FabSwingers.com forum: Your last serious relationship

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you miss being in a relationship?

The intermediate moments

The one person you can trust/rely on

Taking holidays together

And would you give up swinging to be in one ? If she/he wasn't interested in swinging,

Sorry if it sounds a bit to deep for a swingers site but I have just been people watching and thinking I would like to be in one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine ended a year ago after 15 years of marriage. I would so love someone to hold hands with, put their arms around me and snuggle with, I've met a few guys since but never works out.

I was meant to being wined and dined on Sunday by an Irishman from London but he seems to only message me when he's horny, so knocking that one on its head.

Given up for now

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I've never had one. The only relationship I've had lasted a year, it was long distance so we didn't see each other often.

Out of curiosity, what constitutes a long term relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you miss being in a relationship?

The intermediate moments

The one person you can trust/rely on

Taking holidays together

And would you give up swinging to be in one ? If she/he wasn't interested in swinging,

Sorry if it sounds a bit to deep for a swingers site but I have just been people watching and thinking I would like to be in one "

Miss it terribly. Was married until 2 yrs ago. Miss absolutely everything about it except the person lol. Yes if I found someone and fell deeply in love with him then I'd give up fab for him.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I make no secret of the fact I would far rather be in a relationship, yes, I'm not a swinger anyway, just here looking for lots of interregnum sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In short - yes, I miss adult conversation and things like cuddling up on the sofa.

My last relationship was amazing but we mutually split to concentrate on our children (we both have 3). We're still the best of friends and there a a lot of live and respect there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. The last time around was a mess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In short - yes, I miss adult conversation and things like cuddling up on the sofa.

My last relationship was amazing but we mutually split to concentrate on our children (we both have 3). We're still the best of friends and there a a lot of live and respect there."

I'm still the best of friends with my ex too x

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I'd love to find someone special again. I miss snuggles, doing 'normal' stuff like the tesco shop, date nights, being able to sit in unawkward silence. But equally i'm not sure if I could make the sacrifices necessary for a relationship now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I could handle anything too vanilla either. It would possibly cause issues down the line.

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

I do miss being in a relationship, and because of the way the marriage ended I know I've been a bit non-committal with other "serious" relationships, which is probably why they ended.

Without doubt in a relationship, I'd end swinging completely if she wasn't interested

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

"I'd love to find someone special again. I miss snuggles, doing 'normal' stuff like the tesco shop, date nights, being able to sit in unawkward silence. But equally i'm not sure if I could make the sacrifices necessary for a relationship now. "

This sums up exactly where I am. Don't think I'd ever live with a man again

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

My ex was my best friend. I met him straight from school & we were together nearly 20 years. We knew everything about each other - or so I thought!!!

He left nearly 4 years ago & we've been divorced 18 months.

I don't miss him at all anymore but I do miss what we had.

As much as I would eventually love to find another relationship I'm in no rush as I want to enjoy my boys whilst they are still at home & it's ok to be seen with me

I also worry a great deal about someone else breaking my heart as I couldn't cope with it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I miss the company, the cuddles and the conversation but would I live with another adult again, I don't know as I have come to value my space and sonetimes the quiet. I have always been faithful in relationships so if the person I'm with isn't into swinging I would be OK with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss being in a relationship. My last long term relationship was my only long term relationship, 9 years with my ex and father of my child. Main things was guaranteed amazing sex every time. Someone to sleep next to and just do things with. I only want a relationship and know I won't find one on here but I only use the forums because it's like having a friend in the evenings when I'm bored!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Looking back, I seriously wanted to kill her

Actually, that was a previous relationship. Ma last ex was quite cool really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of a 3.5 year relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had one am a monk me

a auld one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have thought about joining a dating site in the past but knowing she is looking for the same thing just ads to the pressure, I can deal with rejection but would really struggle rejecting someone else, Unlike here where I presume people have thicker skin, If you don't get on or not attracted to each other you move on and if you get on/attracted to each other end up in bed at some stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't miss any sort of relationship if it's got no foundations but I do miss being in love and being loved the same back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we first broke up I missed him like fuck and every new woman was a slice across my chest.

Then slowly, I started being more me, he was emotionally manipulative and at times a nasty piece of work, but I realize now that stems from massive insecurity.

