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Stress is the new killer how to beat it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just asking if yr a fellow sufferer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all are , in varying levels

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It can be difficult to recognise early signs. Making lists and giving yourself realistic goals, making sure you have down time and getting out and about walking or cycling is good.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I hate to advocate sex, drugs and mental health but they've always worked for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cycle 30/40 mile a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't cope with stress well at all now. I used to; I did the juggling many balls for a long time until,one night it all blew up on me. Haven't been the same since and stresses of life and ill health are taking their toll on me. My medication helps and giving myself a time out. I used to write things down and prioritise them. My work was never my problem though.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I don't cope with stress well at all now. I used to; I did the juggling many balls for a long time until,one night it all blew up on me. Haven't been the same since and stresses of life and ill health are taking their toll on me. My medication helps and giving myself a time out. I used to write things down and prioritise them. My work was never my problem though."
maybe you were juggling grenades.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone refusing to take medication the things that help me are being around my kids, which at the minute is hard, I'm in Glasgow they are in north west of England, as Simple as it sounds music is a big thing for me, and depending on the stress level we have both found adult colouring books a good thing

Mr

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Divorse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular massage and learning to step back and chill out.

I also use essential oils when relaxing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow they're are some intelligent ppl here. Not all numpties

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Wow they're are some intelligent ppl here. Not all numpties "
I'm intelligent but have a weird sense of humour. It can come across as numptyness. Laughing is a good stress reliever as it releases endorphins. I suppose the trick is finding something funny to laugh at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't cope with stress well at all now. I used to; I did the juggling many balls for a long time until,one night it all blew up on me. Haven't been the same since and stresses of life and ill health are taking their toll on me. My medication helps and giving myself a time out. I used to write things down and prioritise them. My work was never my problem though. maybe you were juggling grenades. "

Felt like it sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Divorse?"

That did alleviate quite a lot of my mental stress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use apathy as my stress shield. It's not particularly healthy but is extremely effective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone refusing to take medication the things that help me are being around my kids, which at the minute is hard, I'm in Glasgow they are in north west of England, as Simple as it sounds music is a big thing for me, and depending on the stress level we have both found adult colouring books a good thing

Mr"

How people differ. My children and grandchildren cause me a lot of stress. Music irritates me and I can't stand colouring in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I use apathy as my stress shield. It's not particularly healthy but is extremely effective."

My medication gives me a big dose of apathy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away from toxic people. Drink lots of water. Stretch often. Feel the wind in your hair and the grass between your toes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I use apathy as my stress shield. It's not particularly healthy but is extremely effective."

That and perspective; starving children in Africa and all that jazz.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I use apathy as my stress shield. It's not particularly healthy but is extremely effective.

My medication gives me a big dose of apathy."

Mine's natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone refusing to take medication the things that help me are being around my kids, which at the minute is hard, I'm in Glasgow they are in north west of England, as Simple as it sounds music is a big thing for me, and depending on the stress level we have both found adult colouring books a good thing

Mr

How people differ. My children and grandchildren cause me a lot of stress. Music irritates me and I can't stand colouring in. "

It's the madness and energy of the kids that I feel good being around. They don't see me as depressed dad they just see me as dad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm honestly not too bothered by stress. I have to care about things for them to be stressful, and in all honesty I don't care that much about things other than Marc and my dogs (I don't have kids and my career is no longer something I focus on).

If things ever become hard, Marc helps me and the weight is lifted before I can really feel the stress of it. I try to do the same for him.

I think I'm pretty lucky, actually.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone refusing to take medication the things that help me are being around my kids, which at the minute is hard, I'm in Glasgow they are in north west of England, as Simple as it sounds music is a big thing for me, and depending on the stress level we have both found adult colouring books a good thing

Mr

How people differ. My children and grandchildren cause me a lot of stress. Music irritates me and I can't stand colouring in.

It's the madness and energy of the kids that I feel good being around. They don't see me as depressed dad they just see me as dad."

The energy of my grandchildren I can cope with,the noise and arguments I can't. My nerves are shot to pieces so noise makes me feel physically ill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm honestly not too bothered by stress. I have to care about things for them to be stressful, and in all honesty I don't care that much about things other than Marc and my dogs (I don't have kids and my career is no longer something I focus on).

If things ever become hard, Marc helps me and the weight is lifted before I can really feel the stress of it. I try to do the same for him.

I think I'm pretty lucky, actually.

