FabSwingers.com forum: Are we wired differently?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Apparently, men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

What do you consider to be the main differences between men and women ?

Do you think men or women have it harder, or are things more equal and why ?

I'm genuinely interested in peoples perceptions here and don't want to cause friction so pretty please can we keep it civilised and respectful.

Are we really that different ?

Mrs x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

At base level if you cut us we bleed, whatever our gender. However I believe that nature and nurture make men and women different.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

I feel that men have less sensitivity than women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah men can get on well with other men but women with other women bitch between each other most girls say they rather hang out with lads as girls bitch

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yes. I think we are but I'm not brave enough or stupid enough to put my thoughts on paper!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah men can get on well with other men but women with other women bitch between each other most girls say they rather hang out with lads as girls bitch "

I've heard that said but in my experience it isn't so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah men can get on well with other men but women with other women bitch between each other most girls say they rather hang out with lads as girls bitch

I've heard that said but in my experience it isn't so."
iv seen it first hand or girls put each other down behind there backs where as most men square up lol

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By *eanutButterJellyTimeCouple
over a year ago

the middle of the world

"Yes. I think we are but I'm not brave enough or stupid enough to put my thoughts on paper!

You're probably safe to put them on paper, maybe not on t'internet though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yeah men can get on well with other men but women with other women bitch between each other most girls say they rather hang out with lads as girls bitch

I've heard that said but in my experience it isn't so. iv seen it first hand or girls put each other down behind there backs where as most men square up lol"

Clearly we have had different experiences

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've never been a man so can't say which is harder but on the outside looking in I'm glad I'm a woman.

By nature men are naturally the hunters the protesters the women the nurtures all though that's changing and the way our bodies are made, women are built to procreate whether they do or don't.

Men are physically bigger, heavier and stronger

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes. I think we are but I'm not brave enough or stupid enough to put my thoughts on paper!

Oh go on

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Yeah men can get on well with other men but women with other women bitch between each other most girls say they rather hang out with lads as girls bitch "
that's because they are choosing the wrong friends nothing to do with gender

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Best put my thoughts in to make it fair.

Yes, I do think we are quite different. But, I don't see it as a bad thing. I think in general women are much more complicated than men.

Runs and hides.

Mrs x

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Best put my thoughts in to make it fair.

Yes, I do think we are quite different. But, I don't see it as a bad thing. I think in general women are much more emotionally complicated than men.

Runs and hides.

Mrs x"

This with the amendment.

*hides with you*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The differences can be a little confusing when you transcend both genders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently, men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

What do you consider to be the main differences between men and women ?

Do you think men or women have it harder, or are things more equal and why ?

I'm genuinely interested in peoples perceptions here and don't want to cause friction so pretty please can we keep it civilised and respectful.

Are we really that different ?

Mrs x

I don't think it matters, we're all mad in our own way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel that men have less sensitivity than women.

Would you say this is due to the traditional hunter gatherer/home maker roles ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Best put my thoughts in to make it fair.

Yes, I do think we are quite different. But, I don't see it as a bad thing. I think in general women are much more emotionally complicated than men.

Runs and hides.

Mrs x

This with the amendment.

*hides with you*"

I don't agree. I think some women are emotionally complicated and so are some men. I think we're conditioned to believe that women are more emotionally complicated.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The differences can be a little confusing when you transcend both genders.

I was hoping for input from someone with your experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The differences can be a little confusing when you transcend both genders.

Interesting, can you elaborate a little ? X

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The biology and hormones create some differences. Society and nurture create a whole lot more.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Yeah men can get on well with other men but women with other women bitch between each other most girls say they rather hang out with lads as girls bitch

I've heard that said but in my experience it isn't so."

Its not my experience either

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I am interested in this as my children are all different but I am guilty of treating my sons differently than my daughter - maybe because she is my youngest, but deep down I think its because I know she will have to fight to stand up for herself more. As a result my boys are charming and get most things done for them ad my daughter is feisty and does most things for herself ... I have created three monsters (that's a joke, by the way because they are all lovely)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should have had this thread earlier when I had time for a proper answer

If it's still running tomorrow, I'll give it a go.

But generally speaking, yes I think men and women are different. It isn't bad, it just is. As for whose had it harder, I would say it depends on what the context is, but generally speaking I think women have had it harder socially. On fab, men definitely have it harder

As for emotions, both sexes are emotional, but differently. Comparing the two emotionally is like comparing fruits and vegetables.

And of course women are smarter than men, but that goes without saying

-Courtney

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've always been accused of being wired 'differently'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Apparently, men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

What do you consider to be the main differences between men and women ?

