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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them " | |||
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"Why when you block single guys does it specifically state that on your profile; yet when you block any other category it just removes that category from your profile? Eg if I block single women it doesn't say "not looking single women": it just doesn't show on my profile. To be honest the whole swinging idea is quite anti single men.. Not sure if it's always been like that but.. Most clubs are all about making money from the single guys.. I been dipping in and out of the scene for over ten yrs!! Last 4-5 yrs it's become more about single guys paying a premium to even get in a club.. And most of the time just stand around watching with the other hundred single guys haha as the 2 couples fuck!! Seems a bit derogatory towards single men I think and unfair, to be fair lol. " | |||
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"Just accept who isn't looking for you. Focus on who may be, and conserve your energy." Good advice though I'm just highlighting the difference in treatment. Perhaps I shouldn't think things through too much. A one man crusade is lonely lol | |||
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" To be honest the whole swinging idea is quite anti single men.. Not sure if it's always been like that but.. Most clubs are all about making money from the single guys.. I been dipping in and out of the scene for over ten yrs!! Last 4-5 yrs it's become more about single guys paying a premium to even get in a club.. And most of the time just stand around watching with the other hundred single guys haha as the 2 couples fuck!! " Maybe you should flash them your cheeky bum. Might get you involved  | |||
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"Is it really worth getting annoyed by? If anything it does you a favour, it means that in a split second you can see that they have blocked messages from you" Same can be said for the other categories if you bother to look and they aren't there. Think you've missed my point with the greatest of respect | |||
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"Seems a bit derogatory towards single men I think and unfair, to be fair lol. " People have preferences and if I don't match their criteria then I move on. How hard a concept can this be to understand. | |||
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"Seems a bit derogatory towards single men I think and unfair, to be fair lol. People have preferences and if I don't match their criteria then I move on. How hard a concept can this be to understand." Gotta say that you've entirely missed my point. Constructive and helpful comments are better that not understanding the reason why the posting was made in the first place. No one can argue with what you've said but not relevant to this posting dude. | |||
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"Seems a bit derogatory towards single men I think and unfair, to be fair lol. People have preferences and if I don't match their criteria then I move on. How hard a concept can this be to understand." But he isn't saying anything about preferences. If you set your message filters to block single females it doesn't say anything on your profile. Same for couples, mm couples, ff couples. But for single men it then amends your profile with "not looking for single males" | |||
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"Seems a bit derogatory towards single men I think and unfair, to be fair lol. People have preferences and if I don't match their criteria then I move on. How hard a concept can this be to understand. But he isn't saying anything about preferences. If you set your message filters to block single females it doesn't say anything on your profile. Same for couples, mm couples, ff couples. But for single men it then amends your profile with "not looking for single males"" My gripe exactly | |||
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"Seems a bit derogatory towards single men I think and unfair, to be fair lol. People have preferences and if I don't match their criteria then I move on. How hard a concept can this be to understand. Gotta say that you've entirely missed my point. Constructive and helpful comments are better that not understanding the reason why the posting was made in the first place. No one can argue with what you've said but not relevant to this posting dude. " Ok fair point, but what are you actually looking for then OP, and how are you actively going about seeking it? | |||
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"Is it really worth getting annoyed by? If anything it does you a favour, it means that in a split second you can see that they have blocked messages from you Same can be said for the other categories if you bother to look and they aren't there. Think you've missed my point with the greatest of respect " What is your point? You just seem to be taking offense for the sake of it. Would you rather read a profile, go to message them and then find you can't? | |||
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"But he isn't saying anything about preferences. If you set your message filters to block single females it doesn't say anything on your profile. Same for couples, mm couples, ff couples. But for single men it then amends your profile with "not looking for single males"" This does seem odd to be fair. | |||
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"Seems a bit derogatory towards single men I think and unfair, to be fair lol. People have preferences and if I don't match their criteria then I move on. How hard a concept can this be to understand. Gotta say that you've entirely missed my point. Constructive and helpful comments are better that not understanding the reason why the posting was made in the first place. No one can argue with what you've said but not relevant to this posting dude. Ok fair point, but what are you actually looking for then OP, and how are you actively going about seeking it?" In terms of this site I've got it on my profile what I'm looking for. In terms of my posting I just noticed the bias and thought I'd highlight it. Maybe a site moderator will see it and think: "shit he's onto something there, I'll change the format". Lol | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them "To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy | |||
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"Is it really worth getting annoyed by? If anything it does you a favour, it means that in a split second you can see that they have blocked messages from you Same can be said for the other categories if you bother to look and they aren't there. Think you've missed my point with the greatest of respect What is your point? You just seem to be taking offense for the sake of it. Would you rather read a profile, go to message them and then find you can't?" Why aren't you seeing my point. To be fair it probably comes across that I'm taking an offensive attitude towards it. I'm not. I'm simply highlighting the difference in how single men are treated. Profiles clearly state what people are looking for and if message filters are used then the moment someone that not within your desire try's to message you a blocked message will appear. That only takes a second end off. | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy"Have you thought that through? | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy"Too true | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Have you thought that through?"He must've done otherwise he wouldn't have written it. It's a very valid point | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy"I do currently meet single guys - if I was blocked from messaging them, then I would not be able to seek out the ones I do like - and that would mean less meets. I don't block single guys at the moment, but with some of the messages I get, I can see why women would prefer to block and look for themselves. | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Have you thought that through?
