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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We singlies know of the benefits of living alone ....

BUT....

what are the disadvantages to it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i ahve to bite my own toenails

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

nobody to bring a cuppa in bed in the morning

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

i have to eat my own food.. thank god for take aways xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The loneliness some times you want a big cuddle and nobody there. And no one to share my kids dont know if thats a good thing or bad but when they misbehaving and gangin up on me no one to turn too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

1. No one to scratch me back....have to do a "baloo" up the door or use me carving knife....

2. When summat is good on the telly...no one to talk about it with.

3. no one to share a joke with etc.

4. No one to try me recipes on cept mates

5. No one to argue with and then MAKE UP with

6. No one to cuddle up to at the end of the day.

7. No one to get a hug from when feeling low

8. No one to do the decorating, specially the high bits.

9. No one to catch the dreaded spiders that lurk un seen till your on ya own

10. no one to kiss ..be it pasionately or just goodnight

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

no one to cuddle when u wake up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. No one to scratch me back....have to do a "baloo" up the door or use me carving knife....

2. When summat is good on the telly...no one to talk about it with.

3. no one to share a joke with etc.

4. No one to try me recipes on cept mates

5. No one to argue with and then MAKE UP with

6. No one to cuddle up to at the end of the day.

7. No one to get a hug from when feeling low

8. No one to do the decorating, specially the high bits.

9. No one to catch the dreaded spiders that lurk un seen till your on ya own

10. no one to kiss ..be it pasionately or just goodnight

All the above

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"1. No one to scratch me back....have to do a "baloo" up the door or use me carving knife....

2. When summat is good on the telly...no one to talk about it with.

3. no one to share a joke with etc.

4. No one to try me recipes on cept mates

5. No one to argue with and then MAKE UP with

6. No one to cuddle up to at the end of the day.

7. No one to get a hug from when feeling low

8. No one to do the decorating, specially the high bits.

9. No one to catch the dreaded spiders that lurk un seen till your on ya own

10. no one to kiss ..be it pasionately or just goodnight

All the above"

ye i think all the above too.. but it has good points too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i totally agree wiv all of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. No one to scratch me back....have to do a "baloo" up the door or use me carving knife....

2. When summat is good on the telly...no one to talk about it with.

3. no one to share a joke with etc.

4. No one to try me recipes on cept mates

5. No one to argue with and then MAKE UP with

6. No one to cuddle up to at the end of the day.

7. No one to get a hug from when feeling low

8. No one to do the decorating, specially the high bits.

9. No one to catch the dreaded spiders that lurk un seen till your on ya own

10. no one to kiss ..be it pasionately or just goodnight

yeah i'll go with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody to save you when you fall off a ladder with a busted leg. You'll die alone and nobody will know for a day or two. Merry Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Big downside....one that i do fear...

Dying alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big downside....one that i do fear...

Dying alone

It worries me when I work away that Siren is here on her own with a baby. If something happens to her .. I can't even contemplate it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Big downside....one that i do fear...

Dying alone

It worries me when I work away that Siren is here on her own with a baby. If something happens to her .. I can't even contemplate it.

Ok ok.lets change the subject...

think happy thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So anyway how you doing peaches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, it's your thread lol.. you started it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im goooooood ta shaz ....

Hows you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can celebrate christmas alone.

buy 200 paracetmol from the high street stores.

drink a bottle of jd, take the tables and sink into a nice warm bath.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oiiiiiiiii

we will have non of that ta....

OR ELSE i will slap ya.

good and proper too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you can celebrate christmas alone.

buy 200 paracetmol from the high street stores.

drink a bottle of jd, take the tables and sink into a nice warm bath.

How can you say such a horrid thing I have been in that dark place and I would not wish it on anyone. And all good Peaches and ready for xmas to be over bring on new year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i would suggest the old car exhaust trick but that doesnt work now unless you remove the cat converter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh im off to bed cuz this making me upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh come back now. xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"oh come back now. xxxxx"

whatsup sweetie, u not feeling so good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its been happening last few days Peaches puts a thread up and some tosser spoils it so be nice to Peaches please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its been happening last few days Peaches puts a thread up and some tosser spoils it so be nice to Peaches please."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

peaches knows i think the world of her.

