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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

No offence to anyone here it's just a topic Iv been thinking about for a while.

I find Black men quite intimidating, now as Iv already said "intimidating" could be the wrong word as I'm not "scared" of them as such.

It's hard to explain, but I find myself having a moment when they message me. I always feel they could be quite Dominant and some have HUGE cocks, they can scare me sometimes.

Please no offence is meant by this to anyone.

Are you intimidated by anything/anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

No offence to anyone here it's just a topic Iv been thinking about for a while.

I find Black men quite intimidating, now as Iv already said "intimidating" could be the wrong word as I'm not "scared" of them as such.

It's hard to explain, but I find myself having a moment when they message me. I always feel they could be quite Dominant and some have HUGE cocks, they can scare me sometimes.

Please no offence is meant by this to anyone.

Are you intimidated by anything/anyone? "
they are just guys the same as the next guy and yes some are intimidating but then so are some white guys cocks vary across the board

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

No offence to anyone here it's just a topic Iv been thinking about for a while.

I find Black men quite intimidating, now as Iv already said "intimidating" could be the wrong word as I'm not "scared" of them as such.

It's hard to explain, but I find myself having a moment when they message me. I always feel they could be quite Dominant and some have HUGE cocks, they can scare me sometimes.

Please no offence is meant by this to anyone.

Are you intimidated by anything/anyone? they are just guys the same as the next guy and yes some are intimidating but then so are some white guys cocks vary across the board "

White guys cocks do not intimidate me.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I find that people don't intimidate me anymore. When I was younger, people in certain positions, teachers and bosses etc, I would let them intimidate me, simply because of their job. Then I came to my senses as I got older and realised that we're essentially all the same. I was going along thinking these people were better than me, when in fact they're not. I don't allow anyone to intimidate or 'get to me' now.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

No offence to anyone here it's just a topic Iv been thinking about for a while.

I find Black men quite intimidating, now as Iv already said "intimidating" could be the wrong word as I'm not "scared" of them as such.

It's hard to explain, but I find myself having a moment when they message me. I always feel they could be quite Dominant and some have HUGE cocks, they can scare me sometimes.

Please no offence is meant by this to anyone.

Are you intimidated by anything/anyone? "

Yes, one guy on here has been a real problem and have been forced to block him, but still feel scared and anxious over some of his messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to feel intimidated by people in authority, no longer now though. We are all just people with hopes and fears.

As for willy size some of us pink chaps have differing size willies as i imagine do all creeds of men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

No offence to anyone here it's just a topic Iv been thinking about for a while.

I find Black men quite intimidating, now as Iv already said "intimidating" could be the wrong word as I'm not "scared" of them as such.

It's hard to explain, but I find myself having a moment when they message me. I always feel they could be quite Dominant and some have HUGE cocks, they can scare me sometimes.

Please no offence is meant by this to anyone.

Are you intimidated by anything/anyone? they are just guys the same as the next guy and yes some are intimidating but then so are some white guys cocks vary across the board

White guys cocks do not intimidate me."

Excuse me.....cheeky !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

No offence to anyone here it's just a topic Iv been thinking about for a while.

I find Black men quite intimidating, now as Iv already said "intimidating" could be the wrong word as I'm not "scared" of them as such.

It's hard to explain, but I find myself having a moment when they message me. I always feel they could be quite Dominant and some have HUGE cocks, they can scare me sometimes.

Please no offence is meant by this to anyone.

Are you intimidated by anything/anyone? they are just guys the same as the next guy and yes some are intimidating but then so are some white guys cocks vary across the board

White guys cocks do not intimidate me."
Awwwee hey its not colour of skin that makes a person intimidating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm not intimidated by anyone.

If anything, people who are traditionally meant to intimidate me just make me feel like they are a challenge.

So, bring it on!

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm not intimidated by anyone.

If anything, people who are traditionally meant to intimidate me just make me feel like they are a challenge.

So, bring it on!

-Courtney"
this is me to ,morning courtneylicious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best mate is black and he has a tiny dick really thick but the size of a battery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm not intimidated by anyone.

If anything, people who are traditionally meant to intimidate me just make me feel like they are a challenge.

So, bring it on!

-Courtneythis is me to ,morning courtneylicious "

Good morning trademarklicious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd find anyone built like a brick outhouse intimidating if in a dark alley

There are also some moments you just go Woah!! And back out quietly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shopping in Aldi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

No offence to anyone here it's just a topic Iv been thinking about for a while.

I find Black men quite intimidating, now as Iv already said "intimidating" could be the wrong word as I'm not "scared" of them as such.

It's hard to explain, but I find myself having a moment when they message me. I always feel they could be quite Dominant and some have HUGE cocks, they can scare me sometimes.

Please no offence is meant by this to anyone.

Are you intimidated by anything/anyone? "

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shopping in Aldi"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shopping in Aldi"

Haha! Why?

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Can recommend some guys that are really nice and not at all intimidating, just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fact, did you just have a brain fart OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shopping in Aldi"

I'll go with you the next time. Aldi doesn't intimidate me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, black men intimidate me, too.

I'm mixed race, so they never used to. But since being on Fab, I've had a great deal of unpleasantness at the hands of black guys who simply will not accept that they're not my type.

I've had all the usual stuff. That I'm racist, stupid, ignorant, and once, a fat 'white wannabe'!

Also had, 'stick to tiny white cocks, then!'

There are lovely, polite, dignified black guys too. But regrettably the majority don't do them any favours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In fact, did you just have a brain fart OP?"

Are you suggesting I'm foolish or stupid for writing this post?

I wouldn't have written it if thought any of those.

It's a genuine question and it's genuine how I feel on the subject.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

People don't intimidate me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can recommend some guys that are really nice and not at all intimidating, just saying. "

I know you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find that people don't intimidate me anymore. When I was younger, people in certain positions, teachers and bosses etc, I would let them intimidate me, simply because of their job. Then I came to my senses as I got older and realised that we're essentially all the same. I was going along thinking these people were better than me, when in fact they're not. I don't allow anyone to intimidate or 'get to me' now."

