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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The majority of us are on this site for one reason alone; sexual exploration, others are here to find a FB or just for NSA sex but I started thinking about my motives this morning and what would make me change my 'needs'.

I joined fab after my marriage broke down, I cant deal with another relationship so I use fab as a means of maintaining the closeness at a distance. But if the 'right' woman came along would I change?

So fellow fabbers my very long and circuitous question is this, why are you here and what would make you change what you're seeking or even leave all together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im only here for the cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much the same as you op, including the broken down marriage, but with a little more emphasis on the exploration side of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the 10% off Love Honey

Oh and I might get a bit of sexy fun along the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much the same as you OP, mind you I've been fliting in and out of fab for years, not playing just looking.

It's been a year next week that we split up and I've been on the lookout for a partner in crime for a while, but I'm not sure if I did find a vanilla guy, what I would do about swinging, at the moment I'm still feeling very selfish but then saying that if a vanilla person came along that I feel head over heels for I don't know:

If it was a swinger on the other hand: well who knows!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pretty much the same as you op, including the broken down marriage, but with a little more emphasis on the exploration side of things.

What would make you rethink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here to have fun and try new things with Marc.

I'll stop when/if it's no longer fun. Or if Marc wants to stop.

-Courtney

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've been kicking around almost ten years after coming across the swinging world by accident. I dare say I'll be kicking around for another ten.

I'm not meeting at the moment after a bad relationship, my mojo has disappea_ed. It'll come back eventually. I hope.

I think I'm a commitment phobic. I don't think I'm cut out for relationships. I've lived alone since I moved out of my parents house and I've never had any desire to get married. I'd never say never but I think unlikely is probably accurate.

That sounds a bit sad when I read it back but I like my life. I'm genuinely happy. I don't ever feel lonely. I suit myself and I think that's probably a massive part of my inability to share my life with someone on a full time basis. I'm too independent, too set in my ways and I've never found someone I want to give all of that up for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Came here on the recommendation of a friend

Was post relationship and feeling sorry for myself

Not feeling sorry for myself now!

Would leave if I met the lady of my dreams and she wanted monogamy

Might stay for the forums tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pretty much the same as you op, including the broken down marriage, but with a little more emphasis on the exploration side of things.

What would make you rethink?"

If I met someone I would stop if they wanted me to, but we would have to be able to fulfil that need for each other. I couldn't consider someone vanilla again as it wouldn't be sustainable.

I'm not looking for someone but I'm not opposed to it happening if the right person came along, and I'd prefer them to be from here rather than the vanilla world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very similar in the respect that due to my marriage ending, I ventu_ed back to Fab. I have been here on and off for 9 years and have been a "swinger" since I was 18. Have done clubs and everything I would like to try so am now here to chat to old friends and maybe fine new ones.

Saying that, should someone come along that I fell head over heels for, I would give up the scene if they asked me too.

My ex and I met here so have done the relationship with a like minded person. I know a few people it has worked for but for me personally it did not. He asked for a vanilla relationship so I gave up meeting etc but I have since found out that all of his affairs have been with ladies from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment I'm not sure what I want.

I miss having someone special in my life, nsa sex is losing its appeal.

I think I've lost my mojo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here because I want to be kissed. I want to be close to a naked man. I have a gap in my life,actually a huge void and I'm trying to slowly fill it. I'm too ti_ed for a relationship that will no doubt drain what emotional energy I have left and I have no desire to be someone's crutch any more. I'll have the sex and good conversation thank you

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"I'm here because I want to be kissed. I want to be close to a naked man. I have a gap in my life,actually a huge void and I'm trying to slowly fill it. I'm too ti_ed for a relationship that will no doubt drain what emotional energy I have left and I have no desire to be someone's crutch any more. I'll have the sex and good conversation thank you "

This sounds about right. Couldn't face heartbreak again. I want to concentrate on my boys as much as I can but still have fun & explore myself. Fab is suiting my needs right now

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"The majority of us are on this site for one reason alone; sexual exploration, others are here to find a FB or just for NSA sex but I started thinking about my motives this morning and what would make me change my 'needs'.

So fellow fabbers my very long and circuitous question is this, why are you here and what would make you change what you're seeking or even leave all together?"

I am finishing my thesis; am nearly there

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I'm on here because Sydney University asked me to do some research for them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on here because Sydney University asked me to do some research for them! "

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I'm on here because Sydney University asked me to do some research for them! "

Howdy pardner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds about right. Couldn't face heartbreak again. I want to concentrate on my boys as much as I can but still have fun & explore myself. Fab is suiting my needs right now "

The huge void isn't my vagina by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here as a decoy.....

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By *uxom _edCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I'm really bad at working spotting the signs that people may want sex with me. Red.

Joined to fulfill a birthday with for Dicks 40 th to see me with a woman...he's had that now time to sort out another present

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This sounds about right. Couldn't face heartbreak again. I want to concentrate on my boys as much as I can but still have fun & explore myself. Fab is suiting my needs right now "

Morning lovely x

I find it interesting how many people 'fell' into this after relationship breakdowns etc. I've found myself saying never again time and time, but I do wonder if I mean that truely

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

This sounds about right. Couldn't face heartbreak again. I want to concentrate on my boys as much as I can but still have fun & explore myself. Fab is suiting my needs right now

The huge void isn't my vagina by the way

So, BBC, BWC, VWE averse, huh?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i came on here after 4 1/2 years of celibacy, and a launching of myself as a single in the club scene, i heard about this place on my first night out, so joined immediately. i had no expectations, apart from keeping in contact with those i had met that night.

