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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would they be for you?

Hypothetically speaking for those.... if you hadn't already been married and actually wanted to get married.

Vanessa Feltz has been engaged for 9 years.

I personally would t want a long Engagment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I waited 12 years to get bloody engaged we lasted 7 months n I ditched him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. We got engaged in June and married in January a few years ago. We would have married sooner but he was already married to someone else so had to deal with the legal part of that first. As soon as that was sorted we got married ..... as soon as it was legally possible

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been engaged 10 years

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?! "

Will you marry me? You took the words right out of my mouth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?! "

Oh i dont know cause theres plenty more things that cost thousands we wanted first...like to buy a house??!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

It took us two years to save for our wedding, that was right for us. If it took longer, so be it, but I wouldn't have to save now so it would be shorter...if I ever married again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither of us have any interest in getting married, been together 16 years though,

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?!

Will you marry me? You took the words right out of my mouth."

Yes but no long engagement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?! "

It's historically cos of religion. And the banns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no!!! Didn't do the engagement thing went straight to the marriage thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive no intention of doing owt like that ever again.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?!

Oh i dont know cause theres plenty more things that cost thousands we wanted first...like to buy a house??! "

Yes, totally understand that. But why do you have to do the whole engagement thing at all then? You're with the person anyway. You obviously want to be together. Why have this engagement thing if you have no plans to get married. Why even bring it up? You may as well have just stayed as you were.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Despite being generally anti marriage, was engaged for a few years. We thought it was forever, it wasn't, but still good friends.

Saved a fortune!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no religious or historic requirement for long engagement, if you're in C of E having banns read this needs three Sundays.

1.5 to 2 years ish seems to be the norm now going by my friends. I was engaged for 6 months, but we didn't have to save for a huge wedding so it seemed pointless having a long engagement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Karl Pilkington had the right idea, find someone with the same surname as you, no need get married,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Neither of us have any interest in getting married, been together 16 years though,"

Are you engaged though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither of us have any interest in getting married, been together 16 years though,

Are you engaged though?"

No, cohabiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no religious or historic requirement for long engagement, if you're in C of E having banns read this needs three Sundays.

1.5 to 2 years ish seems to be the norm now going by my friends. I was engaged for 6 months, but we didn't have to save for a huge wedding so it seemed pointless having a long engagement. "

Yeh there's religious and historical requirements, you're ignoring Judaism and our own medieval period.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Neither of us have any interest in getting married, been together 16 years though,

Are you engaged though?

No, cohabiting"

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

We never even really got engaged - I never had a ring anyway. After nearly 12 years together I asked him to marry me. We did on our 13th anniversary & split nearly 7 years later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally we do what we want to do. We dont care about what others want or what others do nor do we care about religious rites or society rites or anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither of us have any interest in getting married, been together 16 years though,

Are you engaged though?

No, cohabiting

"

I do cheat and refer to her as wife a lot though, mostly for ease and laziness though,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Neither of us have any interest in getting married, been together 16 years though,

Are you engaged though?

No, cohabiting

I do cheat and refer to her as wife a lot though, mostly for ease and laziness though, "

None of my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no religious or historic requirement for long engagement, if you're in C of E having banns read this needs three Sundays.

1.5 to 2 years ish seems to be the norm now going by my friends. I was engaged for 6 months, but we didn't have to save for a huge wedding so it seemed pointless having a long engagement.

Yeh there's religious and historical requirements, you're ignoring Judaism and our own medieval period. "

Happy to be educated further but I understand the traditional Jewish engagement was to be a maximum of a year. Not a long engagement by today's standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were engaged within 3 months of meeting and we're engaged for 13 years before we got round to getting married.....and we only did then as it makes things easier with kids. Being married has made no difference to our everyday life though....although i do have a much nicer surname now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got engaged after 5 years together. Married a year later and split before our 5th anniversary. Wish i hadn't bothered.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My engagement was about 2 months

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?!

Will you marry me? You took the words right out of my mouth.

Yes but no long engagement! "

The money you would have spent on a diamond ring I would never wear can go towards eloping to Europe and bumming around for a few years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were engaged within 3 months of meeting and we're engaged for 13 years before we got round to getting married.....and we only did then as it makes things easier with kids. Being married has made no difference to our everyday life though....although i do have a much nicer surname now "

I got a much better name...but my signature never recovered, it still looks shit even this many years on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither of us have any interest in getting married, been together 16 years though,

Are you engaged though?

No, cohabiting

I do cheat and refer to her as wife a lot though, mostly for ease and laziness though,

None of my business "

Haha that doesn't read exactly as it should, to confirm I mean when introducing or explaining to someone else, I'll cheat and use the term wife regardless not married,

Girlfriend sounds short term and common law wife is too long, wife is much easier

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"We were engaged within 3 months of meeting and we're engaged for 13 years before we got round to getting married.....and we only did then as it makes things easier with kids. Being married has made no difference to our everyday life though....although i do have a much nicer surname now

I got a much better name...but my signature never recovered, it still looks shit even this many years on! "

My married name was a name of a type of food

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We didn't get engaged,we already had a child before we decided to get married. Made the decision in August,everything booked by September,married in December. It lasted 27 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?!

Oh i dont know cause theres plenty more things that cost thousands we wanted first...like to buy a house??!

Yes, totally understand that. But why do you have to do the whole engagement thing at all then? You're with the person anyway. You obviously want to be together. Why have this engagement thing if you have no plans to get married. Why even bring it up? You may as well have just stayed as you were."
How rude!! Because we wanted to and still intend to egt married. Its symbolic. We might as well do what we want and not do something because someone else deems it pointless

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?!