Same here. I used to be physically sick before important meetings and presentations.

Part of my difficulty was a self imposed sense of self worth.

These meetings were always with well respected, highly educated and qualified groups of people. Whereas I'm just an oik.

It took me a while to get my head around the fact that I wouldn't have been in my job or in that room if I didn't have skills that these guys didn't have.

I'm much more comfortable in my own skin now.

But I had to go through being very ill to realise it.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I've worked with hardened criminals, people with severe and enduring mental health problems, I've had guns waved in my face and been threatened with knives and I've been in more prisons and crack houses than the rest of the thread put together.

Very little intimidates me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shopping in Aldi

I'll go with you the next time. Aldi doesn't intimidate me "
Deal! Aww you look after me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Your making judgements on the basis of someone's skin colour, white guys can be dominant and have big cocks as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've worked with hardened criminals, people with severe and enduring mental health problems, I've had guns waved in my face and been threatened with knives and I've been in more prisons and crack houses than the rest of the thread put together.

Very little intimidates me."

You have no idea how many crack houses I have been in.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pussy cats with shouty profiles ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shopping in Aldi

I'll go with you the next time. Aldi doesn't intimidate me Deal! Aww you look after me "

I will! But you really do need to man up. Aldi isn't a place for wimps

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I've worked with hardened criminals, people with severe and enduring mental health problems, I've had guns waved in my face and been threatened with knives and I've been in more prisons and crack houses than the rest of the thread put together.

Very little intimidates me.

You have no idea how many crack houses I have been in.

-Courtney"

Oh really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've worked with hardened criminals, people with severe and enduring mental health problems, I've had guns waved in my face and been threatened with knives and I've been in more prisons and crack houses than the rest of the thread put together.

Very little intimidates me.

You have no idea how many crack houses I have been in.

-Courtney"
of all the crack houses in all the world you had to cum into my crack house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie. "

Marry me.

(Now Thats intimidating )

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I've worked with hardened criminals, people with severe and enduring mental health problems, I've had guns waved in my face and been threatened with knives and I've been in more prisons and crack houses than the rest of the thread put together.

Very little intimidates me.

You have no idea how many crack houses I have been in.

-Courtney of all the crack houses in all the world you had to cum into my crack house "

And we're gonna shut it down and move you out for your own safety, dude

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Maybe one of the reasons is that Caribbean and African cultures are quite patriarchal so the man is more expected to be assertive?

I have never had any problem with anyone and 99% of guys and girls, regardless of race, are totally respectful.

Also isn't assuming that a black guy will have a giant cock just racial stereotyping?? I don't think making assumptions based on colour is a very helpful thing.

Just my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've worked with hardened criminals, people with severe and enduring mental health problems, I've had guns waved in my face and been threatened with knives and I've been in more prisons and crack houses than the rest of the thread put together.

Very little intimidates me.

You have no idea how many crack houses I have been in.

-Courtney

Oh really?"

Just saying. And I won't even comment on all the prisons I've been in. America is a strange place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prejudism at it's best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

Marry me.

(Now Thats intimidating )"

How much money do you have?

I need a woman with a 3 year plan and a good pension

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm not intimidated by anyone.

If anything, people who are traditionally meant to intimidate me just make me feel like they are a challenge.

So, bring it on!

-Courtney"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

Marry me.

(Now Thats intimidating )

How much money do you have?

I need a woman with a 3 year plan and a good pension "

None. But I am richer in many ways than most can ever dream of!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe one of the reasons is that Caribbean and African cultures are quite patriarchal so the man is more expected to be assertive?

I have never had any problem with anyone and 99% of guys and girls, regardless of race, are totally respectful.

Also isn't assuming that a black guy will have a giant cock just racial stereotyping?? I don't think making assumptions based on colour is a very helpful thing.

Just my thoughts. "

I would have to say that 99% of black men who message me have bbc in their name on here & always mention their big black cock, so sometimes the racial stereotyping is done by themselves but I'm not intimidated by them, I just wish they didn't concentrate their messages on their cocks so much. I'm interested in the whole person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

Marry me.

(Now Thats intimidating )

How much money do you have?

I need a woman with a 3 year plan and a good pension

None. But I am richer in many ways than most can ever dream of!"

Land? Gold? Property?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I wouldn't say I get intimidated by anyone

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I've worked with hardened criminals, people with severe and enduring mental health problems, I've had guns waved in my face and been threatened with knives and I've been in more prisons and crack houses than the rest of the thread put together.

Very little intimidates me.

You have no idea how many crack houses I have been in.

-Courtney

Oh really?

Just saying. And I won't even comment on all the prisons I've been in. America is a strange place "

Indeed it is. The worst I've been to was San Pedro in La Paz - you can pay to go on tours of this mad house... But it seemed to function, so long as the inmates got to run the place.

Piraeus prison, Athens was the most degrading one I've been to... Staggeringly overcrowded

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"

Also isn't assuming that a black guy will have a giant cock just racial stereotyping?? I don't think making assumptions based on colour is a very helpful thing.

Just my thoughts.

I would have to say that 99% of black men who message me have bbc in their name on here & always mention their big black cock, so sometimes the racial stereotyping is done by themselves but I'm not intimidated by them, I just wish they didn't concentrate their messages on their cocks so much. I'm interested in the whole person."

Sounds like they are playing up to the stereotype as some do have a BBC fantasy. It is a positive stereotype though in the same way the fiery, passionate redhead is, other racial stereotyping isn't so good though- Romanians get a bad rep in the press but I have always found them to be great people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

Marry me.

(Now Thats intimidating )

How much money do you have?

I need a woman with a 3 year plan and a good pension

None. But I am richer in many ways than most can ever dream of!

Land? Gold? Property? "

Depth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds daft but some women on here ive fancied perved and chatted with for a long time - but for various reasons never met - in my head when i imagine the meet i go to pot - maybe its because theyve been in my fantasies for so long that theyre 'bigger' than they are in reality - not sure this is sounding right at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

Marry me.