the first weeks were overwhelming, but i found a social life, friends and started on my own journey of exploration. always been adventurous and minxy, even with long term partners, i was surprised by my experience, being honest. im taking my time, i like journey and connection with people. i know what its like to have loved and i am not fearful of it. i would not suit a vanilla relationship but one that stemmed from here into swinging couple is possible. Never say never, id want to share the social/playing scene of clubs now and the use of furniture and hot tubs etc..its far too much fun , not too, at this time. it would take someone who wanted me to be their primary relationship,base the relationship on self awareness and freedom, rather than security and want totally the same things.. that although they could have it all, they'd rather be with me in life, than apart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds about right. Couldn't face heartbreak again. I want to concentrate on my boys as much as I can but still have fun & explore myself. Fab is suiting my needs right now

Morning lovely x

I find it interesting how many people 'fell' into this after relationship breakdowns etc. I've found myself saying never again time and time, but I do wonder if I mean that truely"

I don't know if I could ever really be in a 'proper' relationship full term again

I miss all those couply things but I think after a while I would get bo_ed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do think that I miss all the couples things but I find it hard to imagine being with someone like that again

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I came on here with the idea of finding people to have some fun with because it just felt like the right time in my life for that. It turned out that it wasn't the right thing for me to be doing at all. In the end as it turned out, I just ended up finding myself (figuratively speaking).

Fab has been a strange old trip of self discovery and of restoring my faith in people. And finally after all that, I get the feeling those fun times I initially dreamt of are actually now going to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds about right. Couldn't face heartbreak again. I want to concentrate on my boys as much as I can but still have fun & explore myself. Fab is suiting my needs right now

Morning lovely x

I find it interesting how many people 'fell' into this after relationship breakdowns etc. I've found myself saying never again time and time, but I do wonder if I mean that truely"

I'm here and elsewhere on the internet for the sex and passion that was lacking in my long relationship. I don't want to die never experiencing it. I'm having little snippets of it which is quenching my thirst a little. There is still something missing,possibly the feeling of being loved and desi_ed by a partner. I like being able to flit from man to man,taking what I need from each. I give a lot back,I'm not totally selfish. I can't imagine having the role of wife again,I feel I've out grown that,or my interpretation of that at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds about right. Couldn't face heartbreak again. I want to concentrate on my boys as much as I can but still have fun & explore myself. Fab is suiting my needs right now

The huge void isn't my vagina by the way

So, BBC, BWC, VWE averse, huh?

I try to avoid but needs must

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I am here mainly for the parties and clubs. I cannot maintain a relationship (I was told I was undateable and I believed them) and so I will continue to do what I enjoy and if I get a little bit of intimacy along the way then great. I don't think that will change. I am not sure I would want it to. I have some baggage (don't we all) and I have wasted enough time trying to find a partner who will accept me baggage and all. I am reasonably happy with my lot in life and have accepted I will die alone. I need to get me some cats.

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

I've got a cat. (And a dog)

Seriously though I could have written this post, as many others could no doubt.

I'm enjoying my new found freedom at the moment but I would like to find a partner at some point, if we both ticked each other's non-fab boxes too.

Mainly a lust for travel and general fun...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are here on our personal journey of sexual exploration .

We decided 4 years ago to try everything at least twice on a sexual,level , and here we are .

Many things we've done , we do again and again as we truly enjoy them .

And there's still plenty more things to do so we will continue our journey until we are totally fulfilled .

If we get to the point that we are no longer enjoying ourselves , we will stop . But I can't see that happening !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've got a cat. (And a dog)

Seriously though I could have written this post, as many others could no doubt.

I'm enjoying my new found freedom at the moment but I would like to find a partner at some point, if we both ticked each other's non-fab boxes too.

Mainly a lust for travel and general fun... "

I find it interesting that some get into this as a means to an end, namely sexual satisfaction in the absence of a partner, but then this lifestyle then prevents or at the least precludes a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here to find a relationship with someone who has a sex drive that can keep up with mine and be more open minded rather than going through loads of boring vanilla relationships. I'm going to have fun and play in the meantime until I find her.

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

"For the 10% off Love Honey

Oh and I might get a bit of sexy fun along the way

Well of your interested just in the discount..

Try secondhandmuchusedandabusedsextoys.com

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Started only wanting uncomplicated, NSA then realised I miss being in a relationship.

After a lot of thought, realise I want an open relationship with a submissive partner. I want what so many wonderful couples on here appear to have; great sex, communication, openness, friendship and more great sex

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

"I've got a cat. (And a dog)

Seriously though I could have written this post, as many others could no doubt.

I'm enjoying my new found freedom at the moment but I would like to find a partner at some point, if we both ticked each other's non-fab boxes too.

Mainly a lust for travel and general fun...

I find it interesting that some get into this as a means to an end, namely sexual satisfaction in the absence of a partner, but then this lifestyle then prevents or at the least precludes a partner"

Unless it's a partner from fab..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's really interesting finding out why people are here - I think for the people that are genuinely single or part of a swinging couple then it's different for the married / attached that are here for instashag!

I say that without judgement

For me - I joined from the recommendation of someone from another site.

I was bo_ed and lonely and felt like this would have something to offer me.

But like most singles on here - I would give it all up for someone special.

And if I'm completely honest I don't think I would swing with a partner that I sha_ed my life with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's coming upto two years since my break up and I joined the site on recommendation from a friend. It's suits my needs as I don't want a relationship for a long while yet and swinging has given me a lot more confidence to try things I wouldn't of otherwise experienced. I'm enjoying the social side a lot as well as increasing my club visits and I have met a lot of really lovely people whom otherwise I would never of met so for that I'm grateful.

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