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By *rs Tooty OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision."

Yes. Mostly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

I ponder and plot

It isn't easy at times but you need a clear head to assess situations

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Years ago, maybe.

Now, nope as nothing gets me that wound up.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision."

I'm slow to anger which isn't always a good thing and makes it difficult to understand that things said in anger aren't always meant.

the best way to fix it is to say "sorry" and mean it and also explain that you don't mean things said in the heat of the moment.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Seldom get angry, it takes a lot, but I don't forget and it becomes accumulative which isn't good as when I do go nuclear it appears disproportionate.

Only happened about twice this century: but twice too often!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh where to start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel anger is as useful as it is dangerous. in a dangerous event, apologies and making myself scarce for an extended period is my approach.

It has healed many wounds for others, yet none for me. But that's because I'm so goddam hard on myself

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By *rs Tooty OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Oh where to start "

I'd love to know more x

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By *rs Tooty OP   Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

Yes. Mostly. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit fiery really. I blow quickly but it lasts seconds most of the time and I'm over it. Much worse if I go quiet, seething, while analysing the situation, because that means I'm really ticked off. But that happens rarely thankfully.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Anger has its uses: nothing much would change without a good bit of anger.

Personal anger against someone close is rare for me but when it happens I usually hold on to it too long so that it grows bigger and darker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a saint me! Honest

if a angry driver is persistent And gets out his car threaten me

I turn in his worst nightmare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hasn't everyone

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision."

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seethe and think about things and I wind myself up in doing so. I end up having to voice my opinions which then come out wrong and appear irrational.

I make myself scarce afterwards because I'm usually ashamed of my behaviour

I've lost good friends by behaving this way...I wish I could help it but it's who I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up.."

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I seethe and think about things and I wind myself up in doing so. I end up having to voice my opinions which then come out wrong and appear irrational.

I make myself scarce afterwards because I'm usually ashamed of my behaviour

I've lost good friends by behaving this way...I wish I could help it but it's who I am "

We're all capable of change.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months"

I see where you are coming from mac, tbh if anything being angry is probably the emotion which I feel most drawn to though that I feel real and completely as myself...

I have always had a more deeper connection with getting angry/frustrated at stuff in life then I ever have being happy at times...but then again my family keeps me human and brings out my better side for the most part and if it was not for them I would probably be a pretty mean bastard...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months"

I find honest expression of emotion is the most effective way of ensuring the emotion is used positively. I have a number of other strategies to help me to deal with emotions in a positive way rather than allowing them to become distorted. However expressing the emotion in the moment I feel it is my preference as long as it is is situationally appropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seethe and think about things and I wind myself up in doing so. I end up having to voice my opinions which then come out wrong and appear irrational.

I make myself scarce afterwards because I'm usually ashamed of my behaviour

I've lost good friends by behaving this way...I wish I could help it but it's who I am

We're all capable of change."

Also moved myself away from friends because of outbursts of pent up emotional responses. Not just anger. I'm glad that I'm lucky enough to get some back into my life now I'm a little older and a little wiser... Friends that are real friends find ways of returning to each others lives sometime down the road. Most people forgive in time

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I have done, some time ago though. I was incandescent with anger with my boss at the time. He was a pompous arrogant twat and I just boiled one day. I shouted at him and banged my fists on his table. Its funny now and I do like pushing many limits but that's not really the way.

I prefer to be driven by logic and thinking things through, even if emotional charges have initiated my thoughts. I don't want to be the next person in jail for affray or assault.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

I've had things said in anger to me too many times, so I try not to do it. Occasionally I want to, but I pause and then know I shouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seethe and think about things and I wind myself up in doing so. I end up having to voice my opinions which then come out wrong and appear irrational.

I make myself scarce afterwards because I'm usually ashamed of my behaviour

I've lost good friends by behaving this way...I wish I could help it but it's who I am

We're all capable of change."

I'm trying. I'm in danger of losing someone I care about because of this so I need to admit how I am and try to make amends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months

I see where you are coming from mac, tbh if anything being angry is probably the emotion which I feel most drawn to though that I feel real and completely as myself...

I have always had a more deeper connection with getting angry/frustrated at stuff in life then I ever have being happy at times...but then again my family keeps me human and brings out my better side for the most part and if it was not for them I would probably be a pretty mean bastard..."

