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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been talking to this hot Irish guy from a dating site for a while (I have a thing for Irishmen) we get on well, well I say well he just has to talk to me and I get all moist.

He wants to take me out to dinner, no problem get in I hear to cry, but he only ever gets in touch when he's horny, he swears he wants more, (as do I) but whenever I message him in the evening it gets read but not replied.

He wants to FaceTime me all the time but everytime it results in him talking about sex, if I found him on here I could understand.

My question is this: should I just do what is natural to me and fuck his Irish brains out or stop talking to him because I'm not getting out of it what I really want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He doesn't want to date you

He wants to take you out to dinner then fuck you

If you want dating then no

If you want to fuck then yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want to fuck him?

I do hate people pretending they want something to get sex. I makes me think they think I'm an idiot. I would have to be straight with him and address your problem with him always steering the conversation towards sex. It could be a case of once you've had sex you won't hear from him again. Or it might not. Are you prepared to take that chance?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you want to fuck him?

I do hate people pretending they want something to get sex. I makes me think they think I'm an idiot. I would have to be straight with him and address your problem with him always steering the conversation towards sex. It could be a case of once you've had sex you won't hear from him again. Or it might not. Are you prepared to take that chance? "

I did address it and he swears blind it isn't the case but I know his type once he gets his fuck that's it. Is there any nice men out there?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I found about men from dating sites is they want sex but with a little extra,usually dinner. They like the dating aspect and the sex but not the girlfriend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What I found about men from dating sites is they want sex but with a little extra,usually dinner. They like the dating aspect and the sex but not the girlfriend. "

They should be shot, maybe I will just turn fully to women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you want to fuck him?

I do hate people pretending they want something to get sex. I makes me think they think I'm an idiot. I would have to be straight with him and address your problem with him always steering the conversation towards sex. It could be a case of once you've had sex you won't hear from him again. Or it might not. Are you prepared to take that chance?

I did address it and he swears blind it isn't the case but I know his type once he gets his fuck that's it. Is there any nice men out there?!"

You answered your own question. If you have men you like for sex already do you want sex with him? You could tell him either you date and he stops talking about sex,because it's not happening for a long time,or you can end it now. Make him wait,see if he can.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you want to fuck him?

I do hate people pretending they want something to get sex. I makes me think they think I'm an idiot. I would have to be straight with him and address your problem with him always steering the conversation towards sex. It could be a case of once you've had sex you won't hear from him again. Or it might not. Are you prepared to take that chance?

I did address it and he swears blind it isn't the case but I know his type once he gets his fuck that's it. Is there any nice men out there?!

You answered your own question. If you have men you like for sex already do you want sex with him? You could tell him either you date and he stops talking about sex,because it's not happening for a long time,or you can end it now. Make him wait,see if he can. "

Ooooooooh I like that!!!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

OK, do you want to fuck him? If so fuck him.

But if your not getting out of it what you want in your words then why continue?

You can ask advice on here but is the second thread where your asking what to do (nothing wrong in that) but you need to know what you want yourself and what your prepared to compromise on or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble."

I know, I know, I know what I got to do. That's why I prefer here!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OK, do you want to fuck him? If so fuck him.

But if your not getting out of it what you want in your words then why continue?

You can ask advice on here but is the second thread where your asking what to do (nothing wrong in that) but you need to know what you want yourself and what your prepared to compromise on or not.

"

Of course I'd like to fuck him but like a 'normal' person would. I think I'm going to knock it on the head. (Also apologies wanting advice, I don't have any girlfriends to get advice from X)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

I know, I know, I know what I got to do. That's why I prefer here!!"
what are you looking for on a dating site?

If you want to date properly then chose someone who is prepared to put a bit of effort in. Even on here I never do "sex" talk, or phone sex. In my opinion that isn't someone that wants to get to know you

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By *ocketrocket80Man
over a year ago

Walsall


"OK, do you want to fuck him? If so fuck him.

But if your not getting out of it what you want in your words then why continue?

You can ask advice on here but is the second thread where your asking what to do (nothing wrong in that) but you need to know what you want yourself and what your prepared to compromise on or not.

Of course I'd like to fuck him but like a 'normal' person would. I think I'm going to knock it on the head. (Also apologies wanting advice, I don't have any girlfriends to get advice from X) "

No need to apologise. The friendly Fabbers will always help with advice and experience where they can.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"OK, do you want to fuck him? If so fuck him.

But if your not getting out of it what you want in your words then why continue?

You can ask advice on here but is the second thread where your asking what to do (nothing wrong in that) but you need to know what you want yourself and what your prepared to compromise on or not.

