FabSwingers.com forum: Men don't understand concept of threesome

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it some men when you invite for threesome. They think they are going to be only male in bedroom, expect other male to stay in living room or got out for drink.

What part of threesome don't they understand, apart from obvious he is also there to ensure no foul play and condoms stay on, not slip off when licking pussy !!!!!!!!!!

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

For me threesomes with two men involve them fucking each other too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me threesomes with two men involve them fucking each other too"

That's my kinda threesome

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I would assume the set up would be discussed in advance. If they're still clueless after that, well, they're dumb.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Him that posted this thread is bi so no problem .

Had a meet for threesome and the man asked him why staying ? Was speechless. .for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Him that posted this thread is bi so no problem .

Had a meet for threesome and the man asked him why staying ? Was speechless. .for a while "

Didnt you kick him out? No respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you look at him dumbfounded and tell him to count the people in the room?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes we did and checked messages and it was all set out what was wanted ..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"For me threesomes with two men involve them fucking each other too"

There's no other right way to do it is there?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Him that posted this thread is bi so no problem .

Had a meet for threesome and the man asked him why staying ? Was speechless. .for a while "

Did you discuss expectations before?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also they notice he's staying then they have performance problems lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also they notice he's staying then they have performance problems lol"

Sounds like you need to review your selection process

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We do now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me threesomes with two men involve them fucking each other too"

I'm fine with that as long as the only person I'm kissing is female.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Also they notice he's staying then they have performance problems lol"

That happens to lots of men, it isn't really something to be laughed at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me threesomes with two men involve them fucking each other too"

Thay's fine for you to say but it's a pain in the arse for some. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you look at him dumbfounded and tell him to count the people in the room?"

Too speechless then laughed totally killed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it depends who you invite, if you are straight you only expect to fuck the woman lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well it depends who you invite, if you are straight you only expect to fuck the woman lol."

It was on profile he's bi but now he's so fed up he's taken that off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite enjoy a 3some personally. Never had a ffm but quite a few mmf and get iff on watching the fem with the 2 of us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Men. ..he starts a thread ,tells me and then says leave you to it off to bed ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men. ..he starts a thread ,tells me and then says leave you to it off to bed ..

Men, can't live with us, can't shoot us. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Men. ..he starts a thread ,tells me and then says leave you to it off to bed ..

Men, can't live with us, can't shoot us. Lol"

Totally true, mind you he says that about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it depends who you invite, if you are straight you only expect to fuck the woman lol.

It was on profile he's bi but now he's so fed up he's taken that off "
Ah yes I see, maibe he was just curious but changed his mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well it depends who you invite, if you are straight you only expect to fuck the woman lol.

It was on profile he's bi but now he's so fed up he's taken that off Ah yes I see, maibe he was just curious but changed his mind."

No he's had quite a bit of experience

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Men. ..he starts a thread ,tells me and then says leave you to it off to bed ..

Men, can't live with us, can't shoot us. Lol"

We can.....and blame PMT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it depends who you invite, if you are straight you only expect to fuck the woman lol.

It was on profile he's bi but now he's so fed up he's taken that off Ah yes I see, maibe he was just curious but changed his mind.

No he's had quite a bit of experience "

He might not have found mr attractive...at least you took one for the team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men. ..he starts a thread ,tells me and then says leave you to it off to bed ..

Men, can't live with us, can't shoot us. Lol

We can.....and blame PMT

Oi not nice sparkles. Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it depends who you invite, if you are straight you only expect to fuck the woman lol.

It was on profile he's bi but now he's so fed up he's taken that off Ah yes I see, maibe he was just curious but changed his mind.

No he's had quite a bit of experience "
I see, yeah that is one hard nut to crack lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well it depends who you invite, if you are straight you only expect to fuck the woman lol.

It was on profile he's bi but now he's so fed up he's taken that off Ah yes I see, maibe he was just curious but changed his mind.

No he's had quite a bit of experience I see, yeah that is one hard nut to crack lol."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ducking ???? Ment sucking

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Men. ..he starts a thread ,tells me and then says leave you to it off to bed ..

Men, can't live with us, can't shoot us. Lol

We can.....and blame PMT

Oi not nice sparkles. Pmsl"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it depends who you invite, if you are straight you only expect to fuck the woman lol.

It was on profile he's bi but now he's so fed up he's taken that off Ah yes I see, maibe he was just curious but changed his mind.

No he's had quite a bit of experience I see, yeah that is one hard nut to crack lol.

Going to be polite so don't get into trouble .we've learnt from it and now are more selective .mind you had meets with straight men and they kept on about ducking another man. .It's really strange at times on here "
That is right and good to be selective as well, yeah I recon many select what they are not on their profiles maibe lol at ducking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me threesomes with two men involve them fucking each other too

That's my kinda threesome

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So does this happen to you every time? (thread title says men not man)

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We only select bi men and they play with Mr first, just to make sure they really are bi, but not every bi man,,,, we both have to have an attraction and would expect the same rom him too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So does this happen to you every time? (thread title says men not man) "

Had it happen couple of times .one time I think he made him nervous

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mind you one messaged the other day wanted three some and actually asked if would just be me and him while my fb stayed in other room .