Will you marry me? You took the words right out of my mouth.

Yes but no long engagement!

The money you would have spent on a diamond ring I would never wear can go towards eloping to Europe and bumming around for a few years."

I can do bumming around

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm not the marrying kind.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I'm not the marrying kind. "

Shall we just get married and have a bit of rough on the side

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Was engaged after 12 weeks was married ,51 weeks after we met. Been engaged another couple of times but wouldn't of married them anyway.

Now weve been together nearly 10 years, and no engagement and none planned either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems that marriage is the most common cause of divorce and engagement the cause of marriage so I say best avoided

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I'm not the marrying kind.

Shall we just get married and have a bit of rough on the side "

As long as we don't have to have a big wedding and we can pick a ripe one with good swimmers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?! "

Just get married. Or don't. Why do people bother getting engaged these days anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If I ever meet the one, I would like a short Engagment, 2 years max.

I u sets rand all the possibilities why some may wait longer.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I'm not the marrying kind.

Shall we just get married and have a bit of rough on the side

As long as we don't have to have a big wedding and we can pick a ripe one with good swimmers! "

Deal

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I'm not the marrying kind. "

I could be under the right circumstance. I'm just not a long dragged out engagement kind of guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?!

Just get married. Or don't. Why do people bother getting engaged these days anyway?"

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were engaged within 3 months of meeting and we're engaged for 13 years before we got round to getting married.....and we only did then as it makes things easier with kids. Being married has made no difference to our everyday life though....although i do have a much nicer surname now

I got a much better name...but my signature never recovered, it still looks shit even this many years on!

My married name was a name of a type of food "

Mrs Enchilada

Mrs Melons

Mrs Sweet n sour chicken

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I'm not the marrying kind.

I could be under the right circumstance. I'm just not a long dragged out engagement kind of guy."

I should probably rephrase... I have no objection to the marriage part... it's the wedding part that I wouldn't want. If I were ever to do it, I'd fuck off and do it in secret then come back and tell everyone I'd done it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?!

Just get married. Or don't. Why do people bother getting engaged these days anyway?"

Why not thou ?

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I'm not the marrying kind.

I could be under the right circumstance. I'm just not a long dragged out engagement kind of guy.

I should probably rephrase... I have no objection to the marriage part... it's the wedding part that I wouldn't want. If I were ever to do it, I'd fuck off and do it in secret then come back and tell everyone I'd done it. "

Oh I certainly don't want all the expense and razzamatazz of a big wedding...unless the bride really wanted it I guess

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I'm not the marrying kind.

I could be under the right circumstance. I'm just not a long dragged out engagement kind of guy.

I should probably rephrase... I have no objection to the marriage part... it's the wedding part that I wouldn't want. If I were ever to do it, I'd fuck off and do it in secret then come back and tell everyone I'd done it.

Oh I certainly don't want all the expense and razzamatazz of a big wedding...unless the bride really wanted it I guess "

Are you proposing Howard?!!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I'm not the marrying kind.

I could be under the right circumstance. I'm just not a long dragged out engagement kind of guy.

I should probably rephrase... I have no objection to the marriage part... it's the wedding part that I wouldn't want. If I were ever to do it, I'd fuck off and do it in secret then come back and tell everyone I'd done it.

Oh I certainly don't want all the expense and razzamatazz of a big wedding...unless the bride really wanted it I guess

Are you proposing Howard?!! "

You're too good for me DirtyGirl. I'm not worthy of a woman like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not the marrying kind.

I could be under the right circumstance. I'm just not a long dragged out engagement kind of guy.

I should probably rephrase... I have no objection to the marriage part... it's the wedding part that I wouldn't want. If I were ever to do it, I'd fuck off and do it in secret then come back and tell everyone I'd done it. "

That's what we did. ..although we did say we were going to....i didn't want to try to sort out the tangle of relatives and deciding who we were going to upset by not inviting them because we couldn't afford to invite everyone. ..

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I'm not the marrying kind.

I could be under the right circumstance. I'm just not a long dragged out engagement kind of guy.

I should probably rephrase... I have no objection to the marriage part... it's the wedding part that I wouldn't want. If I were ever to do it, I'd fuck off and do it in secret then come back and tell everyone I'd done it.

Oh I certainly don't want all the expense and razzamatazz of a big wedding...unless the bride really wanted it I guess

Are you proposing Howard?!!

You're too good for me DirtyGirl. I'm not worthy of a woman like you "

Awww... letting me down gently... you're a proper gentleman Howard! Some girl will be very lucky to have you!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

We got engaged and got married when we'd saved enough up for the wedding and to move house so it took about 2 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time round was 6 years, but we were teenagers with no home or money when we got engaged, second time was 6 months just to find the right date and get stuff like a dress for L...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Engaged on my 18 birthday

Married on my 20 birthday

Single after 23 years of marriage

Just need to get around to divorcing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We planned a long engagement, but ended up bringing it forward and getting married after 2 years. We had been together 5 years before we got engaged though.

We were not bothered by marriage but now we are things just feel more special I enjoy being introduced as Pauls wife etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find the whole engagement thing is bollocks. You're either with someone and not married or you're with someone married. To be with someone for years and years saying you're engaged to be married is pointless. If you want to marry someone then just do it! What's the point in dragging it out?!

Just get married. Or don't. Why do people bother getting engaged these days anyway?

Why not thou ?"

Why not what? Why not get engaged?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1st husband we were together a year engaged for few months before marriage then separated 7 years later! Divorce came through recently, over 5 years of trying to get him to complete it!! Easier getting him down the isle!

Been with g for 5 years now. Engagement?? Marriage?? Who knows. We love our relationship and sex life, do we need the ring??

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