FabSwingers.com forum: Good looks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How important are they do you? Is it 'shallow' to need to find someone physically attractive before you consider getting to know them? If someone approached you in the street or bar and said hello, would you be more willing to stand and chat to them if they were handsome/beautiful rather than average or ugly?

I'm sure lots of people will answer yes looks matter, but I'm curious as to why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone approached you in the street or bar and said hello, would you be more willing to stand and chat to them if they were handsome/beautiful rather than average or ugly?

No, not being an absolute cockend I'd go by what was coming out of their mouth.

Not what it looked like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's shallow. And it's how i work on here.

Not gonna pretend anyone i meet is looking for something deep and meaningful so don't see why i should lower my standards. They're just as shallow as i am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not shallow

It's human nature to feel a physical buzz from seeing something that you find attractive

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

I'm shallow and judgmental.

For Sex I need both a mental connection and a wow looks good.

Some of my best friendships have started as 'blind online ones' so I wouldn't rule out someone based on looks but for swinging I usually react on what I can see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very important. If i can't imagine us naked together, it'll never happen. But once looks are good then they need to be smart and nice and funny. I'm easy pleased eh?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very important. If i can't imagine us naked together, it'll never happen. But once looks are good then they need to be smart and nice and funny. I'm easy pleased eh?

Makes perfect sense, I'm a believer that looks attract, personality keeps. Each can play a role in helping the other of course, and ultimately, it's the quality of the total package that counts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A million women may not find a man to be good looking. I may. A million women may find a man attractive. I may not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a young 'un it was all about looks. Now I'm older and wiser far from it, BUT of course there needs to be an attraction. But someone without conventional 'good looks' can become hugely attractive when you pull the whole package of their looks and personality together.

So my answer is yes. And no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are not important, but a personality is.

If people went by looks alone, then I would never get a chance of a meeting on here!

Lucky for me, I have met some lovely people on here, and look forward to meeting many more in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How important are they do you? Is it 'shallow' to need to find someone physically attractive before you consider getting to know them? If someone approached you in the street or bar and said hello, would you be more willing to stand and chat to them if they were handsome/beautiful rather than average or ugly?

I'm sure lots of people will answer yes looks matter, but I'm curious as to why?"

I used to go for looks all the time when I was younger, as Iv been getting older, Iv been changing my ways as much as I can.

It's easier if you see someone out as opposed to over the net.

I know who isn't my type from a picture right away. On occasion Iv not really thought they were good looking, but got talking and my mind had changed. Vice versus too, seen someone good looking who turned out to be an arrogant twat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you may get different answers from the different genders?

Obviously there has to be an attraction of some sort to attract attention.

I have played with some very attractive ladies and some perhaps not so, who is to judge on my tastes other than me? I would say it has to be the whole package to work for me. And while this is a sweetshop for most women, the majority of men on here aren't that lucky.

Some have already admitted to being shallow, but that is being honest, an attractive trait in itself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you may get different answers from the different genders?

Obviously there has to be an attraction of some sort to attract attention.

Some have already admitted to being shallow, but that is being honest, an attractive trait in itself!"

I don't find it attractive when when I see men or couples state "good looking people only"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder you can't get round it ,a smile and personality give any person an edge for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find it attractive when when I see men or couples state "good looking people only" "

Totally agree!

There are many female and couples profiles that say they are looking for 'hot' males only!

So I only message standing next to a radiator or after working hard!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I can happily talk to anyone.

However there does need to be an attraction before I will have sex with them, it can be physical or mental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very important. If i can't imagine us naked together, it'll never happen. But once looks are good then they need to be smart and nice and funny. I'm easy pleased eh?

Same with me! I'll chat to anyone - but I'll openly admit that I'm a fussy bugger when it comes to choosing sexual partners!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Everyone has their own idea as to what they find attractive. Whether you class something as goodlooking is always in the eye of the beholder. It's a wide ranging term. Certainly as I've got older my range of what I find attractive has got ever wider. Simply because I've come to appreciate the natural beauty of a woman more and the many forms that it takes.

