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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice?" They will have looked at your profile before reading or deciding not to.....its common practice really as who wants to engage into something they do not require | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice?" You can see from pre_iew text before opening a message how the message is going to go, if it's evident that profile hasn't been read I'll delete without reading. I just find it rude to message people without taking the time to actually read the profile first to see if your a match etc | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice?" Its a bit like getting junk email, unsolicited phone calls etc-some will, some won't. Look at it as a filtering process in reverse. If its something you consider impolite, would you want to meet them anyway? x | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice?" everyone deals with their messages in which ever way they can mister wayne... I take the approach of just mailing them back either a regular message to see where it goes or if its some thing i'm not looking for I just kindly state it really.. | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice? You can see from pre_iew text before opening a message how the message is going to go, if it's evident that profile hasn't been read I'll delete without reading. I just find it rude to message people without taking the time to actually read the profile first to see if your a match etc" Well, as the op said, he's referring to polite messages sent having read the profile and he thinks he fits what they are looking for. | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice?" Send a message and then delete it, that way you will never know if its read deleted or just sat there, it takes the stress out of it, also that way its a nice surprise if you get a reply | |||
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"I look at the profile before deciding whether to open the message or delete it - Empty or crap profiles are an instant delete, or if the person really isn't what I'm looking for I just hit delete. I used to always send a nice "thanks for your message but you're not what I'm looking for" message but about 50% of the time this either led to a "Why not, Hun" or an abusive response ("how dare you not want to shag me!"). So I now no longer bother. " I agree with this. When you reply to say you're not interested it opens a dialogue that can go in for a while. There just aren't enough hours in the day for all that. | |||
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"I look at the profile before deciding whether to open the message or delete it - Empty or crap profiles are an instant delete, or if the person really isn't what I'm looking for I just hit delete. I used to always send a nice "thanks for your message but you're not what I'm looking for" message but about 50% of the time this either led to a "Why not, Hun" or an abusive response ("how dare you not want to shag me!"). So I now no longer bother. I agree with this. When you reply to say you're not interested it opens a dialogue that can go in for a while. There just aren't enough hours in the day for all that. " One of the most frequent responses to my "thanks but no thanks" message was for the declined party to reply with "well I wouldn't fuck someone as ugly / fat / rude etc as you anyway" - chaaaaaaarming Babies who throw toys out of the cot really aren't well suited to swinging. | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice? You can see from pre_iew text before opening a message how the message is going to go, if it's evident that profile hasn't been read I'll delete without reading. I just find it rude to message people without taking the time to actually read the profile first to see if your a match etc Well, as the op said, he's referring to polite messages sent having read the profile and he thinks he fits what they are looking for. " Most polite messages we get from men thinking they fit the bill, haven't read our profile. So your point is? | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice?" how do yo know they are deleted without being read? | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice?" Send me a message I promise I'll read it....then delete it Haha only kidding | |||
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"You can see from pre_iew text before opening a message how the message is going to go, if it's evident that profile hasn't been read I'll delete without reading. I just find it rude to message people without taking the time to actually read the profile first to see if your a match etc" Totally agree with Miss D | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice? You can see from pre_iew text before opening a message how the message is going to go, if it's evident that profile hasn't been read I'll delete without reading. I just find it rude to message people without taking the time to actually read the profile first to see if your a match etc Well, as the op said, he's referring to polite messages sent having read the profile and he thinks he fits what they are looking for. Most polite messages we get from men thinking they fit the bill, haven't read our profile. So your point is?" My point is that the op was refer the response he gets even though he's read the profile. Your response was about those that didn't even though you quoted him. Perhaps you didn't read what he wrote? | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice? how do yo know they are deleted without being read?" It shows in your 'sent' folder if it was read and if it's been deleted. | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice? You can see from pre_iew text before opening a message how the message is going to go, if it's evident that profile hasn't been read I'll delete without reading. I just find it rude to message people without taking the time to actually read the profile first to see if your a match etc Well, as the op said, he's referring to polite messages sent having read the profile and he thinks he fits what they are looking for. Most polite messages we get from men thinking they fit the bill, haven't read our profile. So your point is? My point is that the op was refer the response he gets even