FabSwingers.com forum: No.1 Reason for people leaving the site

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I ask because I notice many times profiles which caught my eye disappearing all of a sudden (though I'm aware they could just be fakes), and have chatted to many women over the years who said they weren't sure they wanted to continue using the site.

It's a bit of a Catch 22 question really, as I can't ask it to people who are of course no longer here. For those who've been around a while, what would you assume is the main reason not many ladies stick around?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...and of because the profile title states 'people' and not just women, the question relates to males and couples too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they don't want to be on the site anymore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get bored easily.

Or pissed off with the whole thing

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Life. Real life comes first so if I don't have time or energy I step away from this site

Bounce back though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you will find that most of them get sick of really pushy guys. Fed up with really rude people. Sick suggestions.

And a lot just take a break.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For different age groups .

18 - 30 . They find a relationship in the non swinging world and settle down .

30 -45 . They become disillusioned with NSA and don't find what they are looking for .

45+ .Rarely leave if been on over a year .

These are our observations from the 4 years we have been in this lifestyle .

Other thoughts are equally as relevant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For different age groups .

18 - 30 . They find a relationship in the non swinging world and settle down .

30 -45 . They become disillusioned with NSA and don't find what they are looking for .

45+ .Rarely leave if been on over a year .

These are our observations from the 4 years we have been in this lifestyle .

Other thoughts are equally as relevant

This was obviously with respect to single women and single guys .

With couples it is often because one partner enjoys it more than the other , having kids , and feeling the itch has been scratched ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a couples profile and were swinging for over ten years. Many of them on this site. We came off because of (in our opinion) the change in site to a more 'social' then swinging site.

There have always been fakes and time wasters etc, but the number who just use the site as an adult Facebook (nothing wrong with that just not for us) increased greatly.

Also the (unfortunately understandable) imbalance of male to female/couples tends to make things 'unrealistic. If it were the other way around (more ladies then men, I am sure it would be just the same). This tends to make the 'major player' often not put 'effort' into things. This is NOT a dig a ladies. More an unfortunately natural tendency. (A buyers market makes them have more 'power'. They can be 'brash'/pushy. All they do is move on to the many more waiting.

This always, how ever way around it is will cause this effect. To us this is not swinging.

Just our viewpoint nothing more.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've noticed a lot of men who join, don't get sex after 2 weeks, ask for help, get it, don't act on it and then leave.

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London

"For different age groups .

18 - 30 . They find a relationship in the non swinging world and settle down .

30 -45 . They become disillusioned with NSA and don't find what they are looking for .

45+ .Rarely leave if been on over a year .

These are our observations from the 4 years we have been in this lifestyle .

Other thoughts are equally as relevant

This was obviously with respect to single women and single guys .

With couples it is often because one partner enjoys it more than the other , having kids , and feeling the itch has been scratched ,"

Yes this makes perfect sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For different age groups .

18 - 30 . They find a relationship in the non swinging world and settle down .

30 -45 . They become disillusioned with NSA and don't find what they are looking for .

45+ .Rarely leave if been on over a year .

These are our observations from the 4 years we have been in this lifestyle .

Other thoughts are equally as relevant

This was obviously with respect to single women and single guys .

With couples it is often because one partner enjoys it more than the other , having kids , and feeling the itch has been scratched ,"

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Maybe quite a few men leave because they didn't get laid. I think some females leave as they get inundated with messages which they find too sleazy and put them off men on this site. Others maybe get caught out by their partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men leave because they don't get any reply's and women leave because of the type of messages they get off pervy men.

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By *ony HardcockMan
over a year ago

Shepperton

It may not be for them. But hope you find what you are looking for OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I leave when I want a complete break and want to start afresh. No one says or does anything to make me leave.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've never left. I just log out when I'm done. It's pretty straightforward, there's a button and everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never left. I just log out when I'm done. It's pretty straightforward, there's a button and everything.

Bullshit. The log out button is an urban myth

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

The one female friend I introduced left because of all the unpleasant cock pics everywhere (the majority are crude and uninviting it has to be said).

The 'nice young men' I know either get back into a relationship, or find it all a bit distasteful and not worth the effort anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two people I have communicated with today have left - one never responded, the other one says she left because she couldn't read 200+ messages per day (but we're still chatting on Kik). Seems genuine though photos look a bit photoshopped to me....