He made me believe that no one would ever 'get me' quite the way he did, and if I miss anything it's when I would say/do something silly and he would look at me with his big Brown eyes and smile and tell me I was 'an amazing human being'. He kept me going when I didn't know how, but also really held me back when I needed to fly.

In terms of 'relationship perks', I love that I'm not suppporting anyone and their drug habit any more, and I love star fishing on the bed, spending my time the way I want and listening to my music and watching my tv.

I'm grateful to him for the time we spent together, but alslo grateful for the break up as its made me a more interesting person. Do I want it again? No. Not immediately. I'm enjoying exploring who I am and working and being me, learning about, empowering and loving myself.

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

"When we first broke up I missed him like fuck and every new woman was a slice across my chest.

Then slowly, I started being more me, he was emotionally manipulative and at times a nasty piece of work, but I realize now that stems from massive insecurity.

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

I've never had a relationship that you guys call serious as such.. Not through lack of trying I've been on date sites n tried....

But my longest was 2weeks, date sites dnt work the guys are all on sex sites as well

as much as I want a relationship

I now feel it isn't meant to happen.... Not yet

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Yes. My last relationship was 20 plus years.

I'd stop meeting on here if she wasn't here.

I'd prefer she was ...

I'm in no rush

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry am pissed thinking with my brain/heart and not with my cock

So if any Women want to send me some sexy pics to clear my head that might sort me out

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I don't miss the drama of being in a relationship. And I've not had time to be in one for the last few years even if I had wanted to.

But it does get to me that I don't have someone to say "ooo do you fancy going to that restaurant?" Or to plan holidays with. Or to have sex with on a regular basis with where you can just be having a snuggle in your pjs then start getting frisky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there, done that

My ex was an emotional blackmailer and I was too weak to do anything about it for 11 years

I've discovered I actually enjoy my own company, I have a great family, close friends, and while I'm alone, I'm not lonely

I've made some good friends from here in the short time I've been on (mainly by being polite and normal in my initial messages and not getting the arse when ignored... But that's another thread

) and these give me everything I'm looking for, with none of the emotional hassle

Everybody knows the score, we all meet other people, but the times we share are all about us at that point in time

Sometimes we tell each other about our other meets

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

Miss it very much and don't mind saying so.... But the guard is well and truly up now after my last relationship...

Just because folks are on here it doesn't mean your ruling out a long term adventure, and it could even prove to be a good way of meeting your match... But go on encounters with no expectations and just see where things leads..

At the end of the day, as humans we're not programed to be on our own, hence why sites such as this serve aa purpose.. We all need some form of contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last relationship was about 3 years ago. We were together for 4 years.

I don't miss cuddles as I'm quite awkward when it comes to that kind of stuff and not comfortable with talking about feelings etc.

I haven't been on a date in a couple of years either. I get what I need from fab.

If I was to have a relationship in the future it would have to be with someone who was willing to have this lifestyle and also share the same kinks and fetishes.

The only thing I miss is a kiss on the end of my nose when I feel sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

22 years ago i met my first bi-guy & we are still together

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

"My last relationship was about 3 years ago. We were together for 4 years.

I don't miss cuddles as I'm quite awkward when it comes to that kind of stuff and not comfortable with talking about feelings etc.

I haven't been on a date in a couple of years either. I get what I need from fab.

If I was to have a relationship in the future it would have to be with someone who was willing to have this lifestyle and also share the same kinks and fetishes.

The only thing I miss is a kiss on the end of my nose when I feel sad."

I get that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last relationship ended a few months ago. We were together for about a year. We are still friends, but I miss her terribly. I'd give up swinging in a heartbeat if I found the right person. Honestly, I hate been single.

Claire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I've been on date sites n tried....

But my longest was 2weeks, date sites dnt work the guys are all on sex sites as well

as much as I want a relationship"

I'm missing being in a relationship myself so have decided to concentrate my efforts in the vanilla dating world n leave this site on the back burner for a while.

Can't speak for any other guys but if I find a lass n we like each other then I won't be looking for any extra fun on here,I was never a swinger anyway.....just a horny guy lol.

A lass that's on fab and was/is on a vanilla dating site moaning that all the guys are on sex sites as well!

Well there's a few females from here that I've also seen on the 'dating' site I'm on.

