FabSwingers.com forum: Non photogenic

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey everyone.

What's your thoughts on us fuglies that aren't so photogenic? Would you prefer to see pictures that only show parts of our body or all of it regardless of shape and size? The reason I ask is I'm on the larger side and have big bum, tum etc. Is it best to let it all hang out or cover up modestly?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think it is fair to show a truthful representation of how you look, otherwise do you not think you would be trying to dupe people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show what your comfortable showing.

I find it really important to show a full body photo though as would rather people know what they are getting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as the photos are truly representative of you and not misleading, I don't think many would care.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it is fair to show a truthful representation of how you look, otherwise do you not think you would be trying to dupe people?"

Dupe might be a bit strong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Show what your comfortable showing.

I find it really important to show a full body photo though as would rather people know what they are getting

Ok so say for example I had a fat belly. I'd prefer to show other body parts rather than that. Only because I'd be self conscious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As long as the photos are truly representative of you and not misleading, I don't think many would care. "

You think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as the photos are truly representative of you and not misleading, I don't think many would care.

You think? "

Nope. Obviously, you won't be for everyone but those who like you would probably want to see both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As long as the photos are truly representative of you and not misleading, I don't think many would care.

You think?

Nope. Obviously, you won't be for everyone but those who like you would probably want to see both."

Good point. I may have to rethink this then. Thankx.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I think it is fair to show a truthful representation of how you look, otherwise do you not think you would be trying to dupe people?

Dupe might be a bit strong. "

How is it? Would you rather present a false presentation by showing the odd boobs here or half an arse there and meet someone who makes you feel awful because they meet you and you are not what they expected? And therefore hurt you by walking out?

We all have body image problems, regardless of size!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't think anyone on here would put a photo up that they consider ugly. I take loads of pics just to get one that looks halfway decent. However its not hard to get a pic that would make you look fab but not showcase what you perceive as your failings. Use camera angles and lighting to present yourself well but honestly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show what you are comfortable showing. It is 100% up to you. Women have a much easier time getting meets on here, so I'm not really sure it will matter much.

If you were a single male I would say to show a body shot, regardless of whether you feel uncomfortable with your body because people should be able to get an accurate picture of who they are meeting...

Sadly, the state of affairs on here means women don't have to be as open as men.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Show what your comfortable showing.

I find it really important to show a full body photo though as would rather people know what they are getting

Ok so say for example I had a fat belly. I'd prefer to show other body parts rather than that. Only because I'd be self conscious. "

Have a look at our photos. I have more of the ones that I like. I wouldn't take a photo of my belly showing every lump and bump, but it can be seen covered in lingerie. I wear lingerie at meets so it's the same as what they would see on a meet unless people ask me to be naked. If your just showing photos of slim areas (mine would be my wrist and ankle

) how will people know what they getting. I would hate for people to meet me thinking I looked one way and then they be disappointed on meeting me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Show what your comfortable showing.

I find it really important to show a full body photo though as would rather people know what they are getting

Ok so say for example I had a fat belly. I'd prefer to show other body parts rather than that. Only because I'd be self conscious. "

OP I'm very conscious of my tummy, I think it would be fair to show your shape, just wear something that covers it but still represents a true picture of you

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People who love what you have will not care what you think too much. As others say, the pics are one tool to work making your meets a good match and to give you more of what you'd like.

Obviously pro photographers and MrDDC on here, always set and shoot with their expertise, maximizing your assets. If you have lots of photos taken, you can then select what you view as the better ones from them.

Always be sure you feel the pics are right for you but this may partly about confidence, not just photogenic ability.

Rotate your pics too. Try a few and see what works best.

Just because we're not always fully confident or looking how we'd really like also does not make us not photogenic. You're photographs work for you when they attract others that you mutually like.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"Show what your comfortable showing.

I find it really important to show a full body photo though as would rather people know what they are getting

Ok so say for example I had a fat belly. I'd prefer to show other body parts rather than that. Only because I'd be self conscious. "

You may not be able to see unless you look at my pics closely but I have big boobs, thighs & a fat belly.

I make it clear in my profile text & give my dress size so no-one can claim they have been misled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outer beauty attracts, but inner beauty captivates

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it is fair to show a truthful representation of how you look, otherwise do you not think you would be trying to dupe people?