Do you think men or women have it harder, or are things more equal and why ?

I'm genuinely interested in peoples perceptions here and don't want to cause friction so pretty please can we keep it civilised and respectful.

Are we really that different ?

Mrs x

I don't think it matters, we're all mad in our own way"

I can't argue with that.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When my son was little he had mostly non gender specific toys or what he wanted, so if he wanted one year he had a kitchen and doll for Christmas, was allowed swords or guns or anything to do with violence, he watched very very limited television.

First day at nursery school first thing he did was make a gun out of Lego and went round shooting everyone, so it must be in boys to be more naturally rough and tumble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The differences can be a little confusing when you transcend both genders.

Interesting, can you elaborate a little ? X"

Tbh I'm still figuring this out myself. I know I never fitted any male framework. I started dressing only a couple of years ago and femality, if that's a word, just becomes me.

When I told a friend what I am/do he laughed initially, saying id make a crap girl as I'm the most masculine man he knows. Bearing in mind he's ex Royal Marines.

As Rachael I've had a rather vocal post op TS girl tell me she's never met a tgirl who behaves/moves so much like a genetic girl.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Best put my thoughts in to make it fair.

Yes, I do think we are quite different. But, I don't see it as a bad thing. I think in general women are much more emotionally complicated than men.

Runs and hides.

Mrs x

This with the amendment.

*hides with you*

I don't agree. I think some women are emotionally complicated and so are some men. I think we're conditioned to believe that women are more emotionally complicated."

Yeah I think it's hard to generalise with such a topic... I was being a bit tongue in cheek.

Based on my circle of friends I'm probably quite lucky in that we're all pretty drama free but as personalities go, I think as humans we're all complicated at times. When I have discussions about things, I often find that women thing about things in a lot more depth than men. However, it may well be that women are just more vocal than men rather than men not thinking as deeply about it if that makes sense?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not allowed

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Think* I hate autocarrot!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"When my son was little he had mostly non gender specific toys or what he wanted, so if he wanted one year he had a kitchen and doll for Christmas, was allowed swords or guns or anything to do with violence, he watched very very limited television.

First day at nursery school first thing he did was make a gun out of Lego and went round shooting everyone, so it must be in boys to be more naturally rough and tumble"

In my experience of growing up with three brothers I would say that's true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think me are less emotionally aware. Women can pick up on signals much better.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Best put my thoughts in to make it fair.

Yes, I do think we are quite different. But, I don't see it as a bad thing. I think in general women are much more emotionally complicated than men.

Runs and hides.

Mrs x

This with the amendment.

*hides with you*

I don't agree. I think some women are emotionally complicated and so are some men. I think we're conditioned to believe that women are more emotionally complicated.

Yeah I think it's hard to generalise with such a topic... I was being a bit tongue in cheek.

Yes it does. Such phrases as "man up" "take it like a man" encourage men to keep quiet about emotional stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always been accused of being wired 'differently'

My kids and wife had always thought this about me. When I told my wife about the real me she simply said 'that explains a lot'.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The differences can be a little confusing when you transcend both genders.

Interesting, can you elaborate a little ? X

Tbh I'm still figuring this out myself. I know I never fitted any male framework. I started dressing only a couple of years ago and femality, if that's a word, just becomes me.

When I told a friend what I am/do he laughed initially, saying id make a crap girl as I'm the most masculine man he knows. Bearing in mind he's ex Royal Marines.

As Rachael I've had a rather vocal post op TS girl tell me she's never met a tgirl who behaves/moves so much like a genetic girl."

I think that we are entering a period where its easier to express our gender and find our place on the gender range.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best put my thoughts in to make it fair.

Yes, I do think we are quite different. But, I don't see it as a bad thing. I think in general women are much more emotionally complicated than men.

Runs and hides.

Mrs x

This with the amendment.

*hides with you*

I don't agree. I think some women are emotionally complicated and so are some men. I think we're conditioned to believe that women are more emotionally complicated."

Interesting point re the conditioning. From personal experience to some extent I agree about some men being very emotionally complicated. However it has mainly been my female friends that have displayed their emotions more freely if that makes sense ?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It's impossible to separate how much is biology and how much is societal.

We don't isolate our babies at birth, give them gender neutral interactions and then see what happens. I believe we'd need to have a couple of generations of that before you could definitively say how much is biology.

Then the biology is further complicated by the hormones during pregnancy. If the testosterone floods happen at the wrong times, or in doses outside of the 'normal' range then that affects all manner of things, including how you feel about your own gender.

If you didn't see the BBC2 Countdown to Life series (Dr. Michael Mosley) then do watch it. It is utterly fascinating and includes a segment on transgender.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The differences can be a little confusing when you transcend both genders.