Of course I'd like to fuck him but like a 'normal' person would. I think I'm going to knock it on the head. (Also apologies wanting advice, I don't have any girlfriends to get advice from X) "
nothing wrong with asking advice but what I ment was you need to set yourself rules and what you will accept and stick to them, there is always going to be the next hottie along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble."

Well that's depressing!

But why are you looking for a relationship on a sex site OP?

And I have to disagree that all men just want sex - most of my friends are men - and the reason we're friends is because they don't want to shag me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

I know, I know, I know what I got to do. That's why I prefer here!!what are you looking for on a dating site?

If you want to date properly then chose someone who is prepared to put a bit of effort in. Even on here I never do "sex" talk, or phone sex. In my opinion that isn't someone that wants to get to know you "

I want a man to give me cuddles, a kiss on the head before bed, holding hands etc, although sadly my experience with dating sites has all been about sex, I don't think there is anyone normal out there these days, is this the way people date these days?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

Well that's depressing!

But why are you looking for a relationship on a sex site OP?

And I have to disagree that all men just want sex - most of my friends are men - and the reason we're friends is because they don't want to shag me "

I'm not it was on a normal site (that be said yes my profile has hinted if a relationship was to come from here I wouldn't say no)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

I know, I know, I know what I got to do. That's why I prefer here!!what are you looking for on a dating site?

If you want to date properly then chose someone who is prepared to put a bit of effort in. Even on here I never do "sex" talk, or phone sex. In my opinion that isn't someone that wants to get to know you

I want a man to give me cuddles, a kiss on the head before bed, holding hands etc, although sadly my experience with dating sites has all been about sex, I don't think there is anyone normal out there these days, is this the way people date these days?!

"
if that's what you want then go for it, why do the conversations turn to sex, why do you carry them on? Do you think guys only want to meet to have sex? If your not getting what you want then try a different approach and see how you get on

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

can I ask why you have it on your update, if he is on another site ?

if you allow yourself to be used, he will probably continue.

good luck with whatever you decide

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

I know, I know, I know what I got to do. That's why I prefer here!!what are you looking for on a dating site?

If you want to date properly then chose someone who is prepared to put a bit of effort in. Even on here I never do "sex" talk, or phone sex. In my opinion that isn't someone that wants to get to know you

I want a man to give me cuddles, a kiss on the head before bed, holding hands etc, although sadly my experience with dating sites has all been about sex, I don't think there is anyone normal out there these days, is this the way people date these days?!

if that's what you want then go for it, why do the conversations turn to sex, why do you carry them on? Do you think guys only want to meet to have sex? If your not getting what you want then try a different approach and see how you get on"

When it turns to sex I try and steer it in the other direction. I know I'm confusing on here wanting sex and on a dating site wanting to find a man but I'd give this up tomorrow for the right bloke! I guess from a dating site I'm naive a little bit and hoped for the romance first, if I found anyone on here then that's different, it's expected the sex first if understand what I mean

I'm one confusing lady! Even I confuse myself sometimes!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

I know, I know, I know what I got to do. That's why I prefer here!!what are you looking for on a dating site?

If you want to date properly then chose someone who is prepared to put a bit of effort in. Even on here I never do "sex" talk, or phone sex. In my opinion that isn't someone that wants to get to know you

I want a man to give me cuddles, a kiss on the head before bed, holding hands etc, although sadly my experience with dating sites has all been about sex, I don't think there is anyone normal out there these days, is this the way people date these days?!

"

It's the way some people date and always has been, back in nineteen hundred and frozen to death when I was dating there would be guys who would take you out, be kind, chat about ordinary things and not expect sex immediately then there would be the kind like your Irish friend. What you need to do is recognise the latter and keep looking for the former (which you seem to have covered) and realise that there's no decision to be made the latter should be dumped unceremoniously.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

I know, I know, I know what I got to do. That's why I prefer here!!what are you looking for on a dating site?

If you want to date properly then chose someone who is prepared to put a bit of effort in. Even on here I never do "sex" talk, or phone sex. In my opinion that isn't someone that wants to get to know you

I want a man to give me cuddles, a kiss on the head before bed, holding hands etc, although sadly my experience with dating sites has all been about sex, I don't think there is anyone normal out there these days, is this the way people date these days?!

if that's what you want then go for it, why do the conversations turn to sex, why do you carry them on? Do you think guys only want to meet to have sex? If your not getting what you want then try a different approach and see how you get on

When it turns to sex I try and steer it in the other direction. I know I'm confusing on here wanting sex and on a dating site wanting to find a man but I'd give this up tomorrow for the right bloke! I guess from a dating site I'm naive a little bit and hoped for the romance first, if I found anyone on here then that's different, it's expected the sex first if understand what I mean

I'm one confusing lady! Even I confuse myself sometimes!!"