(Now Thats intimidating )

How much money do you have?

I need a woman with a 3 year plan and a good pension

None. But I am richer in many ways than most can ever dream of!

Land? Gold? Property?

Depth."

Oh well why didn't you say so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds daft but some women on here ive fancied perved and chatted with for a long time - but for various reasons never met - in my head when i imagine the meet i go to pot - maybe its because theyve been in my fantasies for so long that theyre 'bigger' than they are in reality - not sure this is sounding right at all "

fem half this is from btw

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By *ack LondonMan
over a year ago

London

I'm beginning to realise...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously if ur intimidated before speaking with someone, the issue is within. We are programmed from a early age to have preconceptions of our environment to either find a mate or keep us safe, etc... The only way I believe to get over it is to meet some black guys in person and speak about it. It's true we haven't all got BBC but tend to be adequate enough to do the job!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not intimidated by racial stereotypes, skin colour or the size of a man's genitals.

The original post here makes me extremely uncomfortable, I know it's a personal opinion and based on the ops experience etc but it's still judging an entire section of society because of their skin colour and that ain't right however you dress it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Also isn't assuming that a black guy will have a giant cock just racial stereotyping?? I don't think making assumptions based on colour is a very helpful thing.

Just my thoughts.

I would have to say that 99% of black men who message me have bbc in their name on here & always mention their big black cock, so sometimes the racial stereotyping is done by themselves but I'm not intimidated by them, I just wish they didn't concentrate their messages on their cocks so much. I'm interested in the whole person.

Sounds like they are playing up to the stereotype as some do have a BBC fantasy. It is a positive stereotype though in the same way the fiery, passionate redhead is, other racial stereotyping isn't so good though- Romanians get a bad rep in the press but I have always found them to be great people. "

If my profile said I had a bbc fantasy, then I would understand them playing on that part, but I don't, so to only emphasise that part of themselves is to me, belittling themselves. I'm sure there is more to them than the size and colour of their cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

Marry me.

(Now Thats intimidating )

How much money do you have?

I need a woman with a 3 year plan and a good pension

None. But I am richer in many ways than most can ever dream of!

Land? Gold? Property?

Depth.

Oh well why didn't you say so! "

Cos I am a rebel!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie. "

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I find that people don't intimidate me anymore. When I was younger, people in certain positions, teachers and bosses etc, I would let them intimidate me, simply because of their job. Then I came to my senses as I got older and realised that we're essentially all the same. I was going along thinking these people were better than me, when in fact they're not. I don't allow anyone to intimidate or 'get to me' now.

Same here. I used to be physically sick before important meetings and presentations.

Part of my difficulty was a self imposed sense of self worth.

These meetings were always with well respected, highly educated and qualified groups of people. Whereas I'm just an oik.

It took me a while to get my head around the fact that I wouldn't have been in my job or in that room if I didn't have skills that these guys didn't have.

I'm much more comfortable in my own skin now.

But I had to go through being very ill to realise it."

I can relate to this. One of my first jobs was teaching computer skills to senior managers who were about to lose their jobs at the abolition of ILEA. I was also the only woman and black person in the room. I used to hyperventilate before each lesson.

It dawned on me that I was being paid a fortune for my skills and they needed me, I wasn't there as an ornament.

Never looked back: can remember last time someone tried to intimidate me, some colonel and his team at an disciplinary hearing I attended at an army barracks, please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

"

Just seems odd as the only difference between white and black cock is the colour?

Unless black cocks have a set of teeth I'm not aware of?

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'm not intimidated by racial stereotypes, skin colour or the size of a man's genitals.

The original post here makes me extremely uncomfortable, I know it's a personal opinion and based on the ops experience etc but it's still judging an entire section of society because of their skin colour and that ain't right however you dress it up."

Well said

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie. "

I think it's a truth that we all get swayed by stereotype's from time to time. We can all let stereotype's effect our judgement when we don't necessarily have any firsthand knowledge to draw on. We may even be aware how irrational it is to have these thoughts. We go on what we've been taught growing up or maybe things we've seen. We can't necessarily help that.

Often when you come face to face with that thing or look at it in detail, it turns out we are wrong. This doesn't just happen with race but with gender, age, sexuality and all kinds of things. I don't think the OP's making a stupid comment at all. It's a refreshingly honest statement. We can ALL be prejudice or ignorant from time to time however freethinking and enlightened we may think we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I understand what you are saying OP. But think intimidate is the wrong word. I have found that black guys and some Asian guys tend to question my personal preference, as my profile states I prefer white guys. I do not feel intimidated by their questioning, but sometimes do feel a bit peeved that I may need to explain why they are not my first choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

I think it's a truth that we all get swayed by stereotype's from time to time. We can all let stereotype's effect our judgement when we don't necessarily have any firsthand knowledge to draw on. We may even be aware how irrational it is to have these thoughts. We go on what we've been taught growing up or maybe things we've seen. We can't necessarily help that.

Often when you come face to face with that thing or look at it in detail, it turns out we are wrong. This doesn't just happen with race but with gender, age, sexuality and all kinds of things. I don't think the OP's making a stupid comment at all. It's a refreshingly honest statement. We can ALL be prejudice or ignorant from time to time however freethinking and enlightened we may think we are."

Indeed. We are all subject to this, whether we know it or not. Harvard University has this project currently being undertaken called Project Implicit that sets out to see how we are all affected by Implicit Associations and Biases. You can even take a test.

-Courtney

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think I understand what you are saying OP. But think intimidate is the wrong word. I have found that black guys and some Asian guys tend to question my personal preference, as my profile states I prefer white guys. I do not feel intimidated by their questioning, but sometimes do feel a bit peeved that I may need to explain why they are not my first choice."

We have had men of all ethnic origins question our preferences, we never explain them to any of them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Just seems odd as the only difference between white and black cock is the colour?