-Courtney"

Ironically my ex husband was good at counter balancing my stress levels. He is a non worrier and would tell me not to stress out about things. Ironic because he was the cause of a lot of my stress and I ran the house,garden,car and did almost all of the child care .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been and it is a bugger. I find that working less and having more enjoyable sex helps massively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lack of stress can kill you to, controlled stress is the way forward.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Don't confuse stress with depression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm honestly not too bothered by stress. I have to care about things for them to be stressful, and in all honesty I don't care that much about things other than Marc and my dogs (I don't have kids and my career is no longer something I focus on).

If things ever become hard, Marc helps me and the weight is lifted before I can really feel the stress of it. I try to do the same for him.

I think I'm pretty lucky, actually.

-Courtney

Ironically my ex husband was good at counter balancing my stress levels. He is a non worrier and would tell me not to stress out about things. Ironic because he was the cause of a lot of my stress and I ran the house,garden,car and did almost all of the child care . "

That's really sad. I guess I am really lucky then because Marc doesn't cause me any stress (the worst thing he does is work too much ).

We should never be in a position where the closest and most important things/people in our lives are making us feel like that. It is good that you had the strength to get out of it.

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby


"As someone refusing to take medication the things that help me are being around my kids, which at the minute is hard, I'm in Glasgow they are in north west of England, as Simple as it sounds music is a big thing for me, and depending on the stress level we have both found adult colouring books a good thing

Mr

How people differ. My children and grandchildren cause me a lot of stress. Music irritates me and I can't stand colouring in.

It's the madness and energy of the kids that I feel good being around. They don't see me as depressed dad they just see me as dad.

The energy of my grandchildren I can cope with,the noise and arguments I can't. My nerves are shot to pieces so noise makes me feel physically ill. "
I,m not trying to be cheeky Here and "perhaps" as daft as it sounds but do you think wearing ear Protectors or ear plugs may help you, May even get a message across to the Kids to not shout as much..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone refusing to take medication the things that help me are being around my kids, which at the minute is hard, I'm in Glasgow they are in north west of England, as Simple as it sounds music is a big thing for me, and depending on the stress level we have both found adult colouring books a good thing

Mr

How people differ. My children and grandchildren cause me a lot of stress. Music irritates me and I can't stand colouring in.

It's the madness and energy of the kids that I feel good being around. They don't see me as depressed dad they just see me as dad.

The energy of my grandchildren I can cope with,the noise and arguments I can't. My nerves are shot to pieces so noise makes me feel physically ill. I,m not trying to be cheeky Here and "perhaps" as daft as it sounds but do you think wearing ear Protectors or ear plugs may help you, May even get a message across to the Kids to not shout as much.."

They wouldn't care or change their noise levels. I put my fingers in my ears when it's really getting on my nerves

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By *ebedeedoodahMan
over a year ago

Greenford

Indeed x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

By taking as much stress out my life as I possibly can, being stressed doe not help my illness. I decided to look after me and my mental health, its made me more selfish I guess but I've decided I'm important. It's working well.

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By *plankyMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Light a big one and put on Black Sabbath - or Charles Mingus.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"By taking as much stress out my life as I possibly can, being stressed doe not help my illness. I decided to look after me and my mental health, its made me more selfish I guess but I've decided I'm important. It's working well."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since I've been medicated and having regular sex I can honestly say my stress and anxiety has dropped. Sometimes to the degree it looks like I don't give a shit sometimes, which isn't always good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has been a killer for years, just all of a sudden if has been recognized.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since I've been medicated and having regular sex I can honestly say my stress and anxiety has dropped. Sometimes to the degree it looks like I don't give a shit sometimes, which isn't always good "

regular sex is a great anti depressant, its a big help for both of us

mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just asking if yr a fellow sufferer "

No I smoke copius amounts of hippycrack to avoid it

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Do one thing at a time. Don't leave stuff unfinished or have loose ends in life generally.

Don't just live by goals, allow enjoyment of your time and experiences.

Always make the time for breaks and rest. And manage your health well. Exercise is a great way to alleviate the effects of stress, so do some regularly.

Enjoy what you're doing and make sure that you you're doing enough of what you love.

Having plenty of physical touch and contact (gangbangs?) is great for lowering my stress levels, so maybe even have a professional massage, if you're not getting as much as you could.

Slow Down. There is not a race, except where you make it happen.

And find balance and harmony wherever you can. If something is lacking, such as using your creativity, then make the time for it.

And fun will be great for your body and mind.

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