FabSwingers.com forum: Sorry not my Type

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People who say this really annoy me.What your saying is that there is only two or more types of people. Every single person is diffrent and as such there is no such thing as type because every single person is unique. How about saying sorry but your not for me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

And what difference would it make, I don't have a type but I know what isn't my type when I see them

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

At least they have taken the time and trouble to send you a polite reply

Just move on and try to find someone that you are there type

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I think they did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem at all when this is said to me. I just say ok and move on, there's plenty of other people to chat to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are far more important things to get annoyed about than if someone says you're not their type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry...no im no some charity case. If the lady is not attracted to me then were not gonna ever meet. So a delete suits me fine.

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

True just move on love sex but just wont fuck anything there as got to be a bit of something there not just a cock no matter what size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say this. And have had it said to me. I really don't see the problem with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"True just move on love sex but just wont fuck anything there as got to be a bit of something there not just a cock no matter what size"

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

What on earth is the difference between 'you're not my type' and 'you're not for me'...both imply the other person is not attracted to you.

Personally I am very happy to receive this kind of message rather than just being ignored or having a message deleted with no response..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not for you because you're not my type.....like that lady said, it means the same. Everyone can't like everyone and will pick and choose. It's the Quality Street of potential sexual partners.....soft ones, hard ones, ones you don't like, ones that go quickly, ones that take a long time, wrapped ones, cheap ones, tasty ones....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well what is being said is wrong every single person on earth is diffrent no two people are ever the same.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Well what is being said is wrong every single person on earth is diffrent no two people are ever the same."
except twins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, but you're not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well what is being said is wrong every single person on earth is diffrent no two people are ever the same."

It means "I am not attracted to you". It isn't reducing people to two simple categories and declaring they are all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well what is being said is wrong every single person on earth is diffrent no two people are ever the same."

But you know what they mean.

Stop being so pedantic. Would saying I'm not attracted to you make you feel any happier?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Well what is being said is wrong every single person on earth is diffrent no two people are ever the same."
in think you need something more important to worry about than a term of phrase that means exactly the same

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

" How about saying sorry but your not for me."

you are still left wondering 'why'

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Well what is being said is wrong every single person on earth is diffrent no two people are ever the same. except twins."

And those getting sex and those that are not. And.....

You could chunk this up to "we are all living on this planet, so we are the same".

Semantics are a minefield of presupposition sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would saying I'm not attracted to you make you feel any happier?"

Don't open up that can of worms again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What on earth is the difference between 'you're not my type' and 'you're not for me'...both imply the other person is not attracted to you.

Personally I am very happy to receive this kind of message rather than just being ignored or having a message deleted with no response.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least they have taken the time and trouble to send you a polite reply

Just move on and try to find someone that you are there type"

this .. good advice

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

ps: you are bi curious, the Gay/Bi scene is full of types so you best get your head round it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either way the person is saying they don't fancy you, I don't think it really matters in what context it's said. Just move on

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By *oungladMan
over a year ago

Burnham

I apologise you didn't like that response. From now I will simply say no I did not find you attractive at all. Don't contact me again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well what is being said is wrong every single person on earth is diffrent no two people are ever the same.

It means "I am not attracted to you". It isn't reducing people to two simple categories and declaring they are all the same."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez, OP, it was a nice way of saying "I'm not interested" or "I don't fancy you".

I gave up with replying to people I wasn't interested in precisely for this reason, they either took Uxbridge that I didn't want to drop my knickers for them, or they sent endless messages asking "why not".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say this. And have had it said to me. I really don't see the problem with it."

Me too! If a guy likes a young hot body, big boobies or bbw then I'm clearly not his type! Doesn't worry me at all! X

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

ffs what ever is the problem? too much time on yr hands??

If I get a msg saying "not my Type",i sometimes say,thank you for replying and concentrate on those whose type I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not an issue for me,each to their own and I myself may not have a type but know what isn't my type.

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By *penyoureyes2722Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Surely it's just a polite way of saying I don't fancy you. I don't have a problem with it and I can't understand why anyone would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a simply thanks but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a kinder way of saying they don't fancy you.

Which would you prefer to hear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I don't reply at all. Whatever you do you will upset someone so I may as well put the least amount of effort in upsetting someone

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Would you prefer to be ignored?

I say this so they know I don't find them attractive and they won't message me again. I could sugarcoat it for them but I dislike misleading people and prefer to give an honest response

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Gawd!

Don't send a reply = Bitch, moan, whinge.

Send a reply = Bitch, moan, whinge.