Unless black cocks have a set of teeth I'm not aware of? "

Iv never seen a big thick white cock like Iv seen on black men. I wouldn't say it for the fun of it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I understand what you are saying OP. But think intimidate is the wrong word. I have found that black guys and some Asian guys tend to question my personal preference, as my profile states I prefer white guys. I do not feel intimidated by their questioning, but sometimes do feel a bit peeved that I may need to explain why they are not my first choice."

Thankyou. As I said I didn't think it was the correct word to use, but couldn't think of another one.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

"

Having a black friend at work is not evidence that you aren't judging by skin colour especially when you go on to say that you feel more intimidated by black guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe one of the reasons is that Caribbean and African cultures are quite patriarchal so the man is more expected to be assertive?

I have never had any problem with anyone and 99% of guys and girls, regardless of race, are totally respectful.

Also isn't assuming that a black guy will have a giant cock just racial stereotyping?? I don't think making assumptions based on colour is a very helpful thing.

Just my thoughts. "

You can't help but notice them in public pictures...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Having a black friend at work is not evidence that you aren't judging by skin colour especially when you go on to say that you feel more intimidated by black guys. "

Yes I do that's my opinion which I'm entitled too. Someone else has said they feel intimidated by them too.

I haven't said I don't like black men, bloody jell isn't anyone allowed to say what they think around here anymore!?!?!?

If you read my first post I have stated it may be the wrong word and I don't mean to offend anyone!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Having a black friend at work is not evidence that you aren't judging by skin colour especially when you go on to say that you feel more intimidated by black guys. "

And I'm sure you have judged in your life time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this is a nice post to wake up to really...

Perhaps looking a little deeper into different types of guys will help..

I class myself as mix race, others will say black..for dominance I match my partners needs..I'll assume many other people do this too..

I hate stereotyping(anyone), but it is a little worrying OP that you think this..

which is a shame..cos I'd gently lick your fanny if I had the chance

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over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Just seems odd as the only difference between white and black cock is the colour?

Unless black cocks have a set of teeth I'm not aware of?

Iv never seen a big thick white cock like Iv seen on black men. I wouldn't say it for the fun of it! "

I've seen plenty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some thoughts are best left in the head.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Just seems odd as the only difference between white and black cock is the colour?

Unless black cocks have a set of teeth I'm not aware of?

Iv never seen a big thick white cock like Iv seen on black men. I wouldn't say it for the fun of it! "

Really?!

You need to check out hot pics more..

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Pussy cats with shouty profiles ...

"

Now you have me wondering if my cat has a profile? If so, what would it say?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

No offence to anyone here it's just a topic Iv been thinking about for a while.

I find Black men quite intimidating, now as Iv already said "intimidating" could be the wrong word as I'm not "scared" of them as such.

It's hard to explain, but I find myself having a moment when they message me. I always feel they could be quite Dominant and some have HUGE cocks, they can scare me sometimes.

Please no offence is meant by this to anyone.

Are you intimidated by anything/anyone? "

Now seriously, I am trying to get my cat's profile out of my head .... In my experience I have never found any black man's profile or black man in general intimidating, indeed, I find it the opposite. But, I think that depends on what you bring from your life experience too. I have lived in many black communities, including East LA after the riots (too long ago for most of you are too young to remember I think) where I worked educating 'the masses' under the welfare to work scheme. I grew up on a small island and don't see the dangers of certain situations. Only now I think back to my first meets on here when I would go alone to someone's house - that was a potentially dangerous situation to put myself into and in my current clients (in my professional job, people I deal with, not in a sexual way) have many an ex offender with a violent past. I just see someone who the system has let down. Sometimes I think this in naivety on my part and I do need to get real for my own safety. I also look to black culture and feel that generationally there are changes in expectations as well (30 year olds versus 50 year olds), and as has been discussed on here before, different black cultures are different as are people's own experiences and expectations of white women. I would not say I was intimidated by anyone because of my belief that anyone who tries to intimidate is feeling less that inside coupled with the knowledge that anyone can be who they want to be. There are plenty of white men and couples who try to intimidate, but I have never found that from a black man. Having said that, Mr Law's single profile is apparently very intimidating, but that was the draw for me to meet him in the first place .... if you want to meet a black man who dispels the intimidatory myth, he is a good place to start! Pepper (who tries her best to be intimidating, but it never really works)

And had to remove and amend this due to the crazy typos - hope its better now - and I ma not intimidated by the grammar police!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

No offence to anyone here it's just a topic Iv been thinking about for a while.

I find Black men quite intimidating, now as Iv already said "intimidating" could be the wrong word as I'm not "scared" of them as such.

It's hard to explain, but I find myself having a moment when they message me. I always feel they could be quite Dominant and some have HUGE cocks, they can scare me sometimes.

Please no offence is meant by this to anyone.

Are you intimidated by anything/anyone?

Now seriously, I am trying to get my cat's profile out of my head .... In my experience I have never found any black man's profile or black man in general intimidating, indeed, I find it the opposite. But, I think that depends on what you bring from your life experience too. I have lived in many black communities, including East LA after the riots (too long ago for most of you are too young to remember I think) where I worked educating 'the masses' under the welfare to work scheme. I grew up on a small island and don't see the dangers of certain situations. Only now I think back to my first meets on here when I would go alone to someone's house - that was a potentially dangerous situation to put myself into and in my current clients (in my professional job, people I deal with, not in a sexual way) have many an ex offender with a violent past. I just see someone who the system has let down. Sometimes I think this in naivety on my part and I do need to get real for my own safety. I also look to black culture and feel that generationally there are changes in expectations as well (30 year olds versus 50 year olds), and as has been discussed on here before, different black cultures are different as are people's own experiences and expectations of white women. I would not say I was intimidated by anyone because of my belief that anyone who tries to intimidate is feeling less that inside coupled with the knowledge that anyone can be who they want to be. There are plenty of white men and couples who try to intimidate, but I have never found that from a black man. Having said that, Mr Law's single profile is apparently very intimidating, but that was the draw for me to meet him in the first place .... if you want to meet a black man who dispels the intimidatory myth, he is a good place to start! Pepper (who tries her best to be intimidating, but it never really works)

And had to remove and amend this due to the crazy typos - hope its better now - and I ma not intimidated by the grammar police!"