So of course, there has to be an attraction but as always the clincher is in the person's personality and whether that's compatible with mine. A very attractive person can turn ugly very quickly just by opening their mouths or acting a certain way.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

I'm sure lots of people will answer yes looks matter, but I'm curious as to why?"

The human brain seems to be hardwired towards finding the optimum partner and as such Physical attractiveness is programmed in us,obviously there are exceptions to every rule but generally people use tha attraction level as a starting point. Apparently women want tall handsome men as partners due to the brain seeing them as the most likely to be a good hunter gatherer and therefore provider,the brain has evolved to the extent where we can usually overlook these things but it still is with in us all whether we like it or not.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

There is beauty to be found in most people, not always physical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet with people who I have some kind of connection with, rather than going on looks. Especially from online. Its easy to enhance your appearance even through lighting, make up, flattering angles, well fitted clothes etc.

Attraction is such a personal thing you cannot really judge anyone elses standards.

And realistically, no one looks their best when they are covered in sweat and doing their 'oh my god' face...

I am always reminded of that song by The Streets...fit but you know it. For me a lady could be a 10, but as soon as she starts acting like she thinks she is a 10 for me she drops straight down to about a 4...

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm a sucker for a pretty face. Shallow as a puddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this in the context of meeting for sex or just knowing each other as friends.

As you seem to be being deliberately abiguous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a sucker for a pretty face. Shallow as a puddle

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puddles can be deep look at lake Michigan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this in the context of meeting for sex or just knowing each other as friends.

As you seem to be being deliberately abiguous "

I was referring to here in that post. Apologies for any confusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this in the context of meeting for sex or just knowing each other as friends.

As you seem to be being deliberately abiguous

I was referring to here in that post. Apologies for any confusion

I meant the op not you :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure lots of people will answer yes looks matter, but I'm curious as to why?

Can i add to this?

Competitive species tend to look for partners whose child will be physically fittest, because both partners will not be investing in the children usually for it to survive and so they rely more on it being physically fit, it's usually the female that invests in the child (kind of how society was formed not long back, where couples got married, the woman stayed home and invested in the children while he went out to work). These species have high levels of testosterone, and the males are bigger than the females.

In species where both genders are similar, in terms of size, child rearing, input and behaviours overall, they do not rely on looks as much and rely on investment using themselves to rear their kids and protect them.

We have both these types of people in society.

Interesting theory anyway, i heard of it from Sapolsky, and it's based on animal observations carried over to human models. Could explain why some people are attracted to certain people and others are not. Even if you're not wanting to have children it might still affect choice. I'm not sure how levels of hormones in people affect who they're attracted to, there's theories on that too that i've seen in them in the media so other people will have heard of them too, like how women change their taste in men over the course of their menstruation.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

In the context of what the op was saying which is away from fab. Then no looks don't come into it, I will chat to anyone, male or female, now do we form friendships if we only spoke to perceived good looking people.

People come in all shapes and sizes, different personalities, its the personality that wins the heart.

You could pull a gorgeous person e ery night doesn't mean your going to keep them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ugliest man in Essex could chat to me at a bar. I'm sociable and enjoy a good chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How important are they do you? Is it 'shallow' to need to find someone physically attractive before you consider getting to know them? "

Before getting to know them? No

Before fucking them? Yes.

Is that shallow? I'd actually say you were more shallow if you'd fuck anything regardless of whether you found them attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks are important definitely. At least for me. Its not being shallow. I need a physical attraction as well as a mental one.

If i chatted to someone who was absolutely gorgeous but an absolute bellend/twazack i probably wouldn't meet them as i would just get annoyed or bored.

There has to be an element of both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took it as he meant on fab...oops.

