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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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For me yes....I like confident men. Nerves are a different thing though, we can all succumb to them

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fake it 'til you make it. In reality there isn't much difference between pretending to be confident and actually being confident.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

I think the word 'pathetic' is a bit strong...at least the OP has been brave enough to come on hear and ask for advice on something he himself views as a problem....cut him some slack I say

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

Im far from pathetic but thanks for your input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way.

I think the word 'pathetic' is a bit strong...at least the OP has been brave enough to come on hear and ask for advice on something he himself views as a problem....cut him some slack I say "

Agreed.. Totally uncalled for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

harsh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been chatting to a guy for about three months and he is incredibly shy and we are still no further to meeting but I would rather wait for him to be ready and confident about himself rather than diving head first where he would be out of his comfort zone, maybe we may never meet but he's become and good friend and someone to chat to if nothing else x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A shy person can come out of it if they are comfortable with the person and they click .op maybe it wasn't for you that person.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

Harsh!

(And unnecessary!)

I like confident men too but the day I stop having the nervous energy jumbled up with the excitement before a meet is when I'd quit.

OP... you just have to remember that we all have a few nerves and that's perfectly normal. If it made you run out of the pub screaming the you need to look at whether you're in the right place but hopefully the people you meet will put you at ease.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

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"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?"

When you say shy do you mean you couldn't talk, make eye contact and sat there giggling like a girl or had shall we call it 'performance anxiety'?

If it is the former then I would be slightly disappointed as I like confident men.

The 2nd, don't worry too much about it, I have played with a few guys who got bashful when the time came. As long as you didn't just walk out and leave her frustrated, yes I have had that, but you tried other techniques then all good in my eyes.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way.

harsh! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends I'm particularly shy in public situations for instance I'm always nervous talking to cashiers or waiting staff.

However when I'm alone with a person I'm perfectly at ease which is why I prefer one on one meets many people have said they feel like they've known me for ages after just one meet because in private with a person I like I can be honest and feel no need for pretense or a facade.

Although one of my exs did describe me as being like a dog, if I like you its almost indistinguishable from love which can be nice but at the same time can lead to people developing feelings or falling for me because they belive I have similar feelings for them when it's just to me like with a dog like and love seem one and the same.

Also I tickle people when I'm nervous which hides it well ^_^

So meet me in public and you basically meet a different person than if you'd met me in private but not through any conclusions action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

Wow harsh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A shy person can come out of it if they are comfortable with the person and they click .op maybe it wasn't for you that person."

I was about to type the same thing. It isn't all up to a guy to be confident. The people around you can affect that.

I'm usually confident, but I can become shy depending on the people around me.

OP, keep trying. If you find the right people for you then your confidence will be just fine.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

And you don't speak for all women fyi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

So bets on folks I'm wagering male half of the couple posting in an attempt to boost his own masculinity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

Arrogance is almost as attractive. I'm sure you didn't mean to sound as harsh as you did

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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I met somebody recently he was very shy. He was gorgeous but just acted very shy. Once we have managed to get to know each other a little better his shyness seemed to actually disappear and the way he moved and behaved completely changed and he was even more attractive. I think it just depends how much shyness holds you back, but in this situation looking back it was almost endearing, once we had got past that which wasn't until the end of the night, he was extremely attractive in my eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I met somebody recently he was very shy. He was gorgeous but just acted very shy. Once we have managed to get to know each other a little better his shyness seemed to actually disappear and the way he moved and behaved completely changed and he was even more attractive. I think it just depends how much shyness holds you back, but in this situation looking back it was almost endearing, once we had got past that which wasn't until the end of the night, he was extremely attractive in my eyes."

Many people are afraid of being judged once they're comfortable with you they no longer feel the need to pretend to avoid that judgment and can be themselves

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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Maybe... It was all fine and good in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very shy but if I click with someone I'm fine. Some people can bring it out of me, if they can't and it's awkward then they weren't the right person for me to meet and vice versa.