You know what they're saying, and that is that you simply don't get their minge wet. Who cares how it's worded if they've had the decency to send a reply? It's still a no...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a couple of days ago we sent a sorry youre not for us message to a lady - she questioned why - said not our type etc - wanted to know more so blocked her - why go on just accept its a no

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Don't be ridiculous, I like lots of different type of guys but I also know when someone isn't my type!..... Learn to take rejection or your time here will be awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but you being penickity its just an expression. Bet it wouldnt bother you if they were sayingyou were their type??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are never satisfied people like the op are the reason messages get deleted without reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

Don't be ridiculous, I like lots of different type of guys but I also know when someone isn't my type!..... Learn to take rejection or your time here will be awful "
I can and have taken rejection but this takes the piss if your going to do something do it right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars. oh for gods sake"
exactly oh for gods sake sums it up this is a swingers site if your not someone's type of person for what ever reason at least they are being nice and saying so this ain't automart we ain't comparing people to cars

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Those two things don't equate at all. Look, some people will find you attractive, others won't. That is their right. It doesn't matter how they word it, they still don't want you.

If you want to get on here, you'll need to grow a thicker skin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see the problem myself, I say that as its better than me saying I don't want to meet you because.... Which could become really insulting

I'll be nice and stick to your not my type

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

Your attitude about people basically giving you a polite "thanks but no thanks" is off putting in itself.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

Don't be ridiculous, I like lots of different type of guys but I also know when someone isn't my type!..... Learn to take rejection or your time here will be awful I can and have taken rejection but this takes the piss if your going to do something do it right. "

So would you rather they said no thanks I think your a minger?

your being terribly pedantic and it's not attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg ffs move on. Theres no arguement to this topic just be grateful you got a reply. And if you cant move on from this i suggest you take up wanking.!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A serious question. Are you autistic?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

Sorry but you being penickity its just an expression. Bet it wouldnt bother you if they were sayingyou were their type??"
Yes it would i would say the same thing as there isnt no such thing as types every single person is diffrent and should be treated as such.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

It's a generic term for - no thanks. It doesn't need to be dissected; either way, if you get this message it just isn't going to happen.

Another phrase that you may wish to challenge: Blow job, the person giving them sucks your cock not blows.

And I'm sure there's a load more that you could tear apart too (no, I didn't mean literally - unless you intend to write them on a piece of paper and rip it up - didn't want to cause any concussion).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a couple of days ago we sent a sorry youre not for us message to a lady - she questioned why - said not our type etc - wanted to know more so blocked her - why go on just accept its a no

But why aren't I your type?

What's wrong with me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely contact anyone first, The only occasion is threads on here I might bite the bullet and compliment them in some way but I'm fully aware I may get a message back 'thanks' which says so many things to me but I just move on.

I never message guys away from the forum though, simply because I am a 'type' and I don't always feel confident that the guy will respond with a complimentary response, so I don't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a polite way of saying they aren't attractive to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt bother me when they say it cos no daubt they think I am above their league lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

*shakes head in exasperation and leaves*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are never satisfied,moaners,whingers and complainers definitely aren't our type.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I can tell you op from this thread you are definetly not my type

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?"

I also am wondering this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has never happened to me, because i never contact guys. I wait like a spider and wait for them to contact me.

If they aren't my type, I just ignore, it's more more subtle way than replying and saying " you are not my type"

If someone has pissed me off, I message back and say "you are not my type"

Everyone wants to think they are everyone's type, being rejected with words hurts.

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

Personality wise you're not our type of person.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?"
I've already assumed this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this"

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

Sorry but you being penickity its just an expression. Bet it wouldnt bother you if they were sayingyou were their type?? Yes it would i would say the same thing as there isnt no such thing as types every single person is diffrent and should be treated as such. "

There are 7.2 billion types and you aren't theirs. I don't see what's hard to get?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this"

It would make sense.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this."
no I know you don't, but is a typical reaction of some thougn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this"
why because i dont line up like a bunch of mindless zombies and use my brain.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Hmm, perhaps from now on I should reply with "no thanks, I don't like your pics / think you whinge a lot in status updates / will clearly shag anything / think you're physically repulsive" and see what response I get.

You know, for science

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?

