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I am autistic and NOT A TWAT...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It is possible. That is all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is possible. That is all."

????? You ok lovely?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Lol - who's been messaging you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're a lovely person.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sons autistic and the most intelligent little dude I know....bit of a twat sometimes but that's hormones for you lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The thread about not being someone's type has riled me somewhat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anybody thinks you're a twat.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"It is possible. That is all."

Hear hear... NTs take note!!

Have a nice warm aspie hug from me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think anybody thinks you're a twat."

I know, but my heart sinks every time I see people labelling someone as autistic due to negative behaviour. It becomes a little waring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all on the autism spectrum, somewhere.

I certainly am.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son is severely autistic and one of the best people I could ever wish to have in my life. Fuck the haters. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thread about not being someone's type has riled me somewhat. "

got a few people bubbling has that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thread about not being someone's type has riled me somewhat. "

Oh, you should have just read through it and laughed. That's what I did.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know you from Adam OP, so can only go by what I see in the forums.

And I'd say you seem very balanced, grounded, friendly and a very nice person.

So I agree, you're far from being a twat!

(And you look great in a little Summery dress!)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Nell, who has said being autistic makes you a twat?

There's been the autismn awareness threads of late thinking that the op was autistic because he was showing typical signs of "some" autistic people would have given a better understanding of his thinking, honest to God you can't bloody win on here, hounding try and understand and your wrong you do try and understand and your bloody wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thread about not being someone's type has riled me somewhat.

Oh, you should have just read through it and laughed. That's what I did.

-Courtney"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know you from Adam OP, so can only go by what I see in the forums.

And I'd say you seem very balanced, grounded, friendly and a very nice person.

So I agree, you're far from being a twat!

(And you look great in a little Summery dress!)"

And after that exercise in white-knighting I'm now going to go read the 'not my type' thread!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nell, who has said being autistic makes you a twat?

There's been the autismn awareness threads of late thinking that the op was autistic because he was showing typical signs of "some" autistic people would have given a better understanding of his thinking, honest to God you can't bloody win on here, hounding try and understand and your wrong you do try and understand and your bloody wrong"

Ok, I'm aware I'm probably being oversensitive, but as I said on the other thread it would be fantastic to see someone being asked if they are autistic for something positive. But it never is. It's always in response to a negative and it makes me sad.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if you get wound up that easy because of that other thread, puts the other OP's angst into some context...

people will react differently to form of words....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Nell, who has said being autistic makes you a twat?

There's been the autismn awareness threads of late thinking that the op was autistic because he was showing typical signs of "some" autistic people would have given a better understanding of his thinking, honest to God you can't bloody win on here, hounding try and understand and your wrong you do try and understand and your bloody wrong

Ok, I'm aware I'm probably being oversensitive, but as I said on the other thread it would be fantastic to see someone being asked if they are autistic for something positive. But it never is. It's always in response to a negative and it makes me sad."
I'm not sure if I think your being oversensitive but you haven't done the very well thought out autism threads any favours, which tell you to be more mindful and mention things to look out for and I'm sorry but from memory I can't remember them mentioning any positive things to look out for, so I'm also a bit riled when you do what your asked and someone gets annoyed about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you get wound up that easy because of that other thread, puts the other OP's angst into some context...

people will react differently to form of words...."

I was thinking this exact same thing. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was trying to understand his mindset to be honest.

It's the same as people having a go at those whose spelling isn't that great.

When you find out they are dyslexic, you give them leeway for spellings not being right.

The same with those who are autistic, I will give them leeway for seeing and interpreting things in a different way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was trying to understand his mindset to be honest.

It's the same as people having a go at those whose spelling isn't that great.

When you find out they are dyslexic, you give them leeway for spellings not being right.

The same with those who are autistic, I will give them leeway for seeing and interpreting things in a different way.

"

thats how i read your comment to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was trying to understand his mindset to be honest.

It's the same as people having a go at those whose spelling isn't that great.

When you find out they are dyslexic, you give them leeway for spellings not being right.