It takes two to tango - perhaps she just wasn't the right person for you to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the verification is anything to go by your shyness is not a deal breaker. I would prefer shy to arrogant x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

That's a bit fucking harsh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm very shy but if I click with someone I'm fine. Some people can bring it out of me, if they can't and it's awkward then they weren't the right person for me to meet and vice versa.

It takes two to tango - perhaps she just wasn't the right person for you to meet. "

Tickling is always the answer to awkwardness :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

WOW, That will help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way.

I think the word 'pathetic' is a bit strong...at least the OP has been brave enough to come on hear and ask for advice on something he himself views as a problem....cut him some slack I say "

Agreed! I'd be interested to know whether it was the guy or the fem of the couple who posted the comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer confident guys that aren't overwhelmed by a womans' confidence....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

Miaoooow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

getting there an hour early probably didn't help with nerves because you're just waiting around! assuming that you met somewhere public as opposed to turning up to them an hour early?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way.

I think the word 'pathetic' is a bit strong...at least the OP has been brave enough to come on hear and ask for advice on something he himself views as a problem....cut him some slack I say

Agreed! I'd be interested to know whether it was the guy or the fem of the couple who posted the comment!

Yes, me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like confidence not arrogance on the scene. Not into the shy thing as not how we play.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

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"I've been chatting to a guy for about three months and he is incredibly shy and we are still no further to meeting but I would rather wait for him to be ready and confident about himself rather than diving head first where he would be out of his comfort zone, maybe we may never meet but he's become and good friend and someone to chat to if nothing else x"

Ditto I've been talking to someone for a while and there is nothing to gain in forcing a meeting - I myself get really nervous which manifests in me talking too much! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a definite difference in male and female attitudes to shyness. I'm very shy IRL so shy in fact that eye contact can be difficult at first but I am confident (weird I know). But men seem to love my shyness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a definite difference in male and female attitudes to shyness. I'm very shy IRL so shy in fact that eye contact can be difficult at first but I am confident (weird I know). But men seem to love my shyness."

Dawwwww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I think most people are inwardly shy no matter how confident they come across. Nerves aren't a bad thing too are they ? Some people enjoy that trait in others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's not much of a gap between nervous excitement and nerves. Put pressure on someone by saying they are pathetic and useless isn't really going to help.

The forums give a great insight into people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm shy too, it's not gender specific and is certainly not pathetic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm shy too, it's not gender specific and is certainly not pathetic."

*makes note to tickle Nell*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm shy too, it's not gender specific and is certainly not pathetic.

*makes note to tickle Nell*"

Do that and I'll punch you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm shy too, it's not gender specific and is certainly not pathetic."

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"There's not much of a gap between nervous excitement and nerves. Put pressure on someone by saying they are pathetic and useless isn't really going to help.

The forums give a great insight into people. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm shy too, it's not gender specific and is certainly not pathetic.

*makes note to tickle Nell*

Do that and I'll punch you!

Worth it

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By *angerousEyesMan
over a year ago

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By *angerousEyesMan
over a year ago

weston

I'm shy but have a fair bit of inward confidence. Don't be afraid just go for it! Unfortunately a lot of people on here can be unforgiving but by no means all. Have fun and do what ever you want too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves are ok, and probably quite normal.

But very nervous and shy wouldn't do it for me I'm afraid.

I've met a few guys who were actually shaking throughout the meet and couldn't get/keep an erection. Sorry but I found that just frustrating.

I won't meet newbies to try and avoid overly nervous guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take no notice of that "pathetic" comment from a couple who, judging from thier veri's, seem to meet alot and never play

You wouldn't be normal if you didn't get a little nervous, which can be mistaken for shyness when first meeting someone. We still get it when meeting some people we have played with lots.

So long as you get comfortable at some point during the meet all should go well. If you don't we would say that they are not the playmate(s) for you.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

I can be shy too at first but if I get along and have a laugh/normal conversation with a girl then I'm al right then...

it's only I get nervous sometimes if she wants to take things further..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather meet a shy guy than an arrogant one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?"

no i dnt think so im very shy to and its nice to know that men can be shy and nervous to ithought i was going to be sick with nerves on my face meet but thankfuly went great and ive met him a few times now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?"
pretty sure we have all had a shy moment at one time in our life's x just learn from it and move on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather meet a shy guy than an arrogant one."

