FabSwingers.com forum: Advice please

By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Wife is taking our 8yr old daughter to a concert on a school day.

Daughter will have to get up for school at 7am. Concert starts at 7pm and doesn't finish intil 11pm so they wont be home in bed until 1am.

Is it ok for a child to be out this late?

Only found out about this after she paid for the tickets.

Thanks

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Yes - it's a long day but I don;t imagine it will kill her

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Yes - it's a long day but I don;t imagine it will kill her

This!

Not every night obviously but a treat now and then doesn't hurt I don't think.

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"Yes - it's a long day but I don;t imagine it will kill her

Thanks

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

I don't see a problem with this...it's only one night and will be a wonderful experience for her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She'll sleep ask the way home, so it's not too bad.

Just hoe there isn't school again in the morning

They're pretty tough and resilient

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"Yes - it's a long day but I don;t imagine it will kill her

This!

Not every night obviously but a treat now and then doesn't hurt I don't think."

Thanks...thats 2 for the dragon and 0 for me

Do you think I should have atleast been told about this before she got the tickets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She'll sleep ask the way home, so it's not too bad.

Just hoe there isn't school again in the morning

They're pretty tough and resilient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will be a long day. But as its a one off, I don't see the harm. Besides tomorrow is Friday, so possibly a long weekend and in this part of the country its half term next week. So I don't see the harm.

I'm not a believer in a day off school will damage your daughters education. It will be a life experience, one I hope she enjoys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes - it's a long day but I don;t imagine it will kill her

This!

Not every night obviously but a treat now and then doesn't hurt I don't think.

Thanks...thats 2 for the dragon and 0 for me

Do you think I should have atleast been told about this before she got the tickets? "

Was it not in the small print?

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well here is a thing. I took my kids to Cardiff one night (youngest was five at the time) to see doctor who filmed, we live in Kent, we didn't get home until 4am, they still went to school the next day, full of the tale of the night before, the child will be ok!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then."

Just think on the positive, you've got a whole night off to yourself

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Yes - it's a long day but I don;t imagine it will kill her

This!

Not every night obviously but a treat now and then doesn't hurt I don't think.

Thanks...thats 2 for the dragon and 0 for me

Do you think I should have atleast been told about this before she got the tickets? "

You're totally gonna lose this one!

Lighten up and remember you were young once too. And plus you can scam a bucket load of chores out of her in return!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then."

Shouldn't the emphasis be on your daughter's wellbeing, as opposed to a score system between you and your wife?

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then.

Just think on the positive, you've got a whole night off to yourself

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Yes - it's a long day but I don;t imagine it will kill her

This!

Not every night obviously but a treat now and then doesn't hurt I don't think.

Thanks...thats 2 for the dragon and 0 for me

Do you think I should have atleast been told about this before she got the tickets? "

Why? She's not taking her out of the country or doing anything that could potentially harm your daughter is she? Maybe she withheld from telling you as to avoid unnecessary conflict that could affect your daughter.

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"Yes - it's a long day but I don;t imagine it will kill her

This!

Not every night obviously but a treat now and then doesn't hurt I don't think.

Thanks...thats 2 for the dragon and 0 for me

Do you think I should have atleast been told about this before she got the tickets?

You're totally gonna lose this one!

Lighten up and remember you were young once too. And plus you can scam a bucket load of chores out of her in return!

Mmm chores

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then.

Shouldn't the emphasis be on your daughter's wellbeing, as opposed to a score system between you and your wife?"

That was my thought. This thread seems more about slating his wife rather than concern for his kid.

OP, lighten up, children need to experience life and have fun.

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then.

Shouldn't the emphasis be on your daughter's wellbeing, as opposed to a score system between you and your wife?"

Just seeing what other peoples opions are. I am worried about my daughter but I am not sure my wife gave it much thought.

I think its because she didnt have much of a childhood when she was young because of her parents.

Its not the 1st time my daughter has gone to a concert. We take her in the school hols knowing that she can sleep in all day afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry fella, I'm siding with your wife also

I also don't see why she should have told you beforehand what time it finishes, but maybe that's just me

Life's too short to stress over one offs

just chill and enjoy whatever happens

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Thank you all for your advice.

Maybe I worry too much. Just hope Noel Gallagher dont swear too much then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then.

Shouldn't the emphasis be on your daughter's wellbeing, as opposed to a score system between you and your wife?

Just seeing what other peoples opions are. I am worried about my daughter but I am not sure my wife gave it much thought.

I think its because she didnt have much of a childhood when she was young because of her parents.

Its not the 1st time my daughter has gone to a concert. We take her in the school hols knowing that she can sleep in all day afterwards."

Do you want your daughter to have a similar childhood to your wife? How is this not a good thing?

And did your daughter sleep in particularly laste when you've taken her in school holidays? I bet the answer is no..

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then.

Shouldn't the emphasis be on your daughter's wellbeing, as opposed to a score system between you and your wife?