He must've done otherwise he wouldn't have written it. It's a very valid point "Yup I have and in todays society,surely it is only fair that people are treated as equals or not at all? | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy"Eh... how is that fair for me? If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men? | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?"Hey you've missed the point. I'm in favour of choice and therefore blocking. I ain't in favour of discrimination. When you block single guys it specifically states that on your profile. When you block anyone else it doesn't. | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?"you have very specific tastes perhaps state that in your profile and ignore the ones that do not meet your tastes,that or perhaps open your tastebuds to a more eclectic mix and maybe you will find something that you like that you would have otherwise overlooked? | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?
Hey you've missed the point. I'm in favour of choice and therefore blocking. I ain't in favour of discrimination.
When you block single guys it specifically states that on your profile. When you block anyone else it doesn't. "My apologies, that wasn't directed at you just at who I quoted. | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?you have very specific tastes perhaps state that in your profile and ignore the ones that do not meet your tastes,that or perhaps open your tastebuds to a more eclectic mix and maybe you will find something that you like that you would have otherwise overlooked?"Erm... I have stated my specific tastes in my profile...? I know the kind of man I'm attracted to, I'm extremely picky. I use the site how I want to and I'm extremely happy with how I use it and the results I get from it, thank you. | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?
Hey you've missed the point. I'm in favour of choice and therefore blocking. I ain't in favour of discrimination.
When you block single guys it specifically states that on your profile. When you block anyone else it doesn't.
My apologies, that wasn't directed at you just at who I quoted."xx | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?you have very specific tastes perhaps state that in your profile and ignore the ones that do not meet your tastes,that or perhaps open your tastebuds to a more eclectic mix and maybe you will find something that you like that you would have otherwise overlooked?"Why should anyone have to change their preference of meets? If it doesn't float my boat, I'm not going to give up precious limited free time to meet... | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?you have very specific tastes perhaps state that in your profile and ignore the ones that do not meet your tastes,that or perhaps open your tastebuds to a more eclectic mix and maybe you will find something that you like that you would have otherwise overlooked?
Why should anyone have to change their preference of meets? If it doesn't float my boat, I'm not going to give up precious limited free time to meet..."I never said anyone has to I merely suggested that people could be more open to alternatives especially on a swingers site where you are judging someone initially on a profile sometimes a profile will not do a person justice no? | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?you have very specific tastes perhaps state that in your profile and ignore the ones that do not meet your tastes,that or perhaps open your tastebuds to a more eclectic mix and maybe you will find something that you like that you would have otherwise overlooked?
Why should anyone have to change their preference of meets? If it doesn't float my boat, I'm not going to give up precious limited free time to meet...I never said anyone has to I merely suggested that people could be more open to alternatives especially on a swingers site where you are judging someone initially on a profile sometimes a profile will not do a person justice no?"It depends on the effort that person puts into their profile | |||
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"Why aren't you seeing my point. To be fair it probably comes across that I'm taking an offensive attitude towards it. I'm not. I'm simply highlighting the difference in how single men are treated" I can see your point, you made an observation, not a complaint | |||
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"I never said anyone has to I merely suggested that people could be more open to alternatives especially on a swingers site where you are judging someone initially on a profile sometimes a profile will not do a person justice no?" Thanks for the suggestion, but no. If people cannot tailor a decent profile and put a bit of effort in, then its unlikely we'd get along. I don't often meet, so am not going to risk my limited free time... so if I miss someone, its not really a great loss. | |||
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"Why aren't you seeing my point. To be fair it probably comes across that I'm taking an offensive attitude towards it. I'm not. I'm simply highlighting the difference in how single men are treated I can see your point, you made an observation, not a complaint" Thanks for the support | |||
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"Why when you block single guys does it specifically state that on your profile; yet when you block any other category it just removes that category from your profile? Eg if I block single women it doesn't say "not looking single women": it just doesn't show on my profile. Seems a bit derogatory towards single men I think and unfair, to be fair lol. " . I fail to see what possible difference this makes . As single guys are probably the majority of members , they are also the ones most likely to be blocked . | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?you have very specific tastes perhaps state that in your profile and ignore the ones that do not meet your tastes,that or perhaps open your tastebuds to a more eclectic mix and maybe you will find something that you like that you would have otherwise overlooked?