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

Dors anyone know what happened to op4f. Even the thread they wrote about leaving has gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive thought about leaving a few times. Its usually because i cba but i just log off instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive left before because I got criticised for actually meeting people but I put up with it now I dont .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you will find that most of them get sick of really pushy guys. Fed up with really rude people. Sick suggestions.

And a lot just take a break."

this i couldnt have put it better myself

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I think you will find that most of them get sick of really pushy guys. Fed up with really rude people. Sick suggestions.

And a lot just take a break."

It's probably unwise and unhelpful to make assumptions about others' motives for leaving

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Think every one change site,s we left one to join here see plenty of profiles from people that was on that site we find this the best by far

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Men leave because they don't get any reply's and women leave because of the type of messages they get off pervy men."

Haha this person left!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they have a life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For different age groups .

18 - 30 . They find a relationship in the non swinging world and settle down .

30 -45 . They become disillusioned with NSA and don't find what they are looking for .

45+ .Rarely leave if been on over a year .

These are our observations from the 4 years we have been in this lifestyle .

Other thoughts are equally as relevant

This was obviously with respect to single women and single guys .

With couples it is often because one partner enjoys it more than the other , having kids , and feeling the itch has been scratched ,"

That seems a decent summary from observing people coming and going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it ironic that two who replied to this thread have since left the site.

I believe many people have unrealistic expectations when they join a site like this. They construct a poor profile and expect to hit the jackpot almost instantly.

Females get bombarded with mail on here and it's so overwhelming for some they can't be bothered with it all. Couples not as much but still lots of messages from completely unsuitable people.

Straight males get messages from gay and bi males because so many so called straight males lie about their sexuality on here.

There's many more reasons fakes, timewasters etc only the UNLOS knows for certain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coz they have a life? Or just get bored of this site lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried to leave and lasted 24hrs lol

Just came back as the same name and had to repay subscription

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I find it ironic that two who replied to this thread have since left the site.

I believe many people have unrealistic expectations when they join a site like this. They construct a poor profile and expect to hit the jackpot almost instantly.

Females get bombarded with mail on here and it's so overwhelming for some they can't be bothered with it all. Couples not as much but still lots of messages from completely unsuitable people.

Straight males get messages from gay and bi males because so many so called straight males lie about their sexuality on here.

There's many more reasons fakes, timewasters etc only the UNLOS knows for certain. "

All of the above do occur I'm sure but are not necessarily reasons for leaving the site, especially when they learn to use message filters properly.

It's probably wiser, as you indicate in your final sentence, to hear from those who decided to leave but have rejoined the site.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"I tried to leave and lasted 24hrs lol

Just came back as the same name and had to repay subscription

No you chose to repay the site supporter contribution.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Because they have a life?"

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tried to leave and lasted 24hrs lol

Just came back as the same name and had to repay subscription

No you chose to repay the site supporter contribution.

Yes ok I choose lol

And it was ages before i could get onto forum. ..

I, ll admit it

I missed forum lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

From what I see, if someone has been on three months or less its because its not for them.

Long stayers because of life events, they get in to a relationship, or something more important comes up or they've moved on.

Unless someone tells you a reason you will never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have left and come back a few times, and always the reason is the same one..

TIMEWASTERS!

and I am sure a lot of other people leave for the same reason...

this stint is actually my longest for a while so I must be getting more tolerant as I get older

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've left before. Just that moment where you think,what am I doing here? A self pitying what's the point or, it's time to get on with real life and not dreaming . Everyone's got their own reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like a jungle sometimes,

It makes me wonder

How I keep myself,

From goin'under...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they get bored of trying to get meets here, as there are to many dreamers behind the keyboard, although I have never left, as I just use the forum and don't get caught up in the drama like some do lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they get bored of trying to get meets here, as there are to many dreamers behind the keyboard, although I have never left, as I just use the forum and don't get caught up in the drama like some do lol."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have thought of leaving after 6 months. A friend of mine has also considered it. Main reason is Fakes and Timewasters and nobody seems to care as long as the business figures look good. There is the argument about too many Males. Why not do as the clubs do ? On the basis of number of Single girls Married couples and Single men (after cutting out the fakes).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still in touch with a woman that has left the site for 2 reasons. First of all she wanted to experience another woman and 'has scratched that itch'. The second reason was all the messages she got off guys even though her profile clearly stated she was looking for women only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they have a life?