though he's read the profile. Your response was about those that didn't even though you quoted him. Perhaps you didn't read what he wrote? " We get many messages where folk say they have read the profile,when in fact they haven't,or else they just choose to see the parts they want to see and ignore the rest | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice? You can see from pre_iew text before opening a message how the message is going to go, if it's evident that profile hasn't been read I'll delete without reading. I just find it rude to message people without taking the time to actually read the profile first to see if your a match etc Well, as the op said, he's referring to polite messages sent having read the profile and he thinks he fits what they are looking for. Most polite messages we get from men thinking they fit the bill, haven't read our profile. So your point is? My point is that the op was refer the response he gets even though he's read the profile. Your response was about those that didn't even though you quoted him. Perhaps you didn't read what he wrote? We get many messages where folk say they have read the profile,when in fact they haven't,or else they just choose to see the parts they want to see and ignore the rest" Same here. Most only ever look at my pics. I get a lot of 'typed whilst wanking' messages. | |||
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"I will reply to anyone but then again my inbox isnt rammed so i can lol " My inbox is regularly rammed | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice? how do yo know they are deleted without being read? It shows in your 'sent' folder if it was read and if it's been deleted. " Unless, of course, people read the messages then go back in and mark them as unread I wonder how many do this? | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice? how do yo know they are deleted without being read? It shows in your 'sent' folder if it was read and if it's been deleted. Unless, of course, people read the messages then go back in and mark them as unread I wonder how many do this?" Does resetting it as unread do the same in the senders ent folder too? Did that make sense? I'm feeling confuffilated | |||
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"If they have clearly read my profile (i.e they are local and what I am looking for) then I will reply even if its a no thanks. If they are outside what I am looking for, I don't bother replying anymore. " This! | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice?" it's a fairly regular complaint here but its a common problem that will fall on deaf ears, attractive women can have 400 messages plus that they can't possibly read or reply to so they delete without reading most of the time ,you will have to get used to it | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice? how do yo know they are deleted without being read? It shows in your 'sent' folder if it was read and if it's been deleted. Unless, of course, people read the messages then go back in and mark them as unread I wonder how many do this? Does resetting it as unread do the same in the senders ent folder too? Did that make sense? I'm feeling confuffilated " perfect sense! Yes it does, I know this as I tried it with a friend I was messaging! First our messages showed as read, then we both reset our respective messages as unread, and our messages appeared as unread in each other's inboxes! It's possibly a good tip if you dip in and read when they're offline? | |||
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"the way we look at it is in your regular email hotmail etc ,do you open all mail ? i can bet you dont thats why we just delete some without opening shit pics or one liners all get booted" | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice? Send a message and then delete it, that way you will never know if its read deleted or just sat there, it takes the stress out of it, also that way its a nice surprise if you get a reply" It's what I do | |||
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"This may cause a bit of a stir,but what is the general opinion of people deleting messages without reading them? I get that there is bombarding and peoples inboxes getting full,but if you read a profile,fit the description and send a polite message,only to have it ignored and deleted,is that just a bit rude? or is that a normal practice?" I currently have 200 unread messages in my in box - I have no option but to delete those with no profile pic, those that send 3 word comments and another's that rake my fancy without reading them ?? | |||
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"I had an unsolicited friend request. I accepted, and sent a polite message saying 'Thank-you, it would be nice to find out a bit more about you'. Next time I checked, the message had been read and deleted, and the woman had removed me from her friend list. I thought that was a bit rude... I can only figure she saw my (friends only) face pic and got put off.. I'm no Brad Pitt, but I'm no John Merrick either. Even so, having gone so far, I thought a short message of apology might've been nice. Deleting without reading I can understand, for all the reasons above, but sometimes politeness is just the done thing.. in my humble opinion." Sometimes people are their own worst enemy and leave themselves open. There are those who on the strength of one message will jump in their car, drive hundreds of miles hoping for a shag to turn up an industrial estate and not the Playboy mansion they were promised. Then there are those, happy to get a friend request, accept expecting things to go further surprised when they're then blocked. We all use the site to suit us, but honestly, if I went arse about face I wouldn't complain if things went tits up! | |||
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"I probably shouldn't say this but.... When I get messages, I first _iew there profile first and if I don't like them I won't read there message, and I leave it unread until it disappears off my inbox list " I do the same I also open some messages if there is no pics on their profile but one attached to message and if I don't like it mark the message as unread and leave it Loads do it there's no shame | |||
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