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By *es-s OP   Man
over a year ago

Rugby

Why do people put, i/we have had three messages if you have not had a reply take it i/we are not interested. Surely a thanks but no thanks reply would be better. I mean how long does it take to have the decency to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot longer than it takes the author of the 'Hey x' scatter gun message. Which I have stupidly been replying to this morning.

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By *es-s OP   Man
over a year ago

Rugby

I'm perhaps old school and think manners costs nothing it's not like you get charged for replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there,

I am going to sum up the answers you are going to receive to this post:

1- If you look at the facts section, you will see that no reply should be treated as a "thanks, but no thanks."

2- Women and couples get lots and lots of messages. It takes a lot of time to go through them...more time than it is worth for some.

3- Did you read their profile? Did you meet all of their requirements? If not, then why should they have to reply to you?

4- Do you reply to unsolicited mail you get in your mailbox at home? Probably not. And that is how many people see their inbox here.

5- Some people think it is rude not to reply, others don't. So expect both courses of action.

6- Have you done a forum search to see all of the other replies to people who have asked this question? It would save your time.

I say this to you because you need to work within the framework of the site if you want to get the most out of it. It doesn't make it right that you get no reply. Then again, it doesn't make it right that we have 30 cock pics in our inbox at any given time.

I hope you find this helpful. Don't expect replies and then you won't be disappointed. Everyone on here has sent out messages that don't get answered. Such is life on fab.

Best of luck moving forward.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Old school? Maybe. Neive? Definitely. Unaware of the fab rules of decorum? Probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm perhaps old school and think manners costs nothing it's not like you get charged for replies"

Behaving so entitled won't get you very far. Don't have expectations of strangers, you'll find it easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't fret about it. Fab rules say it's not impolite or rude, you'll get used to being ignored

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Why do people put, i/we have had three messages if you have not had a reply take it i/we are not interested. Surely a thanks but no thanks reply would be better. I mean how long does it take to have the decency to reply. "

We ask in our profile that people take no reply as a polite no thank you. Are you suggesting that we have no manners or decency? Could you explain why a message saying no thank you is more decent and polite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great reply with a fantastico rant

i hope that clears up the no reply issue x

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By *es-s OP   Man
over a year ago

Rugby

Can I say it wasn't me I would write once and leave well alone but this girl is putting the comments on her status so just made me think how rude not to have the decency to reply. Unsolicited is different from being on a site such as these

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

If you reply it opens up your filters so if you decide to block single men, for example, they can still message.

That's why I don't reply.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Can I say it wasn't me I would write once and leave well alone but this girl is putting the comments on her status so just made me think how rude not to have the decency to reply. Unsolicited is different from being on a site such as these"

You're referring to one person's status then? Without knowing the background I can't comment but sometimes the same person will send many messages and even a firm "no thank you" encourages them, we block in that case but maybe this lady didn't want to do that and risk a thread being started asking "why was I blocked?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the amount of messages some get that means some aren't replied to.

Some just don't have the time, real life gets in the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I say it wasn't me I would write once and leave well alone but this girl is putting the comments on her status so just made me think how rude not to have the decency to reply. Unsolicited is different from being on a site such as these"

I find it helpful to think of all my messages as junk mail whether it's to a friend on here or a stranger. If someone wants to chat with you they will, otherwise your message will be ignored, forgotten about or deleted. It is a much better investment to only concern yourself with those who are interested in conversing with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I say it wasn't me I would write once and leave well alone but this girl is putting the comments on her status so just made me think how rude not to have the decency to reply. Unsolicited is different from being on a site such as these"

Read the abovek

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Can I say it wasn't me I would write once and leave well alone but this girl is putting the comments on her status so just made me think how rude not to have the decency to reply. Unsolicited is different from being on a site such as these"

In that scenario it could be deemed rude that they are desperately harassing her it depends on perspective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They get millions of emails aday, it would be a full time job sending out no thanks email lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's piss easy to reply to all first mails. No problem being polite here.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"It's piss easy to reply to all first mails. No problem being polite here. "

ffs woman, you have not replied to any one of my countless "Fancy a fuck" messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there,

I am going to sum up the answers you are going to receive to this post:

1- If you look at the facts section, you will see that no reply should be treated as a "thanks, but no thanks."

2- Women and couples get lots and lots of messages. It takes a lot of time to go through them...more time than it is worth for some.

3- Did you read their profile? Did you meet all of their requirements? If not, then why should they have to reply to you?

4- Do you reply to unsolicited mail you get in your mailbox at home? Probably not. And that is how many people see their inbox here.

5- Some people think it is rude not to reply, others don't. So expect both courses of action.

6- Have you done a forum search to see all of the other replies to people who have asked this question? It would save your time.

I say this to you because you need to work within the framework of the site if you want to get the most out of it. It doesn't make it right that you get no reply. Then again, it doesn't make it right that we have 30 cock pics in our inbox at any given time.

I hope you find this helpful. Don't expect replies and then you won't be disappointed. Everyone on here has sent out messages that don't get answered. Such is life on fab.

Best of luck moving forward.

-Courtney "

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Can I say it wasn't me I would write once and leave well alone but this girl is putting the comments on her status so just made me think how rude not to have the decency to reply. Unsolicited is different from being on a site such as these"

Of course it wasn't...

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