Why should anyone have to change their preference of meets? If it doesn't float my boat, I'm not going to give up precious limited free time to meet...I never said anyone has to I merely suggested that people could be more open to alternatives especially on a swingers site where you are judging someone initially on a profile sometimes a profile will not do a person justice no?". Surely it is up to the member to make the effort to write a good profile . Well written profiles are excellent marketing tools . | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?you have very specific tastes perhaps state that in your profile and ignore the ones that do not meet your tastes,that or perhaps open your tastebuds to a more eclectic mix and maybe you will find something that you like that you would have otherwise overlooked?
Why should anyone have to change their preference of meets? If it doesn't float my boat, I'm not going to give up precious limited free time to meet...I never said anyone has to I merely suggested that people could be more open to alternatives especially on a swingers site where you are judging someone initially on a profile sometimes a profile will not do a person justice no?. Surely it is up to the member to make the effort to write a good profile . Well written profiles are excellent marketing tools ."Agree to a point but some people are just better at profiles than others whereas some people would be better face to face,some people can waffle off a great profile but may not be even remotely the same person face to face,that is why in my opinion profiles are to be taken with a pinch of salt,how many times have people arranged to meet wise cracking mentally stimulating adonises/aphrodites only to actually end up with a poor reality? | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?you have very specific tastes perhaps state that in your profile and ignore the ones that do not meet your tastes,that or perhaps open your tastebuds to a more eclectic mix and maybe you will find something that you like that you would have otherwise overlooked?
Why should anyone have to change their preference of meets? If it doesn't float my boat, I'm not going to give up precious limited free time to meet...I never said anyone has to I merely suggested that people could be more open to alternatives especially on a swingers site where you are judging someone initially on a profile sometimes a profile will not do a person justice no?. Surely it is up to the member to make the effort to write a good profile . Well written profiles are excellent marketing tools .Agree to a point but some people are just better at profiles than others whereas some people would be better face to face,some people can waffle off a great profile but may not be even remotely the same person face to face,that is why in my opinion profiles are to be taken with a pinch of salt,how many times have people arranged to meet wise cracking mentally stimulating adonises/aphrodites only to actually end up with a poor reality?"Never? Everyone I have met has been very like their chat and profile, and often much better - but they have had a great starting position with a good, detailed profile. | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?you have very specific tastes perhaps state that in your profile and ignore the ones that do not meet your tastes,that or perhaps open your tastebuds to a more eclectic mix and maybe you will find something that you like that you would have otherwise overlooked?
Why should anyone have to change their preference of meets? If it doesn't float my boat, I'm not going to give up precious limited free time to meet...I never said anyone has to I merely suggested that people could be more open to alternatives especially on a swingers site where you are judging someone initially on a profile sometimes a profile will not do a person justice no?. Surely it is up to the member to make the effort to write a good profile . Well written profiles are excellent marketing tools .Agree to a point but some people are just better at profiles than others whereas some people would be better face to face,some people can waffle off a great profile but may not be even remotely the same person face to face,that is why in my opinion profiles are to be taken with a pinch of salt,how many times have people arranged to meet wise cracking mentally stimulating adonises/aphrodites only to actually end up with a poor reality?
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Everyone I have met has been very like their chat and profile, and often much better - but they have had a great starting position with a good, detailed profile."you have kind of proved my point to a degree there by saying that often people are better than their profiles which again i only use profiles as a starting point but would not rule someone out due to not having a brilliant profile,some people are naturally eloquent and have flair for writing whereas others do not but to dismiss people out of hand due to a poorly (opinion) presented profile may result in people not meeting or giving a chance to some amazing guys/gals on here. | |||
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"I think you're right! I'm looking for single guys, it says that on my profile but because I've blocked them from messaging me first it also says that I'm not looking for them To be fair if you have blocked guys from messaging you first then you should also be blocked from messaging them,we do supposedly live in a society where equal rights are what females have asked for so if a guy cant message you then vice versa you shouldnt be able to message a guy
Eh... how is that fair for me?