That's their business n not for me to judge.....as I'm in the same boat!

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

" I've been on date sites n tried....

But my longest was 2weeks, date sites dnt work the guys are all on sex sites as well

as much as I want a relationship

I'm missing being in a relationship myself so have decided to concentrate my efforts in the vanilla dating world n leave this site on the back burner for a while.

Can't speak for any other guys but if I find a lass n we like each other then I won't be looking for any extra fun on here,I was never a swinger anyway.....just a horny guy lol.

A lass that's on fab and was/is on a vanilla dating site moaning that all the guys are on sex sites as well!

Well there's a few females from here that I've also seen on the 'dating' site I'm on.

That's their business n not for me to judge.....as I'm in the same boat!

Happens a lot... And makes dating even more complicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't miss being in a relationship either. Sick of being lied to and don't trust myself to choose someone decent to commit myself to.

I've got a few good friends for intimacy, and i don't feel lonely so it's fine.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm a typical Gemini!

I vary between enjoying being single, having my own space, not needing to check in with anyone, pleasing myself with the little things like what to watch on tv...

But then other times I get lonely and miss cuddles and having an adult to talk to, sharing things like nights out, cosying up to watch TV you both like...

So I'm a contrary git!

As for swinging, if I were to get into another relationship they'd need to be interesting sexually.

Ex is very vanilla! He'd be shocked and surprised at me being here, coming out as bi, what I like sexually etc. He was very much a 5 mins of foreplay then missionary then roll over and sleep type! Wouldn't go back to that (or being cheatedon lied to or ea or gaslighted either!)

Soon after my split from ex I'd tell friends I needed a part time serious relationship - there when I want em bugger off rest of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a typical Gemini!

I vary between enjoying being single, having my own space, not needing to check in with anyone, pleasing myself with the little things like what to watch on tv...

But then other times I get lonely and miss cuddles and having an adult to talk to, sharing things like nights out, cosying up to watch TV you both like..."

So like a lot of people and completely nothing to do with the day/month you were born.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Twas lighthearted

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

on my own for five years

i have had wonderful relationships...

right person, anything could happen..

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Still in my firsts serious relationship been married 43 this life style as made our marriage very strong and happy Jane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's weird being alone after being with someone for 15 years.

Going bed alone sucks when you want to curl up to someone, waking up before them for work and to sit their and see then peacefully sleeping is so calming.

Then their is the making love part which feels better then a one off one night thing.

Going out has a couple, taking kids away for the day has a family.

So much to miss tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you miss being in a relationship?

The intermediate moments

The one person you can trust/rely on

Taking holidays together

And would you give up swinging to be in one ? If she/he wasn't interested in swinging,

Sorry if it sounds a bit to deep for a swingers site but I have just been people watching and thinking I would like to be in one "

No I really can't trust myself to choose the right woman. I'm too vain and shallow. All my exes had the face of an angel and the soul of the devil. I'm not lonely at all I have a huge family, lots of friends and plenty of sex partners.

The only reason I date is because I want children. I don't a relationship with the woman, just the child. Women tend to freak out , when I say this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a very unhappy marriage for 10 years. I was too young and didn't love him. Sadly I fell for someone else during it and it all ended pretty badly.

I got divorced 6 years ago and since then I've spent my time being single but missing having someone to share life with properly. I've been lucky in some ways that I have a long term friend with benefits. However unlucky that he's never going to be more than that no matter how many times I've wished he could be.

I would love happily ever after more than anything. My children would love me to find someone too which is really sweet. However the prospect of putting myself out there terrifies me.

I guess it happens when you don't look though ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't miss being in a relationship as unless it's the right person it can feel claustrophobic and a burden. I was with my ex 13 years and we had/have a great friendship but the passion was lacking.

I am very lonely for someone who completely 'gets' me though. Someone you can lose yourself in and still be safe. Someone I can be my worst self with and who will love me anyway, and who trusts me with themselves in return, to be cherished. I've wanted this for years.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Last serious relationship 9 years ago possibly

yes I do miss being in a relationship

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

In one for 27 years but it's never been serious lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Last serious relationship 9 years ago possibly

yes I do miss being in a relationship "

Simply because I want children and at 35 I feel like my time is quickly running out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't miss being in a relationship as unless it's the right person it can feel claustrophobic and a burden. I was with my ex 13 years and we had/have a great friendship but the passion was lacking.