I thought that... Until I discovered I can express all of my emotions with words. I related to anger most because of my outbursts. I was finally accepting I could feel. And my family, much as I love them, I feel anger towards them and myself for the lack of effort made to developing my emotional expression, however, I can't be too hard on anyone as I have aspergers and emotions are hard enough to develop in nonasd people.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"I seethe and think about things and I wind myself up in doing so. I end up having to voice my opinions which then come out wrong and appear irrational.

I make myself scarce afterwards because I'm usually ashamed of my behaviour

I've lost good friends by behaving this way...I wish I could help it but it's who I am

We're all capable of change.

Also moved myself away from friends because of outbursts of pent up emotional responses. Not just anger. I'm glad that I'm lucky enough to get some back into my life now I'm a little older and a little wiser... Friends that are real friends find ways of returning to each others lives sometime down the road. Most people forgive in time"

my main concern is that when I'm out and about in real life I can seem calm/reserved which I try to be with others...

but then for some reason sometimes some stuff in life just pushes me the wrong way and I become some one else entirely and I worry sometimes that I might end up doing something like breaking some ones jaw if I get pushed to that point...

the troubling thing is I have been tempted a few times in real life scenarios to do it..

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months

I see where you are coming from mac, tbh if anything being angry is probably the emotion which I feel most drawn to though that I feel real and completely as myself...

I have always had a more deeper connection with getting angry/frustrated at stuff in life then I ever have being happy at times...but then again my family keeps me human and brings out my better side for the most part and if it was not for them I would probably be a pretty mean bastard...

I thought that... Until I discovered I can express all of my emotions with words. I related to anger most because of my outbursts. I was finally accepting I could feel. And my family, much as I love them, I feel anger towards them and myself for the lack of effort made to developing my emotional expression, however, I can't be too hard on anyone as I have aspergers and emotions are hard enough to develop in nonasd people."

never knew you had aspergers mac, you have a some what explainable reason then and at least you made an effort to keep yourself calm...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I seethe and think about things and I wind myself up in doing so. I end up having to voice my opinions which then come out wrong and appear irrational.

I make myself scarce afterwards because I'm usually ashamed of my behaviour

I've lost good friends by behaving this way...I wish I could help it but it's who I am

We're all capable of change.

Also moved myself away from friends because of outbursts of pent up emotional responses. Not just anger. I'm glad that I'm lucky enough to get some back into my life now I'm a little older and a little wiser... Friends that are real friends find ways of returning to each others lives sometime down the road. Most people forgive in time

my main concern is that when I'm out and about in real life I can seem calm/reserved which I try to be with others...

but then for some reason sometimes some stuff in life just pushes me the wrong way and I become some one else entirely and I worry sometimes that I might end up doing something like breaking some ones jaw if I get pushed to that point...

the troubling thing is I have been tempted a few times in real life scenarios to do it.."

Please do seek help, for your sake as well as for the unsuspecting person who may find their jaw gets in your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't know bout anger,,but I was told the other day I was quite fierce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seethe and think about things and I wind myself up in doing so. I end up having to voice my opinions which then come out wrong and appear irrational.

I make myself scarce afterwards because I'm usually ashamed of my behaviour

I've lost good friends by behaving this way...I wish I could help it but it's who I am

We're all capable of change.

I'm trying. I'm in danger of losing someone I care about because of this so I need to admit how I am and try to make amends."

Sorry to hear that

There's never an easy way, but a good way is to apologise and try to discuss what happened objectively without baiting or allowing yourself to be baited into getting angry.

Once the discussion has happened and everyone sees each others points of _iew, it's easier to make amends.

Unfortunately, there's no guarantees. But whatever your relationship may be, you had the courage to admit you were wrong in saying or doing hurtful things and attempted to salvage a beautiful thing

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"I seethe and think about things and I wind myself up in doing so. I end up having to voice my opinions which then come out wrong and appear irrational.

I make myself scarce afterwards because I'm usually ashamed of my behaviour

I've lost good friends by behaving this way...I wish I could help it but it's who I am

We're all capable of change.

Also moved myself away from friends because of outbursts of pent up emotional responses. Not just anger. I'm glad that I'm lucky enough to get some back into my life now I'm a little older and a little wiser... Friends that are real friends find ways of returning to each others lives sometime down the road. Most people forgive in time

my main concern is that when I'm out and about in real life I can seem calm/reserved which I try to be with others...

but then for some reason sometimes some stuff in life just pushes me the wrong way and I become some one else entirely and I worry sometimes that I might end up doing something like breaking some ones jaw if I get pushed to that point...

the troubling thing is I have been tempted a few times in real life scenarios to do it..

