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"The most difficult part was choosing a suitable home. A lot get a bad reputation for poor treatment so do research. " This | |||
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"As some of you know, my dear old mumsie has spent the last 14 weeks in hospital...she came ouy on Tuesday afternoon, and we had a little celebration welcome home party for her! After just a few days, she's now back in bloody hospital again Looking very much like she will need 24 hour care in a home now, a very hard decision to have to make, but one that will benefit her the best. Anyone else been in this situation, and how did you handle it? " I am lurching headlong towards it with both Mum & Dad You have to do what is best for her and your family. I agree, it's heart wrenching In some respects though, we are blessed. Many people are robbed of their parents before old age and such decisions must be considered. | |||
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"read the cqc report as well which you will find online " Thanks, will be reading lots on different places | |||
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"As some of you know, my dear old mumsie has spent the last 14 weeks in hospital...she came ouy on Tuesday afternoon, and we had a little celebration welcome home party for her! After just a few days, she's now back in bloody hospital again Looking very much like she will need 24 hour care in a home now, a very hard decision to have to make, but one that will benefit her the best. Anyone else been in this situation, and how did you handle it? " A v sad situation for you and hope you get sorted. Personally (as others have said) would never put any parent in a home (have had evidence of the treatment not being the best with other relatives). Difficult, very difficult sometimes but would always look after them personally (and give up job if needs be) - the very best of luck and fingers crossed for you | |||
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"Problem is speaking to residents, all the places social services have offered so far have 95% dementia residents that dont talk. Hopefully a nursing home mau ne different, won't know until I get some places to look at though. Thanks for everyone's input " It doesnt matter if people cant communicate.....there are other pointers that you can look for when you visit.....had to do the same for my family and have worked in most areas of care......pm.me if you need to.x | |||
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"*update* Well mum insisted that we let her go back home, so her wish has been granted, came home this afternoon and all is ok..... so far! Told her if she goes back into hospital then she will NOT ve allowed back home again. Let's see if she can keep up how she has been today " Is it possible for someone to stay with her for a few days ? | |||
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"As some of you know, my dear old mumsie has spent the last 14 weeks in hospital...she came ouy on Tuesday afternoon, and we had a little celebration welcome home party for her! After just a few days, she's now back in bloody hospital again Looking very much like she will need 24 hour care in a home now, a very hard decision to have to make, but one that will benefit her the best. Anyone else been in this situation, and how did you handle it? " I have mate and it's hard. Good luck mate just do what you feel right for your mum | |||
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" Is it possible for someone to stay with her for a few days ? " I have a brother that lives with her, but unfortunately he is not much use to her. Just left her now, she is going to sleep, will be back round there in the morning to see if all is ok still. Thanks again everyone for your support and input. | |||
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"At the age of 21 my parents split up, I moved in a new flat with my mum about 6months after she was diagnosed with brest cancer I was working at the time but had a good boss who let me take every other afternoon off so I could go to the hospital with her. After a year of treatment I was told the treatment was not working and the cancer was spreading thru her body and would need 24hour care and should look at putting her in a care home! Later that day after lots of tears I phoned our doctor to see if there was anyway I could look after her at home as she wasn't bedridden at the time and we were managing ok, our doctor was great he arranged Macmillan nurses to call and wheelchairs a airbed and free prescriptions ect and his home number in case we needed anything. My boss told me not to go to work and he would take care of timesheets so I got full pay for as long as possible!. It was hard work getting a new flat sorted as she was still divorcing my dad and money was short. She had to go into hospital for 3 days, I used this time to decorate and get everything in place for her return with the help of friends. On her return i managed to persuade her to take a Holliday in Spain for 3weeks at amates place, it was the first time she had been to spain and it worked wonders and back home i spent as much time as i could arranging to do all the things she dreamed of doing but couldn't in the passed. I continued to care for her for the next 2 years until she lost the fight for life. I valued the time we spent together its not easy but I think she had a better quality of life at home than in a care home with people she didn't know. Iv the utmost respect for those that work in homes just me mum was to independent to be in one! If you can I'd care for your mum, life's much nicer when your with ppl you love around you. Good luck op n a (((Huge hug to you both))) " Thank you, and sorry for your loss too. I would love to give up work for a few years and be mums full time carer, but she wouldn't allow it, I have just started my own business up and it is demanding a lot of time, mum realises this and appreciates every hour I am with her. Good times when I am there for her, and she tells be to F.O. home at the end if the evening! Her humor hasn't left her obviously! | |||
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