And I'd rather not go back into a vanilla relationship as that was very unfulfilling, as I had to supress my desires and lock them up in a box as ex didn't share them. I'm not doing that again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last serious relationship over 7 years..I miss him and how he made me feel.

Not ready as of yet but if I did meet someone and they were not into swinging I could easily walk away from this.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

Exactly how I feel - be perfect to find someone who was into swinging as well

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a monogamous relationship for 23 years and yes was very good, then he strayed with a younger model (much younger)and many more since then. I was scared of being single of living alone as I never had, holidays, company etc. Been single for nearly 3 years and have to say I love it, I have great friends with benefits, good social life, couple of dogs (my ex hated dogs so could never have one so off I went and bought 2) I like it and if the right person comes along who knows what can happen, I live for the day and not hanker for a sole mate.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

After being single for a long, long time, swinging to get the sex, here we are in a relationship and we both agree its better, closer, more open, more fun and we can be more ourselves than anything we had in the vanilla world. Mr has been working away for three weeks, in Wales, and got back yesterday and we missed each other like crazy, both threw ourselves into work but so missed lying in bed with a takeaway ... we caught up on that, amongst other things last night. OP you talk about having a relationship and swinging as if they are mutually exclusive, they are not ... not for us anyway.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"Last serious relationship 9 years ago possibly

yes I do miss being in a relationship

Simply because I want children and at 35 I feel like my time is quickly running out "

I think when you meet the right person it will all happen quickly. And people are having their first kids in their 40s now. Yes the risks are greater but then so is midwifery these days. Don't fret it CC x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you miss being in a relationship?

The intermediate moments

The one person you can trust/rely on

Taking holidays together

And would you give up swinging to be in one ? If she/he wasn't interested in swinging,

Sorry if it sounds a bit to deep for a swingers site but I have just been people watching and thinking I would like to be in one "

A lot of things/people look good from the outside scrummy, not always the case on the inside/behind closed doors.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Nah...I am happy alone, with the gf experience meets I have off here.

It's a happy balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I'd rather not go back into a vanilla relationship as that was very unfulfilling, as I had to supress my desires and lock them up in a box as ex didn't share them. I'm not doing that again."

With the right person though, you can get all those desires and it be fulfilling.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Still in a relationship after all that has happened over the last 5 years, it's a different type of relationship atm really on the edge

Hate being alone , been there done that and I have no dought it is close again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you miss being in a relationship?

The intermediate moments

The one person you can trust/rely on

Taking holidays together

And would you give up swinging to be in one ? If she/he wasn't interested in swinging,

Sorry if it sounds a bit to deep for a swingers site but I have just been people watching and thinking I would like to be in one "

1. On occasion

2. Yes I'd easily give up fab.

3. Longest relationship of 5 years (which was a rebound!)

4. Longest time single 5/6 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in long term relationships from 19 to 46 so I've been enjoying being single recently but I'm starting to miss the closeness of a special person.

But I love my own company & I'm not sure I could live with anyone again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not done a head count, but it seems as though most who have posted yes are the ladies

At the moment I'm in the phase of "been there, done that" and I'm not looking to make any ltr.

I've too much going on with working away from home, shuttling back and forth, and managing family life to think about it

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Do you miss being in a relationship?

The intermediate moments

The one person you can trust/rely on

Taking holidays together

And would you give up swinging to be in one ? If she/he wasn't interested in swinging,

Sorry if it sounds a bit to deep for a swingers site but I have just been people watching and thinking I would like to be in one

1. On occasion

2. Yes I'd easily give up fab.

3. Longest relationship of 5 years (which was a rebound!)

4. Longest time single 5/6 years "

You are probably going to meet an amazing guy soon

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

Been single now for 12 months after 6 years. Yes I miss the company, cuddles etc however would rather find a couple of fwb rather than get back into a relationship.

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman
over a year ago

Bathwyche

What a lovely thread....always nice to hear peoples honest thoughts about this.... n glad to know im not the only one!

Id happily be in a relationship, the sexier the better obviously, and hoping that when i meet that person, if not on here....i could soon convince them to join in abit! If not....no biggy. Sex isn't what cements a relationship in our 90s....