Interesting, can you elaborate a little ? X

Tbh I'm still figuring this out myself. I know I never fitted any male framework. I started dressing only a couple of years ago and femality, if that's a word, just becomes me.

When I told a friend what I am/do he laughed initially, saying id make a crap girl as I'm the most masculine man he knows. Bearing in mind he's ex Royal Marines.

As Rachael I've had a rather vocal post op TS girl tell me she's never met a tgirl who behaves/moves so much like a genetic girl.

I think that we are entering a period where its easier to express our gender and find our place on the gender range."

I hope my kids understand when I tell them

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I think there are certainly differences in the life experiences between the sexes, and these vary enormously in different parts of the world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You should have had this thread earlier when I had time for a proper answer

If it's still running tomorrow, I'll give it a go.

As for emotions, both sexes are emotional, but differently. Comparing the two emotionally is like comparing fruits and vegetables.

And of course women are smarter than men, but that goes without saying

-Courtney"

I should have waited to post as I've just got in to bed.

Thank you for answering.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Best put my thoughts in to make it fair.

Yes, I do think we are quite different. But, I don't see it as a bad thing. I think in general women are much more emotionally complicated than men.

Runs and hides.

Mrs x

This with the amendment.

*hides with you*

I don't agree. I think some women are emotionally complicated and so are some men. I think we're conditioned to believe that women are more emotionally complicated.

Yes, I think that's because from childhood boys are encouraged to hide their emotions and girls to express them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The differences can be a little confusing when you transcend both genders.

Interesting, can you elaborate a little ? X

Tbh I'm still figuring this out myself. I know I never fitted any male framework. I started dressing only a couple of years ago and femality, if that's a word, just becomes me.

When I told a friend what I am/do he laughed initially, saying id make a crap girl as I'm the most masculine man he knows. Bearing in mind he's ex Royal Marines.

As Rachael I've had a rather vocal post op TS girl tell me she's never met a tgirl who behaves/moves so much like a genetic girl.

I think that we are entering a period where its easier to express our gender and find our place on the gender range.

I hope my kids understand when I tell them

I hope so too

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Best put my thoughts in to make it fair.

Yes, I do think we are quite different. But, I don't see it as a bad thing. I think in general women are much more emotionally complicated than men.

Runs and hides.

Mrs x

This with the amendment.

*hides with you*

I don't agree. I think some women are emotionally complicated and so are some men. I think we're conditioned to believe that women are more emotionally complicated.

Yes, I think that's because from childhood boys are encouraged to hide their emotions and girls to express them."

"Big boys don't cry", "Don't be such a girl's blouse" (whatever that one means), "She's so pretty and caring" all as accepted background noise.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"I feel that men have less sensitivity than women.

Would you say this is due to the traditional hunter gatherer/home maker roles ? "

Possibly..or perhaps due to what's acceptable in society

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best put my thoughts in to make it fair.

Yes, I do think we are quite different. But, I don't see it as a bad thing. I think in general women are much more emotionally complicated than men.

Runs and hides.

Mrs x

This with the amendment.

*hides with you*

I don't agree. I think some women are emotionally complicated and so are some men. I think we're conditioned to believe that women are more emotionally complicated.

Yes, I think that's because from childhood boys are encouraged to hide their emotions and girls to express them."

Perhaps this will change with evolution but I think we still have a long way to go before we even come close to neutrality between the sexes if it ever happens at all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Best put my thoughts in to make it fair.

Yes, I do think we are quite different. But, I don't see it as a bad thing. I think in general women are much more emotionally complicated than men.

Runs and hides.

Mrs x

This with the amendment.

*hides with you*

I don't agree. I think some women are emotionally complicated and so are some men. I think we're conditioned to believe that women are more emotionally complicated.

Yes, I think that's because from childhood boys are encouraged to hide their emotions and girls to express them.

"Big boys don't cry", "Don't be such a girl's blouse" (whatever that one means), "She's so pretty and caring" all as accepted background noise.

Yep. As I said higher up "man up" "take it like a man".

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

First day at nursery school first thing he did was make a gun out of Lego and went round shooting everyone, so it must be in boys to be more naturally rough and tumble

In my experience of growing up with three brothers I would say that's true. "

My sons are not like this at all. I don't think it is true of all boys, from what I see

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

This is a bit from the Radio Times piece about Countdown to Life:

Month 5

It may be the case that typically male behaviours, such as risk-taking, are programmed into your brain by the testosterone it receives during pregnancy. Have a look at the length of your ring finger, compared with your index finger. Your ring finger grew long if you received more testosterone in the womb. This marker has been linked to people displaying aggressive, risk-taking behaviour, the kind of thing that we expect from people such as City traders.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

First day at nursery school first thing he did was make a gun out of Lego and went round shooting everyone, so it must be in boys to be more naturally rough and tumble

In my experience of growing up with three brothers I would say that's true.