I also am wondering this "

Reading it I assume he is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who say this really annoy me.What your saying is that there is only two or more types of people. Every single person is diffrent and as such there is no such thing as type because every single person is unique. How about saying sorry but your not for me."
let's be fair your not going to be many people's type and fab is a fickle world one spelling mistake, one abbreviated word, one compliment ,one cock pic and you're out ,women rule here get used to it bow to the power that is

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this why because i dont line up like a bunch of mindless zombies and use my brain. "
no because of the way you have acted to a simple turn of phrase, we have had autistic people on the forums in the past that have acted in this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a couple of days ago we sent a sorry youre not for us message to a lady - she questioned why - said not our type etc - wanted to know more so blocked her - why go on just accept its a no

But why aren't I your type?

What's wrong with me?

one day though i swear when people ask i will just fkn tell them why - well no i wont as thats rude and ill mannered but so tempted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this."

But doesn't autism affect people differently?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this why because i dont line up like a bunch of mindless zombies and use my brain. "

but no common sense - you are doing yourself a huge disfavour with this attitude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

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i am not saying that it isnt good that they replied. What i am saying i dont like the fact that i was told i am some type of person. When in fact i am diffrent and so is everybody else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this.

But doesn't autism affect people differently? "

youre on form today mrs

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

i am not saying that it isnt good that they replied. What i am saying i dont like the fact that i was told i am some type of person. When in fact i am diffrent and so is everybody else. "
but you are a type, a type they are not interested in

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

we will all deal with rejection is different ways so trying to identify a form of words that will meet all those is impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this why because i dont line up like a bunch of mindless zombies and use my brain. "

You're not exactly showing yourself in a very good way on here.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

i am not saying that it isnt good that they replied. What i am saying i dont like the fact that i was told i am some type of person. When in fact i am diffrent and so is everybody else. "

Why do you have such a bee in your bonnet about it? Why do you care how they phrase it? Either way they're not interested in you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this why because i dont line up like a bunch of mindless zombies and use my brain.

but no common sense - you are doing yourself a huge disfavour with this attitude "
My attitude is fine i just dont like the fact that i being compared to someone else and shoved into a box. Also people who cant understand that every single person is diffrent i wouldnt go there.

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By *lpha-and-FoxtrotCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

The good news is that by creating this thread there will be a lot of people who won't be sending you any kind of message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this.

But doesn't autism affect people differently? "

It does, yes. Sorry, I'm being prickly. People are only ever asked upon displaying seemingly negative traits, such as being pedantic or inflexible thinking. It would be lovely if, for once, somebody asked it in response to something positive, "wow, that's amazing! Are you autistic?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?"

OMG...the same thought occurred to me, too.

I had a similar problem with a guy who admitted having Aspergers. He absolutely refused to accept that I didn't fancy him and pedantically argued the point that I wouldn't know without trying.

Exasperating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this why because i dont line up like a bunch of mindless zombies and use my brain.

You've been categorised on the information you've chosen to give them. If you're so unique maybe you aren't doing yourself justice and the problem isn't with the wording they've replied with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

i am not saying that it isnt good that they replied. What i am saying i dont like the fact that i was told i am some type of person. When in fact i am diffrent and so is everybody else.

Why do you have such a bee in your bonnet about it? Why do you care how they phrase it? Either way they're not interested in you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

i am not saying that it isnt good that they replied. What i am saying i dont like the fact that i was told i am some type of person. When in fact i am diffrent and so is everybody else.

Why do you have such a bee in your bonnet about it? Why do you care how they phrase it? Either way they're not interested in you.

end of the day youre all in the reject box for whatever reason - just deal with it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this why because i dont line up like a bunch of mindless zombies and use my brain.

but no common sense - you are doing yourself a huge disfavour with this attitude My attitude is fine i just dont like the fact that i being compared to someone else and shoved into a box. Also people who cant understand that every single person is diffrent i wouldnt go there."
no your attitude is not fine, I like all different types of men,I don't have a type until someone messages me and I like something about them, they can be short, tall, different hair colour, age personality.

I also don't have a certain thing I don't like until I see it. People fall into two categories on here,those you want to get to know (your type) and those you don't want to get to know (not hour type) its as easy and simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that annoys you, god help you on here then

Its a polite way of saying no thank you, people word things differently .Seems your not that good at taking rejection.

Move into people who say that you are their type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this why because i dont line up like a bunch of mindless zombies and use my brain.

Everybody understands that every single person is different

But some people do have a type that they are attracted to, whether it's blondes, red heads, muscular, big boobed etc.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

i am not saying that it isnt good that they replied. What i am saying i dont like the fact that i was told i am some type of person. When in fact i am diffrent and so is everybody else.

Why do you have such a bee in your bonnet about it? Why do you care how they phrase it? Either way they're not interested in you.