Exactly!

What exactly is wrong with incorporating fab in your life ?

Is there a suggestion that being in fab means you don't have a life ?

Sorry , but I take exception to this .

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By *andm288Couple
over a year ago

oxford

"It's like a jungle sometimes,

It makes me wonder

How I keep myself,

From goin'under...

In the jungle the quiet jungle a

Lion sleeps tonight

PMSL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to add;

I've only rejoined recently and my days here look numbered already lol whereas I enjoy the forums and do message back and forth with a couple of other users, I've just about been around my whole city already and I don't seem to be what anyone's looking for.

Can't do much about that but then if I just make my profile dormant for a year and come back, then users just make up their own minds as to why I have no verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I closed my single profile down. "The Spartan 300". Only because as a single profile it became pointless. I have a couples profile with my FB that I am more than happy with and sexually we are so compatible. Would I find better? I think that is highly unlikely.

She also plays with girls so entitled to have a single profile and we also play with girls together.

Have I left. In a way I have. As I no longer solely arrange meets. Do I still still go to clubs and parties and meet with girls with the FB.

ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY!!!!!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Who the fuck knows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get bored easily.

Or pissed off with the whole thing"

It's the longest I have been on here.

I also get bored and leave, then months later rejoin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just can't handle rejection...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deleting is the only way to reset your filters and start afresh with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ask because I notice many times profiles which caught my eye disappearing all of a sudden (though I'm aware they could just be fakes), and have chatted to many women over the years who said they weren't sure they wanted to continue using the site.

I often find it a bit to sexually aggressive. And the amount of rude disrespectful messages you can get from some single men is just too much.

It kind of spoils it and makes it not fun and a bit of a hassle. In my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they have a life?

Exactly!

What exactly is wrong with incorporating fab in your life ?

Is there a suggestion that being in fab means you don't have a life ?

Sorry , but I take exception to this .

No that wasn't what i was implying at all! I simply meant that outside life was probably more likely to be the reason rather than something happening on here which is what others tend to suggest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they have a life?

Exactly!

What exactly is wrong with incorporating fab in your life ?

Is there a suggestion that being in fab means you don't have a life ?

Sorry , but I take exception to this .

No that wasn't what i was implying at all! I simply meant that outside life was probably more likely to be the reason rather than something happening on here which is what others tend to suggest.

Ah well sorry for the misunderstanding .

We kinda like fab being part of our life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they have a life?

Exactly!

What exactly is wrong with incorporating fab in your life ?

Is there a suggestion that being in fab means you don't have a life ?

Sorry , but I take exception to this .

No that wasn't what i was implying at all! I simply meant that outside life was probably more likely to be the reason rather than something happening on here which is what others tend to suggest.

Ah well sorry for the misunderstanding .

We kinda like fab being part of our life

Me too....otherwise i wouldn't be here.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I asked a similar question a while ago what would make you leave,

The majority of single ladies said , if they found a relationship.. I think a lot of guys said when it stopped being fun.

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Belfast

They're usually back, 5 minutes later with a new profile.

Silly, really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think its the growing amount of time wasters on this site and i myself have thought of leaving because of this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit I have thought about it as my situation not help I have no verification but ended up staying as some where out there has to be,at least one looking for same thing.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"I'm still in touch with a woman that has left the site for 2 reasons. First of all she wanted to experience another woman and 'has scratched that itch'. The second reason was all the messages she got off guys even though her profile clearly stated she was looking for women only "

Theres filters to block that from happening so that's easy sorted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may sound daft question but if you read her profile why did you contact her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may sound daft question but if you read her profile why did you contact her?"

She contacted me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres filters to block that from happening so that's easy sorted. "

She didn't want to use filters as she is quite a chatty person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres filters to block that from happening so that's easy sorted. "

Its a bit of a shame when you have to block guys because of the hassle of some of them. Or end up with a block list a mile long. But unfortunately thats the way it ends up going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been on here 4 years. But is too much effort partly our own fault admittedly. But time is scare. Will be deleting in the morning.

Au Revoir

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