FabSwingers.com forum: C-section Apron. Your thoughts please.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've just been looking at tummy tuck surgery but have been advised (for personal reasons) it will be quite a risky op. This plus not being able to justify the cost atm has made me seriously question whether I could go through with it.

I hate the overhang a c-section and some other surgery has left me with and struggle with clothes to hide it well.

I am curious to hear your thoughts. Would it put you off meeting someone ? Any clever ideas to disguise it well ?

I once heard the stomach apron referred to as a "gunt" on here.

Mrs x

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"I've just been looking at tummy tuck surgery but have been advised (for personal reasons) it will be quite a risky op. This plus not being able to justify the cost atm has made me seriously question whether I could go through with it.

I hate the overhang a c-section and some other surgery has left me with and struggle with clothes to hide it well.

I am curious to hear your thoughts. Would it put you off meeting someone ? Any clever ideas to disguise it well ?

I once heard the stomach apron referred to as a "gunt" on here.

Mrs x"
you look great to us x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hate the overhang a c-section and some other surgery has left me with and struggle with clothes to hide it well.

I am curious to hear your thoughts. Would it put you off meeting someone ? Any clever ideas to disguise it well ?

I once heard the stomach apron referred to as a "gunt" on here.

Mrs x you look great to us x "

Thank you. My pics are cleverly disguising it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one and I must admit I hate it too. BUT...nobody cares except me .

Be proud of your body op

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Nothing wrong with you babe.

Sue has the same thing and it doesnt bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have one and I must admit I hate it too. BUT...nobody cares except me .

Be proud of your body op

This x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

You have a fantastic figure, be proud of it . No big deal you have a scar to say your a mum . If others have problems with that that's their issue not yours .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I appreciate your kind words everyone. My hubby tells me the same but it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I hate it. It's like a bag of jelly.

I'm just trying to find ways to hide it well and to see how other people view them in general.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ok, I've always had one from being seriously overweight, when I decided to loose weight I was full of "I'm going to have this that and the other removed" its still there and I've now got no intention of having it removed.

As for clothes I've just started to find what suits and what doesn't in general, for etc bodycon right dresses are a no go, but most things you can't tell.

If your not confident with it naked sexy underwear is a godsend.

However, I've spoken to a couple of close male friends who gave me their honest opinion as that's what I asked for.

I really don't think guys care, they would sooner just have a confident woman, also none of us are perfect, many women, especially if you've had a baby have lumps bumps and goodness knows what else.

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By *inky4perkyCouple
over a year ago

Sussex

I have exactly the same, having had a babba six months ago.

I hated mine at first but now I have learned that its part of me. Yes i am exercising to try and tone it a bit but i am of the opinion now that you either like it or jog on.

Its whats just underneath that i am interested in anyway!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appreciate your kind words everyone. My hubby tells me the same but it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I hate it. It's like a bag of jelly.

I'm just trying to find ways to hide it well and to see how other people view them in general.

It doesn't bother me one iota . I think you're stunning

Xx"

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I appreciate your kind words everyone. My hubby tells me the same but it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I hate it. It's like a bag of jelly.

I'm just trying to find ways to hide it well and to see how other people view them in general.

Xx"

I am just fat i don't have a good reason for my mummy tummy , you have scar tissue you can't help that

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By *mokeynbubblyCouple
over a year ago

poole

Bubbly has this too, she was thinking of exploring options but doesn't bother me or our meets

Be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one as well and I hate it!! But I hide it well with basques, waspies and underbust corsets for meets.

I've been offered surgery for different reasons but a tummy tuck is included with the procedure but I can't as the recovery time wouldn't work with being a busy mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the overhang a c-section and some other surgery has left me with and struggle with clothes to hide it well.

I am curious to hear your thoughts. Would it put you off meeting someone ? Any clever ideas to disguise it well ?

I once heard the stomach apron referred to as a "gunt" on here.

Mrs x"

I haven't had a c-section but still have that belly as my boys were big for my little frame. G says no one looks at my belly as I have too many other areas to look at

lol he has been great boosting my confidence but I know how horrible it is to be self conscious of something. My mum has had a tummy tuck because hated hers so much, it was tough post surgery but she loves hers. G thinks the scar would be worse to look at but if you have scar there anyway maybe you wouldn't mind that as much? Look at positives and negatives and make the decision as a family.

