FabSwingers.com forum: Stood up

By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago

The right place

I'm currently waiting in a bar but I get the feeling I've been stood up.

Nearly half an hour overdue and they haven't been online (on here since yesterday).

Hi hum.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Bugger

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

text them, traffic may be bad

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Bugger"

Give it an hour - it's that time of day for bad traffic.

Did you get a phone no?

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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago

The right place

"text them, traffic may be bad"

I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"text them, traffic may be bad

I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab. "

oh dear......... not looking good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman's prerogative and all that .. Hopefully she'll turn up soon

Plan B : the football later!

Good luck fella, hope she shows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab. "

And you went on a meet?

More fool you tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd leave, half an hour is long enough

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

remember to report her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the above an hour max

Then start browsing who is mobile nearby lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, seems you have been there, have they not even texted you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab.

And you went on a meet?

More fool you tbh. "

I never give my number out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway, go have a wank in the toilet ...

if she does show it'll teach her not to waste your time.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

look for another meet and watch for the thread tomorrow from a pissy female spouting about a bad man daring to seek a second meet on the same day as she was meeting him

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

So you don't confirm a meet on the day through here? If I didn't hear anything on the day I wouldn't turn up,unless that was the arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd leave, half an hour is long enough "

My first ever verified meet on here was over half an hour late (I can say that now they're UNLOS) - I was going to give about 5 more mins then they turned up hugely apologetic and we had a fantastic time!

Hour wait tops though ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were 40 minutes late for a meet once because the train before ours broke down.

But we had exchanged contact details and were talking to the couple. If you've been stood up, then I'm sorry. It sucks. Its happened to us, too

-Courtney

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I was two hours late once when I got the train to a meet in the last big storm we had. Managed to get through on the last train before they closed the line but I did keep him posted throughout. I think no communication and no show I'd give it an hour if I had a good book on me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"text them, traffic may be bad

I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab. "

School boy error

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you don't confirm a meet on the day through here? If I didn't hear anything on the day I wouldn't turn up,unless that was the arrangement."

Same tbh

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By *airy_HettyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Omg, use kik then.

Fingers crossed for you.

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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago

The right place

"I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab.

And you went on a meet?

More fool you tbh. "

Maybe, but its never been a problem with other meets in the past.

The bar is in the hotel I'm staying in anyway. So nothing lost.

Thanks for the virtual company fellow forumites.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've had people turn up late for me... I'm okay with that if there's a decent excuse. I've never been stood up (*touches wood*) though. I think that's pretty rude and there would be no second chance.

Hope your evening isn't wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drove to Nottingham for a business meeting today, a round trip of 6 hours.

The guy I was meeting didn't turn up

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If no communication is stay till I'd finished my drink, communication is different, I would always swap numbers must in case.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab.

And you went on a meet?

More fool you tbh.

Maybe, but its never been a problem with other meets in the past.

The bar is in the hotel I'm staying in anyway. So nothing lost.

Thanks for the virtual company fellow forumites. "
oh well that's different you'd be sat there anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was over 2 hours late to a meet after getting stuck on the m6. My meet was very nice over it and even had food waiting for me when I finally arrived. We then had an awesome night at chams

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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago

The right place

"I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab.

And you went on a meet?

More fool you tbh.

Maybe, but its never been a problem with other meets in the past.

The bar is in the hotel I'm staying in anyway. So nothing lost.

Thanks for the virtual company fellow forumites. oh well that's different you'd be sat there anyway

Exactly!

But still annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab.

And you went on a meet?

More fool you tbh. "

No one ever gets my number. It doesn't mean I'm unreliable.

I've never stood anyone up and don't plan to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never travel to a meet if there had been no communication on the day. Sometimes due to where I may be working I have no phone signal or internet, I would then say that I might not be in touch until shortly before meeting, but i would have checked in before starting off. I would wait as long as an hour, but no more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab.

And you went on a meet?

More fool you tbh.

No one ever gets my number. It doesn't mean I'm unreliable.

I've never stood anyone up and don't plan to."

Same here, saying that I would have messaged via fab if I was running late or couldn't make it, I think the no communication probably means they won't turn up, if they wanted to meet they would keep in touch so you didn't leave while they were on their way

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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago

The right place

Yep, I'm accepting that she's not coming. Chalk it up to experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure you gave her the correct hotel name?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Are you sure you gave her the correct hotel name?