I'm trying to get the image of cocks with a set of teeth out of my head!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Having a black friend at work is not evidence that you aren't judging by skin colour especially when you go on to say that you feel more intimidated by black guys.

And I'm sure you have judged in your life time "

Of course I have. I'm making a judgement now based on what you've written but that's got nothing to do with your skin colour.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"

Are you intimidated by anything/anyone? "

In answer to your question....no!

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"I think I understand what you are saying OP. But think intimidate is the wrong word. I have found that black guys and some Asian guys tend to question my personal preference, as my profile states I prefer white guys. I do not feel intimidated by their questioning, but sometimes do feel a bit peeved that I may need to explain why they are not my first choice."

Unfortunately people get judged on lines of race far too much for the 21st century. I have some (platonic) white female friends who have a preference for black men (relationships) and some of the comments I hear my guy friends making behind their backs do make me cringe- like they should go with them first just because they are white too. I don't understand this outdated racial segregation attitude.

Its the same with people's attitudes to Muslim women- so much vitriol towards those who choose to wear a headscarf...

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"

Also isn't assuming that a black guy will have a giant cock just racial stereotyping?? I don't think making assumptions based on colour is a very helpful thing.

Just my thoughts.

You can't help but notice them in public pictures... "

Studies have shown that across the races/countries cock size doesn't really vary- although on average African men were on average the largest it wasn't by a great margin. I think a lot of the lads like to play up to the stereotype as it is a fantasy for some ladies, I have spoken to some girls who say they like being the "white slut."

Also some girls (and guys) who maybe live in the countryside (or a predominately white area) there is the desire to have the "experience" of a black person. Don't quite know if this is the right reason to want to sleep with someone though.............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but I wouldn't like to many guys around my missus for safety reasons. As for the OP if that's how you feel it's how you feel, people feel intimidated by different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The dog that lives a few doors away from me .... intimidating and scary .. usaully cross the street when i pass the house lol

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"I'm not intimidated by racial stereotypes, skin colour or the size of a man's genitals.

The original post here makes me extremely uncomfortable, I know it's a personal opinion and based on the ops experience etc but it's still judging an entire section of society because of their skin colour and that ain't right however you dress it up."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

Marry me.

(Now Thats intimidating )

How much money do you have?

I need a woman with a 3 year plan and a good pension

None. But I am richer in many ways than most can ever dream of!

Land? Gold? Property?

Depth."

You own a mine?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Go to a club ... Start a conversation with a BBC owner .. And discover the man behind the cock

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By *its_n_piecesCouple
over a year ago


"I'm not intimidated by racial stereotypes, skin colour or the size of a man's genitals.

The original post here makes me extremely uncomfortable, I know it's a personal opinion and based on the ops experience etc but it's still judging an entire section of society because of their skin colour and that ain't right however you dress it up."

what she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not intimidated by racial stereotypes, skin colour or the size of a man's genitals.

The original post here makes me extremely uncomfortable, I know it's a personal opinion and based on the ops experience etc but it's still judging an entire section of society because of their skin colour and that ain't right however you dress it up."

Why do black guys who message me nearly always mention their big black cock? If they're black, then their cock is going to be black. It's not rocket science

I find it very off putting. Not intimidating, just very shallow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

Marry me.

(Now Thats intimidating )

How much money do you have?

I need a woman with a 3 year plan and a good pension

None. But I am richer in many ways than most can ever dream of!

Land? Gold? Property?

Depth.

You own a mine? "

How many hours did it take to come up with that.

Metaphorically speaking, yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not intimidated by racial stereotypes, skin colour or the size of a man's genitals.

The original post here makes me extremely uncomfortable, I know it's a personal opinion and based on the ops experience etc but it's still judging an entire section of society because of their skin colour and that ain't right however you dress it up.

Why do black guys who message me nearly always mention their big black cock? If they're black, then their cock is going to be black. It's not rocket science

I find it very off putting. Not intimidating, just very shallow."

because I suspect its the way bbc has been touted around for a while now, when I first joined these types of sites I felt I had to bring my penis and my colour to get the attention...after a while I felt a name change was needed and more to do with my personality..

if I do get mails from people specifically looking for bbc...normally it is cock orientated its the nature of the bigblackcockbeast..

oh..I think I'm name changing to that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm not intimidated by racial stereotypes, skin colour or the size of a man's genitals.

The original post here makes me extremely uncomfortable, I know it's a personal opinion and based on the ops experience etc but it's still judging an entire section of society because of their skin colour and that ain't right however you dress it up.

Why do black guys who message me nearly always mention their big black cock? If they're black, then their cock is going to be black. It's not rocket science

I find it very off putting. Not intimidating, just very shallow."

Probably playing into the stereotype. Of the black guys who've messaged us only one or two have mentioned cock size in fact I would say white men mention it more. I find it off putting too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, black men intimidate me, too.

I'm mixed race, so they never used to. But since being on Fab, I've had a great deal of unpleasantness at the hands of black guys who simply will not accept that they're not my type.

I've had all the usual stuff. That I'm racist, stupid, ignorant, and once, a fat 'white wannabe'!

Also had, 'stick to tiny white cocks, then!'

There are lovely, polite, dignified black guys too. But regrettably the majority don't do them any favours.

"

Have you chatted to the majority of black men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, black men intimidate me, too.

I'm mixed race, so they never used to. But since being on Fab, I've had a great deal of unpleasantness at the hands of black guys who simply will not accept that they're not my type.

I've had all the usual stuff. That I'm racist, stupid, ignorant, and once, a fat 'white wannabe'!

Also had, 'stick to tiny white cocks, then!'

There are lovely, polite, dignified black guys too. But regrettably the majority don't do them any favours.

Have you chatted to the majority of black men?"