Please do seek help, for your sake as well as for the unsuspecting person who may find their jaw gets in your way.

"

what I mean is if some one has annoyed me or pushed me to that point then yes I get angry enough where I feel that way and nearly have a few times got into a physical confrontation with them...

I would never do that to some one who I have never spoken/interacted with as they have never done anything to me....unless they put their hands on me and tried provoking me.

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By *omersetfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Not quite in anger but I do say as it is

Too close to the bone for some

But if I feel I have been in the wrong and upset someone I will just as quickly apologise

Latin spirit and all that....

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

I will bottle it up most of the times

but other times I can let fly say what I think very quickly even if it hurts saying it

then can come down just as quickly as it flared up in that instant

however if not left alone as it keeps getting brought back up,I can stew on it something shocking and can flare back up where the argument can continue on and on

I have said sorry often and where I was in the wrong

ive had heavy stuff thrown at me but never threw it back, ive had to repair slammed doors

I have smashed mostly every cup and plate in the house during an argument about them as I took the lot straight off the worktop then went for a drive

but im not a thrower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months

I see where you are coming from mac, tbh if anything being angry is probably the emotion which I feel most drawn to though that I feel real and completely as myself...

I have always had a more deeper connection with getting angry/frustrated at stuff in life then I ever have being happy at times...but then again my family keeps me human and brings out my better side for the most part and if it was not for them I would probably be a pretty mean bastard...

I thought that... Until I discovered I can express all of my emotions with words. I related to anger most because of my outbursts. I was finally accepting I could feel. And my family, much as I love them, I feel anger towards them and myself for the lack of effort made to developing my emotional expression, however, I can't be too hard on anyone as I have aspergers and emotions are hard enough to develop in nonasd people.

never knew you had aspergers mac, you have a some what explainable reason then and at least you made an effort to keep yourself calm..."

Yeah, it crops up whenever I ask a question, or give an answer, that other people consider insensitive.

I don't think explainable is the correct term though because it doesn't explain anything imo. It's a label with a list of potential ingredients, some may be included, some may not. However, people are more understanding that it's a variable in my life that is not necessarily in theirs that may complicate matters, however, when all is said and done, I'm trying when there are people without ASD who don't try to develop interpersonal relationship skills.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months

I see where you are coming from mac, tbh if anything being angry is probably the emotion which I feel most drawn to though that I feel real and completely as myself...

I have always had a more deeper connection with getting angry/frustrated at stuff in life then I ever have being happy at times...but then again my family keeps me human and brings out my better side for the most part and if it was not for them I would probably be a pretty mean bastard...

I thought that... Until I discovered I can express all of my emotions with words. I related to anger most because of my outbursts. I was finally accepting I could feel. And my family, much as I love them, I feel anger towards them and myself for the lack of effort made to developing my emotional expression, however, I can't be too hard on anyone as I have aspergers and emotions are hard enough to develop in nonasd people.

never knew you had aspergers mac, you have a some what explainable reason then and at least you made an effort to keep yourself calm...

Yeah, it crops up whenever I ask a question, or give an answer, that other people consider insensitive.

I don't think explainable is the correct term though because it doesn't explain anything imo. It's a label with a list of potential ingredients, some may be included, some may not. However, people are more understanding that it's a variable in my life that is not necessarily in theirs that may complicate matters, however, when all is said and done, I'm trying when there are people without ASD who don't try to develop interpersonal relationship skills.

"

whatever works for you I suppose mistermac so long as you're interpersonal skills work out for the better and you find they are beginning to benefit more then you will know you're on the right path...

...I don't want to give off the impression I'm some walking talking foaming at the mouth psycho, I just sometimes get angry with stuff in life like anyone else does really and I do try to make a better effort to not lose it as often as I used to with people..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm slow to anger, my glass is always half full (at least!) and I can find the silver lining in most things!

Will has only seen me angry once in two years!

I am quick to get over it too though

Sara

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months

I see where you are coming from mac, tbh if anything being angry is probably the emotion which I feel most drawn to though that I feel real and completely as myself...

