FabSwingers.com forum: no face pic

By *annoo OP Woman
over a year ago

Hastings

I've had my pics abused in the past and used to make fake profile pics so now I dnt send them or show them on fab and I will only send them on other means when I'm ready

But in the last few days there have been people contacting me saying that I'm nice kind caring genuine etc then while talking want a face pic, I explain that I dnt do face pics and please see my profile as to why

If they dnt approve I usually find I dnt get replies after this

But having been gullible enough to share my kik info lately have got talking on there. I have had quite a few ask for face pics.i tell them I'm not ready as we only been talking a day or two and have explained about my abuses pics before and all seems fine for a couple more messages then all goes quite and then I'm blocked.

I know its not fair because there are alot of fakes

But it is also disheartening that people wont take the time to talk to me and build the trust I need to feel like I can send a pic without worrying its gonna be posted or used elsewhere for fake or abusive reasons, I mean its not like I'm gon a meet there and then so they dnt need my pic there and then.they can take the time to get to talk to me incase we dnt have a spark

I have enough veri's to show I'm no fake and I can normally jst move on and talk to the ones who do wait n give me time...but in the past couple of days there have been a rise in those who will keep asking for pics and make out they understand and they dnt...it makes me wander if they were pic keepers/seekers which then puts me on edge for the next person who asks and I end up making them wait longer before I feel trust/safe to do so

I know its me who has the issue and I k ow that maybe me worrying about having such a public job and this lifestyle can be a hindrance but I put my job and family first before my swing life and I am sorry if that upsets annoys people on here but its one them things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you don't expect anyone to send you a face pic, that's fine.

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By *annoo OP Woman
over a year ago

Hastings

I dnt ask foe face pics people usually volunteer them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do like blind dates, but yeah then the other person don't have to send one either.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. Your body, your profile, your rules.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would not do anything that I am uncomfortable doing. I wouldn't think twice about saying no or keeping them waiting.

I have said it before and will say it again, I think people share way too much about themselves, their vulnerabilities and other things that some people will prey on and abuse.

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By *annoo OP Woman
over a year ago

Hastings

Thank you its nice to have other peoples points of _iew. I mean obviously I do normally send pics tight before a meet I dnt expect someone to turn up and not know my face...but not at the beginning ...thank you thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the person I was speaking to didn't have any Veris and had been on a while I would ask to see a face pic but as I see you have plenty of Veris I would be willing to talk and wait to see a face pic!

That's just me though I know there are plenty of other people who may _iew it differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you its nice to have other peoples points of _iew. I mean obviously I do normally send pics tight before a meet I dnt expect someone to turn up and not know my face...but not at the beginning ...thank you thank you "

It's your profile so you run it the way you want.

Some will be OK with that & those that aren't, you just move onto those who are.

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By *annoo OP Woman
over a year ago

Hastings

thank you all ur making me feel much better about this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd not ask for a facepic. If we got on via chatting I'd meet you and take it from there and if there was no attraction I'd have the decency to tell you.

I find it fully acceptable to not want to show your face on here for the reasons mentioned so its not something I'd question.

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By *unkysoulWoman
over a year ago

Mitcham, Surrey

As always it's completely your choice.

I'm not sure that I understand the difference between sending on Fab or sending by 'other means' if it's about preventing your pics being used inappropriately. Surely both have the potential of the same outcome.

I guess it's a risk we all take as soon as we share our images.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you just have to be OK with the fact that some people will be happy with that and others won't. If you have a hard and fast rule on anything then it will naturally reduce the number of people who will want to chat/meet.

I personally wouldn't take things too far without seeing a face picture but respect why some people don't want to send one. Just means they're not for me.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think as long as they are normal face pics, and not showing anything extreme, if anything were to happen and family/friends/work see anything, you can at least say they could have been lifted from say facebook or something?

Personally I would never meet anyone without seeing a face pic and in the past I have left it to long to ask for one and the situation gets really awkward saying there is no attraction if you have been chatting for ages.

Been there and done that!

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By *annoo OP Woman
over a year ago

Hastings

Thanks ladies

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm sorry for your predicament but you have to understand that some will want face pictures, I wouldn't carry on a conversation if someone didn't send pictures

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By *unkysoulWoman
over a year ago

Mitcham, Surrey

"I think as long as they are normal face pics, and not showing anything extreme, if anything were to happen and family/friends/work see anything, you can at least say they could have been lifted from say facebook or something?

Been there and done that!

This

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By *annoo OP Woman
over a year ago

Hastings

I do understand that people want face pics as proof I'm human and nor a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there and done that!

This "

Exactly

there is no point wasting time, if the attraction isn't there

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By *annoo OP Woman
over a year ago

Hastings

True but then what bout the ones who steal pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"True but then what bout the ones who steal pics"

I don't really understand, surely they can steal your pics whether you've sent them on fab or on kik and whether you've been chatting for a day or a month?

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By *annoo OP Woman
over a year ago

Hastings

Yes... Which is why I dnt like doing face pics... Least nit till I've talked for a good while

I have very public job that I value

I dnt mind my body pics being pinched...i dnt look ask that so if someone did they ain't exactly doing them selves a favour... Better pics out there than mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was wondering about you getting so much grief about sending a face pic. The guys that are messaging you.....are they experienced swingers? Ie do they have a lot of veris?

I'm finding the experienced swingers are far more polite, and understanding about being wary of sending face pics straight away.

In my experience it's the guys with no meet veris, who have been on here a long time, that give me shit!! Perhaps change your criteria for who you chat to, who you respond to messages....see if that helps??

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