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"Hiya Everyone, I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking.... Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything? Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab. I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well. Thanks for your input everyone!! -Courtney" I have but not giving any details x ![]() | |||
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"Hiya Everyone, I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking.... Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything? Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab. I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well. Thanks for your input everyone!! -Courtney I have but not giving any details x ![]() Oh, come on...please? Its not like we know them | |||
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"Hiya Everyone, I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking.... Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything? Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab. " Nearly all my friends are male, and there is often a 'frissant' between us as the basis for the friendship yes, even if we have no intention of acting upon it. With some it started off as a frissant and went on to become a true friendship where there is love but a decision not to pursue things. Occasionally there was a frissant that was eventually acted upon lol, once after 9 years of mutual desire! I love having such friends of all 3 kinds! ![]() | |||
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"I married my best friend! We split up in January but should have ended it years ago as there was no passion in the slightest. Our friendship was so good though and we were afraid to lose it. Looking back, we were both on the rebound when we got together and just felt safe together. We're still very close. I have had crushes on lots of my friends over the years, but I believe that was due to existing in a sexually unfulfilling relationship. " That is really insightful. Did you realize at the time that you likely had crushes on your friends because of your lack of sexual fulfillment in your marriage, or did it take the break-up of the marriage for you to realize? | |||
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"I've had sex with most of my friends. ![]() I mean non-fab/lifestyle friends!!! ![]() | |||
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"I've had sex with most of my friends. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I am in love with my best male friend and it's unrequited and painful. " Have you brought it up with him, or is there another way you know it isn't reciprocated? | |||
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"No never fallen romantically in love, but a lot of my male friends became friends through shagging then the shaggingnstopped and we became friends, the male friends I have that I haven't shagged I'd never think of them that way" That is interesting - that you stay friends after shagging. This happens often, then? And it isn't ever awkward? | |||
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"I am in love with my best male friend and it's unrequited and painful. Have you brought it up with him, or is there another way you know it isn't reciprocated?" He loves me but he's not in love with me. His situation is complicated and i'm a slutbag. It's unlikely to ever work, if it even did get off the ground. | |||
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"I fell in love with a friend. It didn't end well though. She ended up leaving her husband. We never had sex. " Did she leave her husband for you? Did nothing happen because of her situation or because of you? You don't have to share, of course, I'm just curious and nosy. | |||
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"yes i did and never said a word until he just told me to sit down and listen to him and not to interupt him like i always did lol he told me that he loved me and we had seven and a half amazing years together and a lifetime of precious memories" That sounds absolutely wonderful. ![]() | |||
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"Not being dramatic or anything but I really don't think I've ever fallen in love with anyone ![]() Fair enough. A crush, then? | |||
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"Not being dramatic or anything but I really don't think I've ever fallen in love with anyone ![]() It's hard to explain, I was with someone for 22 years and it was awful. I didn't love him and ended up trapped in a way. | |||
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"No never fallen romantically in love, but a lot of my male friends became friends through shagging then the shaggingnstopped and we became friends, the male friends I have that I haven't shagged I'd never think of them that way That is interesting - that you stay friends after shagging. This happens often, then? And it isn't ever awkward? " no, and that's in real life and also in swinging, had sex and for whatever reason the sex has stopped but the friendship has remained, also I live in a small town if you weren't friends with the people you shagged younwouldnt have any friends lol | |||
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"I married my best friend! We split up in January but should have ended it years ago as there was no passion in the slightest. Our friendship was so good though and we were afraid to lose it. Looking back, we were both on the rebound when we got together and just felt safe together. We're still very close. I have had crushes on lots of my friends over the years, but I believe that was due to existing in a sexually unfulfilling relationship. That is really insightful. Did you realize at the time that you likely had crushes on your friends because of your lack of sexual fulfillment in your marriage, or did it take the break-up of the marriage for you to realize?" Deep down I always knew but I wasn't ready to acknowledge it, as that would have meant having to do something about ending my marriage. | |||
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"I fell in love with a friend. It didn't end well though. She ended up leaving her husband. We never had sex. Did she leave her husband for you? Did nothing happen because of her situation or because of you? You don't have to share, of course, I'm just curious and nosy. " She left her husband because she fell in love with me too. And realised she didn't love him. I wasn't willing to break up my family at the time. So nothing happened between us. It was very painful and messy. We didn't have a physical affair but you could describe it as an emotional affair. We haven't seen each other since. This happened quite a few years ago. | |||
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"yes i did and never said a word until he just told me to sit down and listen to him and not to interupt him like i always did lol he told me that he loved me and we had seven and a half amazing years together and a lifetime of precious memories That sounds absolutely wonderful. ![]() it was then he passed away suddenly a huge shock ![]() | |||