Dupe might be a bit strong.

We all have body image problems, regardless of size!

When my profile is visible it states what size I am so I feel "dupe" is a tad strong that's all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think anyone on here would put a photo up that they consider ugly. I take loads of pics just to get one that looks halfway decent. However its not hard to get a pic that would make you look fab but not showcase what you perceive as your failings. Use camera angles and lighting to present yourself well but honestly."

Good suggestions reference the camera angles and lighting. Ill have to get hubby to take some and have a play around with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Show what your comfortable showing.

I find it really important to show a full body photo though as would rather people know what they are getting

Ok so say for example I had a fat belly. I'd prefer to show other body parts rather than that. Only because I'd be self conscious.

OP I'm very conscious of my tummy, I think it would be fair to show your shape, just wear something that covers it but still represents a true picture of you"

You have fab pictures x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Show what you are comfortable showing. It is 100% up to you. Women have a much easier time getting meets on here, so I'm not really sure it will matter much.

Sadly, the state of affairs on here means women don't have to be as open as men.

-Courtney"

Your last sentence. I certainly didn't mean to imply I'm not being open

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Show what your comfortable showing.

I find it really important to show a full body photo though as would rather people know what they are getting

Ok so say for example I had a fat belly. I'd prefer to show other body parts rather than that. Only because I'd be self conscious.

) how will people know what they getting. I would hate for people to meet me thinking I looked one way and then they be disappointed on meeting me "

Stunning body and great pictures. I'd happily swap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone.

I'd suggest reveal what you are most comfortable revealing. And reveal it because you want too, not because you feel you should

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've added you as a friend so you can see my pics... I have wobbley bits but they're a fair representation of me. I take flattering shots, they're not deceptive cause that's what I look like but no-one needs to see my spare tyre or cellulite or stretch marks.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I think it is fair to show a truthful representation of how you look, otherwise do you not think you would be trying to dupe people?

Dupe might be a bit strong.

We all have body image problems, regardless of size!

When my profile is visible it states what size I am so I feel "dupe" is a tad strong that's all."

I was just answering your question and felt 'dupe' was the right word to use! As your question suggested you didn't want to present things as honestly as possible.

I am a size 6/8 but I still have a stomach I am not happy about, therefore I did my glove photo's as I was sick of people saying 'what a fantastic body you have' when I know I don't! Therefore I don't want to 'dupe' people into meeting a woman with the perfect body!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I would say everyone takes flattering pictures but there is a difference between flattering and changing your appearance, noone is going to be for everyone but if you have clear pictures at least the ones that are attracted to you will message you and like what they see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate my body. However I've has plenty pictures on my profile I've liked thanks to good angles and filters. I don't think it's giving anyone a false idea of what I'm like. If I was considering meeting someone then I'd have no problem showing them a full body photo but in no way would I be naked in it.

It's your profile and you should show whatever your comfortable with.

And that may vary. Some days I hide photos some days I show them dependent on my mood.

Get a selfie stick and have fun with it. You'll be amazed the confidence that might bring you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Show what you are comfortable showing. It is 100% up to you. Women have a much easier time getting meets on here, so I'm not really sure it will matter much.

Sadly, the state of affairs on here means women don't have to be as open as men.

-Courtney

Your last sentence. I certainly didn't mean to imply I'm not being open"

Sorry, didn't mean you specifically. I was just commenting on the inconsistency in the advice I gave to you as opposed to that I have given men who ask similar questions.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only upload what you feel comfortable with. I agree with the people above, there are ways to take photos which are flattering without being misleading. I don't think posting a photo that's flattering is deception, I'd always rather meet someone who has taken a bit of time and care over a photo than something where it's all hanging out. Experiment and have fun with it

it takes me probably 40 photos to find one that I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

That's not a bad thing - I'm photogenic so I have to warn people I look better in photos than real life

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

That's not a bad thing - I'm photogenic so I have to warn people I look better in photos than real life

I'm reckoning you still look pretty damn good in real life. And that red dress is really doing it for me...just saying

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

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"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

Oh be quiet!! I've seen your face pic

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

That's not a bad thing - I'm photogenic so I have to warn people I look better in photos than real life

I'm reckoning you still look pretty damn good in real life. And that red dress is really doing it for me...just saying

The red dress is gorgeous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

I think you look pretty damn good in a face pic

-Courtney

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

Oh be quiet!! I've seen your face pic

I've binned that pic of Brad Pitt. I've now got one of me

Let me know if you want to see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not photogenic either in my opinion - definitely look better in the flesh (clothed at least).