I've just had a message from a single guy, I replied that he wasn't my type. His response was "boo, that's a pity". Maybe for him, but not for me. I'm not going to waste my precious time meeting people I don't find attractive, there's no point to it. I would rather be told sorry i dont find you attractive then being told sorry i compared you to someone else who i didnt like and going to put you in a box with him."
OK, so if someone told you they didn't find you attractive wouldn't they be putting you in the same box as everyone else they didn't find attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op your profile says youre here to meet the right people - maybe be more specific ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The good news is that by creating this thread there will be a lot of people who won't be sending you any kind of message. "
Thats good as i dont wish to have messages from people whothink every single human is the same.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"My attitude is fine i just dont like the fact that i being compared to someone else and shoved into a box. Also people who cant understand that every single person is diffrent i wouldnt go there."

Yes everyone is different. Some are tall, some are short, some slim, some larger, some arrogant and some lovely.

I like tall dark haired guys with strong arms, tatts, and a cheeky grin. I also like dark and red haired curvy ladies. I especially like laid back fun people with a sense of humour. Those are my type. Occasionally I will meet someone who may not match all of those but they will match some. Equally I will sometimes meet people who match none of those, they are not my type.

I really don't understand why you're having difficulty grasping that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this.

But doesn't autism affect people differently?

I'm sorry

I was just trying to understand why someone would get so worked up about the use of a word.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

i am not saying that it isnt good that they replied. What i am saying i dont like the fact that i was told i am some type of person. When in fact i am diffrent and so is everybody else.

Why do you have such a bee in your bonnet about it? Why do you care how they phrase it? Either way they're not interested in you.

I've just had a message from a single guy, I replied that he wasn't my type. His response was "boo, that's a pity". Maybe for him, but not for me. I'm not going to waste my precious time meeting people I don't find attractive, there's no point to it. I would rather be told sorry i dont find you attractive then being told sorry i compared you to someone else who i didnt like and going to put you in a box with him.OK, so if someone told you they didn't find you attractive wouldn't they be putting you in the same box as everyone else they didn't find attractive"
Maybe but i wouldnt be compared i would be put in the box as me.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

i am not saying that it isnt good that they replied. What i am saying i dont like the fact that i was told i am some type of person. When in fact i am diffrent and so is everybody else. "

Well no doubt you are unique, but have you considered that perhaps you are the ONE type they don't go for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noone is comparing you op....they have looked at you and just thought "no not for me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo this is getting a little nasty!! Why assume that someone is autistic? Wtf?? Does it really matter??? That is extremely offensive!!!

He clearly needs to have a good moan about being rejected for whatever reason, let him have his moan and get on with it, don't be offensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this.

But doesn't autism affect people differently?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Having read your profile OP, you are trying to change you and that may make you appeal people who would not meet you before the change..... and you are doing it for you, in the same way as people who would reject you before the change are doing it for them. It's about finding compatibility both psychical and mentally.

good luck with your quest

and there are many on here who have done that

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Ooo this is getting a little nasty!! Why assume that someone is autistic? Wtf?? Does it really matter??? That is extremely offensive!!!

He clearly needs to have a good moan about being rejected for whatever reason, let him have his moan and get on with it, don't be offensive

Op, clearly you don't take rejection very well, but the majority of people on here are polite and non offensive, we all choose to turn someone down for many reasons just be greatful that they were polite and not list the things that don't attract them to you"
it would only be offensive if you saw having autism as a bad thing, there have been people on here in the past showing exactly the same characteristics as the op who have openly said they have autism, if the op did have autism it would give more of an incite into why he thinks like he does.

There's been a lot of autism awareness threads

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By *oth_cook69Couple
over a year ago

WOKING

At least they are honest and have at least taken the time to reply. Would much rather that than the ignorant ones who don't even bother to reply to a polite message.

As long as the reply is polite and respectful then no problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this.

But doesn't autism affect people differently?

Lol I have !

pro rope groups, or rope seminars , 'them is some mighty fine looking knots; are you autistic'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this.

But doesn't autism affect people differently?

Lol I have !

pro rope groups, or rope seminars , 'them is some mighty fine looking knots; are you autistic'"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bottom line is on here generally when you message someone you're messaging them because you're interested in shagging them.

I can't see why people get so butthurt over rejection, you hear moaning when a message gets deleted, you hear moaning when you get a not my type response....you can't win.

Chances are if your out in town and try chat a lass up and she's not interested you'll get told to fuck off

My guess is you don't go on Facebook and declare to the world that no two people are the same etc.