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"Nothing is worse than meeting a hot woman and she wants to be friends. When all you want to do is ravage her body. " But did you go on to be friends with these women? Or did a friendship with a woman ever lead to this feeling? | |||
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"yes i did and never said a word until he just told me to sit down and listen to him and not to interupt him like i always did lol he told me that he loved me and we had seven and a half amazing years together and a lifetime of precious memories That sounds absolutely wonderful. ![]() ![]() Its always sad to lose someone so meaningful in our lives, but think about how much more you would have lost if he didn't have the courage to tell you how he felt. It is so wonderful that you have those memories to treasure - both as a friend and a lover. ![]() | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women." A point made in 'When Harry met Sally' | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women. A point made in 'When Harry met Sally' " But was the point made? I tend to disagree. I have amazing male friends, one in particular, and no we are not in love with each other nor do we want to shag one another ![]() | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women. A point made in 'When Harry met Sally' But was the point made? I tend to disagree. I have amazing male friends, one in particular, and no we are not in love with each other nor do we want to shag one another ![]() Harry and Sally ended up together, so it did support the point. I bet your friend will have thought about it. Unless he's blind. Have you seen yourself! | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women. A point made in 'When Harry met Sally' But was the point made? I tend to disagree. I have amazing male friends, one in particular, and no we are not in love with each other nor do we want to shag one another ![]() I have never had a male friend who did not eventually hit on me | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women. A point made in 'When Harry met Sally' But was the point made? I tend to disagree. I have amazing male friends, one in particular, and no we are not in love with each other nor do we want to shag one another ![]() Women are often a little naive in this respect I think. | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women." I'm not sure I totally agree with that as I have had a few close male friends over the years which I've loved in a brotherly way. If they had feelings for me they've never let on. One of my closest friends is a guy, he's a wonderful friend but I do not fancy him in any way, shape or form. ![]() | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women. I'm not sure I totally agree with that as I have had a few close male friends over the years which I've loved in a brotherly way. If they had feelings for me they've never let on. One of my closest friends is a guy, he's a wonderful friend but I do not fancy him in any way, shape or form. ![]() You're a woman, I was referring to straight men | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women." I prefer being friends with ladies than men. I don't think that is a bi product of being bi, I don't like football. I do like cars though. I can never think of anything to say to men but I can to women. Much easier. | |||
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"My best pal is Pooch so erm I may just pass on this thread ha ha ha ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women. I'm not sure I totally agree with that as I have had a few close male friends over the years which I've loved in a brotherly way. If they had feelings for me they've never let on. One of my closest friends is a guy, he's a wonderful friend but I do not fancy him in any way, shape or form. ![]() Yes I know you are ~ but I am just saying that none of my straight male friends have ever made a pass at me. | |||
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"My husband has very many female friends who he doesn't fancy (and no, this is not me being in denial about anything). It's entirely possible for friendship to exist without lust or sex. Does your theory only apply to heterosexual men and women? Can I not be friends with a lesbian without her wanting to have sex with me? Can a gay man be friends with a straight man, or is it just a cover for wanting to fuck him? I think people should be credited with a little more intelligence. " I tend to agree with you on this, Ruby. I really think I can tell when people are sexually interested in me...at least people I know as well as I know my close friends. I think the point was poorly made in "When Harry Met Sally." Their relationship was always sexual, even from the beginning. Sally did have male friends in the movie who didn't want to fuck her (at least overtly). They just skipped over those relationships for convenience. ![]() | |||
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"It's my opinion, feel free to have a different one. When I was younger I certainly subscribed to the pc idea of heterosexual friendhips being possible without one or both being attracted to the other - life experience has changed my mind. People don't have to act on it you know" I understand your opinion. And it is one that many share, I think. I disagree, but I can see where you are coming from. ![]() | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women." My best guy friend is a really good friend, but no more | |||
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"My husband has very many female friends who he doesn't fancy (and no, this is not me being in denial about anything). It's entirely possible for friendship to exist without lust or sex. Does your theory only apply to heterosexual men and women? Can I not be friends with a lesbian without her wanting to have sex with me? Can a gay man be friends with a straight man, or is it just a cover for wanting to fuck him? I think people should be credited with a little more intelligence. I tend to agree with you on this, Ruby. I really think I can tell when people are sexually interested in me...at least people I know as well as I know my close friends. I think the point was poorly made in "When Harry Met Sally." Their relationship was always sexual, even from the beginning. Sally did have male friends in the movie who didn't want to fuck her (at least overtly). They just skipped over those relationships for convenience. ![]() I don't really class When Harry Met Sally as a ground breaking and devastating insight into the world of modern day heterosexual friendships tbh... When observing people you don't know as well too - you can see who is clearly in denial about being in love with each other, or where it's unrequited, and who are genuinely just good friends. I'm not sure that's a "PC view", I think it's just the way things are. | |||