I do find relationships really hard work however, as dont trust people, am independent and used to managing for myself....but then nothing worth having is easy, right?!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I need to find someone that really excites me I get bored in a relationship if the excitement is'nt there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last serious relationship ended 3 years ago. Only thing I miss (sometimes) is someone to cuddle up with on the sofa and watch some rubbish. Oh and nicking the covers off of someone in bed

But I have children and they come first, so if I have to wait, until they're old enough, to possibly start a relationship then I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to find someone that really excites me I get bored in a relationship if the excitement is'nt there "

Very much the same here....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 years for me, and to be honest the only thing that I missed was sex, and I am getting decent sex now so nothing else is lacking.

Perhaps one day I will meet someone and just 'click' and it will develop but I am happy being single right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know that I don't want all the drama that cones with being in a relationship!

I think I'm at the point where I don't want to live with anyone - I have always lived with people and it's exhausting!

But I need sex and company - on my terms

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Do you miss being in a relationship?

The intermediate moments

The one person you can trust/rely on

Taking holidays together

And would you give up swinging to be in one ? If she/he wasn't interested in swinging,

Sorry if it sounds a bit to deep for a swingers site but I have just been people watching and thinking I would like to be in one "

I've never been in a serious relationship. Never found the right woman. I've spent most of my life single so I'm pretty happy with my own company most of the time. Recently though I've really been missing some female company. I do find myself envying loved-up couples. I would love to sample a bit of that. It must be a great feeling to be able share your life with someone like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really miss being in a relationship sometimes. I miss the cuddles and miss sharing things with a partner. I had a great relationship up until my mum had a stroke. But then I became her carer and now devote my time to her. It's hard finding someone who understands that mum needs most of my attention. So for now fab suits my needs. Not ideal but that's how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

13 years in my last one single a year love it and have lots of great friends that I can get my cuddles off if the right guy wanted to have a relationship with me then I'd consider it never rule anything out ideally he would be into the swingers seen to though as I love it even if it was just till we had tried lots together and then settled down it be something we would decide as a couple I guess

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I am homesick for a place I am not sure even exists. One where my heart is full. My body loved. And my soul understood."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I am homesick for a place I am not sure even exists. One where my heart is full. My body loved. And my soul understood.""

Does it not exist? That makes me very sad

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

""I am homesick for a place I am not sure even exists. One where my heart is full. My body loved. And my soul understood."

Does it not exist? That makes me very sad

Oh that was just what the quote said....yes it does exist, I have been there several times, and I hope to return one day.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I don't miss being in a relationship. After a 20 yr and then a 6 yr relationship I have been single for 2 years. There are times when yes it would be nice to have someone waiting at home for you but at moment I'm enjoying my free space.I am always loyal to my partners so discussion on an alternative sex life would be broached but I am more inclined to have a few special friends,they can give me my wants and I have my own space.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'm still in it. Most enjoyable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I am homesick for a place I am not sure even exists. One where my heart is full. My body loved. And my soul understood.""

I like that quote

sums up life at times pretty well.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

""I am homesick for a place I am not sure even exists. One where my heart is full. My body loved. And my soul understood."

I like that quote

sums up life at times pretty well.

Yup, that would do me

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Hopefully Mrs ddc will be my last ever serious relationship.

(Though if she comes home and finds I've spent the morning in here instead of building this kitchen wall there may have to be some grovelling....

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Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I miss my relationship and have been on my own a year with divorce just starting. I personally would prefer a relationship to swinging as I met my ex here and know that for me personally, I would not want that again. X

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I can miss little bits of it, but friends and family give love, can spend time and sharing of special moments etc.

The sex is different with less involved partners than a ltr lover but variety is great too.

I'm not in any rush for an LTR.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I've had a 7 year one, a 22 year bad one and a 19 month one that I finished this January.

I don't miss the relationship part. None of them were my best friend and all of them were not right for me. Took me a long time to learn this though.

This is why I want FWBs. All the nice physical stuff without the crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always been single, love it

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Mine has turned up on here with a couples profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a relationship now n both live swinging together x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm in the last relationship I will ever have, its the most perfect idilic relationship for us but wouldn't suit everyone, only sadness is we haven't got forever, but I just wouldn't want anyone else. Maybe a little companion when I'm old for trips out but plans have already been put in place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well.. I was in an eighteen month relationship - my only ever relationship, none the less - and that broke up four years ago next month and it's only very recently that I've considered wanting to be in a relationship again.