Sorry dude but you're looking waaaaaay too deep into this, accept they wasn't interested for whatever reason and don't get hung up on it.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?

I've already assumed this

why because i dont line up like a bunch of mindless zombies and use my brain. "

Are you saying that no autistic person in the world is a mindless zombie who doesn't use their brain?

How assumptive of you. We're all unique.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My attitude is fine i just dont like the fact that i being compared to someone else and shoved into a box. Also people who cant understand that every single person is diffrent i wouldnt go there.

Yes everyone is different. Some are tall, some are short, some slim, some larger, some arrogant and some lovely.

I really don't understand why you're having difficulty grasping that."
If humans didnt have personality i would agree as then you can sort in types. Useing your example you say you like tall dark haired guys with strong arms. So you have two men with tall dark haired guys standing next to each other but both are diffrent each one acts diffrently etc one might be funny one might be serious. Therefore they are diffrent you may like the funny one but not the serious one.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Gawd!

Don't send a reply = Bitch, moan, whinge.

Send a reply = Bitch, moan, whinge.

in some people's eyes you can't do right for doing wrong

i think the thing some fail to realise is that you are never going to be attracted to everyone... and some will found a way to take offence to anything.....

i don't see what difference there is between no thank you... not getting back.. you are not my type, ect ect....

its like some people want a pep talk... sorry, but whey hey you go champ!!!!!!

I do think that if people are that fragile that no thank you send them into a tailspin... swinging is never going to be for them

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By *arried adventurers!Couple
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

I must be honest OP. By posting this thread and commenting further you are merely cementing the opinion that you are indeed a "type of person".

You seem like a pretty bitter individial and someone who feels like they have some sort of entitlement.

My "type" are people who are fun, well mannered and don't take life too seriously and you are clearly not my type in that respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this.

But doesn't autism affect people differently?

Lol I have !

pro rope groups, or rope seminars , 'them is some mighty fine looking knots; are you autistic'"

I love you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but you're not for me is no different to you're not my type, most people will go on the first visual _iew of someone in terms of if they find them attractive so if someone says it to you it just means they don't fancy you.

Surely the two "not for me" "not my type" lines are better than " I find you ugly as fuck, so it's a no"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this

Hey, I'm autistic and don't see the world like this.

But doesn't autism affect people differently?

Lol I have !

pro rope groups, or rope seminars , 'them is some mighty fine looking knots; are you autistic'

I love you."

Lol hear have a hug too , keep smiling x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wondering whether or not to re-hash our get stuffed messages to -

sorry we have looked at your profile, studied your picture and read your messages and we arent aroused one jot so we wont take it any further - dont be offended

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

" If humans didnt have personality i would agree as then you can sort in types. Useing your example you say you like tall dark haired guys with strong arms. So you have two men with tall dark haired guys standing next to each other but both are diffrent each one acts diffrently etc one might be funny one might be serious. Therefore they are diffrent you may like the funny one but not the serious one."

I always say you get one chance to make a fantastic first impression.....

ask yourself this.....

what kind of impression do you think you are making right now....

my first impression is "negativity"... and why would i want that i am here to meet fun people!!!!!!

you can sometimes make a better impression in person... and if you think you are that person, then get out there to clubs, and get out there to socials..... there is your answer!!!!!!

but at the moment hiding behind 3 lines of a shop window to the world isn't going to show off the best of you to the world!!!!!!

you get out what you put in..... if you know you are better in person and want to be seen as an individual.... there is your road.... start going down it!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ooo this is getting a little nasty!! Why assume that someone is autistic? Wtf?? Does it really matter??? That is extremely offensive!!!

He clearly needs to have a good moan about being rejected for whatever reason, let him have his moan and get on with it, don't be offensive

Op, clearly you don't take rejection very well, but the majority of people on here are polite and non offensive, we all choose to turn someone down for many reasons just be greatful that they were polite and not list the things that don't attract them to youit would only be offensive if you saw having autism as a bad thing, there have been people on here in the past showing exactly the same characteristics as the op who have openly said they have autism, if the op did have autism it would give more of an incite into why he thinks like he does.

There's been a lot of autism awareness threads"

I don't see being autistic as being a negative at all. What's negative is assuming that someone is this or that because of certain traits. That's being stereotypical!!! And offensive!

The op started the thread and replied a couple of times and from that it means he is autistic??? Extremely judgemental!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

Theres a type of person we would meet and a type we wouldnt. For example the type that cant take a polite rejection. You know, your type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, OP, but I'm going to have to be blunt.

GET OVER IT.