THIS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no harm being shy.

There's no harm being aware of being shy.

You might have upset the meet you let down though.

Reassess what you think caused you to bottle and question why you felt you had to.

Coming from a guy who has periods of confidence,others of cockiness, and others of self loathing, it's hard to be on top of your game 100% so don't sweat if you feel like you've made a mistake, consider it a learning curve and try to adapt

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Pre meet nerves are to be expected, being too shy to go through with something is something you might like to work on.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

You have to be cruel to be kind. The amount of time wasting is just crazy. People who make plans around time wasters. Book hotels/transport/childcare. Then the decent people they could have been meeting if they hadn't been stood up, they need to be represented. Couples and single women getting 200+ messages a day if they have their guy filter off. Finally filter down to a no show? What about the other 199 guys?

Advice. Go to clubs talk openly, let people see you at face value. You might pull there too and that's going to lift your confidence. But messing people about is never going to make you feel good. Nor the people you let down. That sort of action puts women and couples off this already difficult lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always terrified on a meet.

I love it when a man is shy. It helps me with my own nerves and makes him seem more human, somehow.

And if he's nervous, it means the meet is something important to him, doesn't it?

Over-confidence in a man makes me think of arrogance and smarm.

Give me a quiverer, any day.

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always terrified on a meet.

I love it when a man is shy. It helps me with my own nerves and makes him seem more human, somehow.

And if he's nervous, it means the meet is something important to him, doesn't it?

Over-confidence in a man makes me think of arrogance and smarm.

Give me a quiverer, any day.

Xxxx"

Very well said! I think its cute when a guy is a bit nervous.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to be cruel to be kind. The amount of time wasting is just crazy. People who make plans around time wasters. Book hotels/transport/childcare. Then the decent people they could have been meeting if they hadn't been stood up, they need to be represented. Couples and single women getting 200+ messages a day if they have their guy filter off. Finally filter down to a no show? What about the other 199 guys?

You actually don't need to be cruel at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say attitudes like yours puts people off this already difficult lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is much fairer than the earlier comment calling the OP 'pathetic'.

I think some context is needed. If by shy you mean quiet to start with/slow to warm up I think that is perfectly understandable. We all get it. However if you mean shy in that you cant hold a conversation at any point in the evening or alternatively cannot perform, then I could understand the frustration of the person/people you are meeting, since their spare time might be very precious.

I once had a meet with a bi fuckbuddy couple where he wouldn't event get out of the car to come and say hello. Me and the female half still played but it was a little odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No doesn't bother me unless they don't speak at at all. I can't pretty much warm anyone up. Im retty confident and its usually just nerves. You can get rid of those with an early kiss xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I can't tell by your op if you actually went through with a meet.

Also was it your first meet?

Discuss with whoever meeting about your shyness from what you have said it sounds more like nerves.

Don't turn up an hour early, you will only sit there wittling, meet somewhere where there is something to talk about and on the positive side your obviously doing something right as you had someone wanting to meet you.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Also judging by your verification its the actual meeting them nerves you have you seem as though you do perfectly fine after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty shy too. Once start chatting and playing I'm fine. I'm lucky that I have g who is more confident to talk at first, I like to watch and listen for a bit in most social situations. A shy man wouldn't bother me unless you couldn't get any conversation from him. Overly confident/cocky men aren't for us. Be brave and go for it, the more we do the more confident I feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way.

I think the word 'pathetic' is a bit strong...at least the OP has been brave enough to come on hear and ask for advice on something he himself views as a problem....cut him some slack I say "

Tough crowd!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

Wow that's a little harsh don't you think. There was no need for that comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I do like confident men I think shy men are wire cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not a let down if the guy is shy, would actually make someone like myself as wet as an otters pocket. Would get him all relaxed, light some candles, stick my pan pipes cd on, pull down his trousers and pants, hold his hands and suck his dick.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't think you have to be cruel at all.

However, this a whole lot better than your first response which in all fairness, could do with an apology...

