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Does "bi" put off the couples

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By *otdog52 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Just wondering if putting myself down as bi puts of the couples ? Thoughts , comments suggestions .

Happy swinging

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm not a couple but stating that you're bisexual on your profile is good. I like honest people and I'm happy to play with bisexual men.

What are you going to do if all the couples come back and say it would put them off? Change it to straight? Be true to yourself, the right people for you will be happy, those who aren't won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't put us off even though himself is straight. Guys still want to play with me even though I am straight so fair dos in reverse.

The problem some people have is that a small proportion of bi men try it on with the guy when the guy just isn't interested.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Not with bi couples I would imagine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some couples won't meet you if you say you're bi.

Some couples looking for bi men won't meet you if your profile says straight.

It will put off some, but not others.

We personally won't meet people we have found out are lying on their profile.

So how about you do something radical and put what you want, put who you are, without worrying about other people?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldnt put us off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering if putting myself down as bi puts of the couples ? Thoughts , comments suggestions .

Happy swinging"

It can as the majority of new HIV cases are homosexual men and STI-aphobia is endemic. The straight male partner may also feel uncomfortable with the situation fearing he is going to get groped. It is also possibly hard to imagine a bi man filling the "bull" scenario.

For us we did not rule our bi men but did ask for straight play as we did not want homosexual play. They were all perfect gentlemen though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would not put us of we like honesty

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm bisexual and have no problems having sex with a m/f couple where the guy is straight because......I don't touch him. All ground rules and boundaries are discussed in advance. No one has turned me down purely for being bisexual, it's always 'oh, you have size 11 feet - sorry but it's not our thing' etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me.

If I was to meet a couple and the guy was bi, I'd just say I'm straight.

As long as it's agreed that it'll be a straight session, it's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

few people put bi who are not. People put straight and lose the advantage of putting bi. Why live a lie, I am bi, come and get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"few people put bi who are not. People put straight and lose the advantage of putting bi. Why live a lie, I am bi, come and get it. "

I am always confused as to why women object to bi guys, we do not all do anal and most straight guys do anal with women so what is the problem. after all women generally kiss guys don't they.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some couples won't meet you if you say you're bi.

Some couples looking for bi men won't meet you if your profile says straight.

It will put off some, but not others.

We personally won't meet people we have found out are lying on their profile.

So how about you do something radical and put what you want, put who you are, without worrying about other people?

-Courtney"

This!

We only meet bi guys at the moment but if it says straight on their profile we won't meet them, it's just an honesty thing.

You can't please everyone so just be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Otherwise around I think, the utter lack of male pictures on most couples profiles puts bi guys off lol

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

You will win some and you will lose some...

I know a guy who has a str8 profile (couple)&a single profile as bi.

I see nothing wrong or dishonest with this...

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose


"The straight male partner may also feel uncomfortable with the situation fearing he is going to get groped."

As a bi guy, I can't imagine many things more awful in the bedroom than trying it on with a straight guy who isn't interested. I've heard stories of it happening, but the idea really fills me with dread. Who does that? Urgh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will win some and you will lose some...

I know a guy who has a str8 profile (couple)&a single profile as bi.

I see nothing wrong or dishonest with this..."

Except for the dishonesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will meet bi men as long as they play straight. We wont meet liars

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

More than enough couples and others who will meet bi people here, so just focus your attention towards them. There are some who say they won't meet people who identify as bi but some probably wouldn't be asking this in clubs and so they may have done at some point without knowing.

I don't fully know what they expect a bi men to be or behave as that's different to a straight guy, as that's a potential concern for some.

You can also go to bi nights at clubs where people can be more open to more variations in their play options.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it wouldn't put us off, but a guy claiming straight and acting get bi would.

Your profile needs to be honest, and about you, while still being anonymous. otherwise how can it deliver what you want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it wouldn't put us off, but a guy claiming straight and acting get bi would.

Your profile needs to be honest, and about you, while still being anonymous. otherwise how can it deliver what you want?"

Us?

You're a single male?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have found it does put a few couples of but the majority don't seem to be bothered, its mostly single women that are put off by it

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Is anyone really bothered?

And if they are, well, you've saved yourself a load of hassle

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"We have found it does put a few couples of but the majority don't seem to be bothered, its mostly single women that are put off by it"

Happily not me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it wouldn't put us off, but a guy claiming straight and acting get bi would.

Your profile needs to be honest, and about you, while still being anonymous. otherwise how can it deliver what you want?

Us?

You're a single male?"

This profile feeds my forum habit, but I am 49% of a couple in real life.

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By *otdog52 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Thanks for all the comments. As it happens im happy to play it straight or bi. Happy swinging x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really know what "bi" means tbh.

Like, I don't fancy men, masculinity leaves me cold, could never form a relationship with a guy - but I'm not squeamish about a man's bollocks banging against mine in a jousting match.

Oh yeah, and I think some trannies are amazingly hot - and I'd pretty much shag anything that moves given the right circumstances.

So I still think straight is the closest definition for me, I still don't want messages from guys, still don't give a shit what anyone else thinks - and would still probably bang your husband given the right motivation.

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By *unkysoulWoman
over a year ago

Mitcham, Surrey

I'm not a couple so can't offer their perspective on this. You do hear of the being put off, I think that is possibly a reflection of bad experiences or maybe how comfortable they are with setting and trusting bounaries?

Personally it frustrates me, I adore bisexuality in men and women and hate the thought of them hiding themselves away. How do I find you?

Good luck and stick to who you are xxx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I'm not a couple so can't offer their perspective on this. You do hear of the being put off, I think that is possibly a reflection of bad experiences or maybe how comfortable they are with setting and trusting bounaries?

Personally it frustrates me, I adore bisexuality in men and women and hate the thought of them hiding themselves away. How do I find you?

Good luck and stick to who you are xxx"

*waves frantically from the beach*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't put us off even though himself is straight. Guys still want to play with me even though I am straight so fair dos in reverse.

The problem some people have is that a small proportion of bi men try it on with the guy when the guy just isn't interested."

Sorry. Meant to say even though I am bi straight guys still want to play with me. Brain faster than fingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering if putting myself down as bi puts of the couples ? Thoughts , comments suggestions .

Happy swinging"

Honesty allows people to make informed decision based on their personal preferences,,,, and in my mind that is something we should all respect......

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By *olly RogererMan
over a year ago

Braintree

It will put some couples off, but not others! I would concentrate on the "others" as you can be yourself and relax. Afterall we are all adults and mutual fun is for everyone. Cant win em all mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works for us! So frustrating when a guy has straight on the profile but then claims to be bi...never a great place to start in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People get so fixated on label :|

We often indulge ourselves in pegging, I'd consider myself straight but does enjoying a dildo up the rear make me bi-curious?? Labels are just dictated by opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"few people put bi who are not. People put straight and lose the advantage of putting bi. Why live a lie, I am bi, come and get it.

I am always confused as to why women object to bi guys, we do not all do anal and most straight guys do anal with women so what is the problem. after all women generally kiss guys don't they."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am openly bi (orally) and have met some lovely people in the last 6 months of being here.

BUT......

I have noticed that a lot of people would rather not play with me due to my preference.

I am NOT going to jump on every cock I see! I wish people would just give us bi blokes a chance sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondering if putting myself down as bi puts of the couples ? Thoughts , comments suggestions .

Happy swinging"

Not us, we only play with people that are bi.

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