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"My husband has very many female friends who he doesn't fancy (and no, this is not me being in denial about anything). It's entirely possible for friendship to exist without lust or sex. Does your theory only apply to heterosexual men and women? Can I not be friends with a lesbian without her wanting to have sex with me? Can a gay man be friends with a straight man, or is it just a cover for wanting to fuck him? I think people should be credited with a little more intelligence. I tend to agree with you on this, Ruby. I really think I can tell when people are sexually interested in me...at least people I know as well as I know my close friends. I think the point was poorly made in "When Harry Met Sally." Their relationship was always sexual, even from the beginning. Sally did have male friends in the movie who didn't want to fuck her (at least overtly). They just skipped over those relationships for convenience. ![]() The comment about the movie wasn't really directed at you - poor placement on my part. ![]() | |||
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"Honestly, I don't believe that straight men are interested in being "just friends" with women." That would mean I have at least half a dozen men in my life who want or have wanted to have sex with me and I know that ain't true. | |||
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"I fell in love with my lodger I tried to pretend I had fell out of love with him, but then a woman came on the scene and I could see that it was getting serious and I couldn't cope with it and we argued. I then had to take control and ask him to leave as I'm 35 and couldn't wait around anymore hoping he would love me...because that would never happen we have the most amazing friendship and he is my best friend but I couldn't sit here at 40 thinking where has my life gone..," Did he know how you felt? Or did you just ask him to leave without telling him why? | |||
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"I fell in love with my lodger I tried to pretend I had fell out of love with him, but then a woman came on the scene and I could see that it was getting serious and I couldn't cope with it and we argued. I then had to take control and ask him to leave as I'm 35 and couldn't wait around anymore hoping he would love me...because that would never happen we have the most amazing friendship and he is my best friend but I couldn't sit here at 40 thinking where has my life gone.., Did he know how you felt? Or did you just ask him to leave without telling him why?" He knew it for years.... ![]() | |||
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"I fell in love with my lodger I tried to pretend I had fell out of love with him, but then a woman came on the scene and I could see that it was getting serious and I couldn't cope with it and we argued. I then had to take control and ask him to leave as I'm 35 and couldn't wait around anymore hoping he would love me...because that would never happen we have the most amazing friendship and he is my best friend but I couldn't sit here at 40 thinking where has my life gone.., Did he know how you felt? Or did you just ask him to leave without telling him why? He knew it for years.... ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I fell in love with my lodger I tried to pretend I had fell out of love with him, but then a woman came on the scene and I could see that it was getting serious and I couldn't cope with it and we argued. I then had to take control and ask him to leave as I'm 35 and couldn't wait around anymore hoping he would love me...because that would never happen we have the most amazing friendship and he is my best friend but I couldn't sit here at 40 thinking where has my life gone.., Did he know how you felt? Or did you just ask him to leave without telling him why? He knew it for years.... ![]() ![]() Story of my life I'm the unrequited love queen ![]() | |||
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"Hiya Everyone, I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking.... Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything? Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab. I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well. Thanks for your input everyone!! -Courtney" what's your example of this ? ![]() | |||
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"Hiya Everyone, I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking.... Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything? Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab. I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well. Thanks for your input everyone!! -Courtney what's your example of this ? ![]() I don't have one. | |||
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"I am in love with my best male friend and it's unrequited and painful. " I did this with my female best friend. I got over it. Fabs helped. ![]() | |||
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"Hiya Everyone, I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking.... Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything? Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab. I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well. Thanks for your input everyone!! -Courtney" I've certainly never fallen in love with a friend. It takes a lot for me to fall in love with anybody. Very rare. And to be honest I don't really have friends in the traditional sense. Most of my closest acquaintances are women though, so there's certainly a few I've fancied but nothing more. That wasn't a very interesting answer I know, but true ![]() | |||
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"Hiya Everyone, I've been seeing a number of posts about friends and it had me thinking.... Have any of you ever fallen in love with a friend? Was it reciprocated, or did you never say anything? Or, do any of you have friends you don't "love" but would like to fuck? And for this purpose, I mean friends in vanilla life, not on fab. I'm interested in the male vs. female perspective on this as well. Thanks for your input everyone!! -Courtney I've certainly never fallen in love with a friend. It takes a lot for me to fall in love with anybody. Very rare. And to be honest I don't really have friends in the traditional sense. Most of my closest acquaintances are women though, so there's certainly a few I've fancied but nothing more. That wasn't a very interesting answer I know, but true ![]() All of the answers are interesting to me. Thanks for sharing! | |||
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"Nothing is worse than meeting a hot woman and she wants to be friends. When all you want to do is ravage her body. But did you go on to be friends with these women? Or did a friendship with a woman ever lead to this feeling?" Went on to be friends with them and no sex for me. ![]() | |||
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