I was hoping she'd mail me lol

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I genuinely don't think there's such a thing as a stupid question. It's perfectly acceptable to ask for advice on something you're not sure about and even when it's a tricky topic and difficult to word, it doesn't make it stupid. How do you find things out or learn to overcome things that intimidate you if you can't ask others their opinions? Some conversations just aren't possible in your every day life and to be able to ask those in this lifestyle who are more open minded and liberal whilst being a massively diverse crowd should be encouraged in my _iew.

I've never had sex with anyone who is a different race to me. That's not deliberate, the opportunity just hasn't presented itself yet. I've never had sex with anyone who isn't British, again for no other reason than I've not had the chance.

I'm not intimidated by much, I don't believe other people are intimidating, it's our perceptions that cause it. That's the bit we need to get to grips with ourselves. It's no-one else's issue.

Don't stop asking questions... and those who consider it a stupid question, have you never wanted to know something but were too afraid to ask in case you offended someone? People are offended by all sorts but I think the problem lies with the offended party when something isn't deliberately offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Having a black friend at work is not evidence that you aren't judging by skin colour especially when you go on to say that you feel more intimidated by black guys. "

I love it when people claim they're not predjudiced because they have a black friend. That proves nothing. I totally get not being attracted to black men (I'm not) but to find a whole race intimidating because of their skin colour says more about the OP than the men in question.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Having a black friend at work is not evidence that you aren't judging by skin colour especially when you go on to say that you feel more intimidated by black guys.

I love it when people claim they're not predjudiced because they have a black friend. That proves nothing. I totally get not being attracted to black men (I'm not) but to find a whole race intimidating because of their skin colour says more about the OP than the men in question. "

I think you are right. If I feel uncomfortable or intimidated by a person or in a given situation, I always look to myself for the reasons - usually based on past experiences ...

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By *its_n_piecesCouple
over a year ago


"I genuinely don't think there's such a thing as a stupid question. It's perfectly acceptable to ask for advice on something you're not sure about and even when it's a tricky topic and difficult to word, it doesn't make it stupid. How do you find things out or learn to overcome things that intimidate you if you can't ask others their opinions? Some conversations just aren't possible in your every day life and to be able to ask those in this lifestyle who are more open minded and liberal whilst being a massively diverse crowd should be encouraged in my _iew.

I've never had sex with anyone who is a different race to me. That's not deliberate, the opportunity just hasn't presented itself yet. I've never had sex with anyone who isn't British, again for no other reason than I've not had the chance.

I'm not intimidated by much, I don't believe other people are intimidating, it's our perceptions that cause it. That's the bit we need to get to grips with ourselves. It's no-one else's issue.

Don't stop asking questions... and those who consider it a stupid question, have you never wanted to know something but were too afraid to ask in case you offended someone? People are offended by all sorts but I think the problem lies with the offended party when something isn't deliberately offensive. "

the OP asked the question "Are you intimidated by anything/anyone?" and sure there is no problem with asking that question. however .... the problem lies with the OPs pre-amble to that question. it almost as if it's been lifted straight from an old episode of "love thy neighbour" or similar

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I find a lot of black guys very very pushy.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I find a lot of black guys very very pushy. "

Interesting, because I find it quite the opposite. Even Mr law, on our first two meets, no sex, only chatting - I had to end up jumping his bones, now the rest is history, I have him under lock and key ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dog that lives a few doors away from me .... intimidating and scary .. usaully cross the street when i pass the house lol "

dogs and bitches ... Noooooooo

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"

the OP asked the question "Are you intimidated by anything/anyone?" and sure there is no problem with asking that question. however .... the problem lies with the OPs pre-amble to that question. it almost as if it's been lifted straight from an old episode of "love thy neighbour" or similar "

I've never seen 'love thy neighbour' so I don't really know the comparison. Nor have I ever suffered any sort of prejudice so I may well be talking out of my arse but I read the OP as very clearly stating that she wasn't sure how to word it or whether she'd used the right words and that no offence was intended. It looks as though she was thinking out loud and to me, that's okay... we are responsible if we are offended by something and I'm not black or mixed race but there are a number of comments from those who are saying that they sort of understand what was said.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've never met a man that I felt intimidated by yet. I chat to some beautiful women on here and i'm pretty sure if we actually met I would be incredibly intimidated by them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative."

How about unfamiliarity, this is most often the cause of illogical fear. I think black guys get it really tough in the world of sex, imagine being an average black guy say 5'10" tall, 6.5" cock and mild pleasant attitude towards people, who you _iew as equals no matter what race / gender / sexuality.

All the press says you are huge with a 10" cock and be a domineering black bull.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP's comment that she was intimidated was fair enough. Going on to dick size just shows a misunderstanding of the variety of humanity. I did not find anything disrespectful about the original comment. Actually l found it better than Not interested in black men just my preference. When l first joined Fab that would wind me up, now l just feel live and live. The reason why it wound me up is the assumption that preferences are innate and not based on some social conditioning. With OP'S comments she is at least opening the box to ask what conditioning makes her feel that way, thus a helpful discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

How about unfamiliarity, this is most often the cause of illogical fear. I think black guys get it really tough in the world of sex, imagine being an average black guy say 5'10" tall, 6.5" cock and mild pleasant attitude towards people, who you _iew as equals no matter what race / gender / sexuality.

All the press says you are huge with a 10" cock and be a domineering black bull.

"

So true ... seems like the BBC craze is on a decline ...

Lets here it for the ABC lol

Or should we change that to AAC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a lot of black guys very very pushy. "

I've only asked to shag u 10 times I think

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"I'm not sure this is the correct word, but I couldn't think of an alternative.

How about unfamiliarity, this is most often the cause of illogical fear. I think black guys get it really tough in the world of sex, imagine being an average black guy say 5'10" tall, 6.5" cock and mild pleasant attitude towards people, who you _iew as equals no matter what race / gender / sexuality.

All the press says you are huge with a 10" cock and be a domineering black bull.

So true ... seems like the BBC craze is on a decline ...