What you show in your pics you are gorgeous so maybe help with self esteem is a cheaper option?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look lovely OP

I have it also

I try not to get focused on it

But I don't like it at all

Monkey x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appreciate your kind words everyone. My hubby tells me the same but it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I hate it. It's like a bag of jelly.

I'm just trying to find ways to hide it well and to see how other people view them in general.

Xx"

Sabrina has it too .

She will never play naked , always a skirt or something covering the area .

She is the only one bothered by it , but if she's not happy then nor am I , so she finds ways to keep it covered .

When it's just us together I love to massage her jelly belly , and after 5 years she is finally allowing me to enjoy that a little more often

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you deal with getting naked on meets ?

I always wear something to cover it even in water.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I appreciate your kind words everyone. My hubby tells me the same but it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I hate it. It's like a bag of jelly.

I'm just trying to find ways to hide it well and to see how other people view them in general.

Sabrina has it too .

She will never play naked , always a skirt or something covering the area .

She is the only one bothered by it , but if she's not happy then nor am I , so she finds ways to keep it covered .

When it's just us together I love to massage her jelly belly , and after 5 years she is finally allowing me to enjoy that a little more often

That made me smile. Thank you.

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By *ebedeedoodahMan
over a year ago

Greenford

Friend of mine had it done and she does look fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 4 sections, my 'apron' doesn't really bother me. I get naked on all meets and nobody seems to care. i don't think mine is that bad and do have naked pics up on my page.

If you aren't comfortable being naked then you don't have to get naked. And it's probably not as bad as what you think it looks like but you have to convince yourself of that.

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By *inky4perkyCouple
over a year ago

Sussex

Having seen your pictures i think you are gorgeous and have nothing to worry about xxx

If you are worried then maybe find a couple where the woman has the same thoughts and then you will all be on even ground xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I appreciate your kind words everyone. My hubby tells me the same but it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I hate it. It's like a bag of jelly.

I'm just trying to find ways to hide it well and to see how other people view them in general.

Xx"

You are beautiful, I have it the other way round being a 'larger' lady, I hate my belly sometimes but for some reason I never have a problem with it when it comes to getting my kit of, the men I've been with see past all that and any decent bloke would x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with getting naked on meets ?

I always wear something to cover it even in water.

I used to wear things to hide it. Even to the extent of refusing to remove my knickers on meets etc. Now I don't care

Nobody has ever mentioned it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one! I meet naked, I walk around naked, I appreciate my naked body. But I totally fully understand where you're coming from OP and no amount of 'you're gorgeous' from strangers on the Internet are going to make you feel any better. If you really want surgery then weigh up the pros and cons carefully, it's a reasonably common procedure but like all major surgery it comes with its possible problems x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok, I've always had one from being seriously overweight, when I decided to loose weight I was full of "I'm going to have this that and the other removed" its still there and I've now got no intention of having it removed.

As for clothes I've just started to find what suits and what doesn't in general, for etc bodycon right dresses are a no go, but most things you can't tell.

If your not confident with it naked sexy underwear is a godsend.

However, I've spoken to a couple of close male friends who gave me their honest opinion as that's what I asked for.

I really don't think guys care, they would sooner just have a confident woman, also none of us are perfect, many women, especially if you've had a baby have lumps bumps and goodness knows what else.

you look great. X

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I hate the overhang a c-section and some other surgery has left me with and struggle with clothes to hide it well.

I am curious to hear your thoughts. Would it put you off meeting someone ? Any clever ideas to disguise it well ?

I once heard the stomach apron referred to as a "gunt" on here.

Mrs x"

My friend & sister in law have both had them & both had had c-sections in the past. Neither have any regrets & look great in their sexy pants

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By *airy_HettyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

"I have one and I must admit I hate it too. BUT...nobody cares except me .

Be proud of your body op

Wear your tiger stripes proudly. Loads of mums have these. Its your bodies history.

If it really bothers you, exercise. Swimming, planking and running really help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with getting naked on meets ?

I always wear something to cover it even in water.

My biggest confidence boost was going to a club and getting naked for the hot tub! It felt so liberating! We once saw a lady with her thong on still in a hot tub and that draw attention to that area more in my opinion so I now try not to worry. We are lucky, we have our partners, of others don't like what they see we still have each other. On meeting I'll dress to show off my best bits and once play begins everyone is so into the moment I don't think they care about a tummy. If they do, oh well, don't have to see them again! This site and swinging (although we are still new to it all) has been a great confidence boost for me.

Show off your best bits, sod the ones who don't like your worse (in your eyes) we all have something we wish was a bit different x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think most of the men are scared to answer this one.

