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By *xoticlover OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Has anyone had this problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An ex did, and several partners. Changed types of medications and it fixed itself.

Speak to your doctor.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nope but I can imagism one having an effect on the other.

Grrrr! O - what was that? A vicious circle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No loss of libido, but find it more difficult to reach orgasm.I've been on several different meds some worse than others, think it depends on which you are on. If its becoming a problem speak to your GP xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe it is quite common. They just make your feelings level and numb to start with.

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By *xoticlover OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"An ex did, and several partners. Changed types of medications and it fixed itself.

Speak to your doctor. "

Its just 2 days on and i feel like a zombie, not to mention loss of libido

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An ex did, and several partners. Changed types of medications and it fixed itself.

Speak to your doctor.

Its just 2 days on and i feel like a zombie, not to mention loss of libido "

You need to give it time. A few weeks and if no better, then consider changing. Speak to your doctor either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's ok to ask you?

What has your GP put you on and the miligram? X

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"An ex did, and several partners. Changed types of medications and it fixed itself.

Speak to your doctor.

Its just 2 days on and i feel like a zombie, not to mention loss of libido "

They need a good 4 weeks to get into your system. I take mine at bedtime otherwise I get dizzy & sick. No loss of libido but harder to orgasm - never thought meds could be a factor

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By *xoticlover OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"No loss of libido, but find it more difficult to reach orgasm.I've been on several different meds some worse than others, think it depends on which you are on. If its becoming a problem speak to your GP xx "

Loss of libido + unable to orgasm, both, not sure if its worth staying on this med...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No loss of libido, but find it more difficult to reach orgasm.I've been on several different meds some worse than others, think it depends on which you are on. If its becoming a problem speak to your GP xx

Loss of libido + unable to orgasm, both, not sure if its worth staying on this med... "

If potentially temporary loss of libido is worse than your mental health, you may as well come off. No point in aggravating the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can happen yes.

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By *xoticlover OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"If it's ok to ask you?

What has your GP put you on and the miligram? X"

Sertraline 50 mg, not sure if its a strong dose but he said it can be increased if not working but i feel worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An ex did, and several partners. Changed types of medications and it fixed itself.

Speak to your doctor.

Its just 2 days on and i feel like a zombie, not to mention loss of libido

You need to give it time. A few weeks and if no better, then consider changing. Speak to your doctor either way. "

Yes give it time SSRI's take AT LEAST four to six weeks to kick in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It get's better... marginally (after several months).

You're on them for a reason - I would have thought that outweighed being able to shoot your load.

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By *xoticlover OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"An ex did, and several partners. Changed types of medications and it fixed itself.

Speak to your doctor.

Its just 2 days on and i feel like a zombie, not to mention loss of libido

They need a good 4 weeks to get into your system. I take mine at bedtime otherwise I get dizzy & sick. No loss of libido but harder to orgasm - never thought meds could be a factor "

does that mean i will feel better with my libido by 4 weeks time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yipe, and i am going back on them again.

Oh well, i suppose its better than losing ones mind, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An ex did, and several partners. Changed types of medications and it fixed itself.

Speak to your doctor.

Its just 2 days on and i feel like a zombie, not to mention loss of libido

They need a good 4 weeks to get into your system. I take mine at bedtime otherwise I get dizzy & sick. No loss of libido but harder to orgasm - never thought meds could be a factor

does that mean i will feel better with my libido by 4 weeks time?"

No one can guarantee things like that. It's a case by case basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a huge dose. Give it a month it will improve. Dont be tempted to stop suddenly either as that makes things worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's ok to ask you?

What has your GP put you on and the miligram? X

Sertraline 50 mg, not sure if its a strong dose but he said it can be increased if not working but i feel worse"

I've been on sertraline before. Like my last post give it time. Sorry if I'm prying (personal message reply if you want) has your GP referred you to mental health team for talking therapy? Or just said here are some meds you'll feel better soon. ? X

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"If it's ok to ask you?