The same with those who are autistic, I will give them leeway for seeing and interpreting things in a different way.

thats how i read your comment to him "

Yes and nell's reaction to that is highlighting the fact that someone with autism may interpret it differently.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"I was trying to understand his mindset to be honest.

It's the same as people having a go at those whose spelling isn't that great.

When you find out they are dyslexic, you give them leeway for spellings not being right.

The same with those who are autistic, I will give them leeway for seeing and interpreting things in a different way.

"

Indeed. When I find out that someone is NT (neuro-typical) I try to make allowances for them too - I totally accept it's not their fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very heated in the forums today.... It must be Thursday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was trying to understand his mindset to be honest.

It's the same as people having a go at those whose spelling isn't that great.

When you find out they are dyslexic, you give them leeway for spellings not being right.

The same with those who are autistic, I will give them leeway for seeing and interpreting things in a different way.

thats how i read your comment to him "

He hasn't actually said he is autistic and his status now is bloody rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was trying to understand his mindset to be honest.

It's the same as people having a go at those whose spelling isn't that great.

When you find out they are dyslexic, you give them leeway for spellings not being right.

The same with those who are autistic, I will give them leeway for seeing and interpreting things in a different way.

thats how i read your comment to him

Yes and nell's reaction to that is highlighting the fact that someone with autism may interpret it differently. "

totall agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're all on the autism spectrum, somewhere."

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Nell, who has said being autistic makes you a twat?

There's been the autismn awareness threads of late thinking that the op was autistic because he was showing typical signs of "some" autistic people would have given a better understanding of his thinking, honest to God you can't bloody win on here, hounding try and understand and your wrong you do try and understand and your bloody wrong

Ok, I'm aware I'm probably being oversensitive, but as I said on the other thread it would be fantastic to see someone being asked if they are autistic for something positive. But it never is. It's always in response to a negative and it makes me sad."

Unfortunately a lot of people don't understand the spectrum and generalise, one of the byproducts of the limited human cognitive powers need to stabilise a chaotic world.

However, that doesn't justify closed minds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son is severely autistic and one of the best people I could ever wish to have in my life. Fuck the haters. xx"

My nephew is exactly the same and he's only 3 years old.

I'll fuck the haters with you.....we shall destroy them !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son is severely autistic and one of the best people I could ever wish to have in my life. Fuck the haters. xx

My nephew is exactly the same and he's only 3 years old.

I'll fuck the haters with you.....we shall destroy them !!!"

Who has said anywhere about hating anyone who is autistic?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

And all this started by people questioning someone if they where autistic to try and get a better understanding and people become haters and closed minds for trying to understand.

Well I tell you what it's no bloody wonder society has a long way to go in understanding autism, or any form of mental illness if this is how people react to those that try and understand you should be bloody ashamed of yourselves and I know I for one won't be giving anyone the benefit of the doubt again or making any kind of a!lowances for people that process information differently.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My reaction is not due to my autism. As already stated we are all individuals just like the NT's and will respond as such.

If my unpleasant behaviour and personality traits were attributed to being female every time I exhibited them I would feel equally sad that the state of 'femaleness' was perceived as a negative.

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By *moSexGeeksCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

Either way. I think the phrase "Offense is never given only taken" applies here.

Someone can call you anything under the moon but it's how you react to said name calling that really matters.

Honestly, don't let what people say on the Internet bother you. People are nasty when they hide behind anonymity. Just try not to be sensitive.

Also, don't take things people say the wrong way either. That's called being hyposensitive.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And all this started by people questioning someone if they where autistic to try and get a better understanding and people become haters and closed minds for trying to understand.

Well I tell you what it's no bloody wonder society has a long way to go in understanding autism, or any form of mental illness if this is how people react to those that try and understand you should be bloody ashamed of yourselves and I know I for one won't be giving anyone the benefit of the doubt again or making any kind of a!lowances for people that process information differently.

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Isn't that a bit harsh, though? She misunderstood where you were coming from. That's all. It's not something to be "bloody ashamed of," is it? It's something to be learned from. For everyone.