Get a thicker skin. If someone doesn't find you attractive or they're not interested in you for whatever reason they're allowed to tell you without you feeling all rejected and throwing a childish little strop. EVERYONE will suffer rejection on this site. If you can't accept that, well maybe this site just isn't for you. And believe me, you will ~not~ be doing yourself any favours with threads like these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, OP, but I'm going to have to be blunt.

GET OVER IT.

Well Said..!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had message saying "sorry not my type" and all I do I reply back saying "thank you for making the effort to reply back and good luck" I'd much rather get a rejection message back than nothing at all. Sorry like most I think you're over reacting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried saying sorry but you're to curvy and they got angry. So then i just used to say "not my type" then i just blocked everyone...now life is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The op says something he believes in. He fights his corner for what he believes in. So oh yeah he must be autistic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP but for me there are simply 2 types of men on here...those I find sexually attractive and want to meet, and those I have no interest in. Your attitude is precisely why I make my preferences very clear and don't reply to those who don't fit what I'm looking for.

And before you say that's rude or ignorant, the site FAQS state that a no reply should be taken as not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The op says something he believes in. He fights his corner for what he believes in. So oh yeah he must be autistic

OK, he's just pedantic then. Is that better?

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

i am not saying that it isnt good that they replied. What i am saying i dont like the fact that i was told i am some type of person. When in fact i am diffrent and so is everybody else.

Why do you have such a bee in your bonnet about it? Why do you care how they phrase it? Either way they're not interested in you.

I've just had a message from a single guy, I replied that he wasn't my type. His response was "boo, that's a pity". Maybe for him, but not for me. I'm not going to waste my precious time meeting people I don't find attractive, there's no point to it. I would rather be told sorry i dont find you attractive then being told sorry i compared you to someone else who i didnt like and going to put you in a box with him.OK, so if someone told you they didn't find you attractive wouldn't they be putting you in the same box as everyone else they didn't find attractive Maybe but i wouldnt be compared i would be put in the box as me. "

I have no idea what that means. Going by your profile pic I would say you're not my type, I don't find you attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And OP... that's a lovely mature status too.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Is this one of those 'look at me' threads we hear so much about?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Op if you are so annoyed by that turn of phrase then simply just say on your profile for people to respond they don't fancy you if not interested ! Or just pull up your big girl panties and realise you can't dictate other inderviduals response to your message!

It's precious little wonder people don't reply to messages when this reaction happens! Next time someone bitches they get zero replies they can be directed here ! Getting to stage you want a set of site approved responses so you ensure the person doesn't take umbridge at some non existent slight !

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

A serious question. Are you autistic?I've already assumed this why because i dont line up like a bunch of mindless zombies and use my brain.

Ahh but you are going there and you are quite correct everybody is different and as such they will not always reply to you in a manner which you are going to find acceptable, why? because they are different to you.

My Mrs wouldn't fancy you you are not her type because you have facial hair, she doesn't like facial hair, you are the type that has facial hair, you may not all be the same, different lengths, trimmed differently even the hairs shape may be different but no matter how you break it down you won't be getting in her knickers because. ....... you guessed it you aren't a type that she finds attractive.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Op if you are so annoyed by that turn of phrase then simply just say on your profile for people to respond they don't fancy you if not interested ! Or just pull up your big girl panties and realise you can't dictate other inderviduals response to your message!

or an automatic 'no thanks' button so the same words are displayed

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"My attitude is fine i just dont like the fact that i being compared to someone else and shoved into a box. Also people who cant understand that every single person is diffrent i wouldnt go there.

Yes everyone is different. Some are tall, some are short, some slim, some larger, some arrogant and some lovely.

I really don't understand why you're having difficulty grasping that. If humans didnt have personality i would agree as then you can sort in types. Useing your example you say you like tall dark haired guys with strong arms. So you have two men with tall dark haired guys standing next to each other but both are diffrent each one acts diffrently etc one might be funny one might be serious. Therefore they are diffrent you may like the funny one but not the serious one."

Hence the comment that everyone is different. If I liked the look of both of those guys, I would be drawn to both. Just because someone is serious it doesn't mean I would avoid them. Just as someone who might look completely different might appeal to me for some reason.

The point, the WHOLE point, is that there needs to be something there to attract. If I don't find someone physically attractive, I won't pursue it. I don't think because they look like another guy I wasn't attracted to I'm not attracted to them. It doesn't work like that.