What has your GP put you on and the miligram? X

Sertraline 50 mg, not sure if its a strong dose but he said it can be increased if not working but i feel worse"

Sertraline surpresses your emotions which can lead to lack of libido...citapram might be a suitable alternative

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By *xoticlover OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"If it's ok to ask you?

What has your GP put you on and the miligram? X

Sertraline 50 mg, not sure if its a strong dose but he said it can be increased if not working but i feel worse

Sertraline surpresses your emotions which can lead to lack of libido...citapram might be a suitable alternative "

Yes, feeling bit strange with my emotions but today while with friends i could not stop laughing...i had to go out of room!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its very honest of you to post about this problem. I'm on similar medication, and I find it difficult to orgasm sometimes and also can struggle at times to maintain an erection. Its not a major problem for me to be honest, as I can still function.....I just can't always perform aswell as I used too, but some of that may be down to old age aswell! lol. I'd give it time if you've just started taking your medication, and see if things settle down. Thanks for posting on this topic though, and I hope things get better for you.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"Has anyone had this problem? "

Yep it does have that affect.. sadly .

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By *xoticlover OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"Its very honest of you to post about this problem. I'm on similar medication, and I find it difficult to orgasm sometimes and also can struggle at times to maintain an erection. Its not a major problem for me to be honest, as I can still function.....I just can't always perform aswell as I used too, but some of that may be down to old age aswell! lol. I'd give it time if you've just started taking your medication, and see if things settle down. Thanks for posting on this topic though, and I hope things get better for you."

Sorry to know that you have a similar problem, hope it gets better...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

As others have said don't rush to stop them and don't do anything without talking to your GP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be very wary of changing so soon they take a while to get into your system.

I was put on citrolapram a couple of months ago, and I'm still getting side effects I asked to change but was told no! As they wouldn't be fully in my system.

Stick with them and day by day you will notice a difference.

Hope you start feeling better soon friends at this time are a godsend I've found. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im on 200mg a day op and im like a bull to a red cloth for the ladies ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone had this problem? "

Yes, but i had more pressing issues to worry about than sexual performance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a banana. Some drugs reduce potassium which although it's not formally linked to libido, can sometimes affect it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess you need to see how you feel. The antidepressants give you a cushion to help deal with daily life. Lessen anxiety and depression feelings.

Sometimes you feel so back to normal, you then focus on other stuff that bothers you...like sex and performance.

However if you weren't on the medication....would your daily life overwhelm you again ?

Don't panic about what's happening in your trousers, give yourself a break and see how it goes.

At worst it's only temporary.

Ultimately your mental health is more important.

Best wishes xxx

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"If it's ok to ask you?

What has your GP put you on and the miligram? X

Sertraline 50 mg, not sure if its a strong dose but he said it can be increased if not working but i feel worse

Sertraline surpresses your emotions which can lead to lack of libido...citapram might be a suitable alternative "

I am on citalopram 20mg .. I have difficulty orgasming.. it also leaves me feeling very Flat.. no ups or downs.. Dont like being emotionless. much preferred venlafexine time release. He wont prescribe those for me.

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By *heNerdyCyclistMan
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

I often struggle with depression often. Going through a quiet period. I do worry this is the calm before the storm.

Sometimes my meds (200ml sertraline) means sometimes, some days getting out of bed is a task in itself.

Also yes. The meds/depression means it's (no pun) hard to be excited or interested in sexual activities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have heard it can - stick with it and it passes - the improvement in mood outweighs any sex urge thats lacking

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"If it's ok to ask you?

What has your GP put you on and the miligram? X

Sertraline 50 mg, not sure if its a strong dose but he said it can be increased if not working but i feel worse

Sertraline surpresses your emotions which can lead to lack of libido...citapram might be a suitable alternative

Yes, feeling bit strange with my emotions but today while with friends i could not stop laughing...i had to go out of room!! "

It's designed to not make you depressed and surpresses your emotions stick with it but keep on going to a review with your GP it is a standard dose but also think about other options such as counselling and talking threapy after I had a meltdown when I lost my baby my GP refused to put me on medication and referred me to secondary services...it worked but at that time I was a mental health worker so had better insight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick with them it wears off. But you also lose touch with your emotions due to how different meds work and depending on which nerve endings they numb in the brain!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's ok to ask you?