-Courtney

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"And all this started by people questioning someone if they where autistic to try and get a better understanding and people become haters and closed minds for trying to understand.

Well I tell you what it's no bloody wonder society has a long way to go in understanding autism, or any form of mental illness if this is how people react to those that try and understand you should be bloody ashamed of yourselves and I know I for one won't be giving anyone the benefit of the doubt again or making any kind of a!lowances for people that process information differently.

Isn't that a bit harsh, though? She misunderstood where you were coming from. That's all. It's not something to be "bloody ashamed of," is it? It's something to be learned from. For everyone.

-Courtney"
was I talking about Nell, no I bloody wasn't I was talking aboit people going on about haters and having closed minds, maybe you should read properly as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And all this started by people questioning someone if they where autistic to try and get a better understanding and people become haters and closed minds for trying to understand.

Well I tell you what it's no bloody wonder society has a long way to go in understanding autism, or any form of mental illness if this is how people react to those that try and understand you should be bloody ashamed of yourselves and I know I for one won't be giving anyone the benefit of the doubt again or making any kind of a!lowances for people that process information differently.

Isn't that a bit harsh, though? She misunderstood where you were coming from. That's all. It's not something to be "bloody ashamed of," is it? It's something to be learned from. For everyone.

-Courtneywas I talking about Nell, no I bloody wasn't I was talking aboit people going on about haters and having closed minds, maybe you should read properly as well"

Ok. Sorry. I'll go stand in the corner.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son is severely autistic and one of the best people I could ever wish to have in my life. Fuck the haters. xx

My nephew is exactly the same and he's only 3 years old.

I'll fuck the haters with you.....we shall destroy them !!!

Who has said anywhere about hating anyone who is autistic? "

Well maybe if you hadn't used a very emotional, personal medical condition as an insult in the first place this thread wouldn't be necessary. I've read it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son is severely autistic and one of the best people I could ever wish to have in my life. Fuck the haters. xx

My nephew is exactly the same and he's only 3 years old.

I'll fuck the haters with you.....we shall destroy them !!!

Who has said anywhere about hating anyone who is autistic?

Well maybe if you hadn't used a very emotional, personal medical condition as an insult in the first place this thread wouldn't be necessary. I've read it too.

"

it wasnt said as an insult at all by her - some have taken it that way though some havent -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm autistic and you can't help what you do sometimes and people don't realise that ! I also have adhd and aspergers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son is severely autistic and one of the best people I could ever wish to have in my life. Fuck the haters. xx

My nephew is exactly the same and he's only 3 years old.

I'll fuck the haters with you.....we shall destroy them !!!

Who has said anywhere about hating anyone who is autistic?

Well maybe if you hadn't used a very emotional, personal medical condition as an insult in the first place this thread wouldn't be necessary. I've read it too.

it wasnt said as an insult at all by her - some have taken it that way though some havent - "

Bollocks. Yes it was. My opinion. Either way she didn't need to say it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I'm autistic and you can't help what you do sometimes and people don't realise that ! I also have adhd and aspergers "
yes, and people have recently started awareness threads and when you do try and understand you get this shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son is severely autistic and one of the best people I could ever wish to have in my life. Fuck the haters. xx

My nephew is exactly the same and he's only 3 years old.

I'll fuck the haters with you.....we shall destroy them !!!

Who has said anywhere about hating anyone who is autistic?

Well maybe if you hadn't used a very emotional, personal medical condition as an insult in the first place this thread wouldn't be necessary. I've read it too.

it wasnt said as an insult at all by her - some have taken it that way though some havent -

Bollocks. Yes it was. My opinion. Either way she didn't need to say it.

"

all entitled to our opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have three sons, two of which are autistic, they are the nicest boys you could ever likely to meet, life can bee very hard at times with them, like sarcasm is a very big thing for both of them and understanding different meanings to things, forming friendships, not understanding that everyone isn't there friends, not being invited to things because of their behaviour (not so much the older one now but the younger one) having time limits for everything, routines for everything, routes for going places, ear defenders for supermarkets.

