented them

) Once that relationship ended and I had sex with someone else for the first time it was a revelation!

It seems like they are looking for a pre-programmed android to do everything that suits them, it becomes a one way street and drains the other person."

That sums up the dynamic of that relationship perfectly. Not knowing any better aged 17 I stuck with it for 3 years. I believe that if I'd had the opportunity to talk openly about sex as a teenager then I would have known it was my right to not like certain sex acts, and also my right to ask for what I did like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"E enjoys being fisted more than I enjoy doing it. I do it for her sake not because I get any particular thrill from it. So you may have a point OP but I dont think thats a major majority. "

That's my point - sometimes it's more of the man wanting to do it to the woman, rather than the woman wanting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"E enjoys being fisted more than I enjoy doing it. I do it for her sake not because I get any particular thrill from it. So you may have a point OP but I dont think thats a major majority. "

I don't think it's the actions themselves, but the expectations and pressure put on someone who doesn't squirt or can't stand being fisted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"E enjoys being fisted more than I enjoy doing it. I do it for her sake not because I get any particular thrill from it. So you may have a point OP but I dont think thats a major majority.

That's my point - sometimes it's more of the man wanting to do it to the woman, rather than the woman wanting it."

Jinx!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was baseing things in porn movies, every house I walked into to do my job I'd expect to be rattling the bored housewife in the kitchen within 5 minutes....

Hmmm not in 20 years ha ha porn is as fictional as a die hard movie

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Oh.....definitely on what I want.....if a guy wanted to do something I didn't, I wouldn't hesitate in saying no, politely of course haha....xxxx

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"I think the OP is right though....

much of the "appeal" has been manufactured by porn"

A lot of things have been manufactured by porn and both sexes are affected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be fisted and squirting. Nothing to do with porn. I'm just a filthy slut.

Though I do think some guys think it's the pinnacle of their sex career when they make a woman squirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was gonna mention that Sex Ed programme, I was absolutely horrified by it.

Deep throat/face fucking are the ones that do it (or rather DO NOT do it) for me, yet so many guys just assume it's a given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was baseing things in porn movies, every house I walked into to do my job I'd expect to be rattling the bored housewife in the kitchen within 5 minutes....

Hmmm not in 20 years ha ha porn is as fictional as a die hard movie "

If only everyone thought like that, maybe the porn stars should stop to go for a wee or trump to make it a bit more realistic.

I'd just like to point out that I do neither of these things in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been around the 'scene' for 17 years. It wasn't until last year that I'd met anyone that did squirt. Then I met three different ones over the next six months. It was never something I sought out or sought to do. I would rather make a lady cum. I also think men, perhaps the younger generation, get the two mixed up.

As for fisting it is something I have done with a few ladies too. But always at their instigation. Its not something I would suggest. It maybe something we have discussed prior to meeting. One girl who asked me to fist her, I was unable to, as she was quite small for my hands. Realising I told her I wouldn't be able to as my hands were too big and I didn't want to hurt her. Even though she had been fisted before. I think it comes down to common sense and perhaps experience. My background may also have helped. But then I was playing before internet porn was common, so perhaps a different time!

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

"My first proper relationship was with someone who learned about sex through enthusiastic porn consumption. I was essentially a woman shaped fleshlight to him (although they weren't invented back then. Maybe he invented them

) Once that relationship ended and I had sex with someone else for the first time it was a revelation!

It seems like they are looking for a pre-programmed android to do everything that suits them, it becomes a one way street and drains the other person.

That sums up the dynamic of that relationship perfectly. Not knowing any better aged 17 I stuck with it for 3 years. I believe that if I'd had the opportunity to talk openly about sex as a teenager then I would have known it was my right to not like certain sex acts, and also my right to ask for what I did like. "

That's why I think proper sex education is vital for teens these days as they are bombarded by porn from an early age. The Belgian woman on the recent documentary about sex ed was brilliant!

The teachers were a bit squeamish tho...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was baseing things in porn movies, every house I walked into to do my job I'd expect to be rattling the bored housewife in the kitchen within 5 minutes....

Hmmm not in 20 years ha ha porn is as fictional as a die hard movie

If only everyone thought like that, maybe the porn stars should stop to go for a wee or trump to make it a bit more realistic.

I'd just like to point out that I do neither of these things in real life.

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I do one of them ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was baseing things in porn movies, every house I walked into to do my job I'd expect to be rattling the bored housewife in the kitchen within 5 minutes....

Hmmm not in 20 years ha ha porn is as fictional as a die hard movie

If only everyone thought like that, maybe the porn stars should stop to go for a wee or trump to make it a bit more realistic.

I'd just like to point out that I do neither of these things in real life.

I do one of them ??"

Do you use trumps for extra thrust?

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I don't find squirting a turn on, I always accepted that its what some woman do and have never considered that they would be doing it to meet the expectation of guys indoctrinated by the porn industry.