My sons are not like this at all. I don't think it is true of all boys, from what I see"

Fair point.

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By *eonardoLoveMan
over a year ago

London

The main difference is the entry fee for swinger clubs.............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all different. Men, women- does it matter what sex you are really? We each have a set of expectations and internalised rules that govern our relationships. Our personalities - confident, needy, loner, communicator- also play a part.

I have found many men to be more analytical, dispassionate and visual than women but it by no means defines all men. My sister and I are worlds apart in our approach to life. I have found women to be more emotional than men, more likely to turn a drama into a crisis.

Mars and Venus? Maybe but many are on the cusp, so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is a bit from the Radio Times piece about Countdown to Life:

Month 5

I'm fascinated by this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The main difference is the entry fee for swinger clubs............."

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

What can either men nor women not experience that the other can? I don't see anything missing. We're different partly due to our culture and conditioning. Obviously hormones can affect us but my minds not fully made up.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"This is a bit from the Radio Times piece about Countdown to Life:

Month 5

I'm fascinated by this.

My ring fingers are just a tad longer than my index fingers. Maybe that's why I've always wanted to be able to pee standing up.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"This is a bit from the Radio Times piece about Countdown to Life:

Month 5

I'm fascinated by this.

My ring fingers are just a tad longer than my index fingers. Maybe that's why I've always wanted to be able to pee standing up.

Now that's a talent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pee sat down. I pretty much always have.

I'm very emotional. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I hate sport. Feel a total outsider on a lads night out.

I'm very practical. I can fix pretty much anything.

I'm great with kids. I got custody of my girls. First time when my eldest was 16 months. I won a second time when she was 7. Her sister 4.

I cook. Clean. Sow. Choose everything for the house. I shop for England.

I'm crap with money but good at earning it.

I protect. I can fight. I can talk down most situations or put someone in a hold until they relent.

I'm way too open about me. Everyone always tells me their innermost secrets.

I spot who's with who and what the truth is in an instant.

Make attributes? Female?

I dunno

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"This is a bit from the Radio Times piece about Countdown to Life:

Month 5

I'm fascinated by this.

My ring fingers are just a tad longer than my index fingers. Maybe that's why I've always wanted to be able to pee standing up.

Now that's a talent!

First time my daughter peed she did it standing up as she had seen her brothers do. How long are these fingers supposed to be in comparison to each other?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"This is a bit from the Radio Times piece about Countdown to Life:

Month 5

I'm fascinated by this.

My ring fingers are just a tad longer than my index fingers. Maybe that's why I've always wanted to be able to pee standing up.

Now that's a talent!

First time my daughter peed she did it standing up as she had seen her brothers do. How long are these fingers supposed to be in comparison to each other?"

I don't know, but the fact that they report it as being down to testosterone suggests some people have ring fingers shorter than their index fingers.

The programme had a family where a lot of them have six fingers on each hand. There is also a town in the Dominican Republic where a significant minority are born with indeterminate gender: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-34290981

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Men are from earth.

Women are from earth.

Deal with it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I get on better with females than males as I find most men in my circle of friends and colleagues are a trifle dull insofar as I don't like football, for example, and the women can keep a conversation going and I can flirt with them and make them laugh. If I flirt with a man (not that I ever have or would) I's expect a smack in the mouth.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I get on better with females than males as I find most men in my circle of friends and colleagues are a trifle dull insofar as I don't like football, for example, and the women can keep a conversation going and I can flirt with them and make them laugh. If I flirt with a man (not that I ever have or would) I's expect a smack in the mouth. "

Flirting with men is easy but I agree, there's only so long I can talk about cars or sport

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah men can get on well with other men but women with other women bitch between each other most girls say they rather hang out with lads as girls bitch "

This kind of thing makes me really sad. I have an amazing group of supportive female friends. I get on much better with women than men generally, with a few exceptions. No bitching, no shafting each other for a bloke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always thought that men and women have equally hard lives because women alway's feel self conscious where as men are expected to be tough and bold all the time. But the pro's and con's would take forever to weigh in. If only we could all swap gender for a week.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

There are aspects that will appear in both sexes. I can't say men are stronger than women, after seeing a woman pick up a Harley after the male owner failed to do so.