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By *ax the gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

birmingham

no one to use your morning horn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its been happening last few days Peaches puts a thread up and some tosser spoils it so be nice to Peaches please."

I don't think that's fair!

If you put up a thread on an open forum people will respond how they wish. I've seen threads "spoilt" by love ins, people just get over it! This is a depressing thread and someone living alone may feel like topping themself this time of year!

I live with my adult daughters so not alone, however I don't have a man in my life and to be honest it's the practical things I miss. Few weeks ago, had the flu, could hardly move. Had to use the loo but hardly had the strength to get up. Some how the ballcock broke when I flushed the loo flooding the bathroom! A man about the house was needed then.

When I was married my husband would meet me from work if it was snowing and hold my hand to stop me from falling: I don't venture out in it as no one to hold my hand!

As we're still close he's done all my West Indian shopping for me, foods Sainsbury's don't stock: he does every year, did all through our marriage as I still can't tell a plantain from a banana!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The loneliness some times you want a big cuddle and nobody there. And no one to share my kids dont know if thats a good thing or bad but when they misbehaving and gangin up on me no one to turn too."

that sums it up for me also couldn't have put it any better

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Its been happening last few days Peaches puts a thread up and some tosser spoils it so be nice to Peaches please.

I don't think that's fair!

I think putting a second suicide method post was overkill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nobody to bring a cuppa in bed in the morning"

Ya never outta bed pmsl xx

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Only thing I'd find a boyfriend useful for is messy sex and having someone to dish out sympathy when I have man flu... neither of which are good reasons to have one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you can celebrate christmas alone.

buy 200 paracetmol from the high street stores.

drink a bottle of jd, take the tables and sink into a nice warm bath.

How can you say such a horrid thing I have been in that dark place and I would not wish it on anyone. And all good Peaches and ready for xmas to be over bring on new year"

I've been there too, in fact i'm still off work with depression but slowly i'm coming out of it. Reading the forums usually cheers me up but not today! I'm lucky I've got my daughter and two baby grandchildren who I love dearly and despite not having a partner at least I've got them to put a smile on my face. If it weren't for them I would not be here I don't think.

Right back to smile mode now, it's almost christmas and time for fun!

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"nobody to bring a cuppa in bed in the morning

Ya never outta bed pmsl xx

I am when people text at stoopid o'clock meaning I've only had 2 hours sleep!!!!! grrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 hours sleep? not good.

try and catch some during the day.

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

"1. No one to scratch me back....have to do a "baloo" up the door or use me carving knife....

2. When summat is good on the telly...no one to talk about it with.

3. no one to share a joke with etc.

4. No one to try me recipes on cept mates

5. No one to argue with and then MAKE UP with

6. No one to cuddle up to at the end of the day.

7. No one to get a hug from when feeling low

8. No one to do the decorating, specially the high bits.

9. No one to catch the dreaded spiders that lurk un seen till your on ya own

10. no one to kiss ..be it pasionately or just goodnight

your so right its the companion ship i miss

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"2 hours sleep? not good.

try and catch some during the day."

wat to come tuck me in? I miss having someone to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. No one to scratch me back....have to do a "baloo" up the door or use me carving knife....

2. When summat is good on the telly...no one to talk about it with.

3. no one to share a joke with etc.

4. No one to try me recipes on cept mates

5. No one to argue with and then MAKE UP with

6. No one to cuddle up to at the end of the day.

7. No one to get a hug from when feeling low

8. No one to do the decorating, specially the high bits.

9. No one to catch the dreaded spiders that lurk un seen till your on ya own

10. no one to kiss ..be it pasionately or just goodnight

Peaches I could'nt have put it better myself.....

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"1. No one to scratch me back....have to do a "baloo" up the door or use me carving knife....

2. When summat is good on the telly...no one to talk about it with.

3. no one to share a joke with etc.