Thanks everyone. I'm just having a wobble literally lol.

Mrs x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I think most of the men are scared to answer this one.

Thanks everyone. I'm just having a wobble literally lol.

Mrs x"
or maybe most of them are oblivious to it lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No offence to all the lovely ladies on here who also have the apron but having looked at your profiles, mine is way worse.

My knickers roll underneath it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all the lovely forumites advice about 'don't worry you're gorgeous ' still isn't doing it for you....what about looking at sexy lingerie? Things like crotchless knickers so you feel like you're covering up the bits you don't like, but a guy can still get access? A lot of guys like the body stocking thingys. .would that help build your confidence?

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No offence to all the lovely ladies on here who also have the apron but having looked at your profiles, mine is way worse.

My knickers roll underneath it.

Mine do too. Just good pics in underwear that show off other assets and hide what I want!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the overhang a c-section and some other surgery has left me with and struggle with clothes to hide it well.

I am curious to hear your thoughts. Would it put you off meeting someone ? Any clever ideas to disguise it well ?

I once heard the stomach apron referred to as a "gunt" on here.

Mrs x"

I've had three sections, I feel your pain

No matter what I do I just can't get rid of the sag

My belly is not attravtive to me but I've met loads of guys off here and not a single one has ever run off screaming when they have seen it

Of course it will bother some people because after all nobody is for everybody

But having a saggy belly to get three healthy kids I'd a small price to pay, if others don't like the result, nothing I can do about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No offence to all the lovely ladies on here who also have the apron but having looked at your profiles, mine is way worse.

My knickers roll underneath it.

Ive got the same prob .. Always keep mine covered .. My knickers used 2 roll underneath it .. My solution I stopped wearing knickers .. commando for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If all the lovely forumites advice about 'don't worry you're gorgeous ' still isn't doing it for you....what about looking at sexy lingerie? Things like crotchless knickers so you feel like you're covering up the bits you don't like, but a guy can still get access? A lot of guys like the body stocking thingys. .would that help build your confidence?

Good luck x"

Thank you. This is what I currently do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it matters what you do, and wether you have had a c section or not, you just can't get rid of the jelly belly,, we all have it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister had surgery to remove access skin after c section. She wishes she hadn't as it got infected and took ages to heal and left the same scar .She still has a bit of tummy as they coukd only remove so much of it .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No offence to all the lovely ladies on here who also have the apron but having looked at your profiles, mine is way worse.

My knickers roll underneath it.

Ive got the same prob .. Always keep mine covered .. My knickers used 2 roll underneath it .. My solution I stopped wearing knickers .. commando for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I feel a bit down about mine I just console myself by remembering my eldest child weight 12 pounds 4 and think about what state my muff would be in had I passed her naturally

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By *ofUs4UCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I have it too. I've had 4 big babies and my body shows the scars and wear and tear. They are my tiger stripes, I earned them! If a guy doesn't like my tummy, his loss. I am much more than a belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can totally empathise. Having 2 c-sections myself and not exactly being the slimmest lol i have an apron and i hate it

no matter how much people tell you they don't care about it etc I bet that won't change the way you feel about it.

You have to do what is right for you. If you are unhappy and think that surgery is the only option for you then do it, as long as you realise that surgery is always major and you have done everything else that may help. I know drs are always reluctant to go forward with surgery unless every other option has been explored. Maybe adopt this approach? Not that I am trying to preach. I hope you achieve what you want and whatever you decide i wish you all the best

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I feel a bit down about mine I just console myself by remembering my eldest child weight 12 pounds 4 and think about what state my muff would be in had I passed her naturally

crossing my legs at the thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't help in afraid, but will wish you luck in anything you decide to do xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No offence to all the lovely ladies on here who also have the apron but having looked at your profiles, mine is way worse.

My knickers roll underneath it.

Yours still probably isn't as bad as what you think it is. But like i said, you have to convince yourself of this.

It's your body, things have happened to it, and that's ok. Have the Op if you want to, i probably would if i had the choice to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a tummy pouch mum, not from a section, just over stretching during pregnancy. I am quite self conscious and send a full naked pic before meeting, to be sure it's not gonna put people off and to put my mind at ease so I can just enjoy the whole experience without worrying too much what they're thinking. Chances are, if they've warmed to your personality, they won't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the overhang a c-section and some other surgery has left me with and struggle with clothes to hide it well.