The OP did not mess anyone around from what I gather, he got a little stage fright and to be honest, anyone on any meet is free to jump ship at any point. It's not time wasting or messing anyone around, it's just life and sometimes things happen to make you uncomfortable. To be able to extract yourself from a situation for whatever reason is your right and I would far rather meet people who understand that shit happens than those who labelled me pathetic because I got cold feet.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Definitely not a let down if the guy is shy, would actually make someone like myself as wet as an otters pocket. Would get him all relaxed, light some candles, stick my pan pipes cd on, pull down his trousers and pants, hold his hands and suck his dick. "

I would like that but am just wayyy too shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes me back to when I was 18 and i met a fairly local girl, always saw her when I was with my mates, anyway arranged a date and she invited me to hers........ lol you could hear a pin drop, we both felt so awkward and could not get any kind of conversation flowing.... still makes me cringe, we stayed friends for a good while after though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main thing I'm taking from this thread is that there are some genuinely lovely people on the fab forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always terrified on a meet.

I love it when a man is shy. It helps me with my own nerves and makes him seem more human, somehow.

And if he's nervous, it means the meet is something important to him, doesn't it?

Over-confidence in a man makes me think of arrogance and smarm.

Give me a quiverer, any day.

Xxxx

Very well said! I think its cute when a guy is a bit nervous.

-Courtney"

Me too! We've met a couple of shy guys xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Against instinct backed by experience, I agreed to meet a shy-guy who'd been totally up-front about his lack of confidence ......

It turned out to be one of the best meets I've ever had.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The main thing I'm taking from this thread is that there are some genuinely lovely people on the fab forums

Absolutely

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"It's pretty pathetic. No woman wants shy dick and nobody wants their time wasted that way. "

That's a bit mean I take it you have never met some one with crippling shyness .

The mind bobbles empathy its not just a word you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking hell I need a tug

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's only one remedy for shy people.... A cattle prod lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No doesn't bother me unless they don't speak at at all. I can't pretty much warm anyone up. Im retty confident and its usually just nerves. You can get rid of those with an early kiss xx

I like this approach. I'm a huge bundle of nerves, to the point I shiver and stammer, but an early kiss just feels so mmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No doesn't bother me unless they don't speak at at all. I can't pretty much warm anyone up. Im retty confident and its usually just nerves. You can get rid of those with an early kiss xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

You'll be doing that alone.... He didn't show? Remember? Oh and I hope you enjoy your evening of solo masturbation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?"

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You'll be doing that alone.... He didn't show? Remember? Oh and I hope you enjoy your evening of solo masturbation.

I think your find i did and we had a great time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?

Yes.

Ohhh, that's not overly apparent in the op and I didn't see any defence from you over it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who said i didnt turn up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?

Yes.

Ohhh, that's not overly apparent in the op and I didn't see any defence from you over it."

I got there a hour early.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll be doing that alone.... He didn't show? Remember? Oh and I hope you enjoy your evening of solo masturbation.

I think your find i did and we had a great time

Don't feed the trolls... Ignore them!! Looks like the nerves didn't last long and your lady had a great time.. Happy for you OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?

Yes.

So your nerves didn't get the better of you in the end then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thats sounds like a perfect meet

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

You'll be doing that alone.... He didn't show? Remember? Oh and I hope you enjoy your evening of solo masturbation.

I think your find i did and we had a great time

Don't feed the trolls... Ignore them!! Looks like the nerves didn't last long and your lady had a great time.. Happy for you OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?

Yes.

So your nerves didn't get the better of you in the end then?

Im fine once i know they fancy me. Strange i guess. and i change in the bedroom. The beast in me comes out then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You'll be doing that alone.... He didn't show? Remember? Oh and I hope you enjoy your evening of solo masturbation.

I think your find i did and we had a great time

Don't feed the trolls... Ignore them!! Looks like the nerves didn't last long and your lady had a great time.. Happy for you OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?

Yes.

Ohhh, that's not overly apparent in the op and I didn't see any defence from you over it.