I can't say women are the nurturers, as I have seen single dad's bring up two young children very well.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Yeah men can get on well with other men but women with other women bitch between each other most girls say they rather hang out with lads as girls bitch "

No I'd rather hang out with the lads cos I love men!

Yes, men and women are wired very differently, women view things far more relationally, men more topically.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"The main difference is the entry fee for swinger clubs.............

Haha, shame......

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over a year ago

When I was a kid, I used to love dressing up as all sorts of different people and pretend to be those, I also had a friend with whom I practiced magic tricks and did puppet shows with, but the only person I ever told my feelings to was a Sooty puppet. However, I also played football and did everything my brother did too, so I don't think I was ever as straightforward as most boys, however, I don't think most boys are as straightforward as people assume they are, just as most girls aren't as confusing as most people think they are. But women are way smarter than men. And a lot of guys, no matter how big and macho they act, if a woman is having a go at them down the phone to get their arses back home, they'll will go meekly

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I've just met my female match, we're not wired differently, guys just hide it better.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

women hold space and men create structure

the feminine is magnetic and the masculine electrical within each individual..

one enhances the other, without which there is no life here...its the balance of polarity and placing value of the different frequencies that attracts or repels us.. but we all seek balance, alone or together..

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over a year ago

"Apparently, men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

What do you consider to be the main differences between men and women ?

Do you think men or women have it harder, or are things more equal and why ?

I'm genuinely interested in peoples perceptions here and don't want to cause friction so pretty please can we keep it civilised and respectful.

Are we really that different ?

Mrs x

There are different ratios of grey and white matter in the brains of men and women.

Thoeritcaly this should lead to men being better at mathematical and spacial awareness problems but women should be better at languages

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over a year ago

"This is a bit from the Radio Times piece about Countdown to Life:

Month 5

My ring finger seems to be slightly over half a cm longer.

Is this why I like motorbikes and explosives?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"This is a bit from the Radio Times piece about Countdown to Life:

Month 5

My ring finger seems to be slightly over half a cm longer.

Is this why I like motorbikes and explosives?"

Me too, that's why I like motorbikes, bad men and wild, wild horses! lol!

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over a year ago

"Apparently, men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

What do you consider to be the main differences between men and women ?

Do you think men or women have it harder, or are things more equal and why ?

I'm genuinely interested in peoples perceptions here and don't want to cause friction so pretty please can we keep it civilised and respectful.

Are we really that different ?

Mrs x

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yes you are guilty of over thinking of moving goalposts of over reacting and of being to choosy but what would we do without you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At base level if you cut us we bleed, whatever our gender. However I believe that nature and nurture make men and women different. "

That and the genitals.

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over a year ago

And on a serious note, if we're measuring the difference by sensitivity, there's no difference.

I've found some men and women to be very sensitive.

I've found some men and women to have no sensitivity whatsoever.

And I've found some men and women to be totally insensitive.

I've also found that some men and women hide their sensitivity.

As Mrs NC said, deep down we're all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The differences can be a little confusing when you transcend both genders.

Interesting, can you elaborate a little ? X

Tbh I'm still figuring this out myself. I know I never fitted any male framework. I started dressing only a couple of years ago and femality, if that's a word, just becomes me.

When I told a friend what I am/do he laughed initially, saying id make a crap girl as I'm the most masculine man he knows. Bearing in mind he's ex Royal Marines.

As Rachael I've had a rather vocal post op TS girl tell me she's never met a tgirl who behaves/moves so much like a genetic girl.

I think that we are entering a period where its easier to express our gender and find our place on the gender range.

I hope my kids understand when I tell them

I'm guessing you and your partner are raising your children with the same gift of intellect, compassion, openess, integrity, love and compassion that you both share, I'd suggest your children will be fine when you tell them.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

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In answer to your head line simple put yes .

No two human beings are never going to fit into any mold .

We are shapely by life experiences that is the only difference between parties of the same sex n my opinion .

there is biological programing at work separating the sexes on a base level but this can and is often over ruled by our intellect....our life experiences .

You can't look to the sex of a person to explain there behavior in my opinion look to there life experiences for the answers not the sex.

Again just my opinion .

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over a year ago

"This is a bit from the Radio Times piece about Countdown to Life:

Month 5

My ring finger seems to be slightly over half a cm longer.

Is this why I like motorbikes and explosives?

Me too, that's why I like motorbikes, bad men and wild, wild horses! lol!

My ring fingers are considerably longer than my index finger, almost a cm. I'm possibly the most risk-averse person I know! I do have a temper though, if that counts as aggression.

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over a year ago

I think we are all wired differently and not just men and women.

We are all individuals with our own hopes,fears and dreams.

We all have our own little world too

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