Just seeing what other peoples opions are. I am worried about my daughter but I am not sure my wife gave it much thought.

I think its because she didnt have much of a childhood when she was young because of her parents.

Its not the 1st time my daughter has gone to a concert. We take her in the school hols knowing that she can sleep in all day afterwards.

Do you want your daughter to have a similar childhood to your wife? How is this not a good thing?

And did your daughter sleep in particularly laste when you've taken her in school holidays? I bet the answer is no.."

As I said we have taken our daughter to concerts on school hols and weekends not on a school day.

My daughter has problems getting up even shes in bed for 8pm wether its a school day or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hope each parent would consult the other before making such a decision, especially if they are a couple. (Not separated.)

For me it would depend on what night in the week it was- not too bad later in the week as she could catch up on sleep at the weekend. Also on the maturity of the child. Some 8 year olds wouldn't be the type to take to a concert late at night.

Reading your responses so far OP, I'm with you. I would be annoyed with my partner in the situation you describe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you all for your advice.

Maybe I worry too much. Just hope Noel Gallagher dont swear too much then

Noel Gallagher?

That changes everything! I'm totally with you now

This is surely abuse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you all for your advice.

Maybe I worry too much. Just hope Noel Gallagher dont swear too much then

Noel Gallagher?

That changes everything! I'm totally with you now

This is surely abuse!"

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"I would hope each parent would consult the other before making such a decision, especially if they are a couple. (Not separated.)

Reading your responses so far OP, I'm with you. I would be annoyed with my partner in the situation you describe. "

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"Thank you all for your advice.

Maybe I worry too much. Just hope Noel Gallagher dont swear too much then

Noel Gallagher?

That changes everything! I'm totally with you now

This is surely abuse!"

Thats what I thought...noel fucking gallagher...what a knob.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Thank you all for your advice.

Maybe I worry too much. Just hope Noel Gallagher dont swear too much then

Noel Gallagher?

That changes everything! I'm totally with you now

This is surely abuse!"

Agreed!

Be grateful you don't have to go and enjoy the peaceful evening alone!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I would hope each parent would consult the other before making such a decision, especially if they are a couple. (Not separated.)

Reading your responses so far OP, I'm with you. I would be annoyed with my partner in the situation you describe.

Thank you. I am annoyed as I wasnt told this until afterwards. The concert is on a friday but we do have another child and I am worried that she will neglect him as I am at work the following day and she will just sleep in on that day."
the concert is a Friday so she doesn't have to get up for school, its also a treat as for neglecting your other child I'm sure if she did stay in bed an extra hour its not going to kill them.

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"I would hope each parent would consult the other before making such a decision, especially if they are a couple. (Not separated.)

Reading your responses so far OP, I'm with you. I would be annoyed with my partner in the situation you describe.

Thank you. I am annoyed as I wasnt told this until afterwards. The concert is on a friday but we do have another child and I am worried that she will neglect him as I am at work the following day and she will just sleep in on that day.the concert is a Friday so she doesn't have to get up for school, its also a treat as for neglecting your other child I'm sure if she did stay in bed an extra hour its not going to kill them.

An extra hour? I will be lucky if she is awake by 11.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wife is taking our 8yr old daughter to a concert on a school day.

Daughter will have to get up for school at 7am. Concert starts at 7pm and doesn't finish intil 11pm so they wont be home in bed until 1am.

Is it ok for a child to be out this late?

Only found out about this after she paid for the tickets.

Thanks"
of course it is all these little adventures shape their future ,I actually loved that that guy won that landmark case when he took his child out of school for a holiday ,children need adventure and need to spend time with both their parents 24/7 and its so expensive to book a holiday in school holidays I was lucky I was well off when my kids were young and self employed but so many of my friends and their children didn't get the adventures we did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then."

Do you often score points off eachother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then."
sure it's a long day I get your concern but at the end of the day it's an life experience for your child that's going to be fun kids spend way to much time stuck doing boring crap smile be happy your kids going to do something fun so what if it's a long day think of the lay in the nxt day

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"Thanks all.

Still looks like it's 0 for me then.

Do you often score points off eachother?

Yep. Its normally me giving her one.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I would hope each parent would consult the other before making such a decision, especially if they are a couple. (Not separated.)

Reading your responses so far OP, I'm with you. I would be annoyed with my partner in the situation you describe.

Thank you. I am annoyed as I wasnt told this until afterwards. The concert is on a friday but we do have another child and I am worried that she will neglect him as I am at work the following day and she will just sleep in on that day.the concert is a Friday so she doesn't have to get up for school, its also a treat as for neglecting your other child I'm sure if she did stay in bed an extra hour its not going to kill them.

An extra hour? I will be lucky if she is awake by 11."
is this your wife or ex wife you are talking about?

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

"I would hope each parent would consult the other before making such a decision, especially if they are a couple. (Not separated.)

Reading your responses so far OP, I'm with you. I would be annoyed with my partner in the situation you describe.