I got there a hour early. "

"But my nerves got the better of me" suggests you left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll be doing that alone.... He didn't show? Remember? Oh and I hope you enjoy your evening of solo masturbation.

The OP was talking about nerves, not failing to show up. If you're talking from experience of repeated no-shows, have you considered that you may be scaring people away, rather than them being pathetic timewasters?

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?

Yes.

Ohhh, that's not overly apparent in the op and I didn't see any defence from you over it.

I got there a hour early.

"But my nerves got the better of me" suggests you left"
Well his verification says otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?

Yes.

Ohhh, that's not overly apparent in the op and I didn't see any defence from you over it.

I got there a hour early.

"But my nerves got the better of me" suggests you left"

Moot point and me being pedantic lol. Glad you both had fun

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You'll be doing that alone.... He didn't show? Remember? Oh and I hope you enjoy your evening of solo masturbation.

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think you will find hedid and his verification proves it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to go out with a shy girl years ago,very timid and was like little door mouse but boy could she fuck!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?

Yes.

Ohhh, that's not overly apparent in the op and I didn't see any defence from you over it.

I got there a hour early.

"But my nerves got the better of me" suggests you left Well his verification says otherwise "

Ah, I didn't think to check lol. Apologies for my confusion lol *attempts to scuttle away while noone is looking*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a meet recently and the build up was great. On the day of the meet i got there a hour early. But my nerves got the better of me. You could say im shy. Is it a let down for a guy to be shy?

Did you actually meet the person you were supposed to meet?

Yes.

So your nerves didn't get the better of you in the end then?

Im fine once i know they fancy me. Strange i guess. and i change in the bedroom. The beast in me comes out then."

That sounds perfectly natural to me.

I'm glad you both enjoyed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll be doing that alone.... He didn't show? Remember? Oh and I hope you enjoy your evening of solo masturbation.

Cuppa tea la cuppa tea la bien la bien. What the dickens are you on about? Was answering the question "is it a let down if a guy is shy?" The answer is no it's not it's endearing and sweet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to go out with a shy girl years ago,very timid and was like little door mouse but boy could she fuck!!!"

Was it me?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was bloody nervous meeting an "out of my league" lady for a coffee last year. I needed a bar of chocolate to settle my stomach.

And that was just for coffee. I would have been rubbish if we'd been meeting for anything else.

Thankfully she was lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to digress, but, "the mind bobbles", is just the cutest mistake......

My mind is helluva bobbly, personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No doesn't bother me unless they don't speak at at all. I can't pretty much warm anyone up. Im retty confident and its usually just nerves. You can get rid of those with an early kiss xx

I like this approach. I'm a huge bundle of nerves, to the point I shiver and stammer, but an early kiss just feels so mmm"
I have a stammer that appears when I'm super stressed not with nerves. Id take that as my signal to lean in

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

One of the reasons I have a social before any play. I talk a lot when I'm nervous which is ok over coffee but in the bedroom there would only be one way to shut me up

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over a year ago

"One of the reasons I have a social before any play. I talk a lot when I'm nervous which is ok over coffee but in the bedroom there would only be one way to shut me up

No, I can think of a few ways...

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over a year ago

Shy is the wrong word for me but I tend to feel nervous and a little socially awkward until ice is broken and I start to properly interact with people. Then I'm fine (I think? But I guess that's for the other party to decide).

It's that first 5 or 10 mins that's the hard part and the anticipation before the meet - sometimes I can literally feel my pulse rising and adrenaline pumping and I can understand exactly where the OP is coming from!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather meet a shy guy than an arrogant one."

Me too!

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over a year ago

"One of the reasons I have a social before any play. I talk a lot when I'm nervous which is ok over coffee but in the bedroom there would only be one way to shut me up

Lol me too!! I think a lunch date between us would be very loud

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"One of the reasons I have a social before any play. I talk a lot when I'm nervous which is ok over coffee but in the bedroom there would only be one way to shut me up

Lol me too!! I think a lunch date between us would be very loud

Time will tell my sweet

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By *rotiquexxxMan
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires

I don't go pubbing & clubbing. Not because of shyness. Dislike those environments. Starbucks is just fine.

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