I'll talk to anyone in the street, even let guys i don't fancy chat me up and flirt with them up to a point. But if i felt i was leading them on i'd stop and make it clear i'm not interested. Some guys are more blatant about being attracted to you, so you can't mistake it for harmless flirting, i am friendly but outright say i'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly I'd wonder why some random was saying hello to me in the street. Secondly just because I'm on here doesn't mean I'm gonna start a conversation with them either way, no matter how attractive they might be

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

In real life I am not shallow - I choose and make friends, and seek their company because of their personality, intelligence and kindness. On fab I'm really shallow - I just want to fulfil my sexual fantasies with like minded people who I find attractive and sexy. After all Fab is a swinging site not a lonely hearts sating club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure lots of people will answer yes looks matter, but I'm curious as to why?"

Hell yes. I am not fucking a minger!!!

In all seriousness I will not fuck those that I don't find attractive- why would I? But attraction is subjective- as for the why- not being physically attracted to someone means that I wouldn't get turned on so it wouldn't lead anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In real life I am not shallow - I choose and make friends, and seek their company because of their personality, intelligence and kindness. On fab I'm really shallow - I just want to fulfil my sexual fantasies with like minded people who I find attractive and sexy. After all Fab is a swinging site not a lonely hearts sating club. "

Freudian slip there at the end?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life I would chat to anyone as I am a friendly guy, same goes when meeting women online for sex, looks doesn't matter as its nsa sex for one time use as I like variety

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Freudian slip there at the end?"

......Damn spellchecker!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good looks help, and from our experiences I - C - have certainly been told that I'm nit attractive enough for the other party. However one has to accept it's all in the eye of the beholder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to anyone regardless of how they look been talking to a little old lady this morning because she was intrested in what we were doing as a result she fetched us all tea and coffee what a lady x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will chat to anyone who is friendly to me regardless of looks but have been told on occasion my taste in ladies is odd or had iffy comments because I am a skinny whippet who likes larger ladies but hey I like what I like

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We as a species seem to do more for attractive people. Higher salaries, easier to get jobs etc. So start be tough with good lookers week, show them the hard life.

I love good people, so help and interact with them. I have tighter rules for shagging though.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"Very important. If i can't imagine us naked together, it'll never happen. But once looks are good then they need to be smart and nice and funny. I'm easy pleased eh?

Makes perfect sense, I'm a believer that looks attract, personality keeps. Each can play a role in helping the other of course, and ultimately, it's the quality of the total package that counts."

Agree with all the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks whether it's on here or in reality it what intially attracts. Their personality is what keeps that interest going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ugliest man in Essex could chat to me at a bar. I'm sociable and enjoy a good chat. "

Ahh good, so you won't ignore me then

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I'm sure lots of people will answer yes looks matter, but I'm curious as to why?"

Is this a trick question?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'm sure lots of people will answer yes looks matter, but I'm curious as to why?"

They do, but what I find gusset-moisteningly attractive is not necessarily the same as someone else. I have always had a liking for the more 'quirky' looking guy, not someone classically attractive.

As for the actual question, I'd rather enjoy the view when I am face to face with someone, whatever we're doing.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I'm sure lots of people will answer yes looks matter, but I'm curious as to why?"

I will rarely talk much to someone I find UNattractive I am afraid, but that's not because I am shallow, it's because I turn OFF very easily.

And whilst the most good-looking people might be the ones that are the most instantly appealing, they do not have more value in my eyes, and I find people attractive for other reasons too sometimes.

In terms of fabs, I am looking for the best lover, the most sexually compatible person. If I have a feeling someone is going to send me wild with pleasure, that might make a big difference to how I feel about their looks!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Oh and I meant to say I had some great looking boyfriends before I married, but whilst I might not hook up with the best-looking guy in the room, I always seemed to hit it off with the sexiest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure lots of people will answer yes looks matter, but I'm curious as to why?

I used to go for looks all the time when I was younger, as Iv been getting older, Iv been changing my ways as much as I can.

It's easier if you see someone out as opposed to over the net.

100% agree i think there needs to be a physical attraction but if there personality is shit then its kills it ALL for me

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