The visual imagery of fisting is something that I've always found erotic but I never expected to be able to do it to anyone; it wasn't until a lady asked me to do it to her that I realised that, with the right person, it can also be enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was baseing things in porn movies, every house I walked into to do my job I'd expect to be rattling the bored housewife in the kitchen within 5 minutes....

Hmmm not in 20 years ha ha porn is as fictional as a die hard movie

If only everyone thought like that, maybe the porn stars should stop to go for a wee or trump to make it a bit more realistic.

I'd just like to point out that I do neither of these things in real life.

I do one of them ??

Do you use trumps for extra thrust?

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No I run for a wee when I'm about to climax.. That way I can go all night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was baseing things in porn movies, every house I walked into to do my job I'd expect to be rattling the bored housewife in the kitchen within 5 minutes....

Hmmm not in 20 years ha ha porn is as fictional as a die hard movie

If only everyone thought like that, maybe the porn stars should stop to go for a wee or trump to make it a bit more realistic.

I'd just like to point out that I do neither of these things in real life.

I do one of them ??

Do you use trumps for extra thrust?

No I run for a wee when I'm about to climax.. That way I can go all night

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I can go all night without climax, but I'm absolutely knackered, it takes ages. Bloody willies never get it right do they.

Hang on, people can read this.

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By *eally Filthy CoupleCouple
over a year ago

bristol

We both love porn and indeed make our own and love doing that. We have become adept at capturing the porno "money shots" and we love it . Sorry !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so glad I had my first sexual experiences in the 80s,before the internet was main stream. We had hairy muffs,being titted up,fingering with only one finger and blow jobs that didn't make you throw up. I do remember seeing a vhs porn video called MASHED,that had some bum play with butt plugs but that was it until I hit my 40s. I do think access to porn has given people more ideas and distorted sex in a lot of ways. It's become more fetish based than physical pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the same construct that has given unrealistic ideas about penis size and body shape. The whole sexual prowess image created by porn is near impossible to attain.

I'd feel partially responsible if it didn't pay the bills. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We both love porn and indeed make our own and love doing that. We have become adept at capturing the porno "money shots" and we love it . Sorry !!!

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But surely if you're both into it, there's no problem, don't apologise, keep going peeps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the OP is right though....

much of the "appeal" has been manufactured by porn"

It certainly has a lot to answer for and I don't mean that in a good way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is right. I think we see so much porn, we get surprised when women don't like them, even anal some don't and as well face fucking really rough

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I was on another thread talking about squirting and I asked what it was. Since there was loads of people claiming they can/make someone squirt I thought someone could tell me what it was but no.

So I Googled it and read plenty that a squirt isn't exactly a squirt but a loss of bladder control. Not something I care to explore lol xx

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Also I missed the program but read about it on f.b about teenagers watching porn searching for things like nugget porn. I had never heard of it but it's a woman with no arms or legs.

I think society has lost a lot of its taboos that people that watch porn that aren't sexual active assume that this kinda stuff is normal. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was baseing things in porn movies, every house I walked into to do my job I'd expect to be rattling the bored housewife in the kitchen within 5 minutes....

Hmmm not in 20 years ha ha porn is as fictional as a die hard movie

If only everyone thought like that, maybe the porn stars should stop to go for a wee or trump to make it a bit more realistic.

I'd just like to point out that I do neither of these things in real life.

I do one of them ??

Do you use trumps for extra thrust?

No I run for a wee when I'm about to climax.. That way I can go all night

I can go all night without climax, but I'm absolutely knackered, it takes ages. Bloody willies never get it right do they.

Hang on, people can read this.

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Oops. My toilet tricks Been rumbled

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby

"I think the OP is right though....

much of the "appeal" has been manufactured by porn

It certainly has a lot to answer for and I don't mean that in a good way!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I avoid men who say they will make me squirt or as if I can.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Ive never squirted ... or gushed ... its unlikely I ever will .... and as for fisting .... no thanks

I like to be treated with respect and dignity ... if u guys want to fist something go and buy a chicken and a box of stuffing .... if that floats your boat

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Thanks haha....made my afternoon

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Ive never squirted ... or gushed ... its unlikely I ever will .... and as for fisting .... no thanks

I like to be treated with respect and dignity ... if u guys want to fist something go and buy a chicken and a box of stuffing .... if that floats your boat

Thanks haha....made my afternoon

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And mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have sex....

Sometimes mad Shit happens and your night is freakier than a banned German porn DVD, and often it isn't...

I've never expected anything of anyone and more often than not it's the women I've met that have been the ones pushing for the more extreme stuff.

People like what people like and when two or more people meet, stuff happens

Do I put it down to porn? Not at all. I put it down to the continued sexual acceptance and liberation on all fronts, and yeah, it shows in porn...but porn doesn't make it's self...it comes from the minds of people..

It's too mixed up to pinpoint where this stuff comes from

Just enjoy what you do and don't worry so much

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

A woman once told me that when she was playing with a younger man he couldn't keep an erection because, to use his words, she didn't 'scream like a porn star' so thought she wasn't enjoying herself.