I am curious to hear your thoughts. Would it put you off meeting someone ? Any clever ideas to disguise it well ?

I once heard the stomach apron referred to as a "gunt" on here.

Mrs x"

I've had 2 c - sections & hate my flabby belly also. Unsure if I cld ever afford surgery or if I would trust someone to carryout a tuck.

I find when I loose a bit of weight it doesn't look as bad. I think I need to diet again as I hate how I look atm.

Good luck with your decision.

Jill x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You know what. There are some wonderful people on here.

I try to convince myself it doesn't matter. Funny thing is it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if someone else had one or any other imperfections so I'm not sure why I am so hung up on it. I guess its my own insecurity that I need to work on.

Thank you again for excellent advice and support you lovely lot.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I feel a bit down about mine I just console myself by remembering my eldest child weight 12 pounds 4 and think about what state my muff would be in had I passed her naturally

Ouch!! I thought my heaviest at 8lb 3oz was big lol. X

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

I hate the overhang a c-section and some other surgery has left me with and struggle with clothes to hide it well.

I am curious to hear your thoughts. Would it put you off meeting someone ? Any clever ideas to disguise it well ?

I once heard the stomach apron referred to as a "gunt" on here.

Mrs x

I've had 2 c - sections & hate my flabby belly also. Unsure if I cld ever afford surgery or if I would trust someone to carryout a tuck.

I find when I loose a bit of weight it doesn't look as bad. I think I need to diet again as I hate how I look atm.

Good luck with your decision.

Jill x"

Me too 3 c sections and I tend to play covered up in the middle. I find it bothers me more than anyone else but when I do lose weight it tends to look much better. 1st Down and some more to go but getting more confident all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You know what. There are some wonderful people on here.

Thank you again for excellent advice and support you lovely lot.

Xxx"

I think the hardest thing to remember is not everybody sees you the way you see yourself

When you look at yourself naked you see your bad points and think I hate my belly, when a guy sees you naked he thinks......nice tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been hung up I'm mine for years too, I've just started to accept it now, I doubt I'll ever be able to have it surgically removed and then there's the scary thought of general anaesthetic. I'm much more interested in meeting people that accept my physical flaws and are more interested in my personality than my physical assets, although yes on a site like this your physical assets are more likely to attract people. I just hold out for right people for me. If they don't like what they see, next!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely hate my mummy tummy. I didn't have a section but I've got the pouch thing and horrific stretch marks. I can't stand the sight of myself naked and if I could get a tummy tuck I would. However for financial and health reasons I couldn't.

I hide it in my photos and I love dressing up purely because it's an excuse to hide it. I've been told many times how it's special and I've 3 fantastic children it was home to. While such comments are kind and well intentioned it doesn't change how I feel in myself.

I think in general on here people are very accepting as most of us are fairly 'normal'folk. For every negative thought someone else might have on it there are many others thinking you look fantastic. It's important to try and remember that in life there is always someone that will look at you and think wow I wish I had her body. OP. .. I'm that person lol

I know it won't change how you feel but I hope it might help you a little bit xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd totally love to talk to you about this privately its something I'm seriously considering atm

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

"How do you deal with getting naked on meets ?

I always wear something to cover it even in water.

I used to wear things to hide it. Even to the extent of refusing to remove my knickers on meets etc. Now I don't care

Nobody has ever mentioned it x "

wow.. knickers on.... now that is what I call safe sex!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You know what. There are some wonderful people on here.

Thank you again for excellent advice and support you lovely lot.

Xxx

I think the hardest thing to remember is not everybody sees you the way you see yourself

When you look at yourself naked you see your bad points and think I hate my belly, when a guy sees you naked he thinks......nice tits

Spot on this is where I struggle. My husband pointed out that any time someone compliments me, I always follow thanking them with putting myself down somehow. He says I'm my own worst enemy and I put too much pressure on myself. I take about 50 pics just to chose one to post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You know what. There are some wonderful people on here.

Thank you again for excellent advice and support you lovely lot.

Xxx

I think the hardest thing to remember is not everybody sees you the way you see yourself

When you look at yourself naked you see your bad points and think I hate my belly, when a guy sees you naked he thinks......nice tits

I do that too, I listern to myself sometimes and realise how off putting it is

I try not to anymore but sometimes I can't help the self piss taking comments

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You know what. There are some wonderful people on here.

Thank you again for excellent advice and support you lovely lot.