What has your GP put you on and the miligram? X

Sertraline 50 mg, not sure if its a strong dose but he said it can be increased if not working but i feel worse

Sertraline surpresses your emotions which can lead to lack of libido...citapram might be a suitable alternative

I am on citalopram 20mg .. I have difficulty orgasming.. it also leaves me feeling very Flat.. no ups or downs.. Dont like being emotionless. much preferred venlafexine time release. He wont prescribe those for me.

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Horrible isn't it!? "Oh you've cut my arm off, that's a shame" or "oh I've won the euro millions Jack pot roll over, that's nice." glad to be off it. Although apparently it controls IBS very well indeed.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

I lost my sex drive before I was diagnosed with depression & to be honest my medication hasn't brought it back

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"If it's ok to ask you?

What has your GP put you on and the miligram? X

Sertraline 50 mg, not sure if its a strong dose but he said it can be increased if not working but i feel worse

Sertraline surpresses your emotions which can lead to lack of libido...citapram might be a suitable alternative

I am on citalopram 20mg .. I have difficulty orgasming.. it also leaves me feeling very Flat.. no ups or downs.. Dont like being emotionless. much preferred venlafexine time release. He wont prescribe those for me.

Horrible isn't it!? "Oh you've cut my arm off, that's a shame" or "oh I've won the euro millions Jack pot roll over, that's nice." glad to be off it. Although apparently it controls IBS very well indeed."

Yes it is horrid. I dont know about the IBS but I have to take fibre gel to counteract the negatives. bloody nuisance my tummy is constantly upset. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on citalapram, sertraline, fluoxetine and now venlafaxine. It took 12 years to finally get onto the right meds. But talking therapy gave me the biggest boost ever. I'm bi polar, which means I suffer major highs and major lows. I learned to accept my diagnosis through therapy. Mental heath is no different to a physical illness and problems. There is such a stigma about mental health. Thank you so much for being honest and open. Stick with you're meds for at least a month. Remember sometimes they can make you feel worse before you feel better, times like that you need to access help should you need it. Take care big hugs xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was on citalapram, sertraline, fluoxetine and now venlafaxine. It took 12 years to finally get onto the right meds. But talking therapy gave me the biggest boost ever. I'm bi polar, which means I suffer major highs and major lows. I learned to accept my diagnosis through therapy. Mental heath is no different to a physical illness and problems. There is such a stigma about mental health. Thank you so much for being honest and open. Stick with you're meds for at least a month. Remember sometimes they can make you feel worse before you feel better, times like that you need to access help should you need it. Take care big hugs xxxxx "

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

Most antidepressants used in the UK have a serious negative effect on libido (fluoxetine, paroxetine fluvoxamine, citalopram, sertraline, haloperidol, thioridazine, risperidone).

There are a few which have no effect (nefazodone), or increase it by a statistically significant amount (trazodone, bupropion).

But they're often not approved for use as antidepressants in the UK (bupropion for example is approved as a stop-smoking aid only) so you'd need to talk to your GP into giving you off-label meds if your libido matters to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it's ok to ask you?

What has your GP put you on and the miligram? X

Sertraline 50 mg, not sure if its a strong dose but he said it can be increased if not working but i feel worse

Sertraline surpresses your emotions which can lead to lack of libido...citapram might be a suitable alternative "

Citalipram can also stop males and females from reaching ejeculation. Being bipolar i have tried a few. Venlafaxine is ok though i found

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was on citalapram, sertraline, fluoxetine and now venlafaxine. It took 12 years to finally get onto the right meds. But talking therapy gave me the biggest boost ever. I'm bi polar, which means I suffer major highs and major lows. I learned to accept my diagnosis through therapy. Mental heath is no different to a physical illness and problems. There is such a stigma about mental health. Thank you so much for being honest and open. Stick with you're meds for at least a month. Remember sometimes they can make you feel worse before you feel better, times like that you need to access help should you need it. Take care big hugs xxxxx "

I totally agree. I also have PTSD and social anxiety but am on Epilim, quitiapene and propanalol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't put my medical problems on here TBH why would you?