If I opened my inbox to single men - *snigger* - I'd spend half my time sending them off on their way as I have very specific tastes in men. Would that be more fair for single men?you have very specific tastes perhaps state that in your profile and ignore the ones that do not meet your tastes,that or perhaps open your tastebuds to a more eclectic mix and maybe you will find something that you like that you would have otherwise overlooked?
Why should anyone have to change their preference of meets? If it doesn't float my boat, I'm not going to give up precious limited free time to meet...I never said anyone has to I merely suggested that people could be more open to alternatives especially on a swingers site where you are judging someone initially on a profile sometimes a profile will not do a person justice no?. Surely it is up to the member to make the effort to write a good profile . Well written profiles are excellent marketing tools .Agree to a point but some people are just better at profiles than others whereas some people would be better face to face,some people can waffle off a great profile but may not be even remotely the same person face to face,that is why in my opinion profiles are to be taken with a pinch of salt,how many times have people arranged to meet wise cracking mentally stimulating adonises/aphrodites only to actually end up with a poor reality?". If the profile is well written and detailed members can make their own judgement . If someone lacks the necessary skills to write a good profile , they may also be lacking in many other areas. | |||
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"you have kind of proved my point to a degree there by saying that often people are better than their profiles which again i only use profiles as a starting point but would not rule someone out due to not having a brilliant profile,some people are naturally eloquent and have flair for writing whereas others do not but to dismiss people out of hand due to a poorly (opinion) presented profile may result in people not meeting or giving a chance to some amazing guys/gals on here." I would not meet someone who had not written a decent profile. It doesn't need to be eloquent, but it needs to be thought out well and to say what they look for an offer... a couple of shit lines about "fill this in later" are never going to intrigue me to meet. And I chat a lot on here before meeting, so if they cannot capture it in text on a profile and chat, then I will never meet them. I've found lazy profiles, the chat ends up feeling like some really naff job interview to prise the information out of them - I'd rather see what someone really thinks upfront than have them answer questions the way they think I want them to. AM I missing out on some great people? I honestly don't know - but I do know my selection criteria has never failed me in 5 years on here, and its always been good on the occasions I do meet, so I am not likely to change (never had a no show, and the only person who has wasted my time has been me, choosing to chat on the forum etc) | |||
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"you have kind of proved my point to a degree there by saying that often people are better than their profiles which again i only use profiles as a starting point but would not rule someone out due to not having a brilliant profile,some people are naturally eloquent and have flair for writing whereas others do not but to dismiss people out of hand due to a poorly (opinion) presented profile may result in people not meeting or giving a chance to some amazing guys/gals on here. I would not meet someone who had not written a decent profile. It doesn't need to be eloquent, but it needs to be thought out well and to say what they look for an offer... a couple of shit lines about "fill this in later" are never going to intrigue me to meet. And I chat a lot on here before meeting, so if they cannot capture it in text on a profile and chat, then I will never meet them. I've found lazy profiles, the chat ends up feeling like some really naff job interview to prise the information out of them - I'd rather see what someone really thinks upfront than have them answer questions the way they think I want them to. AM I missing out on some great people? I honestly don't know - but I do know my selection criteria has never failed me in 5 years on here, and its always been good on the occasions I do meet, so I am not likely to change (never had a no show, and the only person who has wasted my time has been me, choosing to chat on the forum etc)" I am not denying that lazy profiles can be a turn off that goes without saying a lot of the time butsome people do not really come out of their shell until you get to know them,you can not say that you may have turned down or ignored some great people as you will never know,but my original point still stands,if someone has put a block on a specific group from contacting them then surely they should be prevented from contaction said group,this is not orwellian after all as indeed all men(and women) are created equal (none are more equal than others when it comes to having emotions) | |||
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"I clearly stated I don't know if I've missed some great people. I might have, but frankly I don't care. I'm not on here to make bosom buddies. I'm here to meet people who float my boat and that I can have fun with... Not someone I need to wait for them to come out of their shell or find themselves or whatever. And as someone who often filters single males so I can search and message first, blocking that contact just means a single woman less meeting. If you saw the majority of messages I get from single men, you'd understand why I like the chance to block them, but still able to search profiles and message the decent ones... But if you'd rather completely block that's option, I'm happy to just meet couples and ignore single guys all together... But I'm not sure that's the outcome you wanted " The outcome any person wants is for everybody to get along and have fun the need to block is in my opinion an unfortunate one,when we all sign up initially it is usually with open minds and I genuinely wish that was the way it stayed,I can of course take your points on board but I still stand by my convictions that if I for example decided to block a certain portion of the fab society from contacting me then I should have the courage of my convictions to accept that I cannot also contact them | |||
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