Xxx

I think the hardest thing to remember is not everybody sees you the way you see yourself

When you look at yourself naked you see your bad points and think I hate my belly, when a guy sees you naked he thinks......nice tits

I do that too, I listern to myself sometimes and realise how off putting it is

I try not to anymore but sometimes I can't help the self piss taking comments

I like taking the piss out of myself.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd totally love to talk to you about this privately its something I'm seriously considering atm

I'll pm you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I absolutely hate my mummy tummy. I didn't have a section but I've got the pouch thing and horrific stretch marks. I can't stand the sight of myself naked and if I could get a tummy tuck I would. However for financial and health reasons I couldn't.

I know it won't change how you feel but I hope it might help you a little bit xx "

Just goes to show that other people see us differently to how we see ourselves as NN said because I think you look gorgeous. Us ladies are way harsh on ourselves.

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By *anatee175Couple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I have one too. It hasn't stopped me and my meets don't seem to care.

It's who I am.

Claire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the overhang a c-section and some other surgery has left me with and struggle with clothes to hide it well.

I am curious to hear your thoughts. Would it put you off meeting someone ? Any clever ideas to disguise it well ?

I once heard the stomach apron referred to as a "gunt" on here.

Mrs x"

I think most guys would be happy just to meet you and you're probably more worried about it than they ever would be. Have fun guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You know what. There are some wonderful people on here.

Thank you again for excellent advice and support you lovely lot.

Xxx

I think the hardest thing to remember is not everybody sees you the way you see yourself

When you look at yourself naked you see your bad points and think I hate my belly, when a guy sees you naked he thinks......nice tits

This is what I'm like! Sounds like g talking!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

thankyou for this thread x i have one due to eptopic pregnancy and i have tried every which way to get rid of it apart from surgery. having been someone with abs, size 10 with big boobs for years, my curves were hideous, then, disgusting, then unattractive and now uncomfortable.i wont lie, i dont like it and i dont like what it represents for me, however, it really is about me getting over it, in order to enjoy life again.

at the beginning of the year i challenged myself to go do a life drawing class. i thought if they didnt run out of the room screaming then i could survive anything.. i am an extreme self challenger btw, it worked for me...ive managed to join here.

i still dont like it and i will look for options to reduce it in time, but in this moment, i can learn to enjoy myself again.

im glad you have fun even if you are self conscious...and i hope you get the solution for you, much love x

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over a year ago

I had a major tummy-tuck after I put on eight stone having my babies!

Best thing I ever did.

Xxxxx

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over a year ago

I had a major tummy-tuck after I put on eight stone having my babies!

Best thing I ever did.

Xxxxx"

Thank you for sharing that. You look amazing. What was the recovery like ? Xx

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over a year ago

Your pics are lovely

I too have an overhang and I hate hate hate it. Having had 4 kids and then losing 5 stone it really is a part of me I dislike

I just don't think I have the guts to have the op though

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I had a major tummy-tuck after I put on eight stone having my babies!

Best thing I ever did.

Xxxxx

Thank you for sharing that. You look amazing. What was the recovery like ? Xx"

Will pm

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over a year ago

Chick, you're stunning! Seriously, you've nothing to worry about.

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over a year ago

I had a major tummy-tuck after I put on eight stone having my babies!

Best thing I ever did.

Xxxxx

Thank you for sharing that. You look amazing. What was the recovery like ? Xx

Will pm"

Oh please will you on me too? X

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over a year ago

I wish I had the courage to take a naked pic to show you all the reality.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I had a major tummy-tuck after I put on eight stone having my babies!

Best thing I ever did.

Xxxxx"

Oh wow!!!!! How much weight did you loose first? And how? You look incredible x

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over a year ago

My wife looks n is amazing. But she dislikes her stretch marks to the point off tears, If some ones heartless enough to make a nasty comment.

I think shes beautiful,

"but dont tell her often enough"

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OP I think it is entirely up to you. If it bothers you that much and you can afford it (depending on the surgery risks you mentioned) then absolutely definitely go for it.

Other people really don't notice our 'faults' the same way we do. Lingerie can cover it up. But it's you and your body.

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over a year ago

I have no children, no c sections, but from weight gain and loss over the years I also have the apron/gunt - call it what you will. It's the part of me I dislike the most because I will never be able to do anything about it, because it's skin that's been stretched too far that will never go back into shape no matter what I do.

If surgery is not an option I think you just have to learn to live with it. I know that's much easier said than done.

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over a year ago

Right well from what I can see you look hot hot hot..