I went to a wedding reception 2 x weekends ago, and even though I was invited 10 weeks in advance.....I still got the bloody wrong hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm currently waiting in a bar but I get the feeling I've been stood up.

Nearly half an hour overdue and they haven't been online (on here since yesterday).

bummer

Hi hum. "

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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago

The right place

If she was struggling to get here she would have messaged. She has the address and postcode.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one ever gets my number."

Whereas I would need a phone conversation to make sure we had a connection - and I would never accept a call from a withheld number.

I guess I just don't need to get laid badly enough.

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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago

The right place

"No one ever gets my number.

Whereas I would need a phone conversation to make sure we had a connection - and I would never accept a call from a withheld number.

I guess I just don't need to get laid badly enough.

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement and fraternity.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Now I fancy going out for a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you sure you gave her the correct hotel name?

I went to a wedding reception 2 x weekends ago, and even though I was invited 10 weeks in advance.....I still got the bloody wrong hotel

Marc and I had a lovely social with someone a little while ago.

We went to the designated Costa, sat and waited. After a few minutes we sent a message on fab telling the other person where we were in the Costa.

We saw that person walk through the door....and remind us that we were supposed to be meeting at the Cafe Nero a few blocks away

Embarrassment is tough to live with sometimes....

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you don't confirm a meet on the day through here? If I didn't hear anything on the day I wouldn't turn up,unless that was the arrangement."

Ditto...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that; chin up and chalk it down to experience I guess.

I think I'd always get a contact number though once I've fooled someone into thinking I'm not a weirdo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you don't confirm a meet on the day through here? If I didn't hear anything on the day I wouldn't turn up,unless that was the arrangement.

Ditto..."

It's not as if the op had to "turn up" as the meet was at the hotel he's staying at

Still, he's now suited and booted, so might as well make the most of the rest of the evening

Champions league anyone ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alright alright I'll be there in 5, I was washing my hair

On a serious note, that sucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If she was struggling to get here she would have messaged. She has the address and postcode.

Time to leave fella. Not happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab.

And you went on a meet?

More fool you tbh.

Maybe, but its never been a problem with other meets in the past.

The bar is in the hotel I'm staying in anyway. So nothing lost.

Thanks for the virtual company fellow forumites. "

When they haven't been on line is a big give away sometimes esp if that's how you communicate. Sorry to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've had your time wasted but don't feel bad it has happened to many on here and that deffo includes us. We've eveh had people confirm then fail to turn up. Time for you to leave we reckon. )

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By *ack LondonMan
over a year ago

London

I will travel for a meet, around london and even out of town. An hour is the longest I would wait.. In life you can be held up by this or that, but phone chat is the thing, so numbers should be exchanged before embarking...

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I guess we all got our own experiences... i would never meet without numbers

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By *Vine OP Man
over a year ago

The right place

Thanks for all the supportive comments and condolences.

I'm not waiting anymore. I'm going out with some mates instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the supportive comments and condolences.

I'm not waiting anymore. I'm going out with some mates instead.

Have a fantastic night

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Chin up matey.. i know ur a bit p'd off. Better luck next time.

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By *ynchedWoman
over a year ago

Dunstable

Been there, got the s-shirt.

But once you've experienced sitting somewhere like a lemon, it does mean you're never tempted to do the same to someone else....(not that I'd do that anyway...lol)

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I drove to Nottingham for a business meeting today, a round trip of 6 hours.

The guy I was meeting didn't turn up

Never had a no show, but Monday I was feeling shitty, dragged myself to work as a member wanted to meet me to go over his grievance case before he went on leave.

Didn't turn up or phone to apologise...so feel your pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unlucky mate, sadly it's almost par for the course lately!

As the good folks have said, just chalk it up as one of those things... As someone famous once said:

Give me the courage to change things I can, the humility to accept the things I can't... and the firepower to make the difference

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"No one ever gets my number.

Whereas I would need a phone conversation to make sure we had a connection - and I would never accept a call from a withheld number.

I guess I just don't need to get laid badly enough.

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement and fraternity. "

To be honest, he said what I was thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you sure you gave her the correct hotel name?

I went to a wedding reception 2 x weekends ago, and even though I was invited 10 weeks in advance.....I still got the bloody wrong hotel

I've done that too, I arranged a meet with a guy off here at the village hotel, I went to the dudley one he went to the Walsall one

Apparently he though he was in dudley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm currently waiting in a bar but I get the feeling I've been stood up.