Thank you. I am annoyed as I wasnt told this until afterwards. The concert is on a friday but we do have another child and I am worried that she will neglect him as I am at work the following day and she will just sleep in on that day.the concert is a Friday so she doesn't have to get up for school, its also a treat as for neglecting your other child I'm sure if she did stay in bed an extra hour its not going to kill them.

An extra hour? I will be lucky if she is awake by 11.is this your wife or ex wife you are talking about?

Wife

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I would hope each parent would consult the other before making such a decision, especially if they are a couple. (Not separated.)

Reading your responses so far OP, I'm with you. I would be annoyed with my partner in the situation you describe.

Thank you. I am annoyed as I wasnt told this until afterwards. The concert is on a friday but we do have another child and I am worried that she will neglect him as I am at work the following day and she will just sleep in on that day.the concert is a Friday so she doesn't have to get up for school, its also a treat as for neglecting your other child I'm sure if she did stay in bed an extra hour its not going to kill them.

An extra hour? I will be lucky if she is awake by 11.is this your wife or ex wife you are talking about?

Wife"

Do the two of you communicate at all?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I would hope each parent would consult the other before making such a decision, especially if they are a couple. (Not separated.)

Reading your responses so far OP, I'm with you. I would be annoyed with my partner in the situation you describe.

Thank you. I am annoyed as I wasnt told this until afterwards. The concert is on a friday but we do have another child and I am worried that she will neglect him as I am at work the following day and she will just sleep in on that day.the concert is a Friday so she doesn't have to get up for school, its also a treat as for neglecting your other child I'm sure if she did stay in bed an extra hour its not going to kill them.

An extra hour? I will be lucky if she is awake by 11.is this your wife or ex wife you are talking about?

Wife"

You appear to have very little faith in your wife's patenting skills. How old is the other child?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well id be pissed if my parents never took me to a concert because it finished late i often take my 6 year old boy to watch man utd somtimes dont get in till 3am but he sleeps on the bus all the way up and home so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a coach driver and seeing this all the time, I personally think it is wrong for a child of that age to be out that late, and mostly on a weeknight so school in morning.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

So it's a Friday night?

I'm not really sure what the issue is then unless there's some sort of underlying toys out of pram thing going on cause you weren't consulted. I think it's pretty reasonable to treat your kids without asking your other half for permission. What happened to mother/daughter bonding? Your other child presumably (wisely) isn't a fan of the same music so wasn't invited/didn't want to go?

I'd be more concerned about sorting your kids taste in music out.

It seems a bit petty to be getting annoyed about it. Life is too short not to have adventures.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Do you honestly think your wife will neglect your children just because she won't get to bed til 1?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

My frank opinion is that the rights and wrongs of this are secondary and there is another agenda entirely at work here.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"My frank opinion is that the rights and wrongs of this are secondary and there is another agenda entirely at work here."

My thoughts too I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't blame your wife for not telling you, the way you're carrying on.

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By *asycouple1971 OP Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Yes I am annoyed that I was not told beforehand. I am sure if the shoe was on the other foot she would like to have been told l.

My other child is 11 and is a fan of noel but knows its a long day and he will be too tired to enjoy it.

As for my daughter I dont think she knows who noel is. My wife could have said "Do you want to see satan?" and she would have said yes.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think this is all completly bizzare talking about your wife like this and at 11 years of age I'm not sure she can be accused of neglect for staying in bed for a couple of hours. I think you have blown the whole thing out of proportion

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Your that annoyed she didn't consult you post a thread on the forum which basically states you have no trust on her parenting skills and she'll neglect your other child. Rather than talking to her

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Your that annoyed she didn't consult you post a thread on the forum which basically states you have no trust on her parenting skills and she'll neglect your other child. Rather than talking to her "

seems like a very odd situation

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Nooooo chill she'll luv it and be super excited to tell her friends about the concert

like lads going to footie with their dad they get home at late o'clock !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought the concert was tonight and you were not together anymore!

It's a Friday night, she's 11 years old, pretty soon she's going to want to stay up later anyway, kids grow up, yeah it's not the best concert to take your child to (I saw oasis when I was 14 and pretty scared then!) but your wife is still a parent and while she may not have consulted you about it, she can still make decisions and buy her things without having to ask you as you are TOGETHER if you had split up then I could see your problem.

Let her sleep Saturday, have a lazy Saturday!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I am annoyed that I was not told beforehand. I am sure if the shoe was on the other foot she would like to have been told l.

My other child is 11 and is a fan of noel but knows its a long day and he will be too tired to enjoy it.

As for my daughter I dont think she knows who noel is. My wife could have said "Do you want to see satan?" and she would have said yes."

It's a one night thing, I went and saw 911 when I was about 7 or 8 and I really enjoyed it. Maybe give your wife(mother of your child) a break and let her enjoy some bonding time with your child.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Clearly more going on than just about tickets . If I was your wife I certainly would be talking ...about you posting the tread and comments you made . Never great airing your washing in public ,what ever your issues are you should be talking direct to her ,not to total strangers

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