Regarding what you have described and a gunt!!!

They are two different things!!!!!

What you describe a lot of woman have ... And men do like natural women!!

Baby body changes are natural!!

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over a year ago

Oh just to say, be thankful it's a reminder of your beautiful children and doing something good, not just of being a fat bastard like mine is. I feel the same way when people say stretch marks are tiger stripes. Sometimes they're not.

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over a year ago

"I have exactly the same, having had a babba six months ago.

I hated mine at first but now I have learned that its part of me. Yes i am exercising to try and tone it a bit but i am of the opinion now that you either like it or jog on

Its whats just underneath that i am interested in anyway!! "

I totally agree

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over a year ago

"OP I think it is entirely up to you. If it bothers you that much and you can afford it (depending on the surgery risks you mentioned) then absolutely definitely go for it.

Other people really don't notice our 'faults' the same way we do. Lingerie can cover it up. But it's you and your body. "

Thank you.

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over a year ago

"I have no children, no c sections, but from weight gain and loss over the years I also have the apron/gunt - call it what you will. It's the part of me I dislike the most because I will never be able to do anything about it, because it's skin that's been stretched too far that will never go back into shape no matter what I do.

If surgery is not an option I think you just have to learn to live with it. I know that's much easier said than done. "

This is the thing, surgery is a massive risk for me personally for various reasons let alone being overweight. I worry losing weight will make it even saggier.

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over a year ago

"Oh just to say, be thankful it's a reminder of your beautiful children and doing something good, not just of being a fat bastard like mine is. I feel the same way when people say stretch marks are tiger stripes. Sometimes they're not."

You are not a fat bastard!! If you think you are though you are the hottest fat bastard in town.

It just reinforces what NN said about people seeing us differently to how we see ourselves.

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over a year ago

You are not a fat bastard!! If you think you are though you are the hottest fat bastard in town.

It just reinforces what NN said about people seeing us differently to how we see ourselves. "

See I can be right sometimes

I've always seen ruby as one of the more popular women on the forums

You have a beautiful curvy figure, and I don't mean curvy to substitute fat, and you wear the right underwear to compliment your shape

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You are not a fat bastard!! If you think you are though you are the hottest fat bastard in town.

It just reinforces what NN said about people seeing us differently to how we see ourselves.

See I can be right sometimes

I've always seen ruby as one of the more popular women on the forums

You have a beautiful curvy figure, and I don't mean curvy to substitute fat, and you wear the right underwear to compliment your shape

I didn't mean so much now, but thank you both

But I have most definitely been a fat bastard before, hence the loose skin - I'm more of a slightly chubby bastard now

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over a year ago

Chams or Socials

You are not a fat bastard!! If you think you are though you are the hottest fat bastard in town.

It just reinforces what NN said about people seeing us differently to how we see ourselves.

See I can be right sometimes

I've always seen ruby as one of the more popular women on the forums

You have a beautiful curvy figure, and I don't mean curvy to substitute fat, and you wear the right underwear to compliment your shape

I didn't mean so much now, but thank you both

But I have most definitely been a fat bastard before, hence the loose skin - I'm more of a slightly chubby bastard now

Well I think you're bloody gorgeous!!!

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If surgery is not an option I think you just have to learn to live with it. I know that's much easier said than done.

This is the thing, surgery is a massive risk for me personally for various reasons let alone being overweight. I worry losing weight will make it even saggier.

Honestly, when I did lose weight and when I am thinner than I am at the moment it probably is a little saggier. But being less fat overall makes it easier to conceal with good underwear, if that makes sense!

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

It's the area on my body that I hate the most as well and I have no children. Just a wobbly fat belly pouch. Something I've realised in the last few years though is that I am the only one who is bothered by it. Doesn't mean that stops me being bothered by it but it stops me worrying about anyone else being so. And if they are, then fuck 'em. Or not as the case may be.

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over a year ago

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If surgery is not an option I think you just have to learn to live with it. I know that's much easier said than done.

This is the thing, surgery is a massive risk for me personally for various reasons let alone being overweight. I worry losing weight will make it even saggier.

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I can't really tell by your pictures apart from I can't see you need to lose my h weight (if any). Trust me, it won't make much difference on the amount you want to lose. I look at it this way, more people see me with my clothes on than off and I look a damn sight better in clothes now than imever did.

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If surgery is not an option I think you just have to learn to live with it. I know that's much easier said than done. "

You do mention it a lot.... if it bothers you that much why not look into something like op

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