Nearly half an hour overdue and they haven't been online (on here since yesterday).

Hi hum. "

It happens to us all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one ever gets my number.

Whereas I would need a phone conversation to make sure we had a connection - and I would never accept a call from a withheld number.

I guess I just don't need to get laid badly enough.

Nothing to do with wanting to get laid I just got sick of guys texting me all the time so I stopped giving my number out

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Nothing to do with wanting to get laid I just got sick of guys texting me all the time so I stopped giving my number out

I think all it takes is a couple of 1AM, 'I'm horny, are you?' messages to regret giving out your number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to do with wanting to get laid I just got sick of guys texting me all the time so I stopped giving my number out

I think all it takes is a couple of 1AM, 'I'm horny, are you?' messages to regret giving out your number.

or the ones who won't shut up while your at work even thought you tell them your working

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I guess we all got our own experiences... i would never meet without numbers"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to do with wanting to get laid I just got sick of guys texting me all the time so I stopped giving my number out

I think all it takes is a couple of 1AM, 'I'm horny, are you?' messages to regret giving out your number.

or the ones who won't shut up while your at work even thought you tell them your working

Yep all of the above, that's why either they can message on here or very rarely I give my kik out now, I do have a few odd ones with my phone number thankfully they are very respectful and never message me seedy messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheap PAYG for less than a tenner ... or the Android block function.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i'm very sorry honey xx

i hope she turns up for you x

i only message by fab, but i always confirm and msg before i leave...i dont give out my number

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Is there a bloke sat alone in the bar grinning?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to do with wanting to get laid I just got sick of guys texting me all the time so I stopped giving my number out

I think all it takes is a couple of 1AM, 'I'm horny, are you?' messages to regret giving out your number.

I said I was sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you got messed about - I always have a chat and exchange numbers and its stood me in good stead.

Each to their own- as long as it works for you? Although it seems not on this occasion x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Nothing to do with wanting to get laid I just got sick of guys texting me all the time so I stopped giving my number out

I think all it takes is a couple of 1AM, 'I'm horny, are you?' messages to regret giving out your number.

I said I was sorry

Say it with cake

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I don't have her number. We only communicate via fab. "

This is where you went wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the supportive comments and condolences.

I'm not waiting anymore. I'm going out with some mates instead.

its her loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago when I was a naive puppy, not to say a complete fool (Becky, you are not allowed to read this!!

) I agreed to meet a women at a hotel 50 miles or so away after exchanging no more than a couple of messages.

After sitting in the tiny lobby for a few minutes, it became rather apparent that there were more than a few shifty/sheepish looking men sitting around. One of them eventually cleared their throat and mentioned the website - no less than 8 men got up and left muttering their various curses.

I stayed for a bit to demonstrate to the reception staff that I couldn't possibly be so stupid and then sidled out, lesson learned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the supportive comments and condolences.

I'm not waiting anymore. I'm going out with some mates instead.

its her loss

Well clearly not as she obviously wasn't interested in meeting so she hasn't lost anything. Never get it when peeps say its their loss...but that's just me I guess.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"I'd leave, half an hour is long enough "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Years ago when I was a naive puppy, not to say a complete fool (Becky, you are not allowed to read this!!

) I agreed to meet a women at a hotel 50 miles or so away after exchanging no more than a couple of messages.

I stayed for a bit to demonstrate to the reception staff that I couldn't possibly be so stupid and then sidled out, lesson learned

I used to be "friends" with a girl who was an operator / manager on one of the oldschool telephone chat 'n' date lines.

She used to spend half her evenings arranging shit like this ... sending guys to hospitals, carparks, handing out each others numbers and addresses and all sorts.

I'm just relieved I knew the real her rather than being one of the poor bastards she used to have a laugh with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bloke sat alone in the bar grinning?

I've often wondered if people do this

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"Is there a bloke sat alone in the bar grinning?

I've often wondered if people do this "

It beats me too, however there seems to be a lot about.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Thanks for all the supportive comments and condolences.

I'm not waiting anymore. I'm going out with some mates instead.

its her loss

Well clearly not as she obviously wasn't interested in meeting so she hasn't lost anything. Never get it when peeps say its their loss...but that's just me I guess."

Well I suppose you can say it was her loss if she was just too scared to turn up

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