But also the good times, never seeing the bad in anyone (which is also a bad thing to) the cuddles they choose to give as and when they want them, being very clever at things I can only dream of.

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over a year ago


"My son is severely autistic and one of the best people I could ever wish to have in my life. Fuck the haters. xx

My nephew is exactly the same and he's only 3 years old.

I'll fuck the haters with you.....we shall destroy them !!!

Who has said anywhere about hating anyone who is autistic?

Well maybe if you hadn't used a very emotional, personal medical condition as an insult in the first place this thread wouldn't be necessary. I've read it too.

"

It wasn't an insult, I asked if he was autistic because it would have explained why he found using the word "type" so difficult to understand on here.

If he isn't autistic, then he's just being pedantic.

People get abuse on here for their spelling. If you knew they were dyslexic it would make a big difference.

Stop trying to find fault where there was none intended please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son is severely autistic and one of the best people I could ever wish to have in my life. Fuck the haters. xx

My nephew is exactly the same and he's only 3 years old.

I'll fuck the haters with you.....we shall destroy them !!!

Who has said anywhere about hating anyone who is autistic?

Well maybe if you hadn't used a very emotional, personal medical condition as an insult in the first place this thread wouldn't be necessary. I've read it too.

it wasnt said as an insult at all by her - some have taken it that way though some havent -

Bollocks. Yes it was. My opinion. Either way she didn't need to say it.

"

I know what I meant. I asked a perfectly reasonable question considering what the thread was about.

A lot also thought the same thing. I didn't assume anything, I asked the OP.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

both threads reflect that someone has reacted in a certain way to what others have done on here and taken it personally.......

the tone used in the answers differs on the whole from one thread to the other...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this all goes to highlight a deeper issue. Why should the fact that someone may have a medical/mental/physical etc condition affect the way that we treat them? Surely our responses should be mindful of others, regardless? We shouldn't need to make allowances "because that person is dyslexic" or "that person is autistic" etc, but "because that person is a human being". I try to apply that rule to most of my posts .....apart from where it is obvious that a person is a dick

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think this all goes to highlight a deeper issue. Why should the fact that someone may have a medical/mental/physical etc condition affect the way that we treat them? Surely our responses should be mindful of others, regardless? We shouldn't need to make allowances "because that person is dyslexic" or "that person is autistic" etc, but "because that person is a human being". I try to apply that rule to most of my posts .....apart from where it is obvious that a person is a dick "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok its just that someone else was obviously offended by it enough to start another thread but whatever you say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can feel where you are coming from. I'm dyslexic and didn't find out until I was 16. It's a royal pain in the ar*e doing your very best to be careful with grammar only to have a grammar nazi hammer you because you are making a point on some completely unrelated topic. You become an easy target if you're not well known in the forums.

Challenging someone's intellect is low at the best of times and show a complete lack of understanding. It was extremely difficult for me to admit it here and some people think just because you have a certain issue like mine that you are thick. I'm an engineer and that shocks people still. I'm a bit like rain man lol. Terrible grammar but pretty handy with numbers. *spell checks 500 times*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Challenging or asking and trying to understand?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Just to clarify why I thought he was - my ex boyfriend has never been officially diagnosed but myself and a lot of my friends believe he is on the spectrum. He is highly intelligent and articulate, he was writing computer code at 5yrs old! He also has OCD which I believe is a symptom rather than a cause.

It's in his interactions with people where I notice it most - he has difficulty relating to people, he doesn't recognise most social cues that we take for granted, and he can be very linear and argumentative in trying to get his point across.

That's why I wondered if the OP was autistic. I certainly don't assume that anyone arguing a point is autistic. Hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nell, who has said being autistic makes you a twat?

There's been the autismn awareness threads of late thinking that the op was autistic because he was showing typical signs of "some" autistic people would have given a better understanding of his thinking, honest to God you can't bloody win on here, hounding try and understand and your wrong you do try and understand and your bloody wrong"

It wouldn't be the same if the majority of the forum weren't offended about being offended though.

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