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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do you do when someone you loved and trusted let you down in a big way ? Do you give them another chance or wave bye bye ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Depends what it was. Everyone deserves a second chance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends what it was. Everyone deserves a second chance. "

You think ?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

For me, it would depend what the circumstances are, and what they had done, and whether the confessed or had tried to hide it.

We all make mistakes sometimes. Noone is perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over. The End.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Move on.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Problem is if you love them / care for them you just put up with it as the alternative hurts just as much.

Let me know if you work out an answer..

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Over. The End."

I think this is pretty much my _iew. Once trust is broken they'd have to work super hard to get it back and even then I'm not sure it would ever be 100%.

Would very much depend on the circumstances. I can forgive most stuff but even though my memory is terrible, these are the things I don't forget.

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By *eLuv2PlayCouple
over a year ago

Alpena

Would depend on what was actually done and if the person was truly repentant for the wrong doing.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Depends what it was. Everyone deserves a second chance.

You think ?"

Yes.....er......that's why I said it. There again, I'm quite a relaxed and forgiving type of person.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Once it's broken, even rebuilt it's cracked.

Say good bye with dignity and wish them well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do when someone you loved and trusted let you down in a big way ? Do you give them another chance or wave bye bye ?"

It is you reaction to the action that will determine the outcome. There actions is an external influence, you choose how to internalise it x

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By *unkysoulWoman
over a year ago

Mitcham, Surrey


"Once it's broken, even rebuilt it's cracked.

Say good bye with dignity and wish them well."

Most definitely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Context and intent is everything. I couldn't possibly say what to do unless the details are explained.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

It depends how much shared history you have together.

Sometimes love conquers all.

Sometimes it doesn't.

Only you will know which is right for you, and it might take time to decide.

Big hugs, and good luck whichever path you choose.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends how much shared history you have together.

Sometimes love conquers all.

Sometimes it doesn't.

Only you will know which is right for you, and it might take time to decide.

Big hugs, and good luck whichever path you choose.

Mr ddc"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was given a second chance by my ex when I cheated on him Six years ago, I wasn't 'me' when I did it (very dark place, wrong friends, drinking everyday and that kind of thing) when I got found out it turned my life around and for five years we were happy.

I will always be grateful to my ex for pulling me back from a life of d*unk nights and the wrong crowd, he could have said (like everyone did say to him) 'go' but he didn't. I moved out through my choice, we started dating again and we were happy but eventually our marriage came to a natural end last year x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Depends what they did... Something s you can never get over Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not give a second chance. I don't have enough good years left in me to chance being let down/hurt/whatever again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do when someone you loved and trusted let you down in a big way ? Do you give them another chance or wave bye bye ?"

I'm too caring. I will give chances to people I care about. It has driven me pretty far into depression at times and I will probably make the same mistakes again

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"What do you do when someone you loved and trusted let you down in a big way ? Do you give them another chance or wave bye bye ?

I'm too caring. I will give chances to people I care about. It has driven me pretty far into depression at times and I will probably make the same mistakes again"

You need to start caring about you first.

People who deserve your caring won't drive you into depression because they should care about you too. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once it's broken, even rebuilt it's cracked.

Say good bye with dignity and wish them well.

Most definitely this "

I agree too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends how much shared history you have together.

Sometimes love conquers all.

Sometimes it doesn't.

Only you will know which is right for you, and it might take time to decide.

Big hugs, and good luck whichever path you choose.

Mr ddc"

All of this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends how much shared history you have together.

Sometimes love conquers all.

Sometimes it doesn't.

Only you will know which is right for you, and it might take time to decide.

Big hugs, and good luck whichever path you choose.

Mr ddc

All of this "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do when someone you loved and trusted let you down in a big way ? Do you give them another chance or wave bye bye ?"
can you just tell me what he did

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do you do when someone you loved and trusted let you down in a big way ? Do you give them another chance or wave bye bye ?can you just tell me what he did "

No, to private and hurtfull to put on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do when someone you loved and trusted let you down in a big way ? Do you give them another chance or wave bye bye ?

I'm too caring. I will give chances to people I care about. It has driven me pretty far into depression at times and I will probably make the same mistakes again

You need to start caring about you first.

People who deserve your caring won't drive you into depression because they should care about you too. x"

Good point.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I would usually give people one chance - but that would depend on the circumstances too, if they could see what led to it (and anything on my part) and there was a desire to change or not repeat it. If it's in terms of a relationship breakdown, then you have to look at what has gone before I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what they did... Something s you can never get over Red "

Some things literally are unforgivable.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I give most people a second chance, whether that be on here or in real life.

I let my feelings be known and then they can react accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend what they did and how important they were to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once it's broken, even rebuilt it's cracked.

Say good bye with dignity and wish them well."

I would actually disagree with this. I know what I'm talking about.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Depends what they did... Something s you can never get over Red

Some things literally are unforgivable."

Ok, yes. I agree. I'll be a bit more specific but vague with my initial post - most people deserve a second chance depending on what they have done. If someone murdered my kids then they would not deserve or get a second chance. I'm assuming it's not at that level of unforgivableness.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Respect the Op in keeping the detail private but there are too many 'don't knows' to make an informed decision on this..

hope whatever it is gets sorted ..

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

If their parachute didnt open id fire them.

Second chance? Doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A close friend's husband went off the rails some time ago and she threw him out. I suggested she might not want to discard 20 years of a good marriage because he hit a bad patch. They made it work.

It is not always a no win scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if they're really sorry for what they did. Someone sorry will try to make reparations, someone who doesn't give a shit will do it again.

I tend to distance myself from people, letting them know when/if they're ready to change they can come back. If they try to the the piss again then they aren't welcome back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've personally always forgiven. My advice would be to move on.

It depends on circumstances and reasons, but someone who makes lots of excuses for their actions will just come up with new ones the next time around.

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By *onnie55Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot

No. If they've made a decision to go with someone else, then that's it. End of. It's happened to me. Move on: 'Pack up your troubles in your old kitbag etc etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do when someone you loved and trusted let you down in a big way ? Do you give them another chance or wave bye bye ?"

Cut them off completely, no exceptions, I've not spoken to my brother in 5yrs because he's a theiving little shit

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By *hiterabbit69Man
over a year ago

Romford


"Once it's broken, even rebuilt it's cracked.

Say good bye with dignity and wish them well."

There's a Japanese art form called Kintsugi - it's basically repairing broken pottery and objects using gold and silver to solder the cracks together. It's beautiful and proves that even something broken can be repaired and made more beautiful. Please google the images.

Not knowing the circumstances, I can't really comment, but everyone deserves a 2nd chance.

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