That isn't confusing, it's wanting different things from different sites and that's not a problem. I think you are continuing to hope that the Irish guy is telling you the truth despite overwhelming evidence that he isn't, we've all done it at some point in our lives, spot the signs early, get out early

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

I know, I know, I know what I got to do. That's why I prefer here!!what are you looking for on a dating site?

If you want to date properly then chose someone who is prepared to put a bit of effort in. Even on here I never do "sex" talk, or phone sex. In my opinion that isn't someone that wants to get to know you

I want a man to give me cuddles, a kiss on the head before bed, holding hands etc, although sadly my experience with dating sites has all been about sex, I don't think there is anyone normal out there these days, is this the way people date these days?!

if that's what you want then go for it, why do the conversations turn to sex, why do you carry them on? Do you think guys only want to meet to have sex? If your not getting what you want then try a different approach and see how you get on

When it turns to sex I try and steer it in the other direction. I know I'm confusing on here wanting sex and on a dating site wanting to find a man but I'd give this up tomorrow for the right bloke! I guess from a dating site I'm naive a little bit and hoped for the romance first, if I found anyone on here then that's different, it's expected the sex first if understand what I mean

I'm one confusing lady! Even I confuse myself sometimes!!

That isn't confusing, it's wanting different things from different sites and that's not a problem. I think you are continuing to hope that the Irish guy is telling you the truth despite overwhelming evidence that he isn't, we've all done it at some point in our lives, spot the signs early, get out early "

Well I just took the plunge and blocked him and deleted his number, feels good!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

I know, I know, I know what I got to do. That's why I prefer here!!what are you looking for on a dating site?

If you want to date properly then chose someone who is prepared to put a bit of effort in. Even on here I never do "sex" talk, or phone sex. In my opinion that isn't someone that wants to get to know you

I want a man to give me cuddles, a kiss on the head before bed, holding hands etc, although sadly my experience with dating sites has all been about sex, I don't think there is anyone normal out there these days, is this the way people date these days?!

if that's what you want then go for it, why do the conversations turn to sex, why do you carry them on? Do you think guys only want to meet to have sex? If your not getting what you want then try a different approach and see how you get on

When it turns to sex I try and steer it in the other direction. I know I'm confusing on here wanting sex and on a dating site wanting to find a man but I'd give this up tomorrow for the right bloke! I guess from a dating site I'm naive a little bit and hoped for the romance first, if I found anyone on here then that's different, it's expected the sex first if understand what I mean

I'm one confusing lady! Even I confuse myself sometimes!!

That isn't confusing, it's wanting different things from different sites and that's not a problem. I think you are continuing to hope that the Irish guy is telling you the truth despite overwhelming evidence that he isn't, we've all done it at some point in our lives, spot the signs early, get out early

Well I just took the plunge and blocked him and deleted his number, feels good!"

Good! You are in charge of how men treat you, they will only continue to treat you in a way you don't like if you allow it. (Same applies vice versa of course).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you ( meaning all of us ) are looking for a relationship then this place can be soul destroying!

Sex with a random will never give you what you want and need!

The same goes for the fishy site and any internet based dating sites!

The concept of meeting online is ruined by the sex pests (like myself ) that use the Internet to hook up.

I think meeting someone in real life and getting to know them organically is the only way forward!

X

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"When confronted ALL men will say they don't just want sex. Newsflash - they are lying. ALL men want sex and men will say literally anything a woman wants to hear in order to get it.

Sorry to burst your bubble.

I know, I know, I know what I got to do. That's why I prefer here!!what are you looking for on a dating site?

If you want to date properly then chose someone who is prepared to put a bit of effort in. Even on here I never do "sex" talk, or phone sex. In my opinion that isn't someone that wants to get to know you

I want a man to give me cuddles, a kiss on the head before bed, holding hands etc, although sadly my experience with dating sites has all been about sex, I don't think there is anyone normal out there these days, is this the way people date these days?!

if that's what you want then go for it, why do the conversations turn to sex, why do you carry them on? Do you think guys only want to meet to have sex? If your not getting what you want then try a different approach and see how you get on

When it turns to sex I try and steer it in the other direction. I know I'm confusing on here wanting sex and on a dating site wanting to find a man but I'd give this up tomorrow for the right bloke! I guess from a dating site I'm naive a little bit and hoped for the romance first, if I found anyone on here then that's different, it's expected the sex first if understand what I mean

I'm one confusing lady! Even I confuse myself sometimes!!

That isn't confusing, it's wanting different things from different sites and that's not a problem. I think you are continuing to hope that the Irish guy is telling you the truth despite overwhelming evidence that he isn't, we've all done it at some point in our lives, spot the signs early, get out early

Well I just took the plunge and blocked him and deleted his number, feels good!"
good for you, someone can only treat you how you allow them to.

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