Didn't bother replying just blocked

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Maybe you're selecting the wrong sort of guys!

Try something different. Might be very pleasantly surprised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's happening often I think it may be worth looking at a more strict vetting process.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Going to leave it to him that way any problems I don't get it in the neck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going to leave it to him that way any problems I don't get it in the neck

Well good luck!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There used to be a spate of fake bi guys pretending to like guys and then of course failing to deliver. But sharing a room with others is standard even when there's no bi interest or action planned.

As well as texting I think you have to speak on the phone with them, and gauge how honest and uncontrived their responses are.

Never underestimate the levels of deviousness Orr stupidity of people who will try to get a shag. I recently had someone say he wouldn't read my profile but he'd like me to tell him about myself and what I like - in the same sentence from him! He had a one sentence profile, illustrating his level of invested effort. Blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Going to leave it to him that way any problems I don't get it in the neck

Well good luck! "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There used to be a spate of fake bi guys pretending to like guys and then of course failing to deliver. But sharing a room with others is standard even when there's no bi interest or action planned.

As well as texting I think you have to speak on the phone with them, and gauge how honest and uncontrived their responses are.

Sorry to hear that .now having a social first to break ice and make sure we all know and understand what we want if we decide to meet again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be very good in a threesum, I'm not good at multitasking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the difference between a 'straight' guy and a 'bi' guy is?

Roughly four pints of beer, in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had problems with single guys in threesomes. Not all but some. They just don't know how to share and try to just 'take over'. Bi guys, we have had no problem with. The ones that 'don't play nice, get shown the door. A threesome is just that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that's the problem, isn't it? The not sharing. That's why we do socials first. It's like an interview.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not expecting the male partner to be involved is ridiculous. I thought that was the whole idea. And asking why he was staying shows immaturity and a lack of manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me threesomes with two men involve them fucking each other too"

Yes that's our favourite kind of 3sum too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always confirm what you would like to happen, not scrip it, but would like, DP, spit roast, MM 69, M to fuck her whilst M is fucking him.... all what you want and of course what you don't want.

If it's two MM for the F and no bi stuff, then that's what it is.

Just becouse a man is bi, they don't jump on men, if it's a straight play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it some men when you invite for threesome. They think they are going to be only male in bedroom, expect other male to stay in living room or got out for drink.

What part of threesome don't they understand, apart from obvious he is also there to ensure no foul play and condoms stay on, not slip off when licking pussy !!!!!!!!!!"
some men are silly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am straight and have we had a 3sum with a bi guy from here ,we asked if he played straight ,he does,everything is cool,meeting again on monday,surely being bi gives you that option

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

People don't always read profiles. The number of people who ask what are we into, without even knowing the basics from our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this thread should be called A MAN didnt understand threesome not men. Im pretty sure the massive majority of men know what a threesome is. Definately foes NOT have to include the guys fucking each other though. Each to thier own but not on our meets thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this thread should be called A MAN didnt understand threesome not men. Im pretty sure the massive majority of men know what a threesome is. Definately foes NOT have to include the guys fucking each other though. Each to thier own but not on our meets thanks

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hehe this without spelling mistakes hehe Hal kayeeda

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As I said early on the male half decided to post this thread and then leave me to it .yes should be man not men but he was in a grump .to be fair as others have said some not all men don't read profile before messaging and can be very immature.

Now I need him to either take over the answering as I've got work or take down thread .thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit I am often surprised by some of the men on here and other sites.

A 3some is just that. Mfm,mmf,fmf etc. Not mf with the other m sat in another room!

I remember a man posting on a similar thread that he would never stick his cock in a pussy that another cock had recently vacated.

Which I thought was very strange as this is a swinging site! Some people, probably not just men, do not understand the dynamics.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Him that posted this thread is bi so no problem .

Had a meet for threesome and the man asked him why staying ? Was speechless. .for a while "

If I ever have a two-some with him, I'll leave; he can then be the w**ker that he really is

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By *asmartsCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

I'm the male of the couple, for me the best threesome is a MMF, its all about the lady for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me threesomes with two men involve them fucking each other too

That's my kinda threesome

And mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's what I've always said. Love seeing the females expressions and sounds when she's close. Male half of thread up now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had that in a hotel meet at Lincoln, young guy asked hubby if he'd go to the bar and leave us alone after we all agreed it was a straight MMF 3 some. Don't think so was our reply. He upped and left. His loss and we still had fun together.

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

"I quite enjoy a 3some personally. Never had a ffm but quite a few mmf and get iff on watching the fem with the 2 of us"

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

"And that's the problem, isn't it? The not sharing. That's why we do socials first. It's like an interview."

It is all about the sharing, ensuring everyone is getting something out of it and all are gaining.

There does not have to be M on M action (not my thing) but you have to be comfortable and ensure the other guy(s) in MFM are gaining out of the group thing too.