Whoever has upset you has looked at your profile and message, seen nothing there to attract them, and decided that you are not for them. That is going to happen a lot, you need to find a better way to deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The op isn't my type cause he seems like an angry person and like stocky guys but the OP is too big for my liking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A miserable man isn't my type. An obnoxious man isn't my type. A man who doesn't bathe and clean his teeth isn't my type. When it comes to physical attributes I don't have specific types but I can't look at someone and my brain says no. So I say no thank you instead of not my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's amazing how such a pointless thread creates so much interest .

The op says he is different and not a type .

Everyone else says it's just a turn of phrase , saying its a polite way to say no .

End of , simple .

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"wondering whether or not to re-hash our get stuffed messages to -

sorry we have looked at your profile, studied your picture and read your messages and we arent aroused one jot so we wont take it any further - dont be offended

But I am offended...

OP, if someone replies without being offensive, then be grateful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

OK I suggest you petition Collins dictionary then to remove the word if it doesn't exist...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's how you deal with it!

... Not how its done!

Personally im thankful if i get a no thanks your not my type... saves wasting time.

Maybe we all petition Fabadmin to have a reject button... and a reason option which is forwarded automatically:-

1) Sorry, I don't fancy you.

2) Sorry, you're not my type.

3) Sorry, my lttle black book is full.

4) Sorry, you don't float my boat.

5) Sorry, you haven't read my profile.

6) Sorry, you're not my colour.

7) Sorry, I don't like your cock shots.

8) Sorry, You're not my orientation.

9) Sorry, I don't do gingers.

10) Sorry, I dont do men who wear cuban heels.

11) Sorry, not my size preference

( Have I forgotten anything ? )

Then you can choose their own reason as to why they rejected you, and it might make you feel better...

Not that it matters, they still said NO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to answer every message I get so that I don't appear rude. But when I say ur not my type. I get bombarded with questions... what's ur type, please give me a chance, we will be good together etc. I am saying ur not my type because I do not find u sexually attractive. You don't have to be a super model with a big cock or big tits. It's just something that clicks when u see their photo. I have had it said to me and I just accept their honesty and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By posting this I bet your chances are slimmer than before of getting an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have had message saying "sorry not my type" and all I do I reply back saying "thank you for making the effort to reply back and good luck" I'd much rather get a rejection message back than nothing at all. Sorry like most I think you're over reacting."

That's a lie. He kept hounding me until I agreed to meet him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me there are two types of people. them I like and them I don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" My attitude is fine i just dont like the fact that i being compared to someone else and shoved into a box. Also people who cant understand that every single person is diffrent i wouldnt go there. - OP "

...In actual fact, they are saying you are not their type, nothing to do with what type you are, they are not comparing you to anything merely saying you are not what they are looking for... You just have to accept different people word things differently...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's how you deal with it!

... Not how its done!

Personally im thankful if i get a no thanks your not my type... saves wasting time.

Maybe we all petition Fabadmin to have a reject button... and a reason option which is forwarded automatically:-

1) Sorry, I don't fancy you.

2) Sorry, you're not my type.

3) Sorry, my lttle black book is full.

4) Sorry, you don't float my boat.

5) Sorry, you haven't read my profile.

6) Sorry, you're not my colour.

7) Sorry, I don't like your cock shots.

8) Sorry, You're not my orientation.

9) Sorry, I don't do gingers.

10) Sorry, I dont do men who wear cuban heels.

11) Sorry, not my size preference

( Have I forgotten anything ? )

Then you can choose their own reason as to why they rejected you, and it might make you feel better...

Not that it matters, they still said NO!

Number 9

hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a lie. He kept hounding me until I agreed to meet him

Haha!!! Sorry not my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is one of those threads that requires a 'Do not feed the troll' warning.

The OP isn't 'valiantly fighting his corner' as someone previously stated. He is merely digging his heels in saying 'I'm right and you're all wrong.'

I'm going to hazard a guess that the OP hasn't messaged everyone on the site asking for a meet (well, he certainly hasn't asked me

) so I can only assume that he does the same as the rest of us - messages those who catch his eye for whatever reason and passes the others by. By those actions he is automatically negating his own argument by placing us into two types - those who he'd like to meet and those who he doesn't. I'm guessing the latter would form the 'not my type' category

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply with "not for me" then i get asked what my type is??? So everyone is different to what they want to be told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a lie. He kept hounding me until I agreed to meet him

Haha!!! Sorry not my type

Leave the comedy to the experts please

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

"My attitude is fine i just dont like the fact that i being compared to someone else and shoved into a box. Also people who cant understand that every single person is diffrent i wouldnt go there."