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Been on Sertraline or Fluxotine for many years now and both have suppressed it. Only through stubbornness that I'm in tune with my libido at all.

Are you getting speaking therapy? Can't recommend CAT (Cognitive Analytic Therapy) highly enough

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By *unny-beeWoman
over a year ago

Mansfield

I'm on duloxetine 60mg and I'm alright on these as it's for depression and to help the pain in my back but heads alright but it's not touching my back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have that issue not so much with libido but it does take a while for me to cum!

I'd rather be on them at the minute although it does get rather fustrating not being about to rustle up a 'quickie'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on 150 venlafaxine I'm lucky cos my sex drive hasn't changed. The only time I find it difficult to orgasm is the few days before I'm due on, I get to a certain point and that's it I just stay there (I've even ended up with cramp in my arm lol)

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

citrolapram is the drug my daughter was on when hospital stopped it sudden she had a major breakdown sertraline is known for causing loss of libido

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I know someone who has real trouble reaching orgasm at all and is convinced that was down to a period on Prozac, the problem has remained long after the meds were ceased.

If I feel I need something I take St John's Wort and that does not affect my libido! I nearly always prefer to try a natural drug first if possible, they tend to have far fewer side effects

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I was very uninterested in sex when on citalopam. Mirtazapine is one that has very low incidences of libido/sexual side effects but is a sedative so can make you tired but does give you freakish super long dreams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was on citalapram, sertraline, fluoxetine and now venlafaxine. It took 12 years to finally get onto the right meds. But talking therapy gave me the biggest boost ever. I'm bi polar, which means I suffer major highs and major lows. I learned to accept my diagnosis through therapy. Mental heath is no different to a physical illness and problems. There is such a stigma about mental health. Thank you so much for being honest and open. Stick with you're meds for at least a month. Remember sometimes they can make you feel worse before you feel better, times like that you need to access help should you need it. Take care big hugs xxxxx

I totally agree. I also have PTSD and social anxiety but am on Epilim, quitiapene and propanalol"

I was on quitiapene for a while a few years back I was fictionally a zombie a card trick I've had memorised since I was about 6 that relies solely on the ability to count to 3 was completely impossible for me to do.

Moved over to olanzapine which was much better but my god the sugar cravings were bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I was very uninterested in sex when on citalopam. Mirtazapine is one that has very low incidences of libido/sexual side effects but is a sedative so can make you tired but does give you freakish super long dreams"

I'm finding citrolapram gives me some nasty dreams and my god night terrors have increased ten fold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind "

So let me get this right a chemical imbalance causes someone to plan there own suicide? Because they can see no other way to life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind "

Really so say a diabetic with a chemical in balance their their body doesn't produce enough insulin would you tell them don't take your insulin your body will sort it out?

Also if you're anhedonic there aren't any people who make you feel good as your body stops it's normal reward system socialising more in that situation just makes you really start to get annoyed by everyone as they can only make you feel worse not better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I was very uninterested in sex when on citalopam. Mirtazapine is one that has very low incidences of libido/sexual side effects but is a sedative so can make you tired but does give you freakish super long dreams

I'm finding citrolapram gives me some nasty dreams and my god night terrors have increased ten fold. "

I never had any sleep problems with citalopram. Makes it bloody hard to cum though. Iirc there was a study about using it to treat premature ejaculation average increase in sexual intercourse time before ejaculation was 700% an I think that was on just 40mg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I was very uninterested in sex when on citalopam. Mirtazapine is one that has very low incidences of libido/sexual side effects but is a sedative so can make you tired but does give you freakish super long dreams

I'm finding citrolapram gives me some nasty dreams and my god night terrors have increased ten fold.

I never had any sleep problems with citalopram. Makes it bloody hard to cum though. Iirc there was a study about using it to treat premature ejaculation average increase in sexual intercourse time before ejaculation was 700% an I think that was on just 40mg"

Yeah it does make it harder to cum, I had my first meet in ages since I've been on it the other day the poor guy is all I'm saying hahah.