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hey everyone.

What one thinks is ugly, another will think sexy. Show everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not photogenic either in my opinion - definitely look better in the flesh (clothed at least)."

And yet another handsome guy who says he doesn't look good in a face pic.

Liars, all of you.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

That's not a bad thing - I'm photogenic so I have to warn people I look better in photos than real life

I'm reckoning you still look pretty damn good in real life. And that red dress is really doing it for me...just saying

The red dress is gorgeous x"

This red dress is doing well for compliments, I think I'll wear it more often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

I wouldn't care if you looked like the elephant man! The person (you) Iv got to know over the last few months is lovely.. Inside and out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not photogenic either in my opinion - definitely look better in the flesh (clothed at least).

And yet another handsome guy who says he doesn't look good in a face pic.

Liars, all of you.

-Courtney"

I'm just saying I think look better in the flesh.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

I wouldn't care if you looked like the elephant man! The person (you) Iv got to know over the last few months is lovely.. Inside and out x"

Thank you

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

I wouldn't care if you looked like the elephant man! The person (you) Iv got to know over the last few months is lovely.. Inside and out x"

You see that's generally how I feel when I get to know someone. It's what's inside that really matters. And Howard you're too hard on yourself!

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

That's not a bad thing - I'm photogenic so I have to warn people I look better in photos than real life

I'm reckoning you still look pretty damn good in real life. And that red dress is really doing it for me...just saying

The red dress is gorgeous x

This red dress is doing well for compliments, I think I'll wear it more often

And you'll tell us you've had it for years so we can't get one!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My worry would be that once we met they wouldn't be happy! So I make sure all people we meet know exactly what they're getting lol! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

please show some gaping bum wank juice..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Just because someone is not photogenic it doesn't mean they are fugly.

Plus, we're all hot to someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"please show some gaping bum wank juice.."

Sent

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

That's not a bad thing - I'm photogenic so I have to warn people I look better in photos than real life

I'm reckoning you still look pretty damn good in real life. And that red dress is really doing it for me...just saying

The red dress is gorgeous x

This red dress is doing well for compliments, I think I'll wear it more often

And you'll tell us you've had it for years so we can't get one!!! "

Have PM'd you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"please show some gaping bum wank juice.."

Check your inbox

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"Hey everyone.

I specialise in shooting larger models & mature ladies so if you ever find yourself in my neck of the woods give me a shout & i will make you look fantastic.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Hey everyone.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I find that different folk have different ideas of what's attractive (thank goodness)

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats appealing to one is unappealing to others - show what youre happy with dont try to please others xxx

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Size is irrelevant to us....I like looking at pictures of people who are confident and happy

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP are you relatively new on Fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of women only show legs or shoes or cleavage.

Not many show all of themselves OP, so don't think you have to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not particularly photogenic. Especially with face pics. Just can't get them to look right. I always have to tell people I look better in person!

I wouldn't care if you looked like the elephant man! The person (you) Iv got to know over the last few months is lovely.. Inside and out x"

Completely agree. One of the nicest people I know in my life, in Fab and out of Fab. A true gentleman

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP are you relatively new on Fab?"

Not really no. But being overweight has dented my confidence alot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey everyone.

I specialise in shooting larger models & mature ladies so if you ever find yourself in my neck of the woods give me a shout & i will make you look fantastic."

That's a kind offer thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we certainly need to take better pics and will be this weekend

and its very hard to get them right, dont think we are very photogenic either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much more to add than others have already said other than to say that I'm sure that you're a lot more desirable than you think you are!

People tend to always be their own greatest critics and always think they look worse than they actually do and how others perceive them.

And loads of people really like curvy ladies and BBWs so there's gonna be people out there that think you're awesome lumps and bumps and all!

I think it's fair that people know what to expect so those that will like you for what you are can get to find you and meet you! And those that don't like you? Well move on and find those that do

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