I have always had a more deeper connection with getting angry/frustrated at stuff in life then I ever have being happy at times...but then again my family keeps me human and brings out my better side for the most part and if it was not for them I would probably be a pretty mean bastard...

I thought that... Until I discovered I can express all of my emotions with words. I related to anger most because of my outbursts. I was finally accepting I could feel. And my family, much as I love them, I feel anger towards them and myself for the lack of effort made to developing my emotional expression, however, I can't be too hard on anyone as I have aspergers and emotions are hard enough to develop in nonasd people.

never knew you had aspergers mac, you have a some what explainable reason then and at least you made an effort to keep yourself calm...

Yeah, it crops up whenever I ask a question, or give an answer, that other people consider insensitive.

I don't think explainable is the correct term though because it doesn't explain anything imo. It's a label with a list of potential ingredients, some may be included, some may not. However, people are more understanding that it's a variable in my life that is not necessarily in theirs that may complicate matters, however, when all is said and done, I'm trying when there are people without ASD who don't try to develop interpersonal relationship skills.

whatever works for you I suppose mistermac so long as you're interpersonal skills work out for the better and you find they are beginning to benefit more then you will know you're on the right path...

...I don't want to give off the impression I'm some walking talking foaming at the mouth psycho, I just sometimes get angry with stuff in life like anyone else does really and I do try to make a better effort to not lose it as often as I used to with people.."

Really? You sound like a right ogre lucky it's Halloween eh

Just kidding. Even Gandhi admitted to getting angry. It's an emotion like any other and needs expressing, just like every other emotion does, but expressing emotions can be done the right way, the wrong way, or your way. The right way is acceptable to society. The wrong way is hurtful to people. Your way is whatever you want it to be at any given time

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months

I see where you are coming from mac, tbh if anything being angry is probably the emotion which I feel most drawn to though that I feel real and completely as myself...

I have always had a more deeper connection with getting angry/frustrated at stuff in life then I ever have being happy at times...but then again my family keeps me human and brings out my better side for the most part and if it was not for them I would probably be a pretty mean bastard...

I thought that... Until I discovered I can express all of my emotions with words. I related to anger most because of my outbursts. I was finally accepting I could feel. And my family, much as I love them, I feel anger towards them and myself for the lack of effort made to developing my emotional expression, however, I can't be too hard on anyone as I have aspergers and emotions are hard enough to develop in nonasd people.

never knew you had aspergers mac, you have a some what explainable reason then and at least you made an effort to keep yourself calm...

Yeah, it crops up whenever I ask a question, or give an answer, that other people consider insensitive.

I don't think explainable is the correct term though because it doesn't explain anything imo. It's a label with a list of potential ingredients, some may be included, some may not. However, people are more understanding that it's a variable in my life that is not necessarily in theirs that may complicate matters, however, when all is said and done, I'm trying when there are people without ASD who don't try to develop interpersonal relationship skills.

whatever works for you I suppose mistermac so long as you're interpersonal skills work out for the better and you find they are beginning to benefit more then you will know you're on the right path...

...I don't want to give off the impression I'm some walking talking foaming at the mouth psycho, I just sometimes get angry with stuff in life like anyone else does really and I do try to make a better effort to not lose it as often as I used to with people..

Really? You sound like a right ogre lucky it's Halloween eh

Just kidding. Even Gandhi admitted to getting angry. It's an emotion like any other and needs expressing, just like every other emotion does, but expressing emotions can be done the right way, the wrong way, or your way. The right way is acceptable to society. The wrong way is hurtful to people. Your way is whatever you want it to be at any given time "

I suppose ogre can be added to the list of names people have for me...ranging from giant to bear, oaf now comes ogre hehe..

thanks for the advice anyway I won't be hurtful to others, least i'll try anyway

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over a year ago

Yes, I know how to hurt people with my words.

I am learning how to control it but I can be as vicious as I can be a shoulder to cry on.

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over a year ago


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months

I see where you are coming from mac, tbh if anything being angry is probably the emotion which I feel most drawn to though that I feel real and completely as myself...

I have always had a more deeper connection with getting angry/frustrated at stuff in life then I ever have being happy at times...but then again my family keeps me human and brings out my better side for the most part and if it was not for them I would probably be a pretty mean bastard...