700% pretty good result hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind

So let me get this right a chemical imbalance causes someone to plan there own suicide? Because they can see no other way to life"

hey surely that's caused by the life they are leading the influences on their life and their ability to cope with the problems that they have, the tablets are for said chemical imbalance not the unhappiness that some people's life's have given them ,it's never going to be easy to put them problems right I'm just saying I personally don't believe that tablets help and in the ops case they ate affecting his sex life one thing that probably makes him happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind

So let me get this right a chemical imbalance causes someone to plan there own suicide? Because they can see no other way to lifehey surely that's caused by the life they are leading the influences on their life and their ability to cope with the problems that they have, the tablets are for said chemical imbalance not the unhappiness that some people's life's have given them ,it's never going to be easy to put them problems right I'm just saying I personally don't believe that tablets help and in the ops case they ate affecting his sex life one thing that probably makes him happy "

lives not life's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind "

Whilst I applaud your general ethos of "the body will heal itself"... I think you're naive to imagine people don't need meds to nurse them through that healing process... which can take years. Unlike a broken leg, the mind takes years to heal and the meds we have aren't really proactive in that healing... they only help quieten the mind whilst it gets back into healthy patterns. The meds are important... but I agree that they should be withdrawn slowly and carefully over time... to be replaced with lifestyle changes, mindful thinking, and whatever natural therapies or spiritual practices you feel aid you. That's my take on it for what its worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind

So let me get this right a chemical imbalance causes someone to plan there own suicide? Because they can see no other way to lifehey surely that's caused by the life they are leading the influences on their life and their ability to cope with the problems that they have, the tablets are for said chemical imbalance not the unhappiness that some people's life's have given them ,it's never going to be easy to put them problems right I'm just saying I personally don't believe that tablets help and in the ops case they ate affecting his sex life one thing that probably makes him happy "

I think you have catastrophically misunderstood the meaning of the word "depression". In this context it doesn't mean merely being sad. It is a far more complex clinical condition than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind

So let me get this right a chemical imbalance causes someone to plan there own suicide? Because they can see no other way to lifehey surely that's caused by the life they are leading the influences on their life and their ability to cope with the problems that they have, the tablets are for said chemical imbalance not the unhappiness that some people's life's have given them ,it's never going to be easy to put them problems right I'm just saying I personally don't believe that tablets help and in the ops case they ate affecting his sex life one thing that probably makes him happy

I think you have catastrophically misunderstood the meaning of the word "depression". In this context it doesn't mean merely being sad. It is a far more complex clinical condition than that."

I can physically understand that condition so I can offer an opinion on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind

So let me get this right a chemical imbalance causes someone to plan there own suicide? Because they can see no other way to lifehey surely that's caused by the life they are leading the influences on their life and their ability to cope with the problems that they have, the tablets are for said chemical imbalance not the unhappiness that some people's life's have given them ,it's never going to be easy to put them problems right I'm just saying I personally don't believe that tablets help and in the ops case they ate affecting his sex life one thing that probably makes him happy

I think you have catastrophically misunderstood the meaning of the word "depression". In this context it doesn't mean merely being sad. It is a far more complex clinical condition than that.I can physically understand that condition so I can offer an opinion on it "

So what would you advise a clinically depressed person who was feeling too happy to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind

So let me get this right a chemical imbalance causes someone to plan there own suicide? Because they can see no other way to lifehey surely that's caused by the life they are leading the influences on their life and their ability to cope with the problems that they have, the tablets are for said chemical imbalance not the unhappiness that some people's life's have given them ,it's never going to be easy to put them problems right I'm just saying I personally don't believe that tablets help and in the ops case they ate affecting his sex life one thing that probably makes him happy

I think you have catastrophically misunderstood the meaning of the word "depression". In this context it doesn't mean merely being sad. It is a far more complex clinical condition than that.I can physically understand that condition so I can offer an opinion on it

So what would you advise a clinically depressed person who was feeling too happy to do?"

see a doctor my opinion was based on ops scenario which I have had experience of .