Not for the homophobic or guys just after a shag that don't consider the others in the group, or worse, pretend to be into a 3 some to gain access for 1 on 1

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have to admit I am often surprised by some of the men on here and other sites.

A 3some is just that. Mfm,mmf,fmf etc. Not mf with the other m sat in another room!

I remember a man posting on a similar thread that he would never

stick his cock in a pussy that another cock had recently vacated.

Which I thought was very strange as this is a swinging site! Some people, probably not just men, do not understand the dynamics."

I love licking a pussy after a cock has been in the clit is lovely and swollen and more sensitive ??

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By *ery curious maleMan
over a year ago

Bishop Auckland

Some guys act as though it's all about them. I have had lots of 3sums with couples over the years and I like to make sure the woman is satisfied more than anything

However when it's two women and me I have to admit I let them take charge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes a threesome involves Sabrina getting all the attention and others I enjoy watching her with the other guy .

There are a multitude of possibilities within the Mmf scenario .

We go with the flow , and occasionally I may nip out of the room for a bit .

We never talk beforehand about how the meet should go . Too much planning can make the meet contrived .

So I don't know that the guy in question was totally wrong .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes a threesome involves Sabrina getting all the attention and others I enjoy watching her with the other guy .

There are a multitude of possibilities within the Mmf scenario .

We go with the flow , and occasionally I may nip out of the room for a bit .

We never talk beforehand about how the meet should go . Too much planning can make the meet contrived .

So I don't know that the guy in question was totally wrong . "

He didn't want dave involved full stop

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes a threesome involves Sabrina getting all the attention and others I enjoy watching her with the other guy .

There are a multitude of possibilities within the Mmf scenario .

We go with the flow , and occasionally I may nip out of the room for a bit .

We never talk beforehand about how the meet should go . Too much planning can make the meet contrived .

So I don't know that the guy in question was totally wrong .

He didn't want dave involved full stop "

We say from start dave will be there. If of happy why click on couples profile that say threesome. He wants one on one there are lots of lovely single ladies on here

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By *ery curious maleMan
over a year ago

Bishop Auckland

"For me threesomes with two men involve them fucking each other too

That's my kinda threesome

And mine

That sounds like a proper 3sum

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's why expectations, ground rules, boundaries and such are discussed in advance when I meet people. Makes it easier all round and a more pleasant experience.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"It's why expectations, ground rules, boundaries and such are discussed in advance when I meet people. Makes it easier all round and a more pleasant experience. "

It's really not complicated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's why expectations, ground rules, boundaries and such are discussed in advance when I meet people. Makes it easier all round and a more pleasant experience.

It's really not complicated. "

It is to some on here

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

Basically all of it we have has parties in the past where guys turn up not realise what's going on panic then leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately the swinger lifestyle has change drastically with the age of computers. No longer is it a lifestyle based ettiquete, rules and trust, it's more of a sex on demand in most peoples cases. They've seen an expose on tv and think that's how it really is and pound the internet for sex. Personally i glad i started 30 years ago in the age of the po box and had to prove my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one message today which asked if I would have a 3some but just me and the lady playing whilst the guy watched..hmm that is not a 3some in my opinion. Love the fact they didn't read my profile which says I will not do so, only ever a 3some with all parties genuinely wanting it and involved in it!

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

When I was part of a couple, at a spa we invited a young lad to be part of a threesome. He asked me to leave, because he couldn't perform with some watching, so I left the room.

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"When I was part of a couple, at a spa we invited a young lad to be part of a threesome. He asked me to leave, because he couldn't perform with some watching, so I left the room."

Oh yeh, with my woman in tow

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By *hyguyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"It's why expectations, ground rules, boundaries and such are discussed in advance when I meet people. Makes it easier all round and a more pleasant experience.

It's really not complicated.

It is to some on here "

Surely not ..... I always enjoy discussing any expectations/boundaries before a meet just to avoid any complications later ..... It's simples !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I was part of a couple, at a spa we invited a young lad to be part of a threesome. He asked me to leave, because he couldn't perform with some watching, so I left the room.

Oh yeh, with my woman in tow

Brilliant!!

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

"When I was part of a couple, at a spa we invited a young lad to be part of a threesome. He asked me to leave, because he couldn't perform with some watching, so I left the room.

Oh yeh, with my woman in tow

Brilliant!!

Very true

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By *hiterabbit69Man
over a year ago

Romford

A lot of us bi guys only really believe we're bi because we like transsexuals ??.

We're not delusional enough to believe we're straight and like a gorgeous femme cock

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By *os BobCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We have had several mmf 3somes and Bob has never left the room. We go with the flow ranging between taking turns with my lady to all in together, which includes MM oral but no anal. We think experienced swingers know exactly what to expect and what is expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me threesomes with two men involve them fucking each other too

That's my kinda threesome

And mine.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Personally I prefer the FMF 3Sum but if I was in a MFM one I don't think I'd expect the guy to leave or just watch for my pleasure. It's a 3Sum not a cuckold session FFS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love getting a bj while someone else is pumping away. Or vice versa. Threesomes are sexy, why would you want the husband to disappear?!

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