You're male- that's one type

Your're a certain age- that's another type

You're white- another type

Beard- another

Hair colour- type

In Wales- too far away for many people......type

Lots of tick boxes already, and that's before you spat your dummy over pretty much nothing- nobody likes a grouchy arse as a play mate.......as for the user name- that's never going to win you many friends. It's a bit juvenile matey, makes you sound like a 15yo who joined in the summer holidays for a laugh, or someone with little in the way of social skills with the opposite sex.

Might be time to rewind, relax and start again with a new profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a lie. He kept hounding me until I agreed to meet him

Haha!!! Sorry not my type

Leave the comedy to the experts please

You win this round!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a lie. He kept hounding me until I agreed to meet him

Haha!!! Sorry not my type

Leave the comedy to the experts please

You win this round!! "

I always win

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Oh my goodness this thread is exasperating!

OP, it's just a phrase, and so is this; get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it make a difference in simple its a no smile and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a lie. He kept hounding me until I agreed to meet him

Haha!!! Sorry not my type

Leave the comedy to the experts please

You win this round!!

I always win

Winners arnt my type so I guess you lose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely get messages back from people. They don't HAVE to reply. That's their choice. Would I appreciate a response? Yes. Do I resent them if they don't respond? No. Man up and move on.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"OP, people word things differently.

It's good they replied, I wouldn't get yourself to annoyed about it.

It happens to all of us

i am not saying that it isnt good that they replied. What i am saying i dont like the fact that i was told i am some type of person. When in fact i am diffrent and so is everybody else.

Why do you have such a bee in your bonnet about it?

I would rather be told sorry i dont find you attractive then being told sorry i compared you to someone else who i didnt like and going to put you in a box with him."

Would 'I'm sorry you're not the type I'm attracted to' be acceptable to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op initial attraction with anything online is key.. all you have to go off is pictures and hope there as upto date as possible yes you can talk over messages ect but meeting in person is how you really find a spark but that's not going to happen if there's no attraction... and why can't some one have a type it's their preference it's what makes their heart race their mouth water for say.... so indeed I think that some one saying your not there type is fully acceptable....

Ashley

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Well OP, despite your rather bitter status about other people being stupid, I am afraid you have entirely contradicted your own point!

No-one is saying you ARE a type and therefore putting you the box you despise, on the contrary, they are saying you are NOT one!!!!!

Some things appeal to me more than others but I fancy all sorts of men. Only thing I know is someone who does NOT appeal to me at all is NOT my type, so it means exactly the same as NOT for me.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

surely if they are not for you then they are not your type?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surely if they are not for you then they are not your type?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wondering whether or not to re-hash our get stuffed messages to -

sorry we have looked at your profile, studied your picture and read your messages and we arent aroused one jot so we wont take it any further - dont be offended

Wondering if you should add. " its not you its me " pmsl another popular phrase " jog on " so glad we make ourselves laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha no it's always definitely you not me x

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

A brilliant example of why some people dont even respond to messages that dont interest them and just delete them !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad I missed this fucking ignorant thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a lie. He kept hounding me until I agreed to meet him

Haha!!! Sorry not my type

Leave the comedy to the experts please

You win this round!!

I always win

Winners arnt my type so I guess you lose

Leo's aren't mine

#stillwinning

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"But it doesnt mean the same thing at all and thats the problem. Its like saying that every single car is the same because it can get you from a to b when in reality there are loads of diffrent cars.

Sorry, you are not for me because you are not my type xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my attempts at chat result in "Fuck off you moronic cretin".

You should count your blessings my son

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember the thread the other day asking what fabicide was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember the thread the other day asking what fabicide was

I prefer the mousse you can spray on the bath. Rinses off easily as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same thing. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wondering whether or not to re-hash our get stuffed messages to -

sorry we have looked at your profile, studied your picture and read your messages and we arent aroused one jot so we wont take it any further - dont be offended

But I am offended...

OP, if someone replies without being offensive, then be grateful."

haha i was jesting and posting tongue in cheek there btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wondering whether or not to re-hash our get stuffed messages to -

sorry we have looked at your profile, studied your picture and read your messages and we arent aroused one jot so we wont take it any further - dont be offended

Wondering if you should add. " its not you its me " pmsl another popular phrase " jog on " so glad we make ourselves laugh."

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Each of us will have others that they won't have sex with - so the wording is appropriate Imo. It's a great opportunity when you learn something - if you use that knowledge to your advantage. Otherwise stay stuck and obsolescence quickly ensues.

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