I don't squirt or gush, no matter how many times a man mails me to tell me he can make any woman squirt.

I don't scream like a porn star.

I don't like fisting or the weird jack hammer fingering technique which has turned up recently, it makes me sore and fun stops there and then.

I don't like bukkake or deep throating, vomit isn't sexy in my eyes.

I don't like some random pulling my hair, slapping me on the arse or grabbing me round the throat.

And don't get me started on him pulling out of my chuff and trying to slam his cock straight up my arse with no forward planning. Why, just why?

Jeez I am soo vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone mentions squirting to me, they get a mouthful.

Of scientific facts. NOT anything else!

I think there's pressure on here for women to be so over-sexualised and experienced, so as to appear 'dirtier' and 'up for anything'.

Well, bollocks to it. I don't squirt because I've looked after my pelvic floor. I don't want it damaged by a rough shaven ape with sausage fingers.

And if anyone dares put anything in my bottom, they'll get something bigger rammed in theirs, soon after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And I don't mean body shapes.

Since joining Fab I've noticed the sheer amount of squirting and fisting threads, mainly started by men, and most of the women who contribute to these threads don't really seem to be a fan of being fisted or being made to squirt, yet most of the men contributing to those threads seem to love it... personally, I think that men might enjoy those activities due to the visual appeal, and that appeal might come from porn... thoughts?"

I think you're right. Port sets wrong expectations. No I am not gonna fuck you 87 mins without Cumming and I am not gonna hold still for 2 mins buffering

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"A woman once told me that when she was playing with a younger man he couldn't keep an erection because, to use his words, she didn't 'scream like a porn star' so thought she wasn't enjoying herself.

I don't squirt or gush, no matter how many times a man mails me to tell me he can make any woman squirt.

I don't scream like a porn star.

I don't like fisting or the weird jack hammer fingering technique which has turned up recently, it makes me sore and fun stops there and then.

I don't like bukkake or deep throating, vomit isn't sexy in my eyes.

I don't like some random pulling my hair, slapping me on the arse or grabbing me round the throat.

And don't get me started on him pulling out of my chuff and trying to slam his cock straight up my arse with no forward planning. Why, just why?

Jeez I am soo vanilla

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I agreed with you right up to the pulling hair,arse slapping and chocking I enjoy those 3 but would only do it with my bf xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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"And I don't mean body shapes.

Since joining Fab I've noticed the sheer amount of squirting and fisting threads, mainly started by men, and most of the women who contribute to these threads don't really seem to be a fan of being fisted or being made to squirt, yet most of the men contributing to those threads seem to love it... personally, I think that men might enjoy those activities due to the visual appeal, and that appeal might come from porn... thoughts?

I totally agree that porn builds expectations, I worked with young lads in the youth service and as a learning mentor, and the way they speak about girls/women and sex is very evident, Porn is their first contact with sex and so they get the idea that if it isn't like that, it isn't right. It puts a lot of pressure on both sexes, but in my experience it's more a boys/men thing, and probably destroys a lot of relationships.

I know exactly what you mean!

There was a show following the experiments of an alternative sex education teacher on Channel 4 earlier this year. She split the class into mixed groups to write sexual scenarios, and from what I remember the boys took control of the writing, and one had written about pulling out and cumming all over the girl's face, and when the girls in that group were asked if they approved of that, they weren't impressed at all.

I missed those programmes, could have done with watching them as part of training for my jobs. I remember a few scenarios at the Youth Club, Two boys and a girl caught in the toilets, won't go into details for obvious reasons, but it was definitely a porn and lad lead thing."

The female Belgian sex education teacher was wonderful. You can find more info, and potentially catch-up on channel 4: http://www.channel4.com/programmes/sex-in-class

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

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"A woman once told me that when she was playing with a younger man he couldn't keep an erection because, to use his words, she didn't 'scream like a porn star' so thought she wasn't enjoying herself.

I don't squirt or gush, no matter how many times a man mails me to tell me he can make any woman squirt.

I don't scream like a porn star.

I don't like fisting or the weird jack hammer fingering technique which has turned up recently, it makes me sore and fun stops there and then.

I don't like bukkake or deep throating, vomit isn't sexy in my eyes.

I don't like some random pulling my hair, slapping me on the arse or grabbing me round the throat.

And don't get me started on him pulling out of my chuff and trying to slam his cock straight up my arse with no forward planning. Why, just why?

Jeez I am soo vanilla

I agreed with you right up to the pulling hair,arse slapping and chocking I enjoy those 3 but would only do it with my bf xx"

With someone I trust I quite enjoy it, but not with some random bloke I only met an hour before. Trust is key.

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over a year ago

"E enjoys being fisted more than I enjoy doing it. I do it for her sake not because I get any particular thrill from it. So you may have a point OP but I dont think thats a major majority.

That's my point - sometimes it's more of the man wanting to do it to the woman, rather than the woman wanting it."

E is the women. She wants me to do it. But I, the man, only do it for her its not something I would offer to do for my own pleasure. I love seeing her pleasure thats the only benefit

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