4. No one to try me recipes on cept mates

5. No one to argue with and then MAKE UP with

6. No one to cuddle up to at the end of the day.

7. No one to get a hug from when feeling low

8. No one to do the decorating, specially the high bits.

9. No one to catch the dreaded spiders that lurk un seen till your on ya own

10. no one to kiss ..be it pasionately or just goodnight

your so right its the companion ship i miss

No-one to send out in the snow when you run out of milk/wine/cigs (delete as applicable)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. No one to scratch me back....have to do a "baloo" up the door or use me carving knife....

2. When summat is good on the telly...no one to talk about it with.

3. no one to share a joke with etc.

4. No one to try me recipes on cept mates

5. No one to argue with and then MAKE UP with

6. No one to cuddle up to at the end of the day.

7. No one to get a hug from when feeling low

8. No one to do the decorating, specially the high bits.

9. No one to catch the dreaded spiders that lurk un seen till your on ya own

10. no one to kiss ..be it pasionately or just goodnight

your so right its the companion ship i miss

No-one to send out in the snow when you run out of milk/wine/cigs (delete as applicable)"

if i was closer id be happy too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so as we are all posting on this.

does that mean that there is no such thing as the perfect christmas?

and if so what makes it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so as we are all posting on this.

does that mean that there is no such thing as the perfect christmas?

and if so what makes it?"

Last Christmas was pretty much as near to perfect that I have gotten. It was our son's 1st Christmas, my 13y/o daughter opted to be with us too so she could share our lad's 1st one, and my parents and brother travelled up from the south to be with us too. Siren's family also came over on Xmas Day and I cooked for 10 people (I love cooking anytime of the year but I especially enjoy cooking the Xmas dinner, all the trimmings, prep work, getting stuff done a couple of days before etc) - I love all that stuff - and to top it all, Siren bought me a £100 bottle of Remy Martin XO brandy, which was abso-blimmin-lovely!!

Plus, on Xmas Eve we all went to Beamish for an Edwardian Christmas, where there was a real Xmas tree in the town square with a real robin flying in and out of it, and it snowed... on Xmas Eve!

If that's not a perfect Christmas I don't what is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I think too much emphasis is put on Christmas, the festive season? Spend spend spend on presents, that end up broken or in the raffle cos they were unappreciated or unwanted.

Prepare for hours a gut busting meal for dozens of people you hardly see from one year to the next, all the while trying to keep up with St. Delia telling you how 'stress-free' it could be if you follow her lead.

Then after you have shopped, spent, cooked, cleared up, recycled wrappings, and eventually sank into a chair with a sherry, think hard, what is it all about?

Christmas is the season of good will, it is about spiritual well-being, it is love for fellow man. All this can be given and received daily without expense ostentatiousness and falsity when you read through the forums.

I have seen support, tears and love.

We are a community here like it or not, good bad and indifferent, just as in real life.

So whether I am with others on Christmas day or alone in person, but with forum friends, then I'll feel content and warm inside.

The perfect Christmas for me is knowing I'm here, I make a difference to at least one person in my life and knowing there are others who make a difference in mine.

Peace and love everyone. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so as we are all posting on this.

does that mean that there is no such thing as the perfect christmas?

and if so what makes it?"

Ooooh over the years I've had some wonderful Christmas'. My daughter's first Christmas, the first time we bought a tree for the kids to decorate, all the family sitting around the table, my parents who are no longer with us, all my sisters, some of whom I know longer speak to.

For me being happy, content and surrounded by family is what makes Christmas, the getting up early and watching the little ones open their presents and their innocents in still believing in Santa.

Even now, having my girls around is what makes Christmas for me, and I'm looking forward to Friday when they are all under the same roof!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so we have some positives and not so positives.

but peaches you know where i am and can talk to me anytime. your lovely, kind hearted and someone i look for on these forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so as we are all posting on this.

does that mean that there is no such thing as the perfect christmas?

and if so what makes it?"

no perfect in this life and if you expect it you are setting yourself up for disappointment. See the best in what you have and make the most out of that.

Hope you all have a festive season of safety and contentment. Remember there are many who won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The advantages of living alone outweigh the disadvantages many times over IMHO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This time of year can be a bummer if you live alone that's why I'm going away after Xmas and being snowed in for days ain't helped either so I did feel pissed off living alone then but having said that I do enjoy my own space, guess I just miss a cuddle occasionally lol

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