I thought that... Until I discovered I can express all of my emotions with words. I related to anger most because of my outbursts. I was finally accepting I could feel. And my family, much as I love them, I feel anger towards them and myself for the lack of effort made to developing my emotional expression, however, I can't be too hard on anyone as I have aspergers and emotions are hard enough to develop in nonasd people.

never knew you had aspergers mac, you have a some what explainable reason then and at least you made an effort to keep yourself calm...

Yeah, it crops up whenever I ask a question, or give an answer, that other people consider insensitive.

I don't think explainable is the correct term though because it doesn't explain anything imo. It's a label with a list of potential ingredients, some may be included, some may not. However, people are more understanding that it's a variable in my life that is not necessarily in theirs that may complicate matters, however, when all is said and done, I'm trying when there are people without ASD who don't try to develop interpersonal relationship skills.

whatever works for you I suppose mistermac so long as you're interpersonal skills work out for the better and you find they are beginning to benefit more then you will know you're on the right path...

...I don't want to give off the impression I'm some walking talking foaming at the mouth psycho, I just sometimes get angry with stuff in life like anyone else does really and I do try to make a better effort to not lose it as often as I used to with people..

Really? You sound like a right ogre lucky it's Halloween eh

Just kidding. Even Gandhi admitted to getting angry. It's an emotion like any other and needs expressing, just like every other emotion does, but expressing emotions can be done the right way, the wrong way, or your way. The right way is acceptable to society. The wrong way is hurtful to people. Your way is whatever you want it to be at any given time

I suppose ogre can be added to the list of names people have for me...ranging from giant to bear, oaf now comes ogre hehe..

thanks for the advice anyway I won't be hurtful to others, least i'll try anyway "

At least since shrek, people are open to the interpretation of ogre's just being misunderstood lol

Sweeeet

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months

I find honest expression of emotion is the most effective way of ensuring the emotion is used positively. I have a number of other strategies to help me to deal with emotions in a positive way rather than allowing them to become distorted. However expressing the emotion in the moment I feel it is my preference as long as it is is situationally appropriate."

Haha, me too

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"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision.

it has been suggested to me quite a few times by family that I have anger issues sometimes which I have tried to fix and have a grip off...

but sometimes I can't turn it off and I have a hard time sleeping as a lot of fucked up stuff goes through my mind sometimes when I get angry but I don't say anything to anyone for the most part and just bottle it up..

This. I'm benefitting from being honest about my emotions and owning them, for example, I'm angry, this is in response to x,y or z rather than x,y or z makes me angry. But I've not been doing it for long. But naming an emotional response and attaching a reason to it can be more calming than reflexively putting people in the firing line and has got me out of a couple of close calls with losing control in the past few months

I find honest expression of emotion is the most effective way of ensuring the emotion is used positively. I have a number of other strategies to help me to deal with emotions in a positive way rather than allowing them to become distorted. However expressing the emotion in the moment I feel it is my preference as long as it is is situationally appropriate.

Haha, me too "

To many words for me to compute

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"

I find honest expression of emotion is the most effective way of ensuring the emotion is used positively.

Haha, me too

To many words for me to compute"

That was the essence of what I was agreeing with.

Some people aren't too comfortable with that, but I find it to be the most authentic behaviour!

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over a year ago


"

I find honest expression of emotion is the most effective way of ensuring the emotion is used positively.

Haha, me too

To many words for me to compute

That was the essence of what I was agreeing with.

Some people aren't too comfortable with that, but I find it to be the most authentic behaviour! "

I'm lost...no wait a minute I'm d*unk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said and done a lot in anger.

Do I regret it?

Only twice,which turned out I was wrong,and unjust,and made my peace.

The rest......Nope.Because they needed telling etc.

I have a vicious temper,but it's had more Pro's than Con's over the years.

I'm long enough in the tooth to know if my temper comes out,it's because it needs to

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"Said and done a lot in anger.

Do I regret it?

Only twice,which turned out I was wrong,and unjust,and made my peace.

The rest......Nope.Because they needed telling etc.

I have a vicious temper,but it's had more Pro's than Con's over the years.

I'm long enough in the tooth to know if my temper comes out,it's because it needs to "

Same here

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"

I find honest expression of emotion is the most effective way of ensuring the emotion is used positively.

Haha, me too

To many words for me to compute

That was the essence of what I was agreeing with.

Some people aren't too comfortable with that, but I find it to be the most authentic behaviour!

I'm lost...no wait a minute I'm d*unk"

Ah well, that's a different matter.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision."