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

If you don't like or can't tolerate the side effects see the doc again and ask for something different.

Personally I'd love something to dampen my libido

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two days is nothing op , the tablets won't work just like that in such a short time and as for the other if your feeling fed up , deprest and down well sex isn't top of the agenda . It could be a side effect of the tabs or just your state of mind . Been there mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my opinion was based on ops scenario which I have had experience of."

What scenario? The guys on anti-depressants, got a low libido, and couldn't stop himself from laughing when some friends visited. Am I missing something? What is it about his scenario that makes your advice to come off the meds reasonable rather than reckless?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my opinion was based on ops scenario which I have had experience of.

What scenario? The guys on anti-depressants, got a low libido, and couldn't stop himself from laughing when some friends visited. Am I missing something? What is it about his scenario that makes your advice to come off the meds reasonable rather than reckless?"

hehe hey good try this approach may wind others up but it doesn't me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my opinion was based on ops scenario which I have had experience of.

What scenario? The guys on anti-depressants, got a low libido, and couldn't stop himself from laughing when some friends visited. Am I missing something? What is it about his scenario that makes your advice to come off the meds reasonable rather than reckless?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my opinion was based on ops scenario which I have had experience of.

What scenario? The guys on anti-depressants, got a low libido, and couldn't stop himself from laughing when some friends visited. Am I missing something? What is it about his scenario that makes your advice to come off the meds reasonable rather than reckless? "

My doctor when I asked her about anti depressant drugs actually said in her opinion they didn't work ,my opinion was based on my own experience and the ops initial statement that he lost his libido because of the drugs ,I don't like taking tablets so for me an easy decision obviously every one is different and different things work some thing are psychosomatic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did your doctor suffer from clinical depression too then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did your doctor suffer from clinical depression too then?"
I never asked her but she's very attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh its just that you said in her opinion they didn't work.

I just wondered if that was based on personal or professional opinion? If its the latter, I suggest you get yourself a doctor that isn't a

Cu*t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh its just that you said in her opinion they didn't work.

I just wondered if that was based on personal or professional opinion? If its the latter, I suggest you get yourself a doctor that isn't a

Cu*t "

hey why should she be any different to the next person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind

Whilst I applaud your general ethos of "the body will heal itself"... I think you're naive to imagine people don't need meds to nurse them through that healing process... which can take years. Unlike a broken leg, the mind takes years to heal and the meds we have aren't really proactive in that healing... they only help quieten the mind whilst it gets back into healthy patterns. The meds are important... but I agree that they should be withdrawn slowly and carefully over time... to be replaced with lifestyle changes, mindful thinking, and whatever natural therapies or spiritual practices you feel aid you. That's my take on it for what its worth."

Well said mpassion.

OP I think you would do well to listen more to forumites on here who are talking from their own experiences.

Other people (not mentioning names) who CLEARLY have never been through depression and are talking out of their ass holes should be ignored!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It get's better... marginally (after several months).

You're on them for a reason - I would have thought that outweighed being able to shoot your load."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't put my medical problems on here TBH why would you?"

Because he wants advice on the matter. If he's comfortable sharing then I applaud him. There's such a wall of silence around mental health that I think its good to share and talk about it. That comment was unhelpful BTW!

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over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind

So let me get this right a chemical imbalance causes someone to plan there own suicide? Because they can see no other way to life"

Depression is not a chemical imbalance..

Do some research!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind "

Exactly this!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These sorts of medication would not be having any effect on you on 2 days, they take a good a good 4/6 weeks to get into you're system and start working.

I'm guessing you're kiss of sex drive, could, be to do with you having some mental health problems and gone to see your GP and now been put on medication.

Hope you feel better soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think sone people are confusing sadness with clinical depression.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've removed some posts. Please stick to the topic in hand without the self medicating chat.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Wow there are some supportive people on here...and well some not so..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow there are some supportive people on here...and well some not so.. "

I concur. I think its brave of the OP to post this and we should give him all the support we can.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Wow there are some supportive people on here...and well some not so..