Lets here it for the ABC lol

Or should we change that to AAC "

Perhaps the women who prefer black guys (and men for that matter, sorry Clem!) and know there is a person attached to the BBC are on the rise (as it were) ... so no need to refer to the part, just the man ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Having a black friend at work is not evidence that you aren't judging by skin colour especially when you go on to say that you feel more intimidated by black guys.

I love it when people claim they're not predjudiced because they have a black friend. That proves nothing. I totally get not being attracted to black men (I'm not) but to find a whole race intimidating because of their skin colour says more about the OP than the men in question. "

I'm not predjudiced at all and couldn't give a flying fuck what you think of me, you or no one else know me and your judging by a forum post! Seriously some people need to get a grip!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm out of this topic now. I'm fed up of explaining my self. Thanks to those that have been nice and supportive.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

First threesome we had was with a nigerian, and while that would be intimidating enough, part of me was especially scared of it being a set-up where we got mugged, or just getting torn in half. Ridiculous. Neither happened, there was an odd moment when his friend asked to join, but my fears were idiotic.

I don't think I'm racist. I don't want to be racist. It was a form of internalised racism that made me so scared, and it's one I've thankfully dismantled, as the second time with his mate was so different, and encounters since.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I'm out of this topic now. I'm fed up of explaining my self. Thanks to those that have been nice and supportive. "

I do hope I have not offended or implied that you need to explain anything - I think to a certain extent when you post a comment, you expect this, but often its done because people are also thinking through there thoughts - I look at myself when I feel a certain way, because only I can change how I feel and have some knowledge about why ... its good to acknowledge a worrying feeling on the road to conquering it ... not saying you have to play with a black guy, just see the feeling for what out is and where it came from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Having a black friend at work is not evidence that you aren't judging by skin colour especially when you go on to say that you feel more intimidated by black guys.

I love it when people claim they're not predjudiced because they have a black friend. That proves nothing. I totally get not being attracted to black men (I'm not) but to find a whole race intimidating because of their skin colour says more about the OP than the men in question.

I'm not predjudiced at all and couldn't give a flying fuck what you think of me, you or no one else know me and your judging by a forum post! Seriously some people need to get a grip! "

Your post was clearly prejudiced. What else would you call finding a whole race intimidating due to the colour of their skin. Its internalised racism whether you want to admit it or not. And what kind of reaction were you expecting to get? Posting this was bound to incite judgement. I stand by my point that this _iewpoint says more about you and your issues than it does about black men..

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

You're perfectly entitled to your _iew but I think it's pretty clear that the OP has stated more than once that it wasn't her intention to offend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're perfectly entitled to your _iew but I think it's pretty clear that the OP has stated more than once that it wasn't her intention to offend. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're perfectly entitled to your _iew but I think it's pretty clear that the OP has stated more than once that it wasn't her intention to offend. "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm out of this topic now. I'm fed up of explaining my self. Thanks to those that have been nice and supportive.

I do hope I have not offended or implied that you need to explain anything - I think to a certain extent when you post a comment, you expect this, but often its done because people are also thinking through there thoughts - I look at myself when I feel a certain way, because only I can change how I feel and have some knowledge about why ... its good to acknowledge a worrying feeling on the road to conquering it ... not saying you have to play with a black guy, just see the feeling for what out is and where it came from"

No Iv enjoyed reading your input

It's just annoyed me because I'm not racist or predjudiced. As Iv said I have a black mail friend at work (who doesn't intimidate me) as its nothing sexual between us and Iv met and played with an Asian guy and Iv made a really of another from here.

Just because I mentioned a colour it's all gone Pete tong!

I genuinely never expected some of the responses and Iv had support from some of the black/mixed race! It's the white people taking more offence to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Having a black friend at work is not evidence that you aren't judging by skin colour especially when you go on to say that you feel more intimidated by black guys.

I love it when people claim they're not predjudiced because they have a black friend. That proves nothing. I totally get not being attracted to black men (I'm not) but to find a whole race intimidating because of their skin colour says more about the OP than the men in question.

I'm not predjudiced at all and couldn't give a flying fuck what you think of me, you or no one else know me and your judging by a forum post! Seriously some people need to get a grip!

Your post was clearly prejudiced. What else would you call finding a whole race intimidating due to the colour of their skin. Its internalised racism whether you want to admit it or not. And what kind of reaction were you expecting to get? Posting this was bound to incite judgement. I stand by my point that this _iewpoint says more about you and your issues than it does about black men.."

Am I right in thinking your predjudiced/judgemental too then as you clearly don't like fat people! But I'm sure you will just come back and say it's a preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

It may come across that I'm judging by skin colour, but I can assure I'm not. I have a black friend at work! As Iv said Iv not felt intimidated by white cock. Yes white men are dominating and yes Iv felt intimidated by a white guy but more so by black guys. I do talk to some.

Having a black friend at work is not evidence that you aren't judging by skin colour especially when you go on to say that you feel more intimidated by black guys.

I love it when people claim they're not predjudiced because they have a black friend. That proves nothing. I totally get not being attracted to black men (I'm not) but to find a whole race intimidating because of their skin colour says more about the OP than the men in question.

I'm not predjudiced at all and couldn't give a flying fuck what you think of me, you or no one else know me and your judging by a forum post! Seriously some people need to get a grip!

Your post was clearly prejudiced. What else would you call finding a whole race intimidating due to the colour of their skin. Its internalised racism whether you want to admit it or not. And what kind of reaction were you expecting to get? Posting this was bound to incite judgement. I stand by my point that this _iewpoint says more about you and your issues than it does about black men..

Am I right in thinking your predjudiced/judgemental too then as you clearly don't like fat people! But I'm sure you will just come back and say it's a preference. "

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Your making judgements on the basis of someone's skin colour, white guys can be dominant and have big cocks as well."

I don't think she is. I've never had a white guy message me telling my my life isn't complete without his bbc.

As the OP said 'intimidating' is the wrong word but I think I know what she means. All men can send horrible messages but the assumption that I HAVE to have their bbc is off putting.