No regrets.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Said and done a lot in anger.

Do I regret it?

Only twice,which turned out I was wrong,and unjust,and made my peace.

The rest......Nope.Because they needed telling etc.

I have a vicious temper,but it's had more Pro's than Con's over the years.

I'm long enough in the tooth to know if my temper comes out,it's because it needs to "

I don't think I am ever vicious, but if I need to express the outrage I feel I will eventually do so!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

No, it's not my style at all. I tend to think everything I say through before saying it.

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over a year ago


"Said and done a lot in anger.

Do I regret it?

Only twice,which turned out I was wrong,and unjust,and made my peace.

The rest......Nope.Because they needed telling etc.

I have a vicious temper,but it's had more Pro's than Con's over the years.

I'm long enough in the tooth to know if my temper comes out,it's because it needs to

I don't think I am ever vicious, but if I need to express the outrage I feel I will eventually do so! "

I don't don't doubt that

But I would say in my limited experience Women can be just as vicious as men once the Red mist sets in

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Said and done a lot in anger.

Do I regret it?

Only twice,which turned out I was wrong,and unjust,and made my peace.

The rest......Nope.Because they needed telling etc.

I have a vicious temper,but it's had more Pro's than Con's over the years.

I'm long enough in the tooth to know if my temper comes out,it's because it needs to

I don't think I am ever vicious, but if I need to express the outrage I feel I will eventually do so!

I don't don't doubt that

But I would say in my limited experience Women can be just as vicious as men once the Red mist sets in

"

Oh I am sure, but I hope I have grown beyond the need to lash out by now, I certainly never want to, it's counter-productive in any kind of relationship (though the tosser in the single track lane who refused to reverse when he was nearer the passing place was in no doubt as to my low opinion of him lol!!)

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over a year ago


"Have you ever said or done something in anger then regretted it?

Have you managed to fix it?

I'm terrible for automatic hurt reaction then regret my rash decision."

Oh yes and I'll no be posting what I did because even to me my actions were horrific.

Trying to think of more pg examples but at this time of the morning nothing works except my penis

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over a year ago


"Said and done a lot in anger.

Do I regret it?

Only twice,which turned out I was wrong,and unjust,and made my peace.

The rest......Nope.Because they needed telling etc.

I have a vicious temper,but it's had more Pro's than Con's over the years.

I'm long enough in the tooth to know if my temper comes out,it's because it needs to

I don't think I am ever vicious, but if I need to express the outrage I feel I will eventually do so!

I don't don't doubt that

But I would say in my limited experience Women can be just as vicious as men once the Red mist sets in

Oh I am sure, but I hope I have grown beyond the need to lash out by now, I certainly never want to, it's counter-productive in any kind of relationship (though the tosser in the single track lane who refused to reverse when he was nearer the passing place was in no doubt as to my low opinion of him lol!!) "

Fair point.

But I never said being my temper came out in relationships..

Maybe I have got my wires crossed with the thread ?

I'd like to think nobody enjoys getting angry(I don't) but then you will be faced with occasions over anyone's life when people will just try and have you over.

Sometimes you need to lose the plot to set a bench mark to them and others that you really won't stand for it.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"Said and done a lot in anger.

Do I regret it?

Only twice,which turned out I was wrong,and unjust,and made my peace.

The rest......Nope.Because they needed telling etc.

I have a vicious temper,but it's had more Pro's than Con's over the years.

I'm long enough in the tooth to know if my temper comes out,it's because it needs to

I don't think I am ever vicious, but if I need to express the outrage I feel I will eventually do so!

I don't don't doubt that

But I would say in my limited experience Women can be just as vicious as men once the Red mist sets in

Oh I am sure, but I hope I have grown beyond the need to lash out by now, I certainly never want to, it's counter-productive in any kind of relationship (though the tosser in the single track lane who refused to reverse when he was nearer the passing place was in no doubt as to my low opinion of him lol!!)

Fair point.

But I never said being my temper came out in relationships..

Maybe I have got my wires crossed with the thread ?

I'd like to think nobody enjoys getting angry(I don't) but then you will be faced with occasions over anyone's life when people will just try and have you over.

Sometimes you need to lose the plot to set a bench mark to them and others that you really won't stand for it."

Don't worry that was my point, not accusing you....I was just trying to point out the difference between lashing out and expressing justifiable anger. The latter is healthy, the former isn't.

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