I concur. I think its brave of the OP to post this and we should give him all the support we can."

Totally and we should never berate someone for doing it, when we are at our most vulnerable we often seek advice and support from the most unlikely of places...I think people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An ex did, and several partners. Changed types of medications and it fixed itself.

Speak to your doctor.

Its just 2 days on and i feel like a zombie, not to mention loss of libido "

Depending on your medication it will take a couple of weeks to get into your system and start working properly and it's certainly not unusual to feel a bit worse when you first start your meds. Some antidepressants are known to cause loss of libido and being depressed does too.

Be patient and give it a couple of weeks, if no better speak to your gp and they could look at changing your meds.

Hope you get sorted

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over a year ago


"An ex did, and several partners. Changed types of medications and it fixed itself.

Speak to your doctor.

Its just 2 days on and i feel like a zombie, not to mention loss of libido "

. Give it time op. 2days is not enough to get into your system , your body is working with the anti d at the mo and will get the balance right in 2/4wks . If you still like it in that time then those particular anti DS are unsuitable for you . Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look I'm not a great believer in taking tablets chemical imbalances in your body are usually dealt with by your body ,if you have a problem with your mind change things you habitually do that get you down ,spend more time with people who make you feel good ,socialise more ,tablets may work for a headache or a pain in a muscle but not your mind if that was aimed at me I am speaking from experience ,my own ,this place is surely about having an opinion ,you can't be right all the time and neither can I ,the op asked a question I answered it from my own experience ,what I did worked for me and I actually as I said earlier asked my doctor if the tablets cured depression she said " no " some people are naturally negative and aggressive in their nature and I think they tend to fair worse with what appears to be an increasingly more common illness ,I however am always happy and positive

Whilst I applaud your general ethos of "the body will heal itself"... I think you're naive to imagine people don't need meds to nurse them through that healing process... which can take years. Unlike a broken leg, the mind takes years to heal and the meds we have aren't really proactive in that healing... they only help quieten the mind whilst it gets back into healthy patterns. The meds are important... but I agree that they should be withdrawn slowly and carefully over time... to be replaced with lifestyle changes, mindful thinking, and whatever natural therapies or spiritual practices you feel aid you. That's my take on it for what its worth.

Well said mpassion.

OP I think you would do well to listen more to forumites on here who are talking from their own experiences.

Other people (not mentioning names) who CLEARLY have never been through depression and are talking out of their ass holes should be ignored! "

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By *xoticlover OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle

I am overwhelmed with the support i am getting here. This is what makes this forum so exciting. There might be difference of opinion but to see people sharing their own experience here is worth applauding. Thank you very much.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I found out that when I was on fluoxetine I lost horn which was a shame but I found myself more and more frustrated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on the medication mate and have the same issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't win either way.

Depressed and your lucky to find anyone who wants to be near you.

If your are lucky, chances are you'd struggle to get a hard on with anxiety kicking in.

Take meds and they may cause your junk not to work either.

Yet chemicals released with having sex help with depression better than most things.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

They've been mentioned in a few threads. SSRIs have a tendency to affect sexual performance as a side effect upon a minority of people taking them and this group is the most widely prescribed antidepressant.

As there's a large range of them it's worth considering a change, though you have to taper dose of one slowly and then stopping it, before starting another. Our bodies are unique in how we respond to medication and concurrent life events can exacerbate it too.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"Yeah I was very uninterested in sex when on citalopam. Mirtazapine is one that has very low incidences of libido/sexual side effects but is a sedative so can make you tired but does give you freakish super long dreams

I'm finding citrolapram gives me some nasty dreams and my god night terrors have increased ten fold. "

Yes I get nasty dreams very real and upsetting. Often wake up shaking and crying. I cannot convince my doc I was better on venlafaxine prescribed by a different doctor.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

LOL I just realised of course that whilst taking the venlafexine I was celibate so guess it did affect my libido.. silly me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Charl has been rampant since she came off her meds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It did with my ex, it was that that led to us not sleeping together the last years of our marriage

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By *xoticlover OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"Charl has been rampant since she came off her meds. "

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