But if I did get into a relationship at the moment, I wouldn't want a vanilla relationship BUT I wouldn't want a swinging label on the relationship either... I'd like the freedom that if we met a swinging couple that we got on with and we attracted to, that we could have that opportunity there. I'd probably prefer something a little long distance to start with as I like my space.

I'm not asking for too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last serious relation i was married.I kind of miss the intimacy and more so just someone to relax with and chill with,but at the same time,most of my life has been 1 serious relationship after another,and the last one didnt end well.So im caught at the moment between wanting to enjoy myself as a single male and missing a companion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I miss certain aspects, intimacy, the companionship, but love being single as I can do what I want without having to answer to anybody. Well with restrictions as I am a single mum. It can get lonely sometimes. I would ideally like to be in a relationship with someone who respects my freedom and I theirs. I could never live with anyone again, I don't think. I'm not really a swinger anyway, it's just something to do until I meet someone special, I would be happy not to sleep around as I am quite a monogamous person anyway. I tend to try and meet people who satisfy me in every way that I don't feel the need to sleep with other people too. I'm not ready for a relationship so seek friends with benefits but it does come with it's downside too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy this lifestyle and I am nearly ready for a relationship. Ideally I think I want it blended. Not a swinger as such .....just playful and relationship pillow fights Sunday mornings and caring for another as they care for me.....pampering and laughter and great sex mixed with a touch of FAB ....like a cocktail...mwah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30 years with my ex and I don't miss anything about it. I would like a proper relationship with kisses and cuddles,trust and passion but I'm not craving it. I don't miss what I never had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I miss the most about not being in a relationship is not having someone to do things for to put a smile on their face, I like making people smile.

There is of course things like cuddling, silly chats about tv programmes, making up after an argument by moving closer together in bed until your bums touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last one ended in Feb this year, a bad end too & put me off having another one also enjoying single lifestyle too but I miss the intimacy & need a boyfriend fix every now & then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last one ended in Feb this year, a bad end too & put me off having another one also enjoying single lifestyle too but I miss the intimacy & need a boyfriend fix every now & then "

Last one ended in september last year,and she is now engaged to a woman :/ wasnt sure how to feel at first, made me question a lot and knocked confidence lol,but yeah,i miss the intimacy and need a fix of something stable every now and again,but then i kinda freak out and think nah i dont want all the hassle and stress again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to find someone that really excites me I get bored in a relationship if the excitement is'nt there "

Same.

I haven't met anyone (romantically) since becoming a mother and its a different dynamic when there are children involved too.

I honestly don't know how I would find time for a full relationship, and whilst I love the intimacy and cuddles and emotional support, I am very independent and also need my own space too- so a bit complicated really.

I guess thats why I just fulfill the physical side here, for now.

And who knows what is around the corner x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last one ended in Feb this year, a bad end too & put me off having another one also enjoying single lifestyle too but I miss the intimacy & need a boyfriend fix every now & then

Yeah, it is too much hassle...few of my friends have partners & I see how much compromising & effort they have to put in & I can't be arsed with all that - BF fix a few times a month suits me fine... Wingman broken at mo... Frusitrating!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I struggle with this one.

I've been single for almost 30 years and I'm NEVER lonely or alone. I adore my time with my swing friends because let's face it, when you're single, that's who gives attention of all kinds, from detailing cars to spooning all night.

Then I snuggle up in bed when it's cold with too many tech devices, coffee, music, chat and am bloody thankful that's there's nobody to interrupt that.

I do know that I would give up swinging if that was a deal breaker. I'm not swapping a loving and supportive relationship for swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv had a year being single, and im not missing a relationship at all,occasionally il miss the silly things you can do as a couple,but those things can be achieved on a good date,and the intimacy i guess you get from a good meet,a mutual FB is the ideal,but iv found that keeping it strictly FB is a difficult thing,feelings get involved and it gets complicated.Its a complicated world lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mine ended with my partners sudden death i miss male company and the simple things like cooking for him the hardest part is coming back to an empty house im not ready for a relationship dnt nah if i ever will be

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