In general they don't send chatty messages, they just want to force the mythical BBC on you.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I haven't read it all as I knew from the first few posts that some people would be outraged.

She does say she finds them intimidating, not the black men are intentionally intimidating. To me there is a difference and not sure why people are upset. She may have gone onto say other things but from the OP, can't say I can see the need for any outrage.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour"

I don't think the OP is, I think it's the attitude that is shown, in the main, by black men. Noting to do with their skin colour.

Not all black guys are like that though and there are white guys who send forceful messages too, but it is a generalisation I have noticed too.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I haven't read it all as I knew from the first few posts that some people would be outraged.

She does say she finds them intimidating, not the black men are intentionally intimidating. To me there is a difference and not sure why people are upset. She may have gone onto say other things but from the OP, can't say I can see the need for any outrage."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your making judgements on the basis of someone's skin colour, white guys can be dominant and have big cocks as well.

I don't think she is. I've never had a white guy message me telling my my life isn't complete without his bbc.

As the OP said 'intimidating' is the wrong word but I think I know what she means. All men can send horrible messages but the assumption that I HAVE to have their bbc is off putting.

In general they don't send chatty messages, they just want to force the mythical BBC on you."

There are complete cocks in all colours and varieties. Just to balance things up none of the the black guys I've met or chat to have ever referred to themselves as having a bbc. I can think of hundreds of examples of white guys trying to tempt me with their big white cock to. I don't understand the OPs reasoning at all, but there will always be those that get their knickers in a twist over things people say without thinking about what they are actually saying.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

No-one is outraged by the post made further up about being intimidated by women.

It's the intimidation that's the key, not the person, the race, the colour, the weight or the height or whatever else in it's inside the person who's intimidated.

Sometimes people are intimidating. I worked beside I guy and he was in a higher position than me professionally and he quite simply intimidated the life out of me. He had an air about him and it made me feel like an idiot most of the time. Then one afternoon I watched him come back from a very long lunch, proceeded to get in his car and drive home. All of those feelings of intimidation vanished just like that. I never again felt intimidated by him. I found out later that he was sober so my assumption that he was over the limit to drive was unfounded, however I'm glad I made that assumption because it dispelled all of MY issues of intimidation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like this thread took a turn that it didn't have to take.

The OP expressed an honest opinion. She wasn't being rude, she was just explaining how she feels, honestly. While that opinion did show a particular reaction to one race, she wasn't saying that her reaction was right or even that it made her think of that race in a negative light.

Everyone has implicit biases...being able to recognize those biases are what allow us to move on from them. I don't think she was necessarily defending it.

-Courtney

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"Your making judgements on the basis of someone's skin colour, white guys can be dominant and have big cocks as well.

I don't think she is. I've never had a white guy message me telling my my life isn't complete without his bbc.

As the OP said 'intimidating' is the wrong word but I think I know what she means. All men can send horrible messages but the assumption that I HAVE to have their bbc is off putting.

In general they don't send chatty messages, they just want to force the mythical BBC on you.

There are complete cocks in all colours and varieties. Just to balance things up none of the the black guys I've met or chat to have ever referred to themselves as having a bbc. I can think of hundreds of examples of white guys trying to tempt me with their big white cock to. I don't understand the OPs reasoning at all, but there will always be those that get their knickers in a twist over things people say without thinking about what they are actually saying. "

I totally agree with this as it has been my experience too. Many white guys on here have tried to convince me that I need a white cock, rather than a black one because they know what I need more than I do. When I have politely refused, there has been no end of racial abuse - so I think it can come from anyone. I am not intimidated when someone kicks off though, even in my face, maybe because of some of my post experiences and my outlook on life.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You're perfectly entitled to your _iew but I think it's pretty clear that the OP has stated more than once that it wasn't her intention to offend. "

She has and I haven't been offended but I have found it interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

Marry me.

(Now Thats intimidating )

How much money do you have?

I need a woman with a 3 year plan and a good pension

None. But I am richer in many ways than most can ever dream of!

Land? Gold? Property?

Depth.

You own a mine?

How many hours did it take to come up with that.

Metaphorically speaking, yes "

Like most of my witty repartee, instant. It just took a while to post. I bit like this reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

I think it's a truth that we all get swayed by stereotype's from time to time. We can all let stereotype's effect our judgement when we don't necessarily have any firsthand knowledge to draw on. We may even be aware how irrational it is to have these thoughts. We go on what we've been taught growing up or maybe things we've seen. We can't necessarily help that.

Often when you come face to face with that thing or look at it in detail, it turns out we are wrong. This doesn't just happen with race but with gender, age, sexuality and all kinds of things. I don't think the OP's making a stupid comment at all. It's a refreshingly honest statement. We can ALL be prejudice or ignorant from time to time however freethinking and enlightened we may think we are."
well said Howard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

interesting post & some interesting responses which is good to see.

Personally I think the OP should have engaged brain before posting but I don't believe there was any malice behind her thought pattern.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stupid comment, so basically your intimidated by someone based on skin colour it's nothing to do with cock size cause there's plenty of white guys with massive cocks, and there's plenty of white men that are dominant.

Maybe you should give them a chance and talk to them before putting them in a certain categorie.

I think it's a truth that we all get swayed by stereotype's from time to time. We can all let stereotype's effect our judgement when we don't necessarily have any firsthand knowledge to draw on. We may even be aware how irrational it is to have these thoughts. We go on what we've been taught growing up or maybe things we've seen. We can't necessarily help that.

Often when you come face to face with that thing or look at it in detail, it turns out we are wrong. This doesn't just happen with race but with gender, age, sexuality and all kinds of things. I don't think the OP's making a stupid comment at all. It's a refreshingly honest statement. We can ALL be prejudice or ignorant from time to time however freethinking and enlightened we may think we are."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"interesting post & some interesting responses which is good to see.

Personally I think the OP should have engaged brain before posting but I don't believe there was any malice behind her thought